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Page 2 in the conversation "Do you have clothing that makes you feel “safe”?" by delurked
As an introvert who dislikes attention, “safe” clothing is anything that won’t draw attention! So it would depend on the situation and even my mood. There are some times I want attention, and then I might take a “risk” — for ME.
Seems safe has a lot of interpretations.
Aquamarine - I think this is a good observation. My friend is an introvert who doesn’t like the spotlight on her.
Aquamarine, you described my own feelings about safe much better than I did ... Agree 100% with your definition!
The first time I felt "safe" because of a garment was back in my early days on YLF, when we were all pairing leggings with dresses. I had never realized how cautious I was when, for example, entering or leaving a car, until the leggings provided extra coverage.
If it’s safe vs. risky, all of my clothing is safe.
Secure might be a better word for me rather than safe but yes I totally get this although I find it hard to put onto words.
Yes, I do. But like Deborah said, secure might be the better word. It’s a feeling I have when I wear things that a) are so comfortable I forget wearing them b) feel like me c) that I know suit me d) make me feel the way I want to feel that day.
Safe is several things to me:
Brights for visibility- for biking or hiking during hunting season
Quiet/covered things- to avoid attracting unwanted attention from picky bosses and creepy men
Physical safety-biking helmet, arm/finger guard for archery
Weatherproof (inc modesty) things- warm coat, snowboots, dark colors on rainy days, fitted/long skirts on windy days
Things that aren't otherwise revealing- tops that stay put, skirts that don't ride up
So interesting to hear the many ways people interpret the word “safe”! Astrid’s idea of fuss-free is probably closest to how I’d understand it—something that lets me be me and get on with my life. I have the opposite feeling about accidental crotch shots from April. I try to avoid them too, of course—swing legs to the side together before stepping out—but if I do that by mistake, I think of it as an offense to the person who saw it, not as a danger to myself. I think I generally feel safe most of the time, so it isn’t something I usually think about.
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