Re: the hose. You might want to try a cheap drugstore pair. I think they're 100% nylon (the regular sheer ones at least) and have no shaping or other bells and whistles. Here in the US, I buy L'eggs. The only issue might be that they have limited color options so you might not be able to find a good skin tone match.

Definitely #1 as is. My next two picks would be option 4 and option 6. But the dress would be perfect.

You look beautiful in all but I love number 1.
Mazel Tov and all the best to the happy couple.

I like the outfit in pic #8. It looks great on you, is dressy and yet not too dressy at the same time.

My vote is in for #1 - Congratulations!

I vote #8. It is dressy/casual and will look good next to the barefoot bride and your daughter.

1st Mazel Tov!
2nd what incredible style your daughter has.
3rd. I love the dress in #1, and I would solve the shoe problem by wearing house sleepers, besides being totally comfy, they solve the problem of being overdressed. My second choice is #8.

Congrats! And I can't believe what a flexible hostess you are! I would be in a tizzy.

Love # 1 for simplicity and chameleon properties so you look killer but not at all like trying to outshine the bride, and # 6 for festive fabric. But I would not be warm enough with no sleeves.

My vote is for pic #4 or 7. The brocade top is stunning and I think it will photograph beautifully, both front and back. Congratulations!

Late to the party, but in case you are still looking for input:
- The pants outfit with the fuchsia jacket is most casual while still being suitable for a wedding (bare feet in Dec. in Canada, my word!).
- I love the outfit with the brocade blouse and pencil skirt (the sleeveless blouse). If you don't wear it for this occasion, you must create another occasion to wear it!
- Love the other outfits too, you can't go wrong although the first I'd eliminate is the dress because of the footwear issues. Also, a dress somehow reads as more formal than separates. Although if you wear an apron, it changes the vibe.

Did you try these on with the apron?

Congrats to you & your stepson!

I'm with the majority: #1 seems the most flexible for your occasion. It doesn't read too dressy, and I wouldn't bother with finding a statement necklace. Sounds like you have quite a few shoe options, especially as you don't need to worry about formal shoes.

#1 is what I would choose Suz.
Leave off the statement necklace if you don't want to be too dressy.
This dress looks appropriate for cooler weather, stylish and gorgeous.
What a lovely event to have on the horizon- I hope you get a chance to take lots of pics for us to enjoy too!

How wonderful, congratulations! Tell your daughter she looks amazing - love her outfit. I also love that she can be herself for the occasion

My pick is #1 - what about with boots to make it more casual? My next pick is #6. This are all fab options though

I wrote this before reading the other comments & see that you've shown the dress with the boots - the lighter boots look fab imo.

Hmm, did you tell the bride that it may be too cold in your house to go barefoot - she may not have thought of this!
I agree with Diana and suggest you wear what makes you feel good. I am partial to that stunning patterned top worn with the flared skirt - less formal than with the pencil but just as pretty. Navy dress is great too as fuchsia jacket with slouchy pants (maybe with a sparkly top).
I guess it means I like your options and you cannot go wrong with any of those. As for the shoes - isn't it a perfect opportunity to wear those Pliner booties I admire so much? They would work with any of those outfits I think in that stunning bronze color!

All these are marvelous, and the ones you don't choose should be worn to other events!

I think I like#6, #7, #1 and #8 (with boots) for the wedding. I would make your selection based upon your duties on the day.

Now a sparkly sweater with your sparkly pants does sound amazing!

Ooops! Forgot to say congratulations!

Thank you everyone for the input! It seems that opinions are quite mixed. But in a way that is good. I guess I can't really go too wrong here. And I can play it by ear to an extent. Whatever seems best on the day I can pull out of the closet.

Sveta, the Pliner booties are too "stumpifying" for my legs unless I wear dark hose. I can do that, of course. But it darkens the look quite a bit. I am not against wearing them in theory. I am wearing them with the pants in the fuchsia jacket look.

Re footwear in our house: we ordinarily wear slippers all the time indoors, but for this event will be wearing shoes and allowing our guests to wear shoes. And yes, the bride knows the floors are very cold. She says she does not care.

I could wear the dress with darker hose and/ or the skirt with darker hose. I could also wear the skirt with the gold shoes, Angie -- although those shoes are my least comfortable option.

I went shopping and made a purchase of a sparkly tunic sweater. It probably won't be necessary for this event but it might come in handy over the season anyway. Will post in a separate thread.

Thanks all for your thoughts -- very useful observations and I think what I will wait for a final decision -- once I figure out what the others are wearing I will go from there.

Suz, I beg to differ on the "stumpifying" effect on the booties with the skirt. Remember, I saw them IRL with skirts and saw none of this. I guess this is one of those "style myths" about yourself you cannot get rid off. I told you before and I am telling you now: they looked great with skirts and your bare legs!

Mazel Tov! I love #'s 1 (with the boots) and 7 the best. Love the idea of giving out slippers ( or socks)...we went to a wedding once and everyone was given sparkly chinese slippers so while dancing we could kick off the heels and be comfortable, it was great! Another option would be sparkly festive socks or sockettes .

I have an androgynous dd too (she is only 10) who only wants to wear boys clothes. I respect that, but secretly would love to dress her up a bit for my own personal pleasure!

I vote for the first dress. That dress can go from casual to dressy with a quick change of accessory and is perfect for almost any occasion, IMO.

Congratulations, Suz, on both the upcoming wedding and on your adorable daughter and her sense of style! As for outfits, my favorite from the initial photo viewing was #6 -- just love that brocade top and the mix of textures. Second choice, for a more dressed down vibe, would be the dress with the boots, no need for a sparkly necklace IMO if your earrings have some sparkle.

Okay, Suz, show us the booties with a skirt or dress and bare legs. Sveta has spoken!

Suz, all look wonderful but #1 would be my choice. It's elegant and will be comfortable and easy to wear. You are hosting so I imagine you will be on your feet and mingling. This is the kind of dress that can go almost anywhere.

Only comfortable shoes that stay securely on your feet. That is paramount, especially when you are the hostess! I think trousers or even dark jeans read more appropriately casual with a barefoot bride(!), but you can do brocade or such with them!

Haven't read the other responses but I like the brocade top with the outfits you have created. Do you have accessories to boho-up the first dress? How about your kimono?

Oh my goodness Mazal Tov! Well I love the blue dress and the other dress and DD in her suit and I can't imagine you won't all look fab!

I like #6 - I think the pattern mixing makes it look a little more casual, and I like #7 - I think the flared skirt looks more casual than the straight skirt. I also like #1 for its elegance and simplicity.

I think that everyone will interpret "nice casual" differently and people will show up at all levels of dressiness. I would dress in a way that makes you feel comfortable and like "you." And most definitely wear comfy shoes!

You look great in all but I vote for #1, I love classic!!! Have a good time!

Late Kate (or Lateef, per India) here but congratulations and your daughter looks so distinctive and fun and hip. That's so cool to have the confidence at her age and I have to hold you at least partially responsible.

Much as I agree with the versatility of an LBD, I think you simply have better less-dressy options here. I also feel a pencil skirt looks more formal and separates inherently more casual except for a suit. So my votes go to the brocade top (butterflies seem to have an aesthetic affinity for barefootedness in my mind) with the fuller skirt and COMFY shoes. Or the pants with fuchsia jacket. Both are dressy and not trying to hard or imposing a generational preference for formality (which may be a risk in your specific situation and might influence guests depending on who and how they are).

Now I want to meet the sparkly sweater.

6 6 6 6 6!! *jumping like a little kid here with hand up in the air* You look gorgeous in all of them! I wish I could steal your wardrobe LOL! But 6 is just stunner of an outfit! Your DD is gorgeous! Love the thought process of putting her outfit together!