Have you looked at Athleta? They have swim pants that look like running capris!

You simply tried the wrong ones.

And guess what - think of the life without YLF. Maybe you'd settle for some of those in desperation thinking one surely should have worked, but now you know there are better things out there and the right one for you is waiting for you.

Onwards and upwards

*raising my glass of wine to celebrate YLF with you*

ok breathe deeply. Maybe the ones you tried on were not the correct ones for you. I personally wear male swim trunks because they give me a modesty factor that I love. Even when I buy swimsuits for my young one I also buy a pair of swim shorts for her I love the coverage of these shorts.

Okay, so I have a suggestion - why not just try on swim suits first *without* a mirror? Then, ONLY if they *feel* really good, bother to look in the mirror? If it doesn't feel good, take it off and move on without looking.

I know I repeat it a lot, but the way a clothing item feels on my body is so important to me that I've begun doing it this way as much as I can so that I'm not swayed by a pretty color or style if it's not going to feel good wearing it for hours.

And most swimmers have very muscular thighs, right? So maybe looking at the brands the professional swimmers buy would help?

Janet, I just received this one from Zappos and, fearing the worst, was pleasantly surprised by the camouflaging effect of the draping in the front, as well as the "sleeves": http://www.zappos.com/badgley-.....illot-wine

I went with the "Pacific" but there are multiple colors.

Janet, I think you are truly brave and a much braver woman than I am, because I saw some bathing suits on display and I simply shook my head and walked on, knowing that it's not something I want to try on or buy, ever. The silver lining for me is that I'm more like a cat and I really don't like water or water sports and I'm not inclined to sunning either. So, it all works out.

If you are one of those who love the summer and outdoor activities, you've got lots of great suggestions here from other forum members and I know you'll find something that fits your purposes.