https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw-lounging-and-a-few-thoughts-on-my-style Style Advice for Fashion Lovers en-US Thu, 16 Apr 2026 20:53:54 +0000 http://bbpress.org/?v=1.0.2 q https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/search.php https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw-lounging-and-a-few-thoughts-on-my-style#post-1099225 Wed, 27 Nov 2013 04:40:49 +0000 Jeanie 1099225@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I had to scroll down when I read "flannel made out of cashmere" mmmm I want some of those. &nbsp;I love the the way you pinned the cardi. &nbsp;I think you can do a wrap look. &nbsp;I found a tailor by talking to a boutique owner in our neighborhood. &nbsp;I felt comfortable that&nbsp;I could trust someone who they trusted to&nbsp;alter their pricey frocks. &nbsp;Your frame looks good with extra drape but it is so nice to have tailored pants so I vote to get them tailored.</p> <p>Love the subtle details...the richness MG speaks of. &nbsp;The pleating and ribbon details. &nbsp;I dream of making ballet costumes. &nbsp;&nbsp;</p> <p>I wish I had your way with words but I do relate to a lot the things you speak of such as leaving a soft environmental footprint and dressing for optimism. &nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw-lounging-and-a-few-thoughts-on-my-style#post-1099188 Wed, 27 Nov 2013 03:35:42 +0000 Anonymous 1099188@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Your cardigan wrap top is really clever, and I love the globe necklace.</p> <p>Your thoughts on dressing definitely make sense to me. I feel like there's enough bad things out there, both in the wider world and in terms of what any individual person will have to deal with at some point in their life, that it really seems a waste not to find joy and comfort and meaning wherever you can. And getting dressed, along with other things that are part of everyone's life no matter what (hello, food!), seems to be a perfect opportunity for some of that. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw-lounging-and-a-few-thoughts-on-my-style#post-1099166 Wed, 27 Nov 2013 03:01:33 +0000 Jaime 1099166@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Lovely. Both your thoughts and your outfit. It is hard to balance the incredible good and incredible bad isn't it? I think your solution of coping through dressing is wonderful. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw-lounging-and-a-few-thoughts-on-my-style#post-1098953 Tue, 26 Nov 2013 23:33:48 +0000 shemarie 1098953@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I love how even in lounge clothes you remain true to yourself and your style, E.&nbsp; You look great...and what a lucky niece to have such a thoughtful and fun aunt!&nbsp; I look forward to your WIWs and love reading your thoughts and analysis.&nbsp;I think optimism, cheerfulness and hope are often so sorely lacking in this world that the more ways they can be cultivated and reflected&nbsp;the better!!! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw-lounging-and-a-few-thoughts-on-my-style#post-1098917 Tue, 26 Nov 2013 23:01:07 +0000 catgirl 1098917@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I love Neil Gaiman's work. I have the original Sandman series from the 90s when he was still kind of unknown. What a great quote. I dressed as the character of Death for Halloween one year - I loved the portrayal of her as a punk street urchin.</p> <p><a href="http://images.search.yahoo.com/images/view;_ylt=AwrTcYHCKJVSa8AA_6mJzbkF;_ylu=X3oDMTIycDFkMDc3BHNlYwNzcgRzbGsDaW1nBG9pZAMyZGVjOTBiMjg5NmYyZmQyMjljNThhMWI5MmQ3MWM4YwRncG9zAzIEaXQDYmluZw--?back=http%3A%2F%2Fimages.search.yahoo.com%2Fsearch%2Fimages%3Fp%3Ddeath%2Bsandman%2Bimages%26fr%3Donesearch%26fr2%3Dpiv-web%26tab%3Dorganic%26ri%3D2&#038;w=704&#038;h=717&#038;imgurl=www.vamp.org%2FGothic%2FImages%2Fimages%2Fs-death2.jpg&#038;rurl=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.vamp.org%2FGothic%2FImages%2Fdeath-image.html&#038;size=31.2KB&#038;name=A+collection+of+%EE%80%80images%EE%80%81+from+the&#038;p=death+sandman+images&#038;oid=2dec90b2896f2fd229c58a1b92d71c8c&#038;fr2=piv-web&#038;fr=onesearch&#038;tt=A+collection+of+%EE%80%80images%EE%80%81+from+the&#038;b=0&#038;ni=28&#038;no=2&#038;ts=&#038;tab=organic&#038;sigr=11ibconol&#038;sigb=13d8mcvb4&#038;sigi=11e4eroh1&#038;amp" rel="nofollow">http://images.search.yahoo.com.....1&#038;amp</a>;.crumb=UjRXGICXRUi&amp;fr=onesearch </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw-lounging-and-a-few-thoughts-on-my-style#post-1098906 Tue, 26 Nov 2013 22:48:52 +0000 LACeleste 1098906@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Your posts are so enjoyable to read! &nbsp;Your style is lovely and original and even better--as we get to know you it is clear there is a fascinating person behind the style.</p> <p>PS:I understand being drawn to fairy tales and whimsy as a protection from the realities of the world. &nbsp;If I didn't become an analyst/researcher, I would have become a folklorist. &nbsp;</p> <p>Storytelling is powerful. &nbsp;You do it so well!&nbsp;</p> <p>I hope you feel better E. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw-lounging-and-a-few-thoughts-on-my-style#post-1098865 Tue, 26 Nov 2013 21:47:17 +0000 E 1098865@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p><div>Alexandra, thanks! I did feel better today.</p> <p>MG, ohhh that's a good point about oversize clothes: I hadn't really thought about that before but I do often to wear at least one thing that's too big for me! lol Guess t's part of thrifting. &nbsp;I'm very glad to hear I don't look like I'm wearing costumes! Perhaps with your own clothes try to vary the texture more? I'm big on texture so maybe that creates a feeling of richness.</div><div><br /></div><div>Alasse, I love feminine touches too! Surplice tops are my worst enemy, other than shirts that are super boxy with a thin gathered hem right under the bust. lol So maybe the way a normal cardigan acts is different!</div><div><br /></div><div>Angie, thanks so much. :)</div><div><br /></div><div>Classically Casual, those are lovely shoes! And what a wonderful feeling they give you. I hope you wear them a lot!</div><div><br /></div><div>Hi Claire! Thank you, I really enjoy your style too. I did a bit of ballet when I was younger but stopped before I could really get into it (I went with soccer and the violin instead). I'm thrilled to hear you say it looks authentic, because I wish I was graceful! I have a serious spatial awareness problem and tend to walk into walls or countertops or pieces of furniture that haven't moved in ages. lol But if there's no dangerous furniture around I can walk fine. I've been working on my posture lately &amp; I have a great 'workout' dvd by the New York Ballet Company that has a lot of focus on stretching.</div><div><br /></div><div>Viva, thank you! That's so nice to say. I am having a wonderful day: I went for a long walk &amp; then baked &amp; frosted cookies with my niece (she gets a whole week off school for Thanksgiving!). And I suspect you're right re: women and their inner urchins!</div><div><br /></div><div>Word Lily, I'm glad we're on the same page!</div><div><br /></div><div>Diana, what a wonderful song and video! I love how the biting commentary, inc the comparison between Dickensian rags vs modern one, was set to a cheerful upbeat tempo. Thanks for sharing it. I do love how full bottoms visually shrink a waist; I wouldn't want a tailor to make them skintight, just make the pleating/fullness look more intentional I think.</div><div><br /></div><div>AG, thanks so much! Your impressions of my style really mean a lot to me, because it's just how I'd like to appear. Your character would be striding down the streets saving the world with sword in hand while mine would be hopping through the trees taking out the bad guys with well thrown rocks. I'll have to go find that thread you posted, since that's what draws me to fashion too. &nbsp;I love this Neil Gaiman quote on stories:&nbsp;</div><div><br /></div><div>"Stories, like people and butterflies and songbirds' eggs and human hearts and dreams, are also fragile things, made up of nothing stronger or more lasting than twenty-six letters and a handful of punctuation marks. Or they are words on the air, composed of sounds and ideas-abstract, invisible, gone once they've been spoken-and what could be more frail than that? But some stories, small, simple ones about setting out on adventures or people doing wonders, tales of miracles and monsters, have outlasted all the people who told them, and some of them have outlasted the lands in which they were created."</p> <p>(Apologies for bumping my own thread, but I really wanted to reply to everyone!)</div> </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw-lounging-and-a-few-thoughts-on-my-style#post-1098588 Tue, 26 Nov 2013 17:12:58 +0000 catgirl 1098588@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Yes.&nbsp; Your outfits bring a kind of wonder and magic into the world that is much needed.&nbsp; What is intriguing and inspiring to me is how&nbsp;you manage to do that without appearing twee or costumed.&nbsp; I KNEW there&nbsp;had to be reasoning&nbsp;behind it, and that you didn't just step out of the pages of a book!&nbsp;&nbsp;I aim for that kind of cohesiveness&nbsp;too, though my style is different - maybe our characters would bump into each other in some imaginary world!&nbsp; </p> <p>I posted a thread way back about whether people think of their clothes as telling a story somehow.&nbsp; That is what draws me to fashion.</p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw-lounging-and-a-few-thoughts-on-my-style#post-1098529 Tue, 26 Nov 2013 16:23:31 +0000 Diana 1098529@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Cashmerino pants sound so lovely!&nbsp; They look fantastic too, and your waist looks impossibly tiny in contrast to the full pants.&nbsp; </p> <p>I really enjoyed reading your analysis too!&nbsp; I totally relate to a lot of it.&nbsp; </p> <p>By the way, have you ever heard the song "Last Year's Troubles" by Suzanne Vega?&nbsp; I am totally reminded of the lyrics reading what you have written (plus I think a lot of the imagery in the song is quite evocative of your outfits).&nbsp; </p> <p><a href="http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5N6sYJRGqgE" rel="nofollow">http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5N6sYJRGqgE</a></p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw-lounging-and-a-few-thoughts-on-my-style#post-1098495 Tue, 26 Nov 2013 15:38:07 +0000 Word Lily 1098495@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I love the globe necklace!!!&nbsp;</p> <p>I think I sometimes use my clothes to remind myself that there *is* good, too. The outworkings for you and me look pretty different, but sounds like we're starting with similar goals.&nbsp;For me, this can take the form of wearing bright colors on grey days (pretty straightforward, but just one example). Color is hopeful, to me. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw-lounging-and-a-few-thoughts-on-my-style#post-1098481 Tue, 26 Nov 2013 15:27:37 +0000 viva 1098481@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I love the idea that your way of dressing makes you feel more optimistic about the world - I can't imagine a more powerful purpose for fashion, actually.<br />I think what I love most about your outfits are the tiny little touches that make them your very own. A lot of women (myself included) have an inner urchin -- I think that is behind the huge success of BF jeans, frankly. But your styling is so very, very personal. The way you've pulled the sweater over, the tiny pin; the gold leaf in your hair the other day...I love to see these sweet elements that are so undeniably you.<br />Hope you are having a wonderful day today. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw-lounging-and-a-few-thoughts-on-my-style#post-1098471 Tue, 26 Nov 2013 15:18:46 +0000 Anonymous 1098471@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Hi E! I read Una's thread this morning and had to backtrack and read all of your recent outfit posts so I would know what she was talking about. I have to say I'm really enjoying your style, and appreciate why you gravitate towards it. I think the delicate jewelry and feminine details really suit you. I love the way you crossed and pinned the cardigan here. It's something Audrey Hepburn might have done. I definitely see the ballerina influence; dance wear is so beautiful. I wonder if you are as graceful as you come across? I'm slight, but I'm as clumsy as an ox and I can't even touch my toes. On you, this looks authentic, like you could just go into a pirouette! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw-lounging-and-a-few-thoughts-on-my-style#post-1098454 Tue, 26 Nov 2013 15:09:49 +0000 Classically Casual 1098454@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I've so enjoyed reading your posts and Alaska Girl's over the last couple of days. There's much to ponder.&nbsp; Thank you for sharing your thoughts &amp; emotions.&nbsp; </p> <p>I've had one experience of a shoe item evoking a feeling. Rather than starting with an ideal and dressing to enhance it, this was the other way around.<br />I bought these shoes on sale at the end of the summer after someone here posted them: <a href="http://www.sundancecatalog.com/product/60262.do" rel="nofollow">http://www.sundancecatalog.com/product/60262.do</a></p> <p>Aside from being super comfy,&nbsp; I feel physically powerful or maybe even magical in them.&nbsp; That's never happened to me before.&nbsp; And I like it! So I sort of get what you're striving for with your clothing.</p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw-lounging-and-a-few-thoughts-on-my-style#post-1098421 Tue, 26 Nov 2013 14:56:05 +0000 Angie 1098421@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>A deeply analytical thread and fun read. As always, you look utterly adorable in your loungewear. Feel better soon.&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw-lounging-and-a-few-thoughts-on-my-style#post-1098406 Tue, 26 Nov 2013 14:40:47 +0000 Alassë 1098406@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I love your rings! The wrap sweater works very well on you, I think. Under the bust is more flattering to the small busted, I guess. Taking notes! (Surplice &amp; wrap styles are horrible on me, generally.) And yes, that is a very sweet neckline detail on your purple tank! I love subtle feminine touches on tops (okay, and not so subtle ones like your bow sash a few outfits ago). </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw-lounging-and-a-few-thoughts-on-my-style#post-1098402 Tue, 26 Nov 2013 14:34:00 +0000 MuseumGal 1098402@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Magic trousers, I love it.&nbsp; The oversize everything fits your aesthetic, I think.&nbsp; Love the little details on the burgendy cami and the stick pin to hold the cardi closed.</p> <p>Thanks for recommending Some Girls Wander - I'd forgotten all about her, and spent ages looking at all her frock posts.&nbsp; While she is cute and whimsical, she (her look) is a very different animal than yours - much more costumey.&nbsp; I don't think most people would at you and think you were dressing a part, whereas she definitely is.&nbsp; Thinking about your style, I love the stories you tell as much as I love your actual outfits.&nbsp; As for the outfits themselves, I am drawn the details and the ... richness, for lack of a better word.&nbsp; (It's a subtle richness, but it's still there.)&nbsp; I think the richness is a big part of what I'm missing in my own looks of plain top and bottoms and one or two pieces of cool jewelry.&nbsp; Much to ponder ... </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw-lounging-and-a-few-thoughts-on-my-style#post-1098399 Tue, 26 Nov 2013 14:23:08 +0000 Alexandra 1098399@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>This looks comfy and cozy. Hope you're feeling better. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw-lounging-and-a-few-thoughts-on-my-style#post-1098364 Tue, 26 Nov 2013 13:44:25 +0000 E 1098364@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Yesterday I didn't feel terribly well, and I knew I wouldn't be going out,&nbsp;so I dressed in my version of loungewear. It was still cold, so I pulled out what I think of as my 'magic trousers': they're a flannel made out of cashmere and merino that is impossibly soft, like a cloud somehow decided to wrap itself around my legs. And they're unlined, so the softness can be fully appreciated! They're also the most beautiful deer-like colour with a very subtle herringbone that makes me think of Scottish country houses. And they're even tapered &amp; not too long for me! For all that, they're ridiculously large in the waist and hip region, so until I get them to a tailor (I've yet to find a tailor I trust) or figure out how to do alterations on my own, they're relegated to in-house wear due to the gathers on either side caused by my super classy&nbsp;waistband safety pinning. I paired them with&nbsp;a&nbsp;mauve-y sweater, one of my very favourite colours, but that needs to be de-pilled before appearing in public again, wrapped around a super comfy darker pink/purple&nbsp;modal tank with a sweet pleating and ribbon detail on the yoke but with a neckline a bit low for public comfort. The cardigan doesn't nip in enough at the waist to balance out the hips on the trousers, hence the wrapping and pinning: it stayed put all day, which was nice, and reminded me of ballerinas, which is always a plus in my book! I added one of my very favourite necklaces (I think I say that about all of my jewelry, lol, I suppose everything's a favourite!): it's a globe done in semiprecious stones and my two matching gold rings, which I finally remembered to photograph. Normally I wear one on each hand but that was too tricky for self photos. I wasn't up for a walk, so no outerwear version.</p> <p>Alaska Girl started a very interesting <a rel="nofollow" href="http://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/es-post-and-style-character-vs-physical-reality">conversation</a>&nbsp;yesterday that touched a bit on my and my style. I replied over there, but since then I've been mulling it over more: why did I end up gravitating towards this kind of urchin-y, fairy tale feeling, whimsical&nbsp;look? And this morning I realised with surprise&nbsp;it's a kind of psychological&nbsp;armour (and here yesterday I was saying I thought my clothes&nbsp;looked more vulnerable than my personality! talk about a 180!). The wider world is full of so many troubles. As someone passionate about social justice and environmental issues, as well as with a background in international relations, I read a lot of books and articles about what's wrong with the world. It can be exhausting and demoralising, although I think it's important which is why I do it. But at the same time, the world is full of art and love and humour&nbsp;and everyday people who become heroic when circumstances require it&nbsp;and all of that is captured in&nbsp;stories. I read a lot of those too for balance!&nbsp;When I dress in a way that evokes my beloved comfort stories, whether they be books or tv shows or movies, it's as if I'm wearing a visible reminder of all the best people are capable of. And of course in my own life I'm faced with challenges as well as joys. Dressing the way I do keeps me more optimistic and cheerful and ready to meet those challenges. I hope that doesn't sound too ridiculous.</p> <p>Back to the outfit, comments and suggestions always welcome! Wraps are not super flattering on my small bust, but I think the cardigan version is less unflattering than a dress or blouse. Plus, sometimes the subjective&nbsp;associations clothing has are more important to me than objective figure&nbsp;flattery. </p> <p>ETA: Whoops! I forgot to crop the outfit pics! Don't mind the messy bed, lol. I keep an electric blanket on top of it for my dog in case she gets cold.</p>