Lynne, my heart goes out to you. All my good thoughts for you and your husband. *hugs* Please keep in touch with us.

I am so, so sorry Lynne. I will keep you and your family in my thoughts.

Ohhh I'm so sorry to hear this Lynne, my heart goes out to you. Sending wishes for good news next week!!

Lynne, I'm stuck for words. Sometimes when I want the most, I can say the least (or nothing) sensible. It was so hard reading your post, all I can say now is thank you for your honesty, for being open, for sharing... you had me in tears. I am sure that waiting is the worst, I am glad if this community can help cheer you up a little bit... please, do take care of yourself, take each day as it comes as hard as it is. As difficult as it is, try not to worry - it can either be for nothing, in which case you've lost all that time that you can't have back, or can be for something, in which case you'll think of what to do next if and when you need to. That's what I keep telling myself when I'm worrying over uncertain outcomes... I'm hugging you in my thoughts and sending lots and lots of love. I will be thinking of you and your husband.

Lynne, my thoughts and prayers are with you. My hubby is my best friend too so I can only imagine what you are going through.

You will be in my thoughts and my prayers.
I have had a taste of both of these...being a single Mom and having a loved one very sick like this...It is truly amazing the strength and spirit the human body has when faced with these awful challenges...I will pray that comfort finds you, and everything turns out well!

Lynne, you, your loving husband and family will be in my thoughts and prayers. I cannot even fathom what you are going through but I can tell you are strong and wise and are are doing so well thus far. Here's to hoping you can come back here next week to post the chemotherapy was successful and the prognosis is good. ((Hugs))

Lynne, you are so strong. It tears my heart out to think of what you have been going through. Please keep us updated.

I love Ornelia's thought : that you will know what to do next and that you will find the courage to deal with it....

I wish you peace and hope.

Lynne, unfortunately there's a lot of uncertainty in modern healthcare. Things are seldom black and white. I wish you all the strength and fortitude on your journey.

Oh Lynne. I am so, so sorry to hear this. My heart goes out to you and your family. I am thinking of you and hoping for the best results. It sounds like you have a beautiful relationship with your hubby.

Thank-you so much for your support and wisdom, girls, i cannot begin to tell you how much I appreciate it. I am sorry I cannot respond individually straight away; it's amazing how much I feel I 'know' you from our forum converations....and the counsel of women I respect and admire so much means a lot to me. I have participated in parenting forums and in a weight-loss forum in the past but I feel so 'at home' in this wonderful, diverse community of strong and wise and witty women.

From the bottom of my heart, thank-you.

Dear Lynne, I have been through exactly the same thing. 2 years ago my DH was told he hade a very rare form of cancer. We did the cemo and the rad therapy, plus every type of scan you can think of.
I thought I would fold under the pressure because like you he is my other half.
The good news is that last week he went for his latest check up and was told that they now don't want to see him again for a year. There was a lot of dancing in the kitchen that night I can tell you!!
I think what I am trying to say is you do have the strength, more than you can know, and you must never never give up.
It is so true that things can turn out as you want them to. Hang in there!!
Lots of love from both of us xxxxxxxxxxxxx

So good to hear, @Aunty - I need to hear good news at the moment - thx and congrats! I'm celebrating with you :). The stats are frightening but DH is planning to be an outlier :).

Oh.. Lynne, sorry to hear that!
Hugs and prayers are on the way to you!

Lynne, I am so sorry to hear that you are going through this. I have had my own health traumas and know how stressful it can be waiting for test results. What helped me was focusing on the present and not getting too far ahead of myself. So much easier said. My healing prayers are with you and your family.

MOST positive thought to you both....and remember, he will ALWAYS be with you in heart, spirit and thought....I know this sounds cliche but it is also a constant truth....the soul/spirit life energy is ENDURING....

LOVE, Peace and Happiness to you....ALWAYS!

Oh, Lynne, what a heavy, sorrowful time for you. I'm so sorry. Try to keep your chin up. We are here for you!

Lynne, I hate to hear that you and your family are going through such an awful time. I am a big believer in prayer so I am praying that you and your family will be given exactly what you need to get you through this dark time. I does seem to me that during crisis times in my own life that my family has come together to be stronger and closer than before. I wish the same for you and yours.

Lynne, I am heartbroken reading this. I hope you can find the strength and support that you need at this difficult time. We are here for you if you need us. I will be praying for you and your husband. xo

Lynne, I'm so sorry that you and your husband and children are having to go through this. My DH was brought back from a cardiac arrest and no heart beat, then weeks of coma, then a stroke, when he was just 47. I pray that you all will be lovingly carried through this.

Oh, Lynne, my heart aches for you. Sending love and hugs your way.

Lynne,
I know tomorrow will be a trying day in many respects. Know that there is a big community of women who support you, who are thinking positive thoughts and who are "here," albeit in a virtual sense, to help.
Regardless of the outcome, don't be afraid to ask for help--too often well-meaning people don't know how to react to situations or how to offer help and so don't, for fear of making a misstep of social faux pas. I hope that you will be able to seek and receive whatever help you may need in the coming days, weeks and months.

Be well and take care of yourself.
-Auburn

Lynne, today, I had a follow up appointment with a specialist that has been treating me for the last 16 months. During my appointment he was looking some things up on my computerized chart when he noticed that I had had a biopsy yesterday ( for a lump in my breast.) I hadn't told him - or anyone except for my husband, until now.

We chit chatted and as he walked me to the blood lab and he asked how I was doing with it. I told him that I was fine and that I wasn't nervous and the results should be here Tuesday. Anyway, he turns to me and says,

" This kind of stuff leads you. You must go with it and manage it without letting it beat you - no matter what the end result is. Don't let this eat away at your spirit."

It really struck me and I immediately thought of you and your family. I couldn't wait to get home to tell you what he said.

My heart and thoughts are with you over the next few days as you wait this out.

Goodness, Isabel - hugs to you too. I've been through the breast biopsy and it's a drag even when all turns out well...

Oh Lynne, I am so sorry to hear you and your family are going through this. I don't even want to imagine what it must be like. Lots of love and good thoughts for you and DH. Sincerely.

Oh Lynne, you and your family are in my thoughts.

I am in tears reading everyone's posts here - the amount of such raw honestly is just a beautiful thing to see.

Please keep us posted.

Isabel, what a great thing to hear! I think it's a real blessing when medical worker has enough wisdom and empathy to actually speak to the patient in a way that gives him/her new strength. Don't let this eat away at your spirit... that describes my mum perfectly through her trials, not only her spirit wasn't eaten away, but to this day I look back at her as the ultimate model of courage and optimism. There were tears too, yes, but i see that as part of that courage. She used to say this "After the rainy day, the sun always shines!" That's her biggest legacy and most important thing I inherited from her, it's ingrained in my DNA now.

A big wave to you, Lynne... Theresa too (I didn't get a chance to post on your thread but I hope the little princess is fine now and things are getting back to the usual...)

Lynne,
Your post brought tears to my eyes. I wish I knew what to say to make your situation better. To make your OH well. To make your world happy. I have everything crossed for you both. I was brought up by my grandpa who suffered cancer, I also recently lost my step dad to it.
I did loose them but to balance that out I do want to say to you I have been told I had a high chance of dying a number of times and well.... I'm here *waves*. At one point I was actually shouted at by some nurses in the hospital being told I'd gone in such denial I needed something to shock me into accepting how seriously ill I was... but well... that was 12 years ago. And yes... I'm here
Making an effort with my appearance is often my mask. My way of coping. Hiding my pain - physical or emotional. But along the way I have come into contact the most wonderful people and I do believe that people will be put into your life for a reason to help support you so always try and open your arms to that. I'm only saying that as I'm pretty independent and sometimes think I can conquer the world alone It will help you hun. Peoples positive energy helps so so much.
I was a single mum for quite a while, ill, working and supporting a special needs young child. My child kept me going. But I'm strong as a result.
Much love and strength coming your way. Everyone is behind you...and I am so sorry this is happening to you guys. Much love, positivity and strength to your OH too xxxx

Ornelia, that is really beautiful. I have always found that type of situation to be a wonderful, lasting gift that the person ( your mom ), leaves us at the end. The gift of grace very often comes with an enormous price tag.

The strange thing about the whole interaction with my doctor was that it seemed as if he was talking to Lynne and her family - not me. I felt like a messenger and that the message was for you Lynne. ( No ladies I am not having delusions ! ) I was so devastated reading your post Lynne and really speechless, and I felt as if this doctor gave me something to say....hopefully a teeny bit of comfort or peace or something ...)