https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiwfor-a-day-on-the-road-1 Style Advice for Fashion Lovers en-US Fri, 08 May 2026 06:39:19 +0000 http://bbpress.org/?v=1.0.2 q https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/search.php https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiwfor-a-day-on-the-road-1/page/2#post-2132355 Thu, 09 Jul 2020 16:05:58 +0000 Mainelady 2132355@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Carla, you are beyond fabulous! Your outfit is perfection and one I will shamelessly copy. &nbsp;<div>&nbsp;You are a thoughtful and kind daughter to give your mom a break from her setting and to see her safely home. I am sorry she felt she had the right to critique you.&nbsp;</div><div>&nbsp; Though I love my mom dearly, she is not a kind person. I spent years trying to say or do the right thing that might improve our relationship. &nbsp;After decades I realized that our relationship, any relationship, is built between two people. I was focused on &nbsp;building. She was focused on demolishing. &nbsp;It took a lot of painful processing for me to admit that I deserve better.&nbsp;</div><div>&nbsp;Carry on and DYOT! You do it amazingly well!</div> </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiwfor-a-day-on-the-road-1/page/2#post-2132312 Thu, 09 Jul 2020 13:54:52 +0000 Bijou 2132312@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Carla, green is such a beautiful colour on you, this is such a modern and fresh outfit, you look so good. I can’t believe she said that about your hair, you have the best hair! I know that parental expectation can be exhausting and somehow seems to get harder as our parents age. Unfortunately there is no easy answer, it is draining because you love and care for your Mum. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiwfor-a-day-on-the-road-1/page/2#post-2132220 Thu, 09 Jul 2020 01:42:56 +0000 Jaime 2132220@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Carla you look fantastic! As for letting yourself go, you are one of my fitness inspos so hmmph! But thank you for sharing about your mother, I try very hard to be careful what I say to my kids but reminders are always helpful. My relationship with my mother is not good in other ways, but it is always helpful to be reminded I am not alone. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiwfor-a-day-on-the-road-1/page/2#post-2132175 Wed, 08 Jul 2020 20:26:31 +0000 celia 2132175@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I empathize with you, Carla. My mother is all alone and has the same kind of behavior. It is hard because I understand where she is coming from even though she also makes me mad sometimes, but strangers (or even other family) just drift away and she stays even more isolated.<br />You are there for her and I am sure that it makes all the difference in the world to her.<br />&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiwfor-a-day-on-the-road-1/page/2#post-2132172 Wed, 08 Jul 2020 20:18:32 +0000 avicennia 2132172@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Carla you are fab — it was such a smart outfit and in your best color. I’m sending you a big virtual hug and am nodding in understanding. I’m also on the receiving end of many negative comments from my mum. Most related to my parenting. Although, ironically, I hear about how I dress too well. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiwfor-a-day-on-the-road-1/page/2#post-2132168 Wed, 08 Jul 2020 19:42:37 +0000 rachylou 2132168@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I love that olive and gold! That’s a spectacular combination, wish I’d thought of it.</p> <p>Ok... but does your mother also get into fights with people just doing their jobs because they’re doing their jobs because she’s an old lady taking every opportunity to show that off? </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiwfor-a-day-on-the-road-1/page/2#post-2132163 Wed, 08 Jul 2020 18:18:48 +0000 Firecracker (Sharan) 2132163@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I really dig this outfit, Carla! You wear shorts so darned well. I like the combination of white and olive together here, for a crisp yet laid-back look. Visits with parents can be so hard; for me, there was always the hoped-for interactions versus what happened in reality, which rarely matched up. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiwfor-a-day-on-the-road-1/page/2#post-2132153 Wed, 08 Jul 2020 16:51:25 +0000 Jules 2132153@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>That's difficult Carla - I have a somewhat similar situation with my mom, who sometimes says rather extreme or strange things she thinks are "funny", then will be hurt when people "misinterpret" her and form related judgments. Luckily she's receptive to feedback from me, but it does sometime negatively impact her wider circles, which are naturally narrowing with age. As well as a friend who I know very much wants and needs a close group of girlfriends but then acts in alienating ways sometimes. I feel badly for both of them because of the mismatch between what they do and what they want.</p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiwfor-a-day-on-the-road-1/page/2#post-2132140 Wed, 08 Jul 2020 16:28:21 +0000 RobinF 2132140@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Great outfit, perfect for travel - comfortable, coverage if needed and cool if that is needed. Love the print of the top, looks great with the white shorts.&nbsp;</p> <p>Too bad about your mom, sometimes I don't think they realize what power they have to hurt our feelings. I hope I don't do that to my 27 year old daughter. And if you are "letting yourself go" than I'm happy to join you :)</p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiwfor-a-day-on-the-road-1#post-2132132 Wed, 08 Jul 2020 15:41:51 +0000 Carla 2132132@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Thank you for your kind words in response to this post. &nbsp;Though feeling a bit beat down ATM, I will bounce back! &nbsp;I’m not questioning my style decisions, but feel badly about mom’s behaviour. &nbsp;She is alienating people even as she needs them more. &nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiwfor-a-day-on-the-road-1#post-2132129 Wed, 08 Jul 2020 15:27:53 +0000 catherine 2132129@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Carla, you always look just right and put together.<br /> Honestly, I can’t even imagine telling my 35 year old daughter how to dress or wear her hair. She’s a grown woman! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiwfor-a-day-on-the-road-1#post-2132128 Wed, 08 Jul 2020 15:26:23 +0000 whidbeygirl 2132128@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Dying hair was never a thought that occurred to me. My mother was an older mom (as am I) and she had beautiful white hair as early as I can remember. She often would get the comment especially when I was young that I must be her granddaughter. My hair never turned as white as hers but it's more of a 'rose gray'. &nbsp;That is the term we would use when we raised alpacas for the ones that had a beautiful mix of brown and white fibers. A lovely color. So I've taken to that description for my natural hair color. During the current era of zoom I've been chatting and seeing online a group of college buddies..and I will admit that some of them do look younger with the hair color of our college days. Nevertheless, I wear my 'rose gray' with pride.&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiwfor-a-day-on-the-road-1#post-2132126 Wed, 08 Jul 2020 14:52:20 +0000 nuancedream 2132126@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Carla, I can certainly understand how our mothers can push all of our buttons, especially when it comes to our personal appearance. Sometimes, my mother could be effusive with her praise if she liked something I was wearing or she could offer withering and unwarranted criticism. You are a wonderful daughter and never forget that fact. I think you look terrific, as always, in olive and white.&nbsp; I am stealing all the components of that outfit for my upcoming vacation. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiwfor-a-day-on-the-road-1#post-2132122 Wed, 08 Jul 2020 14:37:33 +0000 celia 2132122@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>You are very kind, Carla. Mothers can get on our last nerves in a very special way, I am sure I will also drive DD crazy eventually.<br />I wonder why we have such strong feelings/opinions about hair color and length.<br />I personally think you look wonderful and that outfit is perfect.&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiwfor-a-day-on-the-road-1#post-2132120 Wed, 08 Jul 2020 14:33:20 +0000 NancyW 2132120@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>As always a well thought out active retirement outfit. The energy you put into planning your wardrobe really pays off time and again. I keep meaning to learn from your example My mother was very critical until I married. It took me a few years to notice that she had stopped commenting on my appearance once I was a grown-up-married-woman. Of course I did have<br /> my grandmother to keep up the commentary! You are a good daughter. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiwfor-a-day-on-the-road-1#post-2132116 Wed, 08 Jul 2020 14:19:02 +0000 Windchime 2132116@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>You look wonderful in this outfit, Carla! &nbsp;It’s sad that your Mom isn’t able to see and enjoy that. &nbsp;Her saying that you are letting yourself go is kind of out of touch with reality. &nbsp;I wonder if Moms being critical of daughters’ physical appearance is generational. &nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiwfor-a-day-on-the-road-1#post-2132114 Wed, 08 Jul 2020 14:15:11 +0000 madeline 2132114@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>What Laurie said-you are a GOOD daughter-more than good-patient and kind.<br /> You look fab in olive - stay true to your style. You rock. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiwfor-a-day-on-the-road-1#post-2132112 Wed, 08 Jul 2020 14:08:17 +0000 Laurie 2132112@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I looked at the photo before I read your entry, and thought, "wow - what an amazing outfit from top to bottom, she looks so great!" And, then I read. I feel for you. I have a mother who cares mostly about appearances over anything else about a person - hers, mine, and everyone else's. It's gotten more pronounced the older she gets and is absolutely annoying on the best of days, and very hurtful on others. I did have to laugh about the frayed hem...</p> <p>This is one of my favorite outfits of yours! The bag is quite the icing on the cake! I love the ties at the wrist of the jacket, and the white and green is excellent.&nbsp;</p> <p>YOU ARE A GOOD DAUGHTER. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiwfor-a-day-on-the-road-1#post-2132093 Wed, 08 Jul 2020 13:10:55 +0000 Murph11 2132093@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>You’re a saint, RC... and a stylish one at that! DYOT (or be like Taylor and “Shake it off”). </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiwfor-a-day-on-the-road-1#post-2132092 Wed, 08 Jul 2020 13:07:58 +0000 Angie 2132092@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>KILLER look, <b>Carla.</b> You wear curly hair with the best of them! White jeans have become signature, and I LOVE the pattern and texture mix here. You are looking sooooooo good!</p> <p>Nice that you got your Mama out. You are a wonderful daughter. </p> <p>Relationships with Mums can be very tricky. Even though I had a wonderful one with mine, my Mum was very candid about my outfits. She praised what she loved, and was fast to tell me what she thought looked awful, and not very tactfully! </p> <p>(((HUGS))). DYOT and know that you look FABULOUS. Much love. xo </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiwfor-a-day-on-the-road-1#post-2132091 Wed, 08 Jul 2020 12:55:20 +0000 Minaminu 2132091@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>you look great! I like the colour combination, it looks fresh and you seem to be very relaxed.</p> <p>I too have a tricky relationship with my mum, it's a generational&nbsp; and cultural gap that I had to embrace - no point in arguing with her as somehow she seems win!&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiwfor-a-day-on-the-road-1#post-2132085 Wed, 08 Jul 2020 11:22:50 +0000 lyn67 2132085@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>"Why do some people feel it is perfectly okay to offer their views when those views have not been solicited?" -sobbing...:-(<br />I really love your outfit and hair, Carla-you always look put together and stylish no matter what!&nbsp;</p> <p>But ack, I sometimes do the same mistake, and make an unsolicited comment to my DD(23) but always thought the mother-daughter relationship is one which&nbsp; easily survives the trauma...(?)<br />I don't&nbsp; want to persecute my DD -it is only a gentle way to remind her to care more about her looks. She is young and naturally beautiful so she seldom really needs to be adviced- but&nbsp;&nbsp;some of her pals are so high maintenance- I sometimes have to wonder... <br />Surely,&nbsp; I think my comments are really comming from my own personal insecurieties and&nbsp; fears ref. how we, women of all ages and bodies, are percieved by our (sometimes really harsh) environment, so&nbsp; when I&nbsp; make that comment&nbsp; I always want/wish my DD's the best- though will have to rethink, I guess.</p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiwfor-a-day-on-the-road-1#post-2132084 Wed, 08 Jul 2020 11:18:24 +0000 nemosmom 2132084@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p> <div>You are so generous to have treated your mom to a change of scenery - and even escorted her home! You look radiant, and the pattern mix is brilliant! My late mom rarely had anything nice to say (about anyone or anything); it can be such a challenge to let that criticism go. </p> <p>I hope you didn't let your mom get into your head - you are amazing, inside and out. </div> </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiwfor-a-day-on-the-road-1#post-2132083 Wed, 08 Jul 2020 11:12:32 +0000 Adela 2132083@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>This is a great outfit, I love the olive- white combination, subtle pattern and shoes, of course. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiwfor-a-day-on-the-road-1#post-2132082 Wed, 08 Jul 2020 10:45:22 +0000 Brooklyn 2132082@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>You look fabulous RC! Love the olive and white, and the pattern mix.</p> <p>My mum is constantly telling me she is able to mend my frayed hems. She says they look “cheap, cheap, cheap”. She also likes me to wear my hair curly but to dye it very blonde. I was naturally very blonde until I was 12, so that’s why she likes it dyed. Child forever. I don’t quite understand the preference for curls however because my hair didn’t go curly until adulthood. The mysteries of maternal preferences. But, like all mums, she is never shy about making her preferences known. </p> <p>DYOT with pride. You always look fab. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiwfor-a-day-on-the-road-1#post-2132068 Wed, 08 Jul 2020 03:33:03 +0000 Jenni NZ 2132068@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>It’s hard to have a critical mother, Carla. Mine was critical always, and despite her having died in 1999 I still suffer from it. It also has made me quite a critical person myself despite all my efforts ( including counselling) not to be. I do hope and feel that I have not been as critical to my own 3 children but sometimes I am sure I have. My relationship with Mum did improve for the last 9 years of her life, after I had the children, and I did love her and still miss her sometimes!<br /> Having said that, you have been wonderfully kind to yours with this trip and I think you look gorgeous in your outfit, such perfectly matching greens!<br /> And you have lovely hair.<br /> The “letting oneself go” concept is quite snobbish when you think about it. Surely it is a matter of one’s own choice how polished or “done up” one decides to be. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiwfor-a-day-on-the-road-1#post-2132066 Wed, 08 Jul 2020 03:17:13 +0000 bridgie 2132066@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p><div>Runcarla, I am older than your Mom, and I want to say that I think you are always neatly dressed and appropriate for any occasion.&nbsp; And your hair is very pretty.<br /></div><div>I just deleted two paragraphs of rambling on and on.&nbsp; <br /></div><div>I am truly sorry your feelings were hurt.&nbsp; You did not deserve that.&nbsp; Hugs<br /></div> </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiwfor-a-day-on-the-road-1#post-2132063 Wed, 08 Jul 2020 02:44:51 +0000 Anonymous 2132063@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Carla, you look fabulous. Parents are living in a different world, some think if their kids have grey hair it makes them (the parent) seem old. Y parents wanted to see me in a dress always. Because that’s what females wore most of their lives. How they could live in a small Iowa town where everyone wore jeans, I will never understand. Do not let your mother’s critical comments get to you. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiwfor-a-day-on-the-road-1#post-2132058 Wed, 08 Jul 2020 02:13:19 +0000 unfrumped 2132058@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I love this outfit and may need to copy it!</p> <p>Hoping some of mum’s sayings are somewhat rote- sometimes people just can’t get a new line going. I am sure her vacay with you was a great break for her , so do not let yourself be discouraged. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiwfor-a-day-on-the-road-1#post-2132057 Wed, 08 Jul 2020 02:12:42 +0000 Suz 2132057@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>On the hair colour thing -- it seems to be one of those issues that women become sharply divided about -- similar to whether you work outside the home or not when you have children (assuming you have the immense privilege to choose -- something almost none of us has today!)</p> <p>My own mother never dyed her hair but n her social class and generation this choice was extremely unconventional, and all my aunts and all her friends and neighbours were always after her to colour. I admit, as a child, I used to wish she would because she looked so *different* from the other mothers!! (Of course, the fact that she was at least a decade older than most of those mothers meant nothing to me at the time...sigh...)&nbsp;</p> <p>Anyway. I was fortunate that she never pressured me to dye my hair. Her comments about my hair involved its length. She hated if I let it get long. I must admit, she was right. Short does suit me better. But I hadn't asked her opinion. And that is the point. Why do some people feel it is perfectly okay to offer their views when those views have not been solicited?&nbsp;</p> </p>