https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw-disaster-- Style Advice for Fashion Lovers en-US Fri, 19 Jun 2026 18:59:54 +0000 http://bbpress.org/?v=1.0.2 q https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/search.php https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw-disaster--/page/3#post-1678091 Sun, 12 Jun 2016 13:11:04 +0000 krishnidoux 1678091@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Ledonna, thank you for this wonderful poem!&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw-disaster--/page/2#post-1677897 Sat, 11 Jun 2016 22:44:06 +0000 Lyn D. 1677897@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Exactly what Ledonna said, you are beautiful! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw-disaster--/page/2#post-1677693 Sat, 11 Jun 2016 14:08:52 +0000 Deborah 1677693@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>What an awful experience and handled it with such good grace. Your dress looks pretty on you and you look lovely. Well done on all your hard work and focus on your well being. We are all different shapes and sizes and should not be judged for it. You have a lovely feminine style and are very attractive...don't allow anyone to make you feel you are not xxx </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw-disaster--/page/2#post-1677657 Sat, 11 Jun 2016 12:49:12 +0000 Momo 1677657@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I am so sorry that woman was nasty and rude. You don't look pregnant . The dress is lovely. You are lovely.</p> <p>I was just talking to a friend yesterday about a conversation she had with a mutual friend that left her feeling like she should go to the nearest bridge and jump off,. The mutual friend has a way of finding our weakest places, Our worries, our anxieties, our insecurities and just sticking a knife in them... Somehow she gets something out of this, my advice to my friend was don't let her do it to you. It is all about the mutual friends own issues and nothing about you. I believe it is the same with that rude woman who was so cruel to you. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw-disaster--/page/2#post-1677633 Sat, 11 Jun 2016 12:07:57 +0000 krishnidoux 1677633@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>No need to wait for your daughters to go through their teens to find <i>horrendous</i>! I agree with JAileen that the woman might be sick. But her words were very hurtful and your reaction is understandable. </p> <p>You are beautiful, mamacandoit. From the pics you posted, it is obvious you work out and are starting to have a fit, defined body (look at those biceps! Look at those calves!). You chose a cute, simple dress that was appropriate for the activity all the while flattering. The decollete's cut is particularly flattering. &nbsp;Your curves are beautiful too! A testimony to your strength and courage.&nbsp;</p> <p>Sometimes when one is on a workout/loosing weight journey, there are weird phases as the body changes, and some parts will seem to stick out for a bit, but hang through it, because it is only temporary. It's not because you have gained, but rather it's the effect of losing weight: it goes away faster in some places than others, so in the meantime, some place might look larger, while in fact it's just the rest the is actually thinner.</p> <p>Also, you have such a sweet, soft smile to die for.&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw-disaster--/page/2#post-1677622 Sat, 11 Jun 2016 11:41:40 +0000 Helen11 1677622@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Sending you good wishes from across the world. I hope the week brings you in contact with lovely people who return your friendliness and good grace. You look lovely and summery in your dress. Good on you for working on your health and fitness.<br /> Do keep us up to date with the hatching chickens. We have one pensioner chook, who has amazed us by laying again . She's called One-Eye, for obvious reasons! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw-disaster--/page/2#post-1677616 Sat, 11 Jun 2016 11:22:03 +0000 amiable 1677616@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Congrats on your four kids! &nbsp;I have five, and also a prominent tummy (and we have chickens too!) &nbsp;I'm envious of your dress - it's beautiful on you, and looks perfect for this warm weather! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw-disaster--/page/2#post-1677612 Sat, 11 Jun 2016 10:46:56 +0000 Ledonna N. 1677612@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Phenomenal WomanRelated Poem Content Details<br /> BY MAYA ANGELOU<br /> Pretty women wonder where my secret lies.<br /> I’m not cute or built to suit a fashion model’s size<br /> But when I start to tell them,<br /> They think I’m telling lies.<br /> I say,<br /> It’s in the reach of my arms,<br /> The span of my hips,<br /> The stride of my step,<br /> The curl of my lips.<br /> I’m a woman<br /> Phenomenally.<br /> Phenomenal woman,<br /> That’s me. </p> <p>I walk into a room<br /> Just as cool as you please,<br /> And to a man,<br /> The fellows stand or<br /> Fall down on their knees.<br /> Then they swarm around me,<br /> A hive of honey bees.<br /> I say,<br /> It’s the fire in my eyes,<br /> And the flash of my teeth,<br /> The swing in my waist,<br /> And the joy in my feet.<br /> I’m a woman<br /> Phenomenally. </p> <p>Phenomenal woman,<br /> That’s me. </p> <p>Men themselves have wondered<br /> What they see in me.<br /> They try so much<br /> But they can’t touch<br /> My inner mystery.<br /> When I try to show them,<br /> They say they still can’t see.<br /> I say,<br /> It’s in the arch of my back,<br /> The sun of my smile,<br /> The ride of my breasts,<br /> The grace of my style.<br /> I’m a woman<br /> Phenomenally.<br /> Phenomenal woman,<br /> That’s me. </p> <p>Now you understand<br /> Just why my head’s not bowed.<br /> I don’t shout or jump about<br /> Or have to talk real loud.<br /> When you see me passing,<br /> It ought to make you proud.<br /> I say,<br /> It’s in the click of my heels,<br /> The bend of my hair,<br /> the palm of my hand,<br /> The need for my care.<br /> ’Cause I’m a woman<br /> Phenomenally.<br /> Phenomenal woman,<br /> That’s me.</p> <p>Maya Angelou, “Phenomenal Woman” from And Still I Rise. Copyright © 1978 by Maya Angelou. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw-disaster--/page/2#post-1677611 Sat, 11 Jun 2016 10:44:41 +0000 Ledonna N. 1677611@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>First I did was cry. </p> <p>Next I got pissed off </p> <p>Then I decided that woman was not worth me wasting my energy and pistivity on her.</p> <p>So I decided to look at your picture. I mean truly without filters.</p> <p>I see a loving mother who would take the time to drive an hour each way to see chickens hatch.</p> <p>I see a lovely woman who is so sensitive that she does not recognize her own beauty and power from within.</p> <p>Next I see a beautiful stance that has born the weight of other voices that has drowned out her own. </p> <p>Lastly I see strength beauty and power which the would did not give to you and the world can never take away. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw-disaster--/page/2#post-1677174 Fri, 10 Jun 2016 15:56:59 +0000 RobinF 1677174@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Wow, it's really amazing what some people think is OK to say. That dress looks nice and cool and summery, especially with your cute blond hair. Please don't let her spoil the progress you have made! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw-disaster--/page/2#post-1677159 Fri, 10 Jun 2016 15:24:40 +0000 Anonymous 1677159@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I seriously, cannot believe anyone could be so utterly rude! Wow, that woman had problems!</p> <p>Ignore such horrid behaviour, you are a healthy lovely lady in a pretty blue dress. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw-disaster--/page/2#post-1677115 Fri, 10 Jun 2016 13:47:25 +0000 Suz 1677115@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Of course the hen is happy and sweet! She is home with you now and away from that nasty influence!&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw-disaster--/page/2#post-1677107 Fri, 10 Jun 2016 13:36:17 +0000 Helena 1677107@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>What a horrible woman!! Good on you for rising above and not taking her bait. She sounds like a disaster frankly. Stay far, far away! I love your dress. Looks cool and breezy. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw-disaster--/page/2#post-1677082 Fri, 10 Jun 2016 12:40:56 +0000 celia 1677082@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>When I saw the title I thought that you didn't like the proportions of your outfit. I can't understand how someone can say so many hurtful things in succession. I feel sorry for her if that is the way she communicates with people.<br /> You, on the other hand are a lovely hard working principled person who is doing all the right things .<br /> You have done an amazing job getting yourself into shape and giving a good example for your daughters.<br /> Loosing weight is not easy and it usually doesn't happen in the spots we want more, that is why we come in so many lovely shapes.<br /> The dress looks good on you and your personality makes it even more awesome. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw-disaster--/page/2#post-1677007 Fri, 10 Jun 2016 07:44:12 +0000 goldenpig 1677007@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Hi Mamacandoit, I know how you feel. I just had the same EXACT thing happen to me! You are not alone! People are idiots!<br /><a rel="nofollow" href="http://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw-62-taking-a-stand-against-gun-violence-with-my-food-baby">http://youlookfab.com/welookfa.....-food-baby</a><br />You look lovely in your summery denim dress. With the perfect hen accessory! I know it's hard (I'm still angry about it myself) but try not to let that crazy woman get to you. She sounds like she might have dementia or something.<br />And, I do think there is something to be said for the unrealistic portrayal of women and celebrities in the media. Nobody seems to realize that normal women have rounded bellies and curves and aren't all size 2 with a concave abdomen! </p> <p>Congrats on the weight loss and exercise! I'm trying but it's a real struggle. You've done a great job!</p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw-disaster--/page/2#post-1677005 Fri, 10 Jun 2016 07:37:33 +0000 rachylou 1677005@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Btw, you know, you have a really young, fresh look. I debated whether to say this, because I don't want to scare you, but you are seriously hip and pretty. A Hipsterville natural in this denim dress.</p> <p>Well, hipsters are scary. It's true. Lol. Terrariums are not THAT special...as I contemplate furiously what sort of bowl I want for mine ... </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw-disaster--/page/2#post-1676982 Fri, 10 Jun 2016 06:33:26 +0000 catgirl 1676982@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>What everyone said. I posted a story on here about a friend who had a woman argue with her about whether my friend was pregnant. Like "0h, honey, we can all see it so don't be shy!" and on and on. Inexcusable. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw-disaster--/page/2#post-1676963 Fri, 10 Jun 2016 05:19:00 +0000 Eliza 1676963@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Mamacandoit- your name says it all! Mama can tune out irrelevant, rude input and carry on, looking fresh and summery all the while. So easy to be angered and hurt by this outlandish behavior; I always come back to imagine THAT being your way of being. What she must miss out on every day! Like a lovely Mom helping her kids with chickens. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw-disaster--/page/2#post-1676949 Fri, 10 Jun 2016 04:50:46 +0000 SandyG 1676949@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Mamacandoit, never let ONE individual's tactless and hurtful remarks throw you off your game. I'm happy to read about your workout program and plans; keep up the good work!! &nbsp;Hope our support here reframes those thoughtless and careless, hurtful spewing remarks and releases them into the ether to float away without one more bit of regard. </p> <p>Don't beat yourself up or dwell on something you had no control over (and it's usually not about you if it happens, anyway, so just sidestep away of that swift sucker punch ... legendary advice from the Jesuits).&nbsp;</p> <p> </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw-disaster--/page/2#post-1676947 Fri, 10 Jun 2016 04:45:01 +0000 minimalist 1676947@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>When I saw the heading "WIW: Disaster" I thought it would be an outfit that caused bodily injury or getting arrested. </p> <p>Sounds like the subject would more accurately be:<br /> "WIM (who I met) : Disaster." I don't mean to use ableist language or make light of mental illness, but this woman sounds like a she's pretty far removed from reality.</p> <p>Do you look like a runway model who'd just been made up, hair done and dressed by three overcaffeinated teams, after a breakfast of 1/10th portion of Soylent? No. And? You look like a happy, healthy, normal woman who's going about being a solid mom and concentrating on what counts, all the while looking and feeling better and better. Though if you did look like you'd just stepped off the catwalk, that woman would have ranted on about your hair looking like it had haybales and strawstacks for extensions, and how often did you catch on fire, because that must really happen a lot with hair like that, and her husband tries to set himself on fire every few weeks so that's why he's bald, even on his eyelids and brows and so on. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw-disaster--/page/2#post-1676941 Fri, 10 Jun 2016 04:36:05 +0000 Cococat 1676941@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Ugh. I'm so sorry that you had to put up with that. She was talking nonsense but at the time it must have felt terrible. You were so kind to still buy her hen without giving her a good dressing down.</p> <p>Imagine being her husband. He probably has to put up with it on a daily basis! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw-disaster--/page/2#post-1676935 Fri, 10 Jun 2016 04:00:29 +0000 Laurie 1676935@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>With any luck, one day you will laugh at this day!&nbsp; I once had a 70 year old female boss, when trying to explain how large her daughter's girlfriend was said "why, she'd make you look thin!"&nbsp; Hehe.. thanks for giving me a point of reference I can relate to!!&nbsp; Anway, I find it hilarious now - and it's really a reflection on her.. not on you.&nbsp; You look great, as everyone else said.&nbsp; Just consider the source and keep on rockin!! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw-disaster--/page/2#post-1676927 Fri, 10 Jun 2016 03:45:14 +0000 Maneera 1676927@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Wow. I'm steaming angry just reading this. But you're a true LADY to have put up with this kind of rudeness and not responded in kind. </p> <p>I'm sure the woman is suffering from mental illness, or is just plain nasty, which is why her husband wants to kill himself! Don't give her another thought. </p> <p>You look lovely in this color. I love the cut of the dress too.... Very summery. The hen is super cute! I'm impressed to hear you're working so hard to lose weight and eat healthy. Keep it up!!! You're setting a very good example for your kids and I'm sure your body is getting stronger &amp; healthier. </p> <p>Women come in all shapes &amp; sizes. It's more important to get fitter and be healthy, and you're already doing a good job of that. You should be very proud of yourself </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw-disaster--/page/2#post-1676920 Fri, 10 Jun 2016 03:32:15 +0000 Anna 1676920@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>it's a beautiful color on you and you look great. I am sure you could tell there was an issue with this woman and you were kind not to say anything back. And I love the chicken! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw-disaster--/page/2#post-1676911 Fri, 10 Jun 2016 03:09:16 +0000 rose 1676911@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>You have the perfect soft colouring for that lovely blue. <br />What an incredibly rude woman you happened to be unfortunate enough to meet. Ignore her. It is very hard when we are fighting our own battles for self acceptance to come across those who feel they can say exactly what pops fleetingly across their mind .<br />May all her omelettes stick to the pan. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw-disaster--/page/2#post-1676906 Fri, 10 Jun 2016 02:56:13 +0000 Jane 1676906@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Such a horrid thing to have happened. Hold onto what you know to be true and keep on your journey. </p> <p>Well done with the weight loss ( and eating vegetables at breakfast.)</p> <p>I would think the hens must be so happy to have found a new home with you. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw-disaster--/page/2#post-1676905 Fri, 10 Jun 2016 02:51:07 +0000 Anonymous 1676905@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I can understand that in the moment you were probably stunned, because I know I was just reading it, but really, in the future, should you ever have such a bizarre exchange again, you have to either start firing back or at least stop answering. <br />You're not doing people like that any favors by letting them think this is an acceptable social experience.</p> <p>You have four children who need you to stay well and that's a serious mission, don't let this kind of useless negativity put a drag on your spirit.</p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw-disaster--/page/2#post-1676899 Fri, 10 Jun 2016 02:45:34 +0000 Peri 1676899@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>OMGL...no wonder her husband wants to kill himself!</p> <p>Seriously though...something is wrong with her, not you. This wasn't merely plain rudeness, this was a mental health issue. I worked in mental health for 5 years and she is clinical, believe me. I'm so sorry you had to run into that, but it really wasn't you...she is sick in some way.</p> <p>You were such a lady not to blast her off! And you still went home with her chickens?! I would have walked off...after cussing her out profusely. I hope you can let go of this and go back to being kind to yourself. You are on course and taking care of yourself...don't let some psych patient have any effect on you!</p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw-disaster--/page/2#post-1676892 Fri, 10 Jun 2016 02:32:23 +0000 Windchime 1676892@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Wow, that woman was unbelievably RUDE to you! Some people really have no clue! I agree with everyone else telling you how nice you look in your dress. I wonder if she was envious of you--you are very pretty and have four children--and so said nasty things to try to put you down.</p> <p>Okay, this is mean, but the thought occurred to me that if I were married to someone so rude and unsupportive, I might want to kill myself, too. :(<br /> I'd want to leave the marriage, for sure.</p> <p>I hope you keep posting here. I look forward to reading about your style journey! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw-disaster--/page/2#post-1676883 Fri, 10 Jun 2016 02:06:54 +0000 Jaime 1676883@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Yes, I agree that this woman sounds ill in some way - or perhaps mentally impaired. I have heard people babble like that flitting from overly intrusive comments to overly personal comments about themselves and that is the reason. It sounds like she is not really looking at you but free associating different ideas that flit into her head. Please don't be disheartened - you look wonderful with the hen! </p>