Okay family I REALLY appreciate your feed back. An and all advise is welcome and we have some really great people here.

Here is what I'm learning.

I must be myself because that is what drew Tem to me and I him

Tem is a selfless person and a giver/nurturer like I am only he is way better at it.

Relationships are difficult specifically after you have been on your own for a while.

It is great having alone time and together time.

You wisdom as a collective is so very helpful. Thank you

Honorable mention to Janet. I am soaking up these quotes.