Well, that was an epiphany worth waiting for! Late as usual (drat my time zone!) and can't much add to what's been said already. Such hard-won, well-formed revelations that you put into practice with such grace - thank you for sharing them. It's a real gift to our community and an inspiration. You are lovely, eloquent and in case it hasn't been mentioned, so generous to other members here - I wear my UWP bullet necklace with pride. I truly feel this community has a collective soul like no other. And yes, Greg and Angie can't be thanked enough for that.
Your words and pictures about your Papa are the most beautiful part of this astoundingly beautiful post.
As a side note, I don't know if anyone else has had a family member meet YLFers, but my sister came with me to meet Zap and Modgirl. I think she was secretly suspicious of the idea that I'd be meeting people I only knew online. After we left, she commented on how we all seemed like dear old friends instead of people meeting for the first time,and she even is planning to shop with Zap in New York.
Such is the transformative power of this forum!.