SarahD8, that clears things up. It makes sense, for one, that the flats don't "sand up" to the coat to you, the coat is for cold weather, but the flats to you are warm or less cold weather. I don't feel that they mismatch, but if they are a mismatch to you, then they don't work.
I see what you mean, too, about tall boots being too everyday. Even though they can be very dressy if the rest of the outfit is the same, if you wear them every day I see how you are not able to feel dressy in them anymore. I get it, that dressy is as much a feeling as a look. That reply cleared things up a lot.
I'm liking a lot of the suggestions so far in this thread, you basically need different variations on the styles. I checked around, and found a few things for your consideration, all with a 2" or less heel.
I found this one in a variety of colors
I found the website for this company, though they seem to have moved on to the spring and summer line already
Here's another, though it's a hair over 2"
This one is quite a bit more casual, but it is a non-basic rain boot
