Brooklyn, I think you look very proportionate in this style! You know how to dress your body very well.
For me, the difference lies in, well, for one thing, my thickening post-menopausal waist, but also I think this kind of detail is harder to employ on a short torso with a large chest — it’s like there’s too much going on in a short span of real estate, LOL! I came to realize that with some dresses that had certain detailing — I do better these days with styles that create a more unbroken line, if that makes sense. At least for my personal comfort level — someone else with a short curvy body may feel fab with a hip scarf and that’s great!