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Transcona Shannon

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I've been growing out the top and side fringe of my hair as a bit more length is what is trending for hairstyles. There are days I like it and think it's looking good but I will be honest and say that overall, I hate it

My hair is thick and even with regular thinning, too much hair makes me feel frumpy and "humpy" (that's what my stylist and I call the back of my hair when it gets too think - "my mighty hump").

I don't feel like the longer hair has my spunkiness to it. Plus it is a giant pain in the you-know-what to style - having to blow dry with mouse and flat iron the heck out of to get my thick layers to lay properly. And it gets caught in my glasses and then in my eyes.

I have an appointment on February 11th and am pretty sure I'm going to get it cut super short again. That's if I can last until February 11th!

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Elizabeth P

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Shannon you are going to look gorgeous no matter what you do! And I totally get you on the hair. Why have short hair if it can't be somewhat fuss free? To me that's one of the main benefits. Goop and go. I hate having to spend time on my hair every day... I don't mind choosing to, but when I HAVE to... nope.

Suz

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Nodding along with Elizabeth. Fuss free it has to be, or else why bother?

I have enjoyed your longer fringe, but if it costs pain and too much effort, it's not worth it because you look great with shorter hair, too!

I was asking Debs (in Oz) about her lovely sidesweep -- does it not fall into her eyes, etc. And she said no. I think perhaps it has something to do with head shape. With our longer faces/ foreheads, the angle at which it falls might be a bit different. Because when mine gets too long it is ALWAYS in my eyes, too, and I can't abide it. So for me it has to be a bit of a compromise between asymmetrical bang and "pixie" too -- and some cuts I go more one way, and some, the other. I also need my hair thinned out a lot to avoid "humpage" or the giant puff ball (out the sides).

Keturah

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Your longer fringe has been lovely. But I alao think you look terrific and chic with super short hair!!! It fits your face shape and style impeccably. And if it's fuss free for you, all the better.

I feel that generally the things, colors, styles, etc. we are attracted to are usually what suit and flatter us best.
So go for it.

And... Post. Photos. Please.

SW Ann

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I totally get it, Shannon. I tried several years ago to grow mine out, but said that if I woke up one day and felt frumpy or just icky, it would have to go. Well, that is exactly what happened about 3 months into the project.... I called my hairdresser, told her I felt like a "frump a dump" and she cut it back to a style I love and I've never looked back!!!!

Inge

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I so hear you, Shannon. I think our hair has a similar texture (but mine has a bit more wave to it as well, which I sometimes think complicates things even further), and I also start to feel frumpy when it gets a little longer.

No matter how good it looks to others, in the end it's all about how you feel about your hair, sweet lady. Life's too short to hate our hair!

Anonymous

Preaching to the choir here You know us short-hair women totally get your issue . It's just hair, it grows, changes, and we can do whatever we want with it. You are pretty enough to wear a super-short haircut - so go for it!

Meredith

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Can't wait to see the new do!

lyn67

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It will be more than fab, Shannon!

(I so long for a thick "mighty hump", at least you have the luxury of having one, so you can chop it off, and still look fab!!:-))

Transcona Shannon

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Oh you are all so SWEET for understanding

Elizabeth - it's funny how just that 10 extra minutes in the morning having to do my hair seems too much. I'm already up at 5:30 a.m. - an extra 10-15 minutes of sleep would be heavenly

Suz - I do think you're right about face shape playing into it. Deb's hair is so gorgeous on her isn't it? It might be better if I used hair spray but I'm allergic to it so can't even help my hair stay in place that way.

Keturah - I will definitely post pics

SW Ann - that's it exactly - "frump a dump". I feel like I have a bowling ball of hair on my head!

Inge - I've always loved and admired your short, sleek hairstyle. And I'm starting to realize that being true to one's style INCLUDES our hair - even if it's not "of the moment".

lisap - I adore your new hairstyle and am so glad to have "short-hair women" support

Transcona Shannon

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Meredith & lyn67 - cross posted!

Believe me, I do know I'm lucky to have thick hair

viva

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I just made an appointment with my stylist and am heading back to an earlier style too. Must do what feels most like me. And you must do what feels most like you. Trends be dammed! You are so beautiful, Shannon. Follow your gut.

jackiec

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Sounds like a plan! (wish I had some "humpage" lol, mine's not thick at all). Good luck waiting till Feb. Personally, when I make the decision for a cut, it has to be within the week or I go nuts.

harmonica

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You made an effort and realized it didn't work. Let's start the countdown to Feb 11th. It will be a happy day - make sure to wear happy clothes!

texstyle

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Even with just bangs and longer hair otherwise, I get what you're saying because whenever my bangs get too long it drives me crazy! I want to have that lovely wavy side swept bangs look, but I don't think I can deal with it in my face so I always end up cutting.

missvee

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Shannon I can't believe you blow dry with a mouse! No wonder it takes so long - those poor little mouse lungs don't hold much hot air you know :-).
Your typo has given me a much needed chuckle after a long morning caring for a sick and cranky relative.
And now, on to the actual issue, I think you're right to reconsider the style if the maintenance is making you crazy. ( not to mention the cost of replacement mice - I know, I know, I just can't leave it alone...) The spiky 'do is so fresh and flattering on you.

Anonymous

I'm laughing at/with Jackie - I'm the same: once I've decided it needs to be cut, it has to happen tomorrow. I've been known to use the scissors on it myself:) Want me to come over?

catgirl

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Shannon, it is so hard to grow out short hair! I go back and forth, but my current cut enables me to keep the same style with a few inches off or not. It's my greys that drive me mad - growing those out is making me want to shave my head.

Your short hair is your signature - embrace it!

Anonymous

This just flashed through Facebook and I immediately thought of you.....
I saw her in a recent issue of More magazine and immediately ran to the computer to google her.

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Angie

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Long fringes can be a nightmare - for me too. I don't know how Debs and Kyle do it. I need hair OFF my face. It's also hard for a long fringe to lie straight in humid weather. Too much fuss in the morning is annoying. I hear you.

FWIW, may I suggest not going too short. Modern short hair is about movement, which requires a bit of length, which I think is especially important as we get older. I find all the styles you linked too just a little too short. Add the softness back in with a little length in a similar shape to #1 or #5. Hope that makes sense. xo

susanm

You could be writing about my hair and attempts to grow it. My hair just looks better short and is much easier to style. Love the photos of styles you included. Go for it!

Transcona Shannon

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missvee - OMG!!! I nearly spit my water on my keyboard when I read your comment. I didn't even notice. Poor mouse indeed - lol!

Lisap - that's a gorgeous cut on a beautiful lady. But there is no way my hair would do that...sadly

Angie - I do hear what you're saying and appreciate your insight. My only concern about having some length and movement is that it is exactly what makes my thick hair heavy and difficult to deal with - length. I do like #1 and #5 in my links the most - how much extra length are you thinking?

Angie

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Shannon, I'm glad you like those styles best. Keep it soft around the ears and on the sides - not too short like Jamie Le Curtis in #2. Thin out the front, and cut the fringe to a shorter and more manageable length. Keep the back very short. This is EXACTLY how Teresa cut Inge's hair which is extremely thick and wavy. She had to thin out A LOT, but she kept the length so that the 'do would look modern and not "egg-heady", for lack of a better description. I hope that makes sense.

Transcona Shannon

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Hmmmm....I think I know what you mean Angie - something like the pic below? Soft on the sides, more manageable fringe length but not too short and a bit of softness/length on the top? This picture of Anne Hathaway's pixie I would think it a slightly longer (maybe one inch) version of pic #1 at the start of my thread - yes?

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Thistle

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I am late to the party, but really have nothing to add after Angie has spoken

I hear ya on super thick, though. I never knew how ladies washed and dried their hair in under an hour. When my stylist washes my hair, she gets a "helper" so the two of them can get it dried in 30 minutes. She told me I am the top three of people with thick hair she has ever styled, and she has been in the business well over 25 years.

rachylou

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I never noticed, but no, I don't like your long hair fringe at all. Ahaha. It doesn't have sass and seems to be weighing you down. But then again, you were in the middle of growing things out, always awkward.

Ok, but this whole thread is so informative. I'm a hair moron.

Caro in Oz

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I hear you, my hair was feeling very heavy - especially in summer & I can't stand it round my face when its hot. I've just found a shorter cut I love for me - it took me about 4 cuts but I'm there now Similar to this. The back of mine is a little more graduated & softer.

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Deborah

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Shannon, I totally hear you on this. It's a fine line getting short hair just right. I am in agreement with Angie. Don't loose all the length at the front. But defintiely go shorter otherwise, it really suits you. What I was finding attractive was the layered look of the side sweep and how the shorter bits fell softly on your forehead, still sweeping to one side.

Caro, I bet you look gorgeous! That is such a cool style.

Angie

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Great look, Caro. High five, Debs. xo

Shannon, you are on the right track with Anne Hathaway's hair. Your 'do will look a lot more textured and piece-y because of it's salt and pepper integrity. That's even better. To my eye, going too short *can* look frumpy as you get older, so that's why I've rambled on a lot about length in the right places on your thread.

Caro in Oz

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Thanks Deb & Angie

Agreeing with Angie about too short looking frumpy too. It happened to me about 3 cuts ago, such a shock to the system.

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