I had to take a break from this thread for a few days because all of that vulnerability made me feel … I don't know, regretful and self-pitying. E, thank you for sharing your journey, I deeply related to what you said.

And finally -- Adelfa -- I can see why your co-workers complimented your hair this way, it really suits you! You look refined and polished and it brings out this aspect of your personality. And shows more of your luminous skin.

I just needed to chime back in and say, especially to that those of you I've met in person -- I've not noticed ANY of the things you mention that you're self-conscious about!

We are definitely too hard on ourselves. Huge group hug!

I always have these short hairs that poke up straight from the top of my head. They make me feel very messy. I try to get them to stay down, but they either get blown back up by the wind or I end up with my hair stuck down flat.

Anyways, yesterday I learned no one has ever noticed my hair looking messy... lol.