https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/you-have-got-to-help-me-with-my-hair-please Style Advice for Fashion Lovers en-US Mon, 04 May 2026 02:03:02 +0000 http://bbpress.org/?v=1.0.2 q https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/search.php https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/you-have-got-to-help-me-with-my-hair-please/page/2#post-246049 Sat, 06 Nov 2010 22:14:35 +0000 Scarlet 246049@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Tarzy, I re-exposed the photos--us wild-haired people have to stick together. I hope you find peace with your cut. I think for me things just go terribly wrong when the short layers get too short. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/you-have-got-to-help-me-with-my-hair-please/page/2#post-246021 Sat, 06 Nov 2010 21:21:21 +0000 tarzy 246021@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I wish I could see the pictures, but I guess you removed them. I'm not quite sure what you mean by "hat hair," but I'm glad you figured out how to style it!</p> <p>I have very thick, curly hair, and I just got a very, very short cut - shorter than in my profile pic - and I'm experiencing a similar discontent. I wanted a 20's bob, but I almost feel like I have a Princess Leia thing going on each side of my head with all the tight curls. I know it's not that bad, but that's what it feels like! Bah! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/you-have-got-to-help-me-with-my-hair-please/page/2#post-246007 Sat, 06 Nov 2010 19:38:53 +0000 Vix 246007@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Ha -- yes, I can only handle the site in small doses. Their emails are a good way to get the "cheat sheet" articles/tips.</p> <p>Glad you had a good hair day, no matter how unexpected.</p> <p>Sad to say I have not mastered what product to use when the dew point is above/below blah de blah so my hair still calls the shots and I just follow, ha. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/you-have-got-to-help-me-with-my-hair-please/page/2#post-245995 Sat, 06 Nov 2010 19:07:27 +0000 Scarlet 245995@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Thanks for the tip, Vix. I was checking out that website this morning since I noticed it has been referred to a couple times. Frankly though, it sent me running. Curls, they are just way too complicated.<br /> Surprisingly my girlfriends spontaneously praised my 'do today, blown yesterday per Taylor's instructions, slept on, and re-stimulated with texturizing paste. hmm. I guess it just doesn't feel like "me" yet. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/you-have-got-to-help-me-with-my-hair-please/page/2#post-245969 Sat, 06 Nov 2010 18:09:31 +0000 Vix 245969@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Scarlet -- I'd be there, for sure.</p> <p>I know NaturallyCurly.com has been mentioned tons on recent hair threads -- lots of "dry cut" folks over there so you can probably read up on it if interested. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/you-have-got-to-help-me-with-my-hair-please/page/2#post-245839 Sat, 06 Nov 2010 06:59:22 +0000 Scarlet 245839@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Huh, very interesting, Vix. She cuts wet and then touches up dry. I have never had anyone cut my hair dry. Maybe we need a coarse, wavy, wild hair support thread. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/you-have-got-to-help-me-with-my-hair-please/page/2#post-245233 Fri, 05 Nov 2010 15:06:50 +0000 Vix 245233@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Scarlet --</p> <p>So glad to catch this happier ending. </p> <p>Q for you: is your hairdresser cutting your hair when dry? </p> <p>When my hair [coarse + wavy] was longer, cutting it wet was no biggie; when I went vaguely 20s bob one "cut as normal" convinced me things had to change. [Because I looked like George Washington, sob!] </p> <p>I think once a C/W-haired person gets those short pieces, length-when-dry and direction of wave can't be guesstimated when wet. If she's cutting dry ALREADY, I'd move on...but if cutting wet I'd give her another chance.</p> <p>[Mine does a first-pass cut when dry, then touches up when wet.]</p> <p>Good luck either way! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/you-have-got-to-help-me-with-my-hair-please/page/2#post-245219 Fri, 05 Nov 2010 14:39:21 +0000 Angie 245219@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Good for you!</p> <p>Go astray. You have to trust your hair stylist. Taylor - we want you to do our hair too </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/you-have-got-to-help-me-with-my-hair-please/page/2#post-245146 Fri, 05 Nov 2010 06:46:58 +0000 Scarlet 245146@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Thank you ladies, you are all so sweet. Hubby even cracked one sleepy eye open as I was heading out and said (in tone of disbelief) You look good! Now I just have to figure out if I will still trust this hairdresser. I am seriously considering going astray. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/you-have-got-to-help-me-with-my-hair-please/page/2#post-244771 Thu, 04 Nov 2010 15:12:01 +0000 Barbara 244771@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>WUNDERBAR! </p> <p>Scarlet, so glad you had success with your hair. No more bad hair days for you. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/you-have-got-to-help-me-with-my-hair-please/page/2#post-244467 Wed, 03 Nov 2010 21:43:32 +0000 RoseandJoan 244467@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>That's great Scarlet! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/you-have-got-to-help-me-with-my-hair-please/page/2#post-244464 Wed, 03 Nov 2010 21:39:46 +0000 taylor 244464@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>YAY!!!! SO HAPPY!!! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/you-have-got-to-help-me-with-my-hair-please#post-244417 Wed, 03 Nov 2010 20:23:48 +0000 Scarlet 244417@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>HAT HEAD CONQUERED: This morning I followed Taylor's instructions and it solved the hat head issue. There is still a massacre of overly-short hairs on the top of my head that catch the light, but that is small potatoes at this point. Thanks again everyone for the kind input. It really saved the day for me.</p> <p>Maya, as my hair twin I am listening to you with a keen ear! I hope over the weekend I can explore what kind of products are available to me here. I could really use 20 extra minutes of sleep instead of bonding time with my hairdryer.</p> <p>P.S. because it apparently didn't come across right, the photos I posted are when my hairdresser did my hair and it looked okay. It's when I tried to do it myself that it looked appalling. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/you-have-got-to-help-me-with-my-hair-please#post-244050 Wed, 03 Nov 2010 02:48:20 +0000 Sparky 244050@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>All I can say is that I think you are as pretty as ever, Scarlet, even with a bit of hat-head. And give you my sympathy. I vividly recall a couple times when I had too many layers cut into my hair, and I cried buckets both times. You've gotten lots of great advice already ~ I second the idea of following up with the person who cut it. First, she can help you figure out how to style it, and second, so she is aware it didn't come out the way you expected and will be careful to avoid doing the same next time. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/you-have-got-to-help-me-with-my-hair-please#post-244041 Wed, 03 Nov 2010 02:36:06 +0000 Maya 244041@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Ohh, yes, since we are hair twins I think my opinion should get extra weight :)</p> <p>Mine is actually a skosh looser than yours, but still similar. Fraternal twins perhaps.</p> <p>Anyway, the amount of product scared me too. Remember it was just 4 months ago that I had straight hair. Most days I never used ANY product!</p> <p>Anyway, my stylist showed me the amounts of product she was using when teaching me what to do, and it just looked like too much to me, so for the first few days I used a lot less. And my hair looked really bad. It just looked stringy and sad. So, thinking I was still using too much, I used even less, and it still didn't look good. In fact it looked worse. I tried taking all kinds of shortcuts, and nothing worked.</p> <p>Then finally I decided to just do it as she suggested, and since then everything has been peachy.</p> <p>After I finish working the product through, I cup and scrunch the wave into my hair until it dries completely, then tussle out the roots and finish off with a lightweight spray. The cup + scrunch motion helps encourage the wave into the ends, and the tussle-age gets rid of the hat hair effect. Since I effectively killed my wave a bit by straightening my hair for so long, it takes me more effort than it will probably take you. I think getting the roots fluffed out will be key for you. Your hair is mercifully thicker and fuller than mine so you don't need to worry about the ends--just the very top.</p> <p>What I like is that if my hair starts to get droopy, I can quickly re-scrunch it in place. The product allows me to do that, and is amazingly not sticky or heavy...but the downside is that it's hard to find. If I ever left the vicinity of NYC, I'd have to order it online. </p> <p>FWIW I admire your hair very much. It's so nice and evenly wavy. Mine waves in some places but not others...and it's always a tossup where it will wave each day...sigh. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/you-have-got-to-help-me-with-my-hair-please#post-244015 Wed, 03 Nov 2010 02:14:04 +0000 Lisa 244015@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Lots of advice here already, I think you look fine. But if you are not happy with it, there's always the ol' clips until the hair grows. When my top layers get at an odd length I keep them clipped, so my hair is half up/half down until I get a trim or it grows past the awkward stage. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/you-have-got-to-help-me-with-my-hair-please#post-243937 Wed, 03 Nov 2010 00:43:35 +0000 Barbara 243937@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Scarlet, I am so sorry that you are traumatized by your haircut! I agree with Marley. Ask your stylist what products and techniques she used. You should be able to duplicate it without so much stress. Believe me, it's not as bad as you think! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/you-have-got-to-help-me-with-my-hair-please#post-243931 Wed, 03 Nov 2010 00:36:35 +0000 HelloKitty 243931@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>You're most welcome, Scarlet! I know what a bummer it can be if your hair doesn't feel right - I never feel fab with a bad hair day! Good luck and post new pics when you get it sorted out </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/you-have-got-to-help-me-with-my-hair-please#post-243925 Wed, 03 Nov 2010 00:21:49 +0000 Aida 243925@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I like the cut (I've been thinking about getting a similar one next time I get mine done). Your best bet is to ask your stylist, as others have suggested. My hair is curly but fine and thin, and I usually let mine air dry because I'm lazy and my hair is also hard to tame.</p> <p>But when it has short layers like that and I HAVE to do some work, I'll use my diffuser and blow dry the roots with some texture spray and then let the ends air dry (usually about 10 min worth of blow dryer). Or to straighten, use a round brush with the blow dryer in 2-3" sections to show off the layers.</p> <p>If you don't wash your hair daily, on non-wash days if you put in some light product (I use mousse because I need the volume) and then use a curling iron with large chunks of hair while twisting away from the face you can get some beachy looking curls/waves. This gal has a good tutorial on this look: <a href="http://bjonesstyle.wordpress.com/2010/08/31/your-cheapest-accessory-beach-hair/" rel="nofollow">http://bjonesstyle.wordpress.c.....each-hair/</a> </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/you-have-got-to-help-me-with-my-hair-please#post-243912 Tue, 02 Nov 2010 23:19:05 +0000 Steph 243912@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Scarlet, I totally understand how important hair can be, and I feel similarly unconfident when I don't like my hair. So I don't think that's silly at all.</p> <p>I just wanted to chime in to second what Kitty said. I have naturally wavy/curly hair that can be frizzy, and when I want to straighten it, I separate it into sections, blow each section straight and then use the flat iron on each section before proceeding to the next one. (I actually don't do this all the time, but if I want it really flat, I do). I section the hair so the first section is at the nape of my neck, the next section is the layer above that, the third section is the top of my head, and the last section is the very front pieces. I think if you go that route, it should lie flat. Your hair is shorter and more layered than mine, so you might be okay with three sections. Of course, this means you'll have to be wearing your hair straight rather than curly, but the good thing is that it should grow out pretty quickly, since the issue is that she put in too many short layers.</p> <p>I also second Marley's advice that you should have the stylist show you what she's doing so you can copy her. </p> <p>Lots and lots of luck. (And honestly, it doesn't look horrible, but I know that doesn't help, since all that really matters is how you feel about it.) </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/you-have-got-to-help-me-with-my-hair-please#post-243896 Tue, 02 Nov 2010 22:51:53 +0000 Carole 243896@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I'm no help here, but the hair style in the photos looks lovely. My hair is stick straight, no waves for me so I don't have any ideas for you. We can all relate to having the occassional bad hair cut, hopefully in a few weeks you will love it. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/you-have-got-to-help-me-with-my-hair-please#post-243887 Tue, 02 Nov 2010 22:42:03 +0000 Scarlet 243887@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Yes, Marley, you have a point. Even if I wish she hadn't taken so much off from the top, at least she managed to style it in a way that was not embarrassing. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/you-have-got-to-help-me-with-my-hair-please#post-243886 Tue, 02 Nov 2010 22:40:27 +0000 Marley 243886@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Scarlet - why don't you just call your hairdresser and tell her what the problem is - my hairdresser has always had me come back in (when I didn't like my cut) and she has worked with me either on fixing it - or by showing me how to style it! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/you-have-got-to-help-me-with-my-hair-please#post-243864 Tue, 02 Nov 2010 22:00:41 +0000 Scarlet 243864@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Thanks Jen, I am contemplating a curling iron. All this time I never thought of my hair as curly... </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/you-have-got-to-help-me-with-my-hair-please#post-243861 Tue, 02 Nov 2010 21:59:33 +0000 Scarlet 243861@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Thanks, Kitty! I guess I have to put more work into the problem. All summer I could let my hair just air dry and it looked okay </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/you-have-got-to-help-me-with-my-hair-please#post-243860 Tue, 02 Nov 2010 21:58:47 +0000 jen321 243860@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Hey I wanted to let you know, I have pretty shorts layers in my hair. Mine looks really good when I use a wide curling iron and curl it a bit. It might be worth buying a curing iron or mousse to try if you are really unhappy with it. I use curing mousse and scrunch my hair when I want a nice wave. I hope you fine something that helps! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/you-have-got-to-help-me-with-my-hair-please#post-243858 Tue, 02 Nov 2010 21:52:08 +0000 HelloKitty 243858@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Oh yes and I use a round brush to dry it. And my hair is similar in texture to yours (thick and dense). </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/you-have-got-to-help-me-with-my-hair-please#post-243856 Tue, 02 Nov 2010 21:50:57 +0000 HelloKitty 243856@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Hi Scarlet, I am a newbie here but wanted to chime in just in case my advice helps. </p> <p>I have naturally wavy hair which I normally straighten, but I do use mousse occasionally (when I want to wear it wavy). I use John Frieda Frizz Ease mousse, and would highly recommend it. It's not pricey - about $5-6/bottle. So if you want to try out the mousse, that would be a good one to try.</p> <p>My other piece of advice is to try straightening it all the way so that all the layers lay nice and smooth. I do this in two steps (pin the top section up, blow dry and flatten it with flat iron, then release the top section and do the same thing). I have a Cortex flat iron which is fantastic, comparable to the Chi but MUCH cheaper (got mine for $40 at Winners, which is like Marshallas/TJ Maxx). Of course remember to use some product if you are going to put so much heat on your hair. Good luck!</p> <p>Hope that helps? </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/you-have-got-to-help-me-with-my-hair-please#post-243855 Tue, 02 Nov 2010 21:41:25 +0000 Scarlet 243855@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Taylor, thanks for chiming in, you are such a sweetie. While you were commenting I was just away trying my hand with a flat iron, but the hat-head wave could not be conquered. Probably if I blow-dry it first I will have more luck. Also I suspect my flat iron is not a very good one. I used to have a great one that I blew out by using a bad converter and then I bought a cheap one to replace it. Do you recommend a round brush or a paddle brush in this case? I don't own a curling iron, although I see it might actually be more useful in this case to change the direction of the hat wings. Sigh. well I will try again tomorrow. I understand how important it is to interact with the hair. I am really a tactile person in all things anyway. FWIW my hair is very thick (the individual hairs) and very dense (lots of it). Healthy but on the dry side. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/you-have-got-to-help-me-with-my-hair-please#post-243851 Tue, 02 Nov 2010 21:24:18 +0000 taylor 243851@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Oh, Scarlet I am so sad you are unhappy with your hair!</p> <p>Rest assured you are as lovey as ever! Looks like she too too much bulk and length from the top portion resulting in the dreaded hat head. </p> <p>Do you own a flat iron? Perhaps blow dry around your face and bangs,... bend over and finger dry the rest, DO NOT add mousse...this adds volume, your hair is quite thick and full enough .... Then take a look at it and see if you need to :<br /> flat iron anywhere<br /> or<br /> add a curling iron any where<br /> or<br /> just add a bit of spray and finish.</p> <p>I find that if the hair that frames your face and the parameters look like YOU and are easy to manage ...the rest will be OK in the next couple of weeks.</p> <p>Sorry I can be more specific but Not seeing, touching, working with your hair REALLY limits any advice that I can give to truly correct this for you because I really want to fix this for you!!.. I hear your pain...and you are still lovely! </p>