Thanks so much for the tips on hair accessories, Ana Elizabeth and Angie, really appreciate it. Ana: I do have highlights already and use quite a bit of product (texture cream or pomade) in my hair to style it. And I'm 40, so yeah, I'm absolutly not looking for something too cutesy. But I'll try a subtle hairband, and like the idea of not using it to push back the hair but just sticking it in. We'll see how that goes.
Now about specs. First of all, congrats to those who are amongst the lucky ones who need specs. I wear specs and love them; they are my favorite accessory - I don't know why I didn't mention that before. Fortunately, my vision hasn't changed in the last years, and I have a great health plan, so I buy a new pair of specs every year and have collected them in a variety of colors and styles now. But I agree with Angie, you can make a statement even if you just own a single pair. First, find a really good glasses store in your area. In Seattle, I'd check out Ottica (downtown), Eye Society (Bellevue), Market Opticals, Colaizzo. And/or just ask friends, acquaintances, colleagues who wear glasses you like for recommendations. That's how I discover new stores. If the store is good, they will help you find good shapes for your face - much better than we can here on this forum! One thing to keep in mind is your lifestyle. I, for instance, am somewhat active, I work out and ski, and I'm also somewhat of a klutz. Therefore, I just can't have glasses that are very fragile, e.g. the ones that only have a wire at the bottom but no frame. Just doesn't work for me; mine need to be more sturdy. Otherwise, go with what you like and absolutely don't be afraid to make a statement with your glasses. People see that you're wearing glasses anyway, so don't try to "hide" it by going too subtle, but just have fun with it and express yourself.
Finally, I wear specs in combination with bold earrings, and it's absolutely fine (even Angie said so even though I know she has general reservations about that combo :-)) However, I don't add a necklace. And I might want to be subtle about those hair accessories, which started this whole thread
Sorry for the long mail. I'm a happy specs wearer and hope to encourage others to treat them as fashion items rather than mere utility. Have fun!