KELLY what an amazing point : " practically vs. actually'. That is a good lesson for life in general. You are so right, of course. SHE can see the hair and feel it. that is enough.
SARAH : DD is tall but very skinny and straight. She is not very developed. Your point is a good one. Her closest friends are more developed physically. One wears a whole lot of make up. They all have older sisters too. I have taken your advice to heart about going through it with her and teaching her. It is something for us to bond over. It also makes me seem more "reasonable" to her. Thank you. And thanks for the recipe too.
GIGI : your insight really touched me. It opened my eyes to how this stuff can affect young women into their adulthood. I don't want her going through this alone. Thank you so much ! Fiber it will be !
MARY : Hard boiled eggs ! Yes, what a great idea ! Regarding DD, just like Gigi, your experience has helped me tremendously in seeing my DD's point of view. I do not want to minimize her feelings. You are so right on this. Thank you.
RABBIT : My husband has oatmeal everyday...you would think that I would think of that as a snack too. I had my husband come home yesterday with 5 bags of trail mix and dried fruit. Thank you.
GAYLENE : Thank you for the relief with regards to it all being normal with ravenous boys. I have already started stocking what you and the other ladies suggested. In fact, the other day we went for a hike and I brought whole wheat bread and peanut butter and that what his "snack". Smoothies are brilliant. Thanks !
TINA : OMG ! A 6' , 13 year old. You do feel my pain. He loves everything that you listed. I have to have more of it as snacks and not be so afraid of it. Thank you. Luckily, with my DD, I think that her hair is so blonde, that the stubble will be subtle. The other good thing is that she will be in school in 8 weeks and back to pants.
LYN : Yes, he had his physical recently. All the bloodwork was normal. The doc said that he is going to be hungry all the time. I just didn't know what else to feed him. Plus he is a bit picky. But I have such great ideas now. I took your advice and had a "nonchalant" talk about why. Part of it is that she saw a film that talked about women in different cultures. And that she feels she is "growing up" and should start doing more "woman" things instead of "girlie" things. Thanks !
DIANA : Thanks ! She opted for the NAIR. When we researched waxing it freaked her out a bit. The minute she learned she could cut herself, she nixed the razor. LOL
DEB : Thank you ! I realized from the answers here that "snacks" really needed to be mini meals. LOL Great tip about the bananas. Because of you, I have already switched to apples and peanut butter.
DEBORAH : Thank you, dear lady ! You hit upon my concern. More specifically, the over sexualization of girls. She is at a strange age in that some of the girls her age are still very "young" acting while others dress and act like 21 year olds. I have had a couple of conversations with her as well as one with both my kids about self-adornment and history. I know that you are not judging me. : ) I deeply appreciate your observations. I did let her use Nair. She did a terrible job. And I am not sure that she saw a big enough difference to do it again. : ) LOL regarding your son. I feel the same way, I cannot keep up ! Thus my post.
MONA : Good point. The funny thing is, I have no memory of when I started. This kind of stuff just didn't bother me. I don't know why. My daughter is much more aware and interested in what is going on around her. Thus my turning to YLF. : ) I may have to start going to Costco. My bigger issue was WHAT to feed him. But I have gotten great idea here and have already implemented many.
DIANTHUS : OMG !!!! Whaaattttt ? LOL. I was afraid that I might overfeed him, but I guess boys just need it. It is small stuff. You are so right. Thank you ! Yes, your point and Mona's are right.
JANET : Holy Cow. That sounds like a bet my son would relish. He would also take the next table's leftovers. : ) The pediatrician thinks my son will be around 6'5". Thank you for the suggestion to talk to her. That is what I did. I am at peace with "our" decision. And she feels empowered.
THISTLE : Thanks for telling me about your MIL's experience. Your experience as a young woman also touched me deeply. I don't won't my daughter to ever say that I just didn't want to deal with it. You reminded me that I am her side. Thank you so much.
AZ : She ended up going with Nair as JenA. suggested. You are absolutely correct about being balanced ( as so many other shared with their experiences as young women ). I don't want my daughter to experience what you did over something that is just not a "core" family value for us. After speaking with her, I was sure that there is nothing sexual going on. She just feels more like a "lady" and equates it with such. : ) Yes, protein. I have decided to mix ground turkey and hamburger. Meatballs as one of the snack. ( I will puree and "hide" veggies in them. ; 0 )
CLASSICALLY : I have come to agree with you and the other ladies. Because of what you wrote, she and I did some fun things together : picked out nail polish, got her a curling iron....etc. I want to help usher her into womanhood. I want to be part of the process. Thank you.
I will be back later .......to finish. : )