Welcome, Toni, you've found the right place to be. Where else can you get professional advice from a talented stylist like Angie together with feedback from those of us in our 50s and 60s in the same thread as wisdom from students like ALeigh?
Wear what makes you feel good. I see plenty of women my age (mid 50s like you) in distressed jeans. As others said, it's all about what you pair it with.
Maybe tell your daughter you want a shopping trip just for you. Ask her to act like your stylist and sit back and see what she chooses. It's a great way to get a read on how she perceives you. Then, if there's anything she picks that you like, buy it. If she picks out things you don't like, explain why. If it's too dowdy, let her know you don't want to feel that way.
I'm grateful that I have extremely stylish young MEN in my life who love to shop and are the best fashion advisors.