https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw-cohesive Style Advice for Fashion Lovers en-US Sat, 11 Apr 2026 18:20:10 +0000 http://bbpress.org/?v=1.0.2 q https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/search.php https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw-cohesive/page/2#post-1487814 Wed, 06 May 2015 21:18:46 +0000 Style Fan 1487814@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I thought I had posted on this thread but I got so involved in the comments I must not have&nbsp;submitted my comment.</p> <p>Short version.&nbsp; You look great.&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw-cohesive#post-1487775 Wed, 06 May 2015 19:54:32 +0000 Anonymous 1487775@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>You look fabulous. &nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw-cohesive#post-1487659 Wed, 06 May 2015 15:12:35 +0000 Marilyn 1487659@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I love the pants and I love your outfit. I've had those pants on and I have them on order.&nbsp; I love graphic prints and black and white.&nbsp; I thought they looked super cool when I had them on.&nbsp; Preppy is NOT my thing so I'm not sure I'd call the pants preppy.....Maybe it depends how you style them.&nbsp; I don't do preppy.&nbsp; I have no idea what country club is.&nbsp; I just think they are fun and graphic.</p> <p>I don't get too caught up in these discussions about personal style.&nbsp; I find it to be limiting and you can really box yourself in.&nbsp; If an item sings to you, if it works with other things in your closet, and if you feel good in it then I kind of think it's your style.</p> <p>Deborah summed it up well when she said, " I wonder if sometimes we actually box ourselves into a 'preferred' style and don't give ourselves scope to venture out of that box when the need or desire arises."</p> </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw-cohesive#post-1487639 Wed, 06 May 2015 14:43:33 +0000 nancylee 1487639@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Nice, Una! &nbsp;Love those pants! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw-cohesive#post-1487630 Wed, 06 May 2015 14:28:47 +0000 Kirstjen 1487630@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I love those pants! &nbsp;And your sunnies make me smile. &nbsp;:) </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw-cohesive#post-1487597 Wed, 06 May 2015 13:10:10 +0000 Janet 1487597@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Late to the discussion, but I think this is a great outfit and very you. Here's the thing I've discovered: we can find great pieces -- a pair of pumps, printed pants, a button-down -- that attract us but don't *seem* like our style when viewed as individual items. I have plenty of those items. But when you style them in your own way, as you've done here, they work well with your wardrobe and end up bringing extra dimension to your style. So I say well done! Personally I love the pants, since I have a soft spot for graphic black and white prints and a affinity for a touch of preppiness. I love the way you styled them, and I would do something very similar myself. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw-cohesive#post-1487561 Wed, 06 May 2015 12:15:50 +0000 donnat 1487561@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Your outfit has started quite a thought provoking conversation. I love It, both the opinions and the outfit. I definately think it is you. But if you put that outfit on someone else, how would the vibe change? </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw-cohesive#post-1487559 Wed, 06 May 2015 12:12:41 +0000 gryffin 1487559@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Una - I am totally confused.&nbsp; Aren't all great outfits by definition "cohesive"?&nbsp; Even when we juxtapose pieces there needs to be a link to give the appearance of "rightness" and organic pleasing element a balance - just like in&nbsp;any art or music.&nbsp; I don't see this outfit as lacking in personal style at all.&nbsp; Great pattern on the pants with lovely graphic integrity with plenty of contrast, asymmetric perfectly fitting sweater, fab booties, great hair, plenty of attitude in the sunnies and scrunch, where do you feel this is lacking?&nbsp; I'm truly perplexed because I think this is a great, elegant casual, UWP, stomp on you in a regal way, at its&nbsp;best. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw-cohesive#post-1487485 Wed, 06 May 2015 05:34:57 +0000 Astrid 1487485@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I think Gaylene makes a very good point! Approprio I can understand what you're saying, but to me your take doesn't contradict what Gaylene said. As least as far as I understood. To me the crux of the matter is that personal style isn't something "out there somewhere" but it's what we're choosing to put on our bodies in our everyday life. And that style might be sometimes influenced by other people's opinion, re pick your battles etc. That doesn't have to mean we're embarrassed or hiding.</p> <p>ETA<br /> Sorry Una, I didn't even mention your outfit! I think you look great and still like "you". </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw-cohesive#post-1487458 Wed, 06 May 2015 04:24:21 +0000 catgirl 1487458@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Approprio, I agree with you wholeheartedly, but mostly I don't care whether people think I have too many shoes or make enough effort - it's a benefit of aging for me! But like cooking, sometimes I just don't have time to indulge in what I love! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw-cohesive#post-1487456 Wed, 06 May 2015 04:22:21 +0000 catgirl 1487456@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Oh Lisa, you don't know me as well as I thought! I feel like I could hang with our Karymk in these pants... </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw-cohesive#post-1487369 Wed, 06 May 2015 02:10:51 +0000 Karie 1487369@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I feel like this outfit is 50% your UMP style, and 50% your shadow style, and those crazy pants are 100% crazy fabulous! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw-cohesive#post-1487358 Wed, 06 May 2015 01:53:01 +0000 Anonymous 1487358@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>You bring something special to everything you wear. If that's cohesive style, I want it. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw-cohesive#post-1487321 Wed, 06 May 2015 00:24:24 +0000 Anonymous 1487321@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Well, if I didn't "know you" better , or know what I do about what you like to wear, this would not stand out as something really weird on you. Not at all. From a completely objective perspective, you have the body to wear printed pants well, they look very modern and crisp, and the black sweater and footwear make the whole thing very polished. So the only dissonance is from what we know of you, not from how this looks. &nbsp;I never figured you for a Palm Beach country club Pimms drinker &nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw-cohesive#post-1487245 Tue, 05 May 2015 21:30:05 +0000 approprio 1487245@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Una, so sorry to sit on your WIW, but Gaylene's comment has got me thinking. She makes a very good point with which I have to politely disagree.&nbsp;</p> <p>When it comes to our appearance, we really cannot win. Make too much of an effort, and you're "the woman with all the shoes", make too little and you've let yourself go. Why not let the woman with all the shoes enjoy her shoes? She's probably great at her job. I don't hear anyone heaping the same judgement on the guy with the fancy car.&nbsp;</p> <p>A love of fashion isn't something we should be embarrassed about or have to hide. It's a fascinating art form that we can all engage in. I like my clothes to say something specific about me, and if that's something people notice about me, then so be it. I wouldn't have it any other way. Dunno about you, but I'm proud to be a dandy. :)</p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw-cohesive#post-1487190 Tue, 05 May 2015 20:21:11 +0000 catgirl 1487190@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I am sorry about my photos! I need to work on that... </p> <p>Fascinating comments! Lisa nailed my concerns - although Kate Spade/Tory Burch is a shadow style for me, I need to mix it up. This is pretty polished for me but still fits enough criteria to make me feel like myself. </p> <p>I am curious as to how this outfit would come across if you all didn't know me so well!</p> <p>Gaylene, your comments are well taken and make complete sense. We can be authentic in many ways. I am going to favorite this post so I can remember that when I'm feeling like I'm too cohesive! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw-cohesive#post-1487187 Tue, 05 May 2015 20:12:38 +0000 approprio 1487187@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>This is great. I love the bold b/w contrast. Nice to see those fab sunnies getting an outing and you ombre hair looks stunning :)</p> <p>I have to admit it's take me a little while to get a sense of your personal style because your photos always look rather small on my screen. But this looks an effortless, authentic slice of UWP. Well played.&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw-cohesive#post-1487179 Tue, 05 May 2015 19:56:42 +0000 Karin L H 1487179@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Great outfit! Those pants suit you so well. I like the drapey cardigan too. Very nice! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw-cohesive#post-1487174 Tue, 05 May 2015 19:50:06 +0000 Anonymous 1487174@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I see tons of personal style Una. A fab outfit! Oh, but also...the hair!!! It's looking wonderful!</p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw-cohesive#post-1487109 Tue, 05 May 2015 18:02:16 +0000 Thistle 1487109@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I think this looks fabulous. Your style that fits with your work and life.</p> <p>Gaylene, as always, makes some fabulous points. I think this&nbsp;makes a ton of sense. We are looking to enhance our personality not define it by our fashion choices. &nbsp;</p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw-cohesive#post-1487104 Tue, 05 May 2015 17:52:45 +0000 Gaylene 1487104@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>My first reaction was "of course this is a Una look"--the everyday-get-dressed-in-morning-for-my-life version of UWP, not the I'm-for-fashion UWP version. With a few exceptions, most of us on this forum don't live and work in environments that require us to look knowledgeable about fashion to be credible. Fashion is a part of our lives but not in the same way it would be if we were working in a fashion-related field. To me, it makes sense we reflect and acknowledge this fact in our personal style. And I don't think that makes our style less our own; in fact, I'd argue the exact opposite--it's the "personal" in personal style.</p> <p>Those of us who work and live in non-fashion environments run the very risk of looking less credible and approachable if we dress for a fantasized version of our style on a daily basis. Lisa's comment about not wanting to be known as "the woman with all the shoes" by her colleagues made me stop and think on how a passion for fashion can all too easily end up becoming our main identifier in the minds of other. An admiring comment is flattering, but when my outfits become the totality of me, I'm running the very real risk of becoming a caricature--and that is an unpleasant thought. My personal style ought to enhance my possibilities in life, not stifle them.</p> <p>ETA: wow, just realized I wrote an essay here--and you just asked for feedback on an outfit! But Astrid's thread really got me musing about why we think our personal style is "out there" even when we are happy with what we are wearing. </p> <p>And, yes, I think this outfit is totally Una--no one else could wear those pieces like you do. Those pants are UWP because of what YOU bring to the party. Your personal style turns even the most sedate top or bottom into something edgy and a bit dangerous. That's why you rocked the skirted legging--and turned a potential mini skirt into a fierce butt vest. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw-cohesive#post-1487095 Tue, 05 May 2015 17:04:59 +0000 Anonymous 1487095@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Interesting - I'll be the outlier here (oh gee THAT's never happened before) and agree that this isn't a typical Una look. &nbsp;It's a good one, but not one I would expect to see on you. &nbsp;The pant print has a country-club/Tory Burch vibe going on, which is not you at all, but you wear them really well and toughen them up with all of the black, and your fantastic hair. &nbsp;Go for it! Cohesive indeed. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw-cohesive#post-1487086 Tue, 05 May 2015 16:52:41 +0000 Joyce B 1487086@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I think it's a great outfit. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw-cohesive#post-1487000 Tue, 05 May 2015 14:39:54 +0000 Carole 1487000@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>What a great outfit...the pants make it fun and interesting. I can see you'll have loads of fun with these this spring and summer! YLF! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw-cohesive#post-1486991 Tue, 05 May 2015 14:20:26 +0000 jackiec 1486991@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I was hoping to see the pant with the Topshop booties, and they are great!! Hey, nothing wrong with cohesive </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw-cohesive#post-1486957 Tue, 05 May 2015 12:56:51 +0000 Ledonna N. 1486957@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I have to go back and find Astrid's thread.&nbsp; I'm wondering what would make this a better outfit for you? Because I include the sunglasses and the shoes part of the fit.&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw-cohesive#post-1486951 Tue, 05 May 2015 12:44:31 +0000 Suz 1486951@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>This seems like an "Una" outfit to me. And being cohesive is not a crime. ;)&nbsp;</p> <p>Curious about why it doesn't necessarily feel "you."&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw-cohesive#post-1486943 Tue, 05 May 2015 12:36:12 +0000 Jaime 1486943@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Definitely you with the surprise addition of the printed pants. Do you mean cohesive as opposed to ultimate? </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw-cohesive#post-1486934 Tue, 05 May 2015 12:23:20 +0000 Lucy 1486934@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I don't see this outfit as "un-you" at all - maybe stretching the edges, but in a good way. I love this outfit. I've never been a big fan of printed pants (I know, I maybe the only one!!) but I like this a lot :)&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw-cohesive#post-1486847 Tue, 05 May 2015 05:46:00 +0000 Deborah 1486847@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I have read Astrid's post but being at work haven't had time to formulate an intelligent response &nbsp;I like this outfit on you:) &nbsp;The pants are not what I would assume for you but they look really good.. so good I might need to go back a get a similar pair I have seen that have tempted me. &nbsp;I think there are enough elements here to make the outfit look like you. &nbsp;I think you have added your signature edge with your footwear, the black and your hair. &nbsp;I wonder if sometimes we actually box ourselves into a 'preferred' style and don't give ourselves scope to venture out of that box when the need or desire arises. </p>