https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw-to-be-assertive-and-some-musings Style Advice for Fashion Lovers en-US Thu, 14 May 2026 06:10:31 +0000 http://bbpress.org/?v=1.0.2 q https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/search.php https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw-to-be-assertive-and-some-musings#post-864173 Fri, 01 Mar 2013 08:21:39 +0000 goldenpig 864173@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Sona, you are tough and courageous and stylish and radiant all in one! I so admire you for all you've been through and I am glad things are starting to look up. That orange sweater with the orange Cons look is so powerful, like a ray of sunshine! And the scarf in the second outfit is so beautiful. You look gorgeous and I hope you feel as fab on the inside as you look on the outside. Big hugs and best wishes! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw-to-be-assertive-and-some-musings#post-864165 Fri, 01 Mar 2013 07:39:40 +0000 Ingunn 864165@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I admire you courage, openness and ability to take responsibility of your situation. I know this is so hard (one of my closest relatives struggles with a similar situation as yours). Way to go, Sona! You look fantastic in orange. Those Cons are so cool! I also love the scarf in your last outfit. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw-to-be-assertive-and-some-musings#post-864026 Fri, 01 Mar 2013 03:47:02 +0000 Beth Ann 864026@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Sona:</p> <p>(Standing with applause) Brava!!!!</p> <p>That's for the wonderful color in #2, the fab RATE treatment of one of my favorite blazers (jacket twin) and for making positive choices in your life.</p> <p>Hope the Spring brings you great things! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw-to-be-assertive-and-some-musings#post-863992 Fri, 01 Mar 2013 03:20:56 +0000 sarah 863992@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>#1 is my favorite outfit you've ever posted! And the other outfit is super fab, too. Big kudos for you for getting out of a bad situation and making a better one. That is so fantastic! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw-to-be-assertive-and-some-musings#post-863976 Fri, 01 Mar 2013 03:06:48 +0000 velvetychocolate 863976@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>You look stunning in orange - I *love* the casual outfit in #1 - just fabulous on you. In the meantime, here's to being assertive about what works best for you, and never mind any so-called 'judgement camps'. Yikes... (just the idea sounds outrageous to me) - moving on sounds like an excellent plan. </p> <p>In the meantime - you look gorgeous in that orange sweater! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw-to-be-assertive-and-some-musings#post-863964 Fri, 01 Mar 2013 02:53:33 +0000 Jaime 863964@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>You look gorgeous in orange but the blue striped jacket outfit is also great. I am glad you have taken charge of your therapy and hope you start to feel as beautifully as you look. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw-to-be-assertive-and-some-musings#post-863959 Fri, 01 Mar 2013 02:49:34 +0000 Anonymous 863959@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Sona how nice to "see you". I love the orange action there;) you are an expert on dressing for the body you have, in all honesty I would not be able to tell any fit issues.</p> <p>Rapid weight loss can throw you for a loop, I lost about the same number of pounds, perhaps a little more and let me tell you my boobs just disappeared. Eventually things will go back to normal. You look beautiful and in all honesty I would not peg your weight loss for illness, I would just look at you and would say, she looks good.</p> <p>Good you took matters into your own hands. I did have to fire not one but two therapists. i actually ended up requesting to stay which the therapist that did my intake. He was great. It takes a bit sometimes to get the right fit but you will get there. Thank you so much for popping in from time to time. I hope you know we care and love you to pieces. Big smooches to bebe;) </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw-to-be-assertive-and-some-musings#post-863929 Fri, 01 Mar 2013 02:21:11 +0000 pil 863929@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>The orange *is* fabulous on you Sona! Those shoes!</p> <p>I hope your new program gives you what you need. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw-to-be-assertive-and-some-musings#post-863926 Fri, 01 Mar 2013 02:13:56 +0000 Aida 863926@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>OH wow both of these outfits are fantastic Sona! I am especially drawn to the BRIGHT and HAPPY outfit in #1/2. And the filmy long top with shorter jacket in #3-5 is dreamy looking. SO VERY glad to hear your update, and I hope that things only go up from here. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw-to-be-assertive-and-some-musings#post-863837 Fri, 01 Mar 2013 00:50:10 +0000 bj1111 863837@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>you srly look like a movie star out and about in #1. the shades do the trick. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw-to-be-assertive-and-some-musings#post-863661 Thu, 28 Feb 2013 22:03:17 +0000 Caro in Oz 863661@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Love the orange - it looked so right I had to look up the "meaning" of the colour. </p> <p>It's healing - like the warmth of the sun. Wear it when you want:</p> <p>to spice things up when you feel time is dragging<br /> to become more involved in something<br /> to increase creativity<br /> relief from things becoming too serious </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw-to-be-assertive-and-some-musings#post-863637 Thu, 28 Feb 2013 21:47:19 +0000 CocoLion 863637@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>You look great! Love you in orange and the footwear is TDF. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw-to-be-assertive-and-some-musings#post-863594 Thu, 28 Feb 2013 21:08:37 +0000 biscuitsmom 863594@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Kudos to you for getting out of a situation that was not working for you, and bonus points for listening to the wise words of your YLF friend You look lovely, girl </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw-to-be-assertive-and-some-musings#post-863584 Thu, 28 Feb 2013 21:00:31 +0000 rae 863584@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>OMG, the orange! Both of these are stellar, Sona. Would not have had any idea you were adjusting to new fit issues. With a little recon, online shopping should become easier once again; you know a lot about your body already. :)</p> <p>And that is great, inspiring news about creating your own program. Way to take the bull by the horns. Have had therapists I didn't gel with in the past, and my friends have as well. The right (or wrong!) person makes a huge difference. Way to go out and find what you need. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw-to-be-assertive-and-some-musings#post-863527 Thu, 28 Feb 2013 20:13:47 +0000 DonnaF 863527@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Sona, you are so beautiful!!! I heard somewhere that we women lose weight from the top down -- and gain from the bottom up. Also, after a few months, weight can redistribute, as in the top finally gets a bit bigger and the bottom gets a little smaller. I have found that this inevitably happens right after I have finally broken down and bought new clothes, especially new bras. Lastly, as I'm sure you know, medication can impact size and weight gain in various places. </p> <p>I'm so impressed that you have taken measures to do what works for you. I doubt that I would be that brave and proactive. You go gurl!!! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw-to-be-assertive-and-some-musings#post-863519 Thu, 28 Feb 2013 20:07:52 +0000 MNsara 863519@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Well, you look fabulous here, Sona! I thought you were looking a little lighter there! How sweet of your neighbor to take you along to Target -- and isn't it funny how dependent we all are on our driving to give us freedom of choices.</p> <p>Love you in the bold orange! and bookended with the crazy Cons is fab</p> <p>I like your floaty top in the other outfit - over the distressed jeans is perfect.</p> <p>Glad to hear you're making positive changes to your plan! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw-to-be-assertive-and-some-musings#post-863511 Thu, 28 Feb 2013 20:00:24 +0000 Suz 863511@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Sona, you look fantastic. Love the orange Cons!!! So cute. </p> <p>Very glad you are taking control of the therapy situation. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw-to-be-assertive-and-some-musings#post-863510 Thu, 28 Feb 2013 20:00:14 +0000 jayne 863510@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Fun orange matchy matchy and I wanted to say I love that scarf! SO interesting</p> <p>Hope the next therapy works better. You deserve it Sona </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw-to-be-assertive-and-some-musings#post-863508 Thu, 28 Feb 2013 19:58:54 +0000 Sona 863508@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>this may be my first Angie faint! And over a simple orange sweater, torn jeans and my crazy cons!!!!!!!!!! I love it. You made my month!!! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw-to-be-assertive-and-some-musings#post-863498 Thu, 28 Feb 2013 19:49:11 +0000 rachylou 863498@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Lol, Sona, I can't tell you how fab #1/2 looks. Also, Judgement Camp is the most hilarious turn-of-phrase, as in...</p> <p>"When I become a Best-Selling *Sage* and my Random Advice peddling takes off, I would really like to keep my marketing empire going beyond its shelf-life by repackaging my YouTube video as Flash Cards and running Judgement Camps."</p> <p>You go, girl </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw-to-be-assertive-and-some-musings#post-863492 Thu, 28 Feb 2013 19:44:27 +0000 JulieJohn 863492@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Orange-boom! Congratulations on being assertive. It sounds deserved and you are doing it naturally and with great style!</p> <p>You look lovely and healthy, so no matter what size you wear in those various body parts, you are wearing them beautifully! Those orange sneakers are the bomb, and I loved your frilly, foofy, fun scarf. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw-to-be-assertive-and-some-musings#post-863486 Thu, 28 Feb 2013 19:40:56 +0000 Jules 863486@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Oooh I am in love with your personalized cons. They bookend your shirt *and* your hair and are all kinds of awesome!<br /> Glad that things are taking shape for you in a positive way, I like the sounds of your program - whole person well-being. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw-to-be-assertive-and-some-musings#post-863473 Thu, 28 Feb 2013 19:34:34 +0000 Angie 863473@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>This Dutch girl is about to faint at the sight of your orange outfit in #1. I LOVE IT!</p> <p>*faints* </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw-to-be-assertive-and-some-musings#post-863450 Thu, 28 Feb 2013 19:18:20 +0000 Ornella 863450@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Sona, orange makes you shine and your hair is like your crown. I love the hoops so much, they look fun and draw the attention to your beautiful face.</p> <p>I've caught a glimpse of your other WIW a few days ago but was in a rush and did not comment. I wanted to ask if you'd lost weight as that always worries me when it seems sudden. I am glad to hear you're taking things into your hands. Knowing what does not work and walking away from it is powerful - you know what's not worth your energy. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw-to-be-assertive-and-some-musings#post-863439 Thu, 28 Feb 2013 19:06:05 +0000 Diana 863439@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Sona, you look beautiful. I really like those distressed jeans on you; they are somehow both relaxed/slouchy and sleek at the same time. </p> <p>I am really glad to hear that you are speaking up and taking control of the therapy situation. That to me says so much about how motivated and invested you are to succeed in this journey. You go girl! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw-to-be-assertive-and-some-musings#post-863430 Thu, 28 Feb 2013 18:56:13 +0000 abc 863430@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Sona, I think you look great in your photos. I especially love the vibrant color of #1 and the shoes shown in 1/2 are fab.</p> <p>I know I do not know you well, but I am happy you are taking control of your therapy situation, it is commendable. It sounds like you have a wonderful mix of therapies planned. Best of luck </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw-to-be-assertive-and-some-musings#post-863427 Thu, 28 Feb 2013 18:53:04 +0000 Transcona Shannon 863427@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>You look beautiful Sona! Love you in orange and adore the Cons with outfit #1. I can only imagine the frustration of your clothing fitting differently now but like you say, you have a full closet to play in for now.</p> <p>And FWIW, I'm glad to hear you are taking control of your therapy and it sounds like you wonderful options </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw-to-be-assertive-and-some-musings#post-863421 Thu, 28 Feb 2013 18:49:01 +0000 Sona 863421@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>The outpatient/partial hospitalization program I have been attending has not been working for me. Suffice to say the psychologist made 'judgments' about me based on knowing me for 6 days. A wonderful YLF friend helped me realize I needed to be more assertive and I quit the program today setting up my own outpatient program with a combination of psychiatry, psychology, acupuncture, massage therapy and art therapy.</p> <p>outfit today ( last day at judgment camp!): AE torn jeans, AT sweater, personalized cons, slender gold hoops.</p> <p>yesterday: same jeans, AT long cami, Nordstrom Rack striped blazer.</p> <p>musings: I've lost about 20 lbs over the last few months BUT my size has not changed in some ways and has changed in some ways. I have the arms of a size 8, the chest of a size 10, the low abs of a 12/14 and the legs of a 6/8. Needless to say shopping has become very painful. I was so used to buying an XL in tops and 12 in bottoms. Well I often swim in XL's now and although 12's work in the waist/belly, the thighs, legs bunch on the outer sides. So online shopping ( my main method) no longer works. The pics in outfit 1 are taken in the target dressing room. My neighbor was running errands there so took me along after I returned from signing my discharge paperwork from judgment camp. I hate not being able to drive until 3/24. Anyways, I am glad to have a full closet to play in until I can go to brick and mortar stores again! </p>