Why I dislike Christmas: my spouse gets angry when some gives him a gift (I guess he feels he doesn't deserve it or needs to reciprocate?) and he cannot wait to get it out of the house. He unexpectedly received last night a beautiful shirt from a niece but he is convinced it won't fit and he won't even try it on. He would barely open the box and almost didn't accept it from UPS. Today I shall return it. Hope they can credit her account as the JCrew here won't have a replacement in his size. He sent this niece, her twin and her brother identical generous checks earlier this year. And now he's mad because she sent a gift. She works in the fashion industry in NYC. I could tell this was a carefully curated, thoughtful gift. I do not give him gifts because of this behavior and I tell my family to not give him anything because it's just work for me to have to return the items. He likes to give gifts, however, and does not understand how this behavior just sucks the joy out of giving him a gift. when I tell him that his behavior hurts people's feelings, and ask if he would be hurt if the gifts he gives were rejected, he says he doesn't care. Every year after the holidays I return or give away most of what he's been given, unless it's food. I cannot wait till the season of giving is over. Sorry but after 16 years of this rudeness I needed to vent to someone. Rant over. Carry on.