It's really so helpful to read everyone's posts. I am going to revise my approach for next year, not only in how I apportion the money but also in how I tackle it.
Neel: I think you have given me my mantra: the discipline has to be in the wishlist, not in the budget. I think that's exactly it for me. I need to be much clearer about what I really want and stop being impulsive and eating up my money with purchases that are not really needed.
Cheryl: I can SO relate to the passing-the-time-during-work-travel problem. I've been much better about that lately, but it requires real vigilance.
I'm absolutely going to keep a list of what I purchase, starting Dec 1 (why wait for 2014?). I'm a list-keeper, and I think the list alone will make me more careful about making the buy.
I love the idea of cash-only purchases, but it won't work for me as I rarely carry cash and also rarely shop in person, except for when I travel which I am trying not to do. I do a lot of shopping online, and one thing I have started to do is wait a day before buying something. Sometimes if I sleep on it, the urge subsides, and I know it was just an impulse. Or maybe just boredom or loneliness. (The perils of long days at home working alone!)
Thanks again for all the tips!