San, I missed most of this discussion because I was sick this weekend. But this came to mind when you asked how others perceive you:
I've always been intrigued by the apparent contrast between your builder's past (that must have been a tough environment) and your caring and creative side (in which you display much attention to detail). I'm not just talking about your craft projects (for which, I'm sure, you need both qualities all the time), but also about the way you respond to threads on the forum. You always manage to say something kind that's about more than just the clothing itself.
You strike me as a strong, resilient and empathic person. And like others have already mentioned: I wouldn't worry too much about categories and limitations. I don't think there is a 'secret', we're all free to experiment with different styles and clothes and somehow all of our, very different, personalities shine through. And yes, I also find that liberating and reassuring.
By the way: from what we've seen of you on the forum, you are making all the 'right' clothing choices. You look wonderful!!
