For me, this would be a good way to think about it. Like, if I knew I was going to meet my frenemy, I would wear something that played up my assets: it would show off the arms I'm slowly toning and building, it would highlight my powerful inner strength, and it would be a garment that shows I have good taste in clothing.
If I were going somewhere that meant I might have to bump into an ex, I would wear something that highlights my assets: I am strong, strong enough to survive the domestic violence or the heartache of the breakup (whichever applies); I still have a butt that looks great in pants, and a bust that looks great in a sweater; and I have nice things that I bought without HIS help because I'm independent and don't NEED him; and it would highlight my inner serenity and freedom.
So, for me, that question isn't a negative way of looking at the problem. It's a darn fine way to get me to focus on my assets, my positive qualities.
