I love your comprehensive analysis and your entire post! I can completely relate on so many counts and could have almost written this almost myself word for word!
We moved this summer after four+ months of extensive renovations on a fixer-upper that included gutting/painting/replacing just about every single solitary surface in the entire house. I lived in gear and painted-splattered ugliness not fit for public view, and like you I had a hard time reentering the "real world." I too purged extensively since I refused to take anything with me I didn't love. And yet there are still things in my closet I really don't love...how can that be?!
Finally, I also live in the desert SW and really struggle with a lack of seasons as I approach my wardrobe. This last weekend it was almost 90, tomorrow low 60s, notwithstanding frigid A/C and overheated cars parked in the sun. And all I really want to buy and/or wear are sweaters, jackets and boots. Sigh. Time to come up with my own plan for dealing with my reality too. Thanks for sharing your thoughts....so very helpful. And best of luck with your resolutions!