Happy New Year! I woke up to all these smart comments.
Helena, I think you are dead on the money about the relationship of contrast to pattern. I like to wear navy (or more often, dark or medium denim) and white together but I do not wear items with large navy and white patterns. The exceptions to this might be my batik patterned summer dress and my Zara summer dress-- but in the first, the blues are mostly medium to light, with just a bit of dark and the squares in the pattern are not larger than my eyes. There is also enough delicacy in the second dress's pattern that it does not overwhelm me. A dress with a large print sharp navy/ white would wear me.
In the leopard print sweater, the pattern is small enough and graduated (there is white, pale blue, darker blue).
The blue and white stripe is a shart contrast and quite bold and does threaten to overwhelm me. But I wear it anyway. For me, it works. I can see another person with my exact same colouring saying, nope, too much.
Anyway, you may well be right with your thoughts on blue and why it feels to you. like a "colour." Brown has always felt like a colour to me and on me. I love brown and used to wear it surprisingly well-- from chocolate to taupe to oatmeal -- back when my hair was dark blonde. But it never became a primary neutral for me. Similar to black.
Then again...Angie has green eyes and while she wears green, green isn't a neutral for her. :). So your neutrals do not *have* to echo your colouring if you don't care about that!
I tend to think hair is the more important aspect of colouring to focus on if outfit cohesion is a goal. If you have footwear and or bag or some other element of your outfit (could be your top, bottom, scarf, coat, etc.) in the colour of your hair, this becomes outfit glue.
- Hence: silver and/or grey for me.
- Gold and/or cream (and now she's dark blonde, whiskey) for Angie.
- Gold or bronze or brass or light brown for Brooklyn.
- Black for anyone with black hair. (I am so jealous because this is easy to source!)
- Red or reddish brown (cordovan?) or burgundy for those with red hair or reddish tones to their hair.
Back to your blouse, Helena -- it's almost a false plain. The pattern is very restrained and while the individual neutrals are high contrast to each other, the dots are so small here they almost blend. Also, part of the blouse is sheer so there is the graduated tone of skin showing through. This makes it "softer" and more romantic. Less bold and graphic.
Pattern scale is definitely its own subject! I have learned through trial and error that patterns need to harmonize with the size of my features to work for me. I think this may be because I'm on the small side, with low to medium contrast colouring. This is how I sometimes (as with the bold striped knit top) get away with wearing higher contrast than would typically be advised for someone with my colouring. This, and adding a bridge. If I'm going to wear contrast in high blocks (white blouse, navy pants) I willl usually also add a medium toned element up near my face. Even with that knit top, when the weather allows, I will often layer a shirt under or a scarf over that "ties it together" with a more medium hue or sometimes red (a bright that plays its own music.)
Anyway, I steer clear of high contrast large scale bold patterns, much as I like them on others -- because they quickly overwhelm me. Most of this was intuitive and I reverse engineered my reasons.