https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ylf-challenge-chain-sona-challenges-torontogirl Style Advice for Fashion Lovers en-US Thu, 09 Apr 2026 02:58:30 +0000 http://bbpress.org/?v=1.0.2 q https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/search.php https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ylf-challenge-chain-sona-challenges-torontogirl#post-1294280 Thu, 03 Jul 2014 20:30:17 +0000 Helena 1294280@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Beautiful Sona ... thank you </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ylf-challenge-chain-sona-challenges-torontogirl#post-1294247 Thu, 03 Jul 2014 19:40:33 +0000 Suz 1294247@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Fabulous, torontogirl! And I love your two "me" outfits. I hope you get to wear the date one soon.&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ylf-challenge-chain-sona-challenges-torontogirl#post-1294240 Thu, 03 Jul 2014 19:35:16 +0000 Sona 1294240@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>love the fuchsia, your ring, your thought processes. So&nbsp;amazed that your thoughts and feelings day 3 were...well..serene.</p> <p>Wishing you equanimity above all things in your style journey.</p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ylf-challenge-chain-sona-challenges-torontogirl#post-1294200 Thu, 03 Jul 2014 18:25:03 +0000 April 1294200@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Psychologist here, totally loving this challenge from start to finish!</p> <p>TG, that was a heroic soul-searching effort. &nbsp;If you have any energy remaining, it's time to pose your own challenge to&nbsp;<b>#30, which is&nbsp;Alassë!</p> <p></b>Best of luck to both of you. &nbsp;</p> <p>Sona, cheers to you for taking this on in spite of everything else you have going on. &nbsp;You now get to take a bow and flop down under the closest Hawaiian palm for a cool drink. &nbsp;:)&nbsp;<b><br /></b><div></div><div><br /></div> </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ylf-challenge-chain-sona-challenges-torontogirl#post-1294140 Thu, 03 Jul 2014 17:01:00 +0000 Helena 1294140@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Here's&nbsp;<b>Day 3:<br /></b>1.&nbsp;<b>Accept</b>&nbsp;- "the weather is perfect today [cooler] - I can wear a great outfit, so many options!" (interesting that the 'accept' was actually not a negative thought per se). "this ring is totally unnecessary, and does it look silly?"<br />2.&nbsp;<b>Choose</b>&nbsp;<b>Value</b>&nbsp;- With a heavy workload and the kids off school, today I valued my time over my outfit choice, despite perfect cool layering blazery scarfy weather today.<br />3.&nbsp;<b>Take</b>&nbsp;<b>Action</b><span>&nbsp;- Outfit choice below. Easy breezy. Enough polish to feel work-ready, casual enough to hop on bikes with the kiddies for break-time. Added my funky green ring to honor my accessory love.</p> <p>I loved today because it showed me that the value piece is not just about battling negative thoughts; it's also a compass to be used to navigate when there are too many options, even good ones. Sona, this challenge has provided me with a great style and&nbsp;life tool. Thanks so much for posing it, and also to everyone who encouraged and provided feedback.</p> <p>Also attached, my two "me" outfits - one for day to day, one for date night. Totally seem like me (one quite similar to today's outfit actually), and based on my current closet. </p> <p>Et, finit!! :)</p> <p></span> </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ylf-challenge-chain-sona-challenges-torontogirl#post-1293643 Thu, 03 Jul 2014 02:14:54 +0000 amiable 1293643@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>You are rocking this challenge - I really like it! &nbsp;Great challenge Sona, and way to tackle it TorontoGirl. &nbsp;I have to think about doing this one myself. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ylf-challenge-chain-sona-challenges-torontogirl#post-1293606 Thu, 03 Jul 2014 01:31:08 +0000 MsLuna 1293606@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Wow! This is a very interesting exercise, Sona! And Torontogirl, i really like your responses! I would love to see more! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ylf-challenge-chain-sona-challenges-torontogirl#post-1293594 Thu, 03 Jul 2014 01:13:36 +0000 shedev 1293594@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Great insight TG. You look good in fuchsia. Love the cuff. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ylf-challenge-chain-sona-challenges-torontogirl#post-1293589 Thu, 03 Jul 2014 01:05:23 +0000 Suz 1293589@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>You go!! Love your analysis and I am right there with you in wearing the same shorts two days in a row! Also, as you know, I'm a huge fan of that soft fuchsia, not to mention, Canada. :)&nbsp;</p> <p>This is MOTG summer dressing for real. I get it.&nbsp;</p> <p>And this is a fabulous exercise for us all.&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ylf-challenge-chain-sona-challenges-torontogirl#post-1293576 Thu, 03 Jul 2014 00:55:04 +0000 Helena 1293576@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Thanks all for the positivity and encouragement!<br />Here's <b>Day 2<br /></b>1.&nbsp;<b>Accept</b>&nbsp;- "I can't wear those shorts again and put them on YLF!", "I should wear a neutral", (later) "the bracelet is completely unnecessary".<br />2.&nbsp;<b>Choose</b>&nbsp;<b>Value</b>&nbsp;- I love this soft&nbsp;fuchsia&nbsp;color, it is a happy color and makes it's way&nbsp;into my closet time and again, so I chose the&nbsp;fuchsia&nbsp;shirt. I value simplicity - by observing this value I realize&nbsp;if t and shorts is the uniform, then that's the uniform, it does not bore me to repeat, rather it de-stresses me.&nbsp;<br />3.&nbsp;<b>Take</b>&nbsp;<b>Action</b>&nbsp;- Outfit choice below.&nbsp;In honoring my learning from yesterday, I accessorized with a cuff that I love but rarely wear.&nbsp;My kids and the lady at the grocery store&nbsp;did not seem to care that I wore the same shorts twice ;)</p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ylf-challenge-chain-sona-challenges-torontogirl#post-1293505 Wed, 02 Jul 2014 23:30:32 +0000 Caro in Oz 1293505@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Thanks for sharing your thought processes. This is such a great challenge &amp; your outfit is perfect for the day </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ylf-challenge-chain-sona-challenges-torontogirl#post-1293500 Wed, 02 Jul 2014 23:26:14 +0000 April 1293500@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>O, Canada...</p> <p>&lt;cheering for your first day results&gt;</p> <p>Wow, those negative thoughts in #1 really reflect my own thoughts on summer dressing as well. &nbsp;With this challenge in mind,&nbsp;I'll pay attention to those thoughts when they next arise -- not to abolish them, just to be aware of what I'm thinking.</p> <p> </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ylf-challenge-chain-sona-challenges-torontogirl#post-1292792 Wed, 02 Jul 2014 00:59:58 +0000 Kristin L 1292792@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Great challenge Sona. And great job TG! I like how explained your thought process and figured out why you were thinking the way you do. Happy Canada Day! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ylf-challenge-chain-sona-challenges-torontogirl#post-1292752 Wed, 02 Jul 2014 00:08:37 +0000 Gigi 1292752@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Wow, great challenge, Sona! And great execution, TG! Your analysis of how you applied the ACT concept&nbsp;made me understand more about what ACT is about. I hadn't heard of it before. And you look fab—your outfit is simple, but it is very polished! Your outfit lets the "Canada" on your shirt really stand out. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ylf-challenge-chain-sona-challenges-torontogirl#post-1292737 Tue, 01 Jul 2014 23:43:37 +0000 Peri 1292737@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>That looks great, TG! Casual and summery but just polished enough and a fun nod to Canada Day! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ylf-challenge-chain-sona-challenges-torontogirl#post-1292725 Tue, 01 Jul 2014 23:34:25 +0000 Sona 1292725@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Well done. You have the concept down just so .And you are absolutely right about this not being a linear process. Eventually we learn to take action without even realizing it is value driven. And we may value different things- for example:&nbsp; a bright shiny Mercedes may be something I value but heck I value being able to make my house payments and have a safe, driveable car for our weather <i>more than </i>that status symbol. And that's ok.It is what it is- my thoughts- yum, shiny car but my value ( safety, economics)&nbsp;based action- buying the dependable Subaru instead </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ylf-challenge-chain-sona-challenges-torontogirl#post-1292718 Tue, 01 Jul 2014 23:16:00 +0000 Helena 1292718@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>OK - luckily I got properly dressed late today, so <b>today is Day 1 of 3.&nbsp;</b>Going to do this day by day; hope that's alright :)</p> <p>So, first off - I am new to the ACT concept and will read more about it over the coming days (and beyond, I'm sure). But, I do love the concept of letting your values drive your actions, while accepting insecurities, rather that dressing from insecurities while letting values float by. So - thank you Sona for introducing me to this. </p> <p>My first observation is that, although in theory this is a linear process - Accept - Choose Value - Take Action - actually the reality was a bit messier, as choosing a value then brought up another negative thought that I then needed to accept, etc. And of course, style is always more than style, at least for me - it always becomes a metaphor for other things.</p> <p>So, here is today's ACTual happenings:<br />1. <b>Accept</b> - The immediate negative style thoughts that I noticed and accepted&nbsp;as I chose my outfit were "I hate summer dressing", "It's impossible to look good in summer", "What's the point in bothering today anyways?". Later I noticed and accepted that I am fearful of looking cheap, tacky, overdone, or "wrong" when I add my personal touches.<br />2. <b>Choose</b> <b>Value</b> - Today being Canada Day, the style value I chose to act on&nbsp;was showing my patriotism, something I want to instill in my kids, if in that good old introverted Canadian way. So, that was the guide for my choice. As I assembled the outfit, I also noticed the stylistic value I put on polish (as evidenced by my need choose a slightly crisper pair of shorts, as well as crisp up the black shirt with some contrast) and&nbsp;accessorizing (as evidenced by not feeling complete without my earrings, and wanting to add some bracelets notwithstanding fear mentioned above).<br />3. <b>Take</b> <b>Action</b> - photo below! &nbsp;I&nbsp;did feel good today - like I looked "right" for my day and didn't need to hand-wring over it.</p> <p>Feedback on process very welcome, esp. from Sona or others who understand ACT far better than I!&nbsp;Otherwise, see you tomorrow and thanks for reading :)</p> <p> </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ylf-challenge-chain-sona-challenges-torontogirl#post-1292688 Tue, 01 Jul 2014 22:38:30 +0000 Caro in Oz 1292688@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Fab challenge.&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ylf-challenge-chain-sona-challenges-torontogirl#post-1292652 Tue, 01 Jul 2014 21:53:37 +0000 deb 1292652@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Good one, Sona </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ylf-challenge-chain-sona-challenges-torontogirl#post-1292624 Tue, 01 Jul 2014 21:08:32 +0000 April 1292624@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>So many of these challenges have been&nbsp;<i>deep. &nbsp;</i>Well done, Sona! &nbsp;I'll be watching with great interest. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ylf-challenge-chain-sona-challenges-torontogirl#post-1292560 Tue, 01 Jul 2014 19:46:25 +0000 NDMom 1292560@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Wow....this is a great challenge, Sona! &nbsp;I will be following and perhaps even participating on my own. &nbsp;Can't wait to see the results, torontogirl! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ylf-challenge-chain-sona-challenges-torontogirl#post-1292492 Tue, 01 Jul 2014 18:19:59 +0000 Suz 1292492@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Fabulous challenge, Sona!!&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ylf-challenge-chain-sona-challenges-torontogirl#post-1292484 Tue, 01 Jul 2014 18:15:27 +0000 abc 1292484@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Great challenge. Looking forward to the action! (Sorry I couldn't resist haha) </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ylf-challenge-chain-sona-challenges-torontogirl#post-1292413 Tue, 01 Jul 2014 16:43:24 +0000 Helena 1292413@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Thank you Sona, this is a wonderful challenge and one that really speaks to where I am at right now. Will do my best and keep you posted! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ylf-challenge-chain-sona-challenges-torontogirl#post-1292346 Tue, 01 Jul 2014 15:36:53 +0000 Sona 1292346@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Hello there TG:</p> <p>I have been reading your last few posts to get 'to know you' better. </p> <p>I know you are a beautiful SAHM and a wonderful parent. You have many talents and are a good friend and a great listener. You have innate style and have acquired and applied a lot of additional information about fashion- not just clothes but everything that&nbsp;'style' encompasses.</p> <p>However... recently you have had some<b>&nbsp;</b>self doubt with your style journey. I would like to challenge that self doubt and hopefully bolster your confidence by your<i> own actions </i>during this challenge.</p> <p><b><u>Part one:</u></b></p> <p>For three days I want you to apply ACT therapy to your style. ACT stands for acceptance and commitment therapy. A-<b>accept</b> your thoughts and feelings, C-choose a <b>valued</b> direction and T-take<b> action</b>. </p> <p>Stylistically and sartorially speaking you would accept how you are feeling- good, bad, doubtful, questioning about your style and accept the feelings as they are.&nbsp;They are merely thoughts and feelings. Accept them without prejudice- It just is. </p> <p>You would then choose a valued direction&nbsp;related to&nbsp;overall style. This does not&nbsp; necessarily be related to your thoughts that day ( although it can). Lets say you wake up feeling you do not know if high contrast or low contrast in clothes is better suited to you.Ok accepted. One of your unrelated sartorial&nbsp;values to this thought might be&nbsp;comfortable footwear. </p> <p>You might then choose your action of the day as choosing and wearing comfortable shoes. That was your&nbsp; committed action for the day.&nbsp;</p> <p>Hopefully this explanation makes sense but please pm me if you have questions.</p> <p>&nbsp;Your challenge: Please describe to us ACTually speaking those three days in words and&nbsp;pictures.</p> <p><b><u>Part two:</u></b></p> <p>Using current items in your wardrobe create a style board ( any way you like)&nbsp;for two outfits that make you<i> feel </i>fab.</p> <p>FABulously yours,</p> <p>Sona.</p>