I have afterthoughts!
I do find myself skipping over things I like because they are too young, and I hate it! Like those cute intarsia sweaters with whimsical characters or words. I love them, but just can't go there. There was this one Autumn Cashmere sweater I LOVED, was so ME. It was grey and had a big lime "POW" written across the front in superhero font (whatever that is???) I loved the whimsy of it, but just could not do that at 49 years old! Or could I? I do love a bit of humor in my life....
And every time I try to wear converses I feel like a dork! So why do I keep trying to do it?
Thistle, I think for the Docs, what you do is find a suitable substitute if this is really part of your fashion persona. A more refined type of combat boot with a bit more polish, less aggression. I bet they are out there. Let us know what you find!