I am with you on your search as I am trying to shift away from black in general. I recall a knitting book I borrowed last year which had patterns all done in winter whites and grays and taupes. I think these colors mirror the snow and grey shadows we see in the winter. The book had me longing to make more outfits with these colors. However, finding the clothes and the boots has been a challenge!

(Just to say that my very well dressed friend swears by AG skinnies. The fabric is very soft and fit fantastic. They do not sag either. I think she bought those caramel ones, when she came to visit me. The caveat is that they are very short. I would say, they will be too short if you are 5.7 or taller)

I haven't managed to make it through all the comments yet, but something that springs to mind that might work (I've done it in NYC in winter, which isn't QUITE the same, but it's the closest I have): double up on dance tights in nude for the flash of "skin" - they're heavier weight, and much more durable than standard tights (I've had good luck with these: http://www.discountdance.com/d.....=532544108).

Alternatively, a heavy weight nude or white fishnet over a dark tight, to give that flash of lightness might be interesting and help lighten up. I've noticed you wear a lot of skirts with tights, so this is what immediately springs to mind.

(Sorry if these have already been suggested)

Just chiming in to say AG is my new "go to" brand of jean. I like the ones that are 98% cotton and only 2% strectch. I tried "The Stilt" model and they were a bit to wide in the legs for me, so they might be perfect for you. Good luck!