https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw-to-the-funeral Style Advice for Fashion Lovers en-US Thu, 16 Apr 2026 19:27:45 +0000 http://bbpress.org/?v=1.0.2 q https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/search.php https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw-to-the-funeral#post-1201329 Fri, 21 Mar 2014 20:38:27 +0000 MsMary 1201329@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Ornella, this was lovely and your funeral outfit was lovely as well.</p> <p>I wish Herr W could know how much your story of his beloved late wife touched so many people today!&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw-to-the-funeral#post-1201317 Fri, 21 Mar 2014 20:28:49 +0000 adorkable 1201317@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>The thought is lovely. Thinking of you and sending condolences. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw-to-the-funeral#post-1201287 Fri, 21 Mar 2014 20:10:35 +0000 Lisa 1201287@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>A lovely tribute.&nbsp; I often sport white and black to funerals too.&nbsp; Or black and dark purple. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw-to-the-funeral#post-1201255 Fri, 21 Mar 2014 19:44:13 +0000 Ornella 1201255@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Thank you ladies. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw-to-the-funeral#post-1201195 Fri, 21 Mar 2014 18:43:20 +0000 Anonymous 1201195@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>You hit just the right balance here, Ornella. &nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw-to-the-funeral#post-1201190 Fri, 21 Mar 2014 18:40:36 +0000 CocoLion 1201190@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Beautifully written Ornella. &nbsp;And the outfit is the perfect blend of respect, practicality and figure flattery. &nbsp;When my father passed away 4 years ago, I was honored when people from the community showed up. &nbsp;It was also comforting. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw-to-the-funeral#post-1201154 Fri, 21 Mar 2014 18:11:06 +0000 pil 1201154@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>What a nice tribute, Ornella, how nice that you were able to connect with Frau W. and her husband. You look perfect for the occasion. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw-to-the-funeral#post-1201148 Fri, 21 Mar 2014 18:02:11 +0000 rachylou 1201148@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>As viva said, a lovely tribute. You did right.</p> <p>A neighbour of mine passed away a month or so again. A gentleman new to the neighbourhood attended and stood up and spoke at the memorial. He wore a real suit. He was, in fact, the most respectful person there. I suppose me and my next-door neighbour (and my dog) are old biddies, but we noticed amongst that sea of short red dresses and the sloshed (drunken). So much so, she went and told him he did the right thing. One thing we learned from our neighbour who died, you know you've found home when you go somewhere and the people there register you. He'd stand outside and recognise people and say hello.</p> <p>I suppose I've said so before, but when my dad passed the church filled up with strangers. I hadn't really thought about it in this way before, how the smallest things have the greatest impact. I don't mean me realising how my dad had touched so many people's hearts. I mean you don't have to be close friends or family to really be a meaningful presence in someone's life.</p> <p>In any case, you know, well done, Ornella! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw-to-the-funeral#post-1201092 Fri, 21 Mar 2014 17:05:32 +0000 LACeleste 1201092@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>A lovely tribute and very appropriate outfit. &nbsp;Glory's post has echoed in my mind also&nbsp;as I strive to do the right thing in hard times. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw-to-the-funeral#post-1201055 Fri, 21 Mar 2014 16:26:52 +0000 lyn67 1201055@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Sorry for your loss, Ornella. This is the perfect outfit for that sad occasion.&nbsp;I think we all need&nbsp;good neighborurghs, and&nbsp;so we end up&nbsp;very attached to them if all works well.&nbsp;Sadly, I had also lost my favourite one 2 years ago, at age 52. I still miss her! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw-to-the-funeral#post-1201053 Fri, 21 Mar 2014 16:24:28 +0000 Angie 1201053@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>A wonderful and heartfelt&nbsp;tribute - which is SO Ornella -&nbsp;and you look spot on. Respectful deluxe. xo </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw-to-the-funeral#post-1200925 Fri, 21 Mar 2014 14:31:25 +0000 viva 1200925@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>A lovely tribute -- both your words and your thoughtful outfit. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw-to-the-funeral#post-1200906 Fri, 21 Mar 2014 14:11:57 +0000 Sara L. 1200906@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Perfect outfit for the occasion. &nbsp;I enjoyed reading your homage to Frau W. &nbsp; Good for you for going to the funeral - I probably would have chickened out and then felt guilty for not going. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw-to-the-funeral#post-1200900 Fri, 21 Mar 2014 14:09:24 +0000 Tanya 1200900@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>What a touching post Ornella.&nbsp; I think you dressed perfectly for the sad occasion. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw-to-the-funeral#post-1200883 Fri, 21 Mar 2014 13:56:21 +0000 Janet 1200883@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>What a wonderful remembrance of Frau W, Ornella. I'm sorry for the loss -- it sounds like she really was a lovely person. You look perfectly appropriate for the occasion yet still beautiful as always. </p> <p>I feel for Frau W's husband -- it must be so hard to be left alone after reaching such an advanced age together. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw-to-the-funeral#post-1200846 Fri, 21 Mar 2014 12:56:37 +0000 Transcona Shannon 1200846@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Ornella - I'm so impressed with how much thought you took in making your choices and being very respectful of the family members of the deceased. Your outfit looks very appropriate and still very "you". Beautifully done.</p> <p>It's funny how little things like seeing the same neighbors on a walk or as you mention, the clanking of the dishes, make an impression on us and become part of our every day lives, making us feel at home. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw-to-the-funeral#post-1200844 Fri, 21 Mar 2014 12:46:11 +0000 Suz 1200844@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>What a lovely post, Ornella. And I'm touched by your remarks about your neighbour, as well as your thoughtfulness in sending flowers and cake when you learned she was ill. What a kind thing to do, and it reminds me that I need to do something similar for a neighbour here as well.&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw-to-the-funeral#post-1200841 Fri, 21 Mar 2014 12:39:35 +0000 missvee 1200841@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I'm sure your neighbour appreciated your thoughtfulness. I think you chose the perfect clothing for the occasion. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw-to-the-funeral#post-1200834 Fri, 21 Mar 2014 12:10:16 +0000 Anonymous 1200834@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>That does sound like a hard balance to strike, but you look perfectly subdued and appropriate.</p> <p>I love the image of Frau W and her husband walking together and I'm sorry for your loss. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw-to-the-funeral#post-1200833 Fri, 21 Mar 2014 12:04:59 +0000 Aquamarine 1200833@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>What a lovely post. You look perfect. I want to reiterate...always go to the funeral, always send the card, always acknowledge the death/illness...even if you do not personally know the next-of-kin. It will mean so much to the family. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw-to-the-funeral#post-1200814 Fri, 21 Mar 2014 11:11:43 +0000 MRL 1200814@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I'm sorry to hear about the loss of Frau W. </p> <p>I think your outfit was just right, a nice change from the all black, but tasteful and appropriate. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw-to-the-funeral#post-1200804 Fri, 21 Mar 2014 10:38:14 +0000 Windchime 1200804@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I'm sure your presence at Frau W's funeral meant a lot to Frau W's husband and other family. It's hard to know what to wear for funerals, isn't it? I think you got it just right for this one. Your navy cardigan sets off your blouse and skirt elegantly. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw-to-the-funeral#post-1200795 Fri, 21 Mar 2014 09:31:00 +0000 Style Fan 1200795@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>What a beautiful post.&nbsp; I can picture Frau W from your description.&nbsp; I agree that if it is possible to go to the funeral, unless it is a private family affair.&nbsp; Your outfit is perfect and you put a lot of thought into it. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw-to-the-funeral#post-1200794 Fri, 21 Mar 2014 09:29:51 +0000 Astrid 1200794@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Ornella, this looks just right for the occasion. I'm glad you could go to the funeral. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw-to-the-funeral#post-1200790 Fri, 21 Mar 2014 09:11:46 +0000 Anonymous 1200790@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Ornella, you look just right. Elegant, pulled together and appropriate for the occasion. It sounds like Frau W was a lovely person to have known. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw-to-the-funeral#post-1200779 Fri, 21 Mar 2014 08:33:35 +0000 Deborah 1200779@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Ornella, Frau W sounds like a lovely woman and I think it's very special that you were there to honour her at her funeral. Your outfit looks very appropriate to me. It seems to read the environment very well. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw-to-the-funeral#post-1200778 Fri, 21 Mar 2014 08:08:11 +0000 Kiwichik 1200778@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I think this is a beautiful post and I love that you have created such a lovely mental image of Frau W. It is good that the way you dressed made you feel comfortable in a setting that can be difficult for people to deal with. You did the tight thing by going to the funeral &amp; I am sure her family felt sone comfort that Frau W was important enough to you that you wanted to see her on her final journey. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw-to-the-funeral#post-1200776 Fri, 21 Mar 2014 07:55:39 +0000 Ornella 1200776@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>(*)</p> <p>The funeral was for Frau W. She&nbsp;was a dear neighbour who lived in my building for 50 years. She was&nbsp;very open and kind, admirably patient and helpful with my attempts to speak German, but my favourite memory is the sight&nbsp;from my kitchen window - walking side by side with her husband, two of them old, slow and always together. When I talked to her husband several weeks ago and he told me of her health, something in his own body language was telling me she was rather unwell. I asked my son take them some apple cake and yellow roses - the winter sun to brighten her days. She was so delighted and treated my son with some sweets she obviously always had ready for her grandkids. She passed away soon after that, so it was my son who saw her last. The news shook me a lot and somehow this felt like very personal loss, especially after hearing them in the week of the news about Mardi.&nbsp;</p> <p>I am surprised to realise how much I&nbsp;miss seeing Frau W, her husband now walks alone on the little path leading to our building. Part of me still thinks she'll show up from around the corner, especially now that the winter is gone - as if in my mind I'm 'excusing' her for staying inside because of the cold. The two chairs and table where they used to have lunch at noon on warmer days are on their balcony, but it will be a sound of the sole spoon clanking on the plate from now on. And no more quiet chatter. There was something very comforting, very home-y, about hearing the&nbsp;quiet mumbling from their balcony when I'd go out on mine. It's all those details, sights and sounds&nbsp;that became part of my life too.</p> </p> <p>One more thing. I feel every day the good effects of the way YLF and all of you here influence my life. Some time ago&nbsp;<i><a rel="nofollow" href="http://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/always-go-to-the-funeral">Glory posted a link on the Off Topic section</a></i>&nbsp;which left a huge impression on me. As I wondered whether I should go to my neighbour's funeral, although I made sure it was not family only, I still felt awkward. Especially since I'm not fluent in language, had no idea what things would look like and what I should do, bring, anything. Still, I kept repeating to myself "Always go to the funeral, Always go to the funeral" grateful to Glory for that link and insight,&nbsp;and I am so glad I did. We all say our own goodbyes to the people who mattered to us for our own reasons and if nothing else&nbsp;Frau W made me feel welcome in the city I came to and I feel privileged to have witnessed her&nbsp;life just a little bit.</p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw-to-the-funeral#post-1200775 Fri, 21 Mar 2014 07:53:41 +0000 Ornella 1200775@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I guess to some extent this thread is about <i><a rel="nofollow" href="http://youlookfab.com/2014/03/20/adjusting-my-outfit-to-suit-the-audience/">dressing with the audience in mind</a></i>. Yesterday&nbsp;I had a new situation to navigate wardrobe-wise and although I always said my wardrobe at the moment can easily see me through any situation my life can throw at me, I still found it quite a task to find the right balance of things from several possibilities I could potentially wear to the funeral.</p> </p> <p>I knew I wanted to dress formally and I also had a gut feeling I should not overdo it. I had no idea what to expect nor how many people would show up nor what funerals here look like in general.&nbsp;</p> </p> <p>Although I normally wear all black outfits, on this occasion all black or even black dress&nbsp;was out of question, as I feared it would make me look too much like a mourner from the family. It would be pushing it too far given my relationship with the deceased - she was my neighbour(*). So, white button up&nbsp;shirt was the obvious choice, which I paired with another no-brainer: black skirt. I also needed a topper, but I did not want a blazer - again, I suspected it would look too formal. I figured that if I realised on the spot I needed to look more dressed up, I could always take the toper off and wear the white shirt only for more formal feel. I opted for navy long cardigan in the end. It was there to keep me warmer if necessary and&nbsp;gave me a feeling&nbsp;of more finished look but in softer form.</p> </p> <p>It's not no-hose weather here (and, you may remember that I wear nude hose unapologetically, trend or no trend). But, somehow I did not feel too comfortable in the nude hose, black sheer ones are out of question for daytime wear for me&nbsp;and opaque ones were too heavy. These semi-sheer dark grey ones were a happy medium.</p> </p> <p>Finally, I did not want to wear heeled shoes, but wore black flat Mary Janes which to me were dressy enough. Plus, they would be comfortable for any walking on any surface, if it came to that.</p> </p> <p>I also had pearl earrings.</p> </p> <p>In the end, this was the right measure of everything. I was pleased that I was dressed appropriately, I was not standing out more than I should have given that nobody but Frau W's husband knew who I was and naturally I did notice some confused looks in my direction.&nbsp;I also noticed&nbsp;some family members were dressed even casually. But,&nbsp;most importantly for me - I felt I looked respectful of the occasion.</p> </p>