https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw-aquatalia-boot-debut Style Advice for Fashion Lovers en-US Sun, 26 Apr 2026 13:09:11 +0000 http://bbpress.org/?v=1.0.2 q https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/search.php https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw-aquatalia-boot-debut/page/2#post-420798 Mon, 12 Sep 2011 15:28:38 +0000 Ginny 420798@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>You have got tons of great advice here, i can sympathized with your plight, My husband thought i was crazy to take pix and post them on the interent too, but i bet he will come around. It is just a change and somtimes hubbys need a ittle extra time to adjust to that i think. I know what you mean about feeling dressed up compared to everyone around but please dont let that slow you down. I am all about the MOTG outfits and there are days where I feel the same way. I took my kiddos to youth group sign up night the other day and i wore blue white girly top white shorts and tan fossils flats. I felt like i was super dressed up only because There was a lot of flipflops and sweatshorts and t's in the group. But your kids will be proud of the stylish mommy before you know it! They pick up on it i think. I am blessed my kids are little bigger and they are my occassional photographers and still find it silly that mom does that! lol So hang in there chickie!! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw-aquatalia-boot-debut/page/2#post-420751 Mon, 12 Sep 2011 12:44:20 +0000 Janet 420751@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>GP, you look lovely and I'm glad you are part of this community! </p> <p>I was actually a little embarrassed about taking pics of myself and posting them here, thinking my husband would probably think it a frivolous use of time, so I didn't share that with my husband for a while. When I finally did one day, he thought it was the coolest thing! We've been together for almost 14 years, and he saw my style evolve once when I started watching What Not to Wear, and now he's seeing it evolve even more with my YLF involvement. He loves that I'm taking care of myself and paying attention to my appearance, even though I'm in a place in my life in which i could easily "let myself go," as I have two vocations in which I could spend every day in sweats if I wanted to. He even thought it was cool that I went up to NYC this weekend to spend some time with Angie and the YLFers!</p> <p>It sound like your husband is supportive over the long term but was just having a day when he felt a little grumpy and neglected. I hope all's better now. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw-aquatalia-boot-debut/page/2#post-420718 Mon, 12 Sep 2011 05:46:06 +0000 catgirl 420718@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>GP, I just want to add that there is a learning curve here - I was obsessed with reading everything when I first discovered this site. I am still on here all the time, but I try not to let it consume me during weekends when we are able to spend time as a family hiking or playing. I'd rather be on here during work hours. Thankfully I work for myself. </p> <p>Frankly, and I know this is a personal topic, I also don't feel guilty about money because we have always kept separate finances. My mother was very strong-minded about women working and having control over their income. My husband and I have been together nearly 20 years and that has worked just fine for us - we split the common bills, save together, and otherwise get to do what we want.</p> <p>I don't expect anyone to share their finances here but I know that can be a source of stress. It would be really hard for me to feel I had to justify my indulgences to another person, and I know I would be critical of someone else as well, so it has worked out perfectly for us. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw-aquatalia-boot-debut#post-420675 Mon, 12 Sep 2011 01:23:26 +0000 Fruitful 420675@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>GP it is so nice to see happy action shots of you with your little one! You look great in your outfit and I wouldn't have guessed you were being challenged about it.</p> <p>I think people often think they want us to change but the reality of when we actually do is something they're not prepared for. You just have to stand by the benefits of your changes until they become the status quo. It is the change itself that's often anxiety-producing.</p> <p>Focusing on our appearance is vanity - a healthy self-interest. I cycle through these things. I might be very into makeup for a few months, I get bored and move on to something else. Then I'll be into clothes for a while, and when I feel happy with my wardrobe I'll become obsessed with a book, then I look back and think how weird, I was vain :). Then I might get into fitness and think how could I stand sitting around reading a book all day...</p> <p>Thinking an interest is wrong or superficial is all a matter of how closely you're positioned to it.</p> <p>Getting deeply enough into something to thoroughly understand it is good. Getting far enough away from it to see the bigger picture is good too. It all cycles around. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw-aquatalia-boot-debut#post-420646 Mon, 12 Sep 2011 00:12:06 +0000 Anonymous 420646@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>IKWYM! You are undergoing a remarkable transformation, and it does take attention away from hubby. Nurture your marriage at the same time, if you can!</p> <p>My hubby is a little incredulous, but I'm introducing him to each of you as you comment and he is getting to know everyone slowly. He is appreciative of the "girl needs" I get filled here that he doesn't have to struggle to meet all by himself. It does take some of the pressure off him, in a way. </p> <p>I think I'll be able to suffer through football season in a much better mood. I'll actuallly sit in front of the TV for the games, with YLF on my laptop! Everyone will be happy! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw-aquatalia-boot-debut#post-420629 Sun, 11 Sep 2011 23:38:16 +0000 Mamapicklejuice 420629@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>To be fair to the husbands, a lot of time, they only see the "superficial" side of YLF - the picture taking, the obsessive (for me!!) forum check-ins (lol). They don't see or experience the incredibly supportive community that Angie and Greg have built. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw-aquatalia-boot-debut#post-420603 Sun, 11 Sep 2011 23:16:48 +0000 Isabel 420603@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>GP - it is a tough transition. And, I think, that new moms have so much physical contact with the little ones and expend so much emotional energy that the last thing one wants is to actually have to interact with another person who expects something of you.</p> <p>It is great that you have date nights. Whenever my husband would get misty eyed about our old lives, I would say, " Hey, YOU wanted them and I take care of them." :-)</p> <p>It gets better, my friend. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw-aquatalia-boot-debut#post-420588 Sun, 11 Sep 2011 22:56:29 +0000 goldenpig 420588@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>LOL Isabel, I don't need to borrow your hubby's canoe...we have four kayaks sitting in our garage and we've only used them once in the last five years! Having kids has really changed our life and I think he misses the old days when we had more time as a couple to do fun things together like kayaking and scuba diving. Una, I don't think he feels threatened by me at all...he really likes it when I look good and he was the one who was pushing me to upgrade my wardrobe. I think the main reason why he's not crazy about me spending all this time on fashion and on the YLF and mommy boards is he feels a little neglected. It takes so much of our time feeding, bathing, and putting the kids to bed in the evenings that once we're done I just want some "me time" to relax and veg on the internet and catch up on the latest forum posts. We have date nights once or twice a month, but he's right I probably should spend more time with him and less time on the computer. He really is a great husband and dad. I just have to find a way to juggle work, kid time, couple time and me time. It's not easy! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw-aquatalia-boot-debut#post-420542 Sun, 11 Sep 2011 21:19:05 +0000 catgirl 420542@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>GP, I am sorry you're feeling blue. You look unbelievable and the transformation in your style has just been exponential. And you have such a great attitude about contributing, learning, and growing. </p> <p>My guess is your husband probably feels a bit threatened by your growth. Some guys have a weird issue about how their wives look - they want women to look good because they think it reflects well on them that they have a hot wife, but not so good that their own self-esteem is threatened. Could that be what's going on? </p> <p>My husband also feels I'm wasting time taking photos and organizing my closet, but I pointed out to him that he spends as much if not more time on fantasy football and baseball, as well as watching sports. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw-aquatalia-boot-debut#post-420537 Sun, 11 Sep 2011 21:10:13 +0000 Isabel 420537@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>GP, I kept thinking about your post today. It made me think of how people ( men and some women ) don't understand that looking decent takes some thought, planning and honest feedback. I think that we also see ourselves better through pictures.</p> <p>Makrame also brought back a funny memory for me : when my husband and I first married ( we have been together 21 yeas ), he bought, what was then, a new-fangled high tech canoe for $2500. It was made from super lightweight material that was used in bulletproof vests for police and for other military purposes ! Just what we needed. I went along with it, but I thought that my new husband was NUTS ! </p> <p>A few weeks later, I came home with my first "nice" pocketbook. A beatiful, red Coach bag. Well, he bugged me so much about that stupid bag, that I returned it. Mr. Canoe couldn't understand anyone paying that much for a bag ( $250 ). If that happened today, he would need the canoe to protect himself from me !!!</p> <p>Ten years after that, when I was pregnant with our first child, after years of unsuccessfully trying to have a baby, he went out and bought me a Coach diaper bag for $550, with no connection to the military !</p> <p>The moral : your hubby will come around and you will gain more confidence as the years role on. ( Let me know if you would like to borrow an old canoe - it's a nice one. ) </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw-aquatalia-boot-debut#post-420478 Sun, 11 Sep 2011 19:16:54 +0000 Jenava 420478@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Your post reminded me of the article Patty posted that Sveta linked to already. My husband wants me to feel good about myself and be presentable and someone he is happy to be with in public, but beyond that the specifics aren't really his thing (and often he doesn't like something I'm wearing but we've learned long ago that we don't always see eye to eye on these things).</p> <p>Maybe he is feeling a little left out; maybe he liked you depending on him for this small thing and now he sees you going in a direction he doesn't understand so now he can't help you anymore. Just a thought. My husband loves for me to depend on him for a few small things (even when deep down he knows I don't really need to). Just a thought...</p> <p>I'm so glad you are taking a stylish stand at the park. I love your boots. I know how good it feels to have people share in how cool your new duds are when hubby just doesn't quite share or get the same kick out of it. That's what makes posting to the forum fun and also a little addictive. You aren't being vain, and I doubt he really believes that you could be, deep down...he's probably just reacting to the shift in you coming to him or you not caring about how you look to you caring a lot and depending on other friends that he doesn't "get".</p> <p>If I were you I'd try to get that self-timer working so you aren't highlighting this shift to him constantly by asking him to help you with picture. (-: And, there's nothing wrong with mirror pictures, either! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw-aquatalia-boot-debut#post-420393 Sun, 11 Sep 2011 16:57:53 +0000 Makrame 420393@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I actually assume that my husband probably won't "get it" completely, just like I may not "get" his interest in sports-related forums. So I take all my pictures with a self-timer, and don't keep these photos in the iPhoto library (I just move them to a separate folder, which also makes it easier to keep track of them).</p> <p>Beautiful photos, BTW, and very cute kids (and Mom)! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw-aquatalia-boot-debut#post-420389 Sun, 11 Sep 2011 16:52:37 +0000 Isabel 420389@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>First, you look AMAZING !!! Second, it takes a little time for not only us, but those around us to get used to a new "look". I guarantee that he will stop commenting as it becomes more "normal" for him. </p> <p>As a side note, when I became a stay at home mom I started wearing everything that I always said I wouldn't. My husband also "encouraged" me to dress better. Well, it didn't quite go as he planned. His idea of me dressing better and MY idea of me dressing better are nowhere near each other. LOL</p> <p>So hang in there. We are here for you. Change is always a little anxiety filling. And the truth is that most men don't get it. It is not a judgement, but an observation.</p> <p>You go girl !!! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw-aquatalia-boot-debut#post-420375 Sun, 11 Sep 2011 16:33:04 +0000 MsMary 420375@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>GP, you are definitely my dress-up friend! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw-aquatalia-boot-debut#post-420371 Sun, 11 Sep 2011 16:17:24 +0000 goldenpig 420371@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Thanks everyone for the wonderful support! I feel much better!</p> <p>Rae, actually it's quite the opposite--my husband thinks he has a good eye for style and thinks I should just come to him for advice instead of posting pictures for random strangers on the internet. When I posted all those jeans pics, he said "Why do you need to post all those pictures of your exposed belly? I'm the one who told you to buy better-fitting jeans, not the internet!" I do try to spare him and take most of my pictures myself in the mirror (haven't figured out a good place to do the self timer yet), but the problem is he still sees all the photos that I upload in our iPhoto library. When we've gone out with the kids before, I always have wanted him to take a lot of pictures of me &amp; the kids, but now he thinks it's just because of my outfit. </p> <p>Jonesy, I don't think he is jealous, he just thinks it's superficial and frivolous. He thinks I spend way too much time on this forum and thinking about fashion. I think part of it is that it has been such a complete 180 for me in the last couple of months (I have done a lot of shopping and reading about fashion lately whereas I never cared before) so to him it seems like I am now totally vain and obsessed with my looks. </p> <p>Mo, I love the sports analogy. He spends a lot of time thinking about scuba diving and reading scuba forums, but he thinks it's silly when I spend time on this forum or the other mommy board that I frequent. </p> <p>Kat, I think you are right that it is taking up a lot of time right now because I am so new at it and have so much to learn, and I had to do a lot of shopping initially because I have so many holes in my wardrobe. But hopefully it won't take so much time once I get the hang of it and my wardrobe gets streamlined. </p> <p>MaryK, I would love to be your dress-up friend...you are my style idol! I do think it's important and like how I have changed for the better so far, even though I still have a lot to learn. I am really glad to have found such a wonderful group of "dress up friends" to hang out with! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw-aquatalia-boot-debut#post-420359 Sun, 11 Sep 2011 15:49:39 +0000 rae 420359@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>You look FAB in that outfit! I would want to document looking that great, too. I think it's important to take time for yourself to invest in making yourself look and feel good - especially with a daughter (adorable). </p> <p>As for hubs... mine is all for the forum, but I think part of his enthusiasm is that it takes pressure OFF of him. I no longer drill him with questions about what looks good, and I take all my pics with a timer, unless we're on an outing together. When he does look at me askance for taking a gazillion outfit shots of a new item to post here, I laugh and say that fashion is too hard to get right on my own. This is just my experience, and your situation may be different, but perhaps the hubby doesn't have to witness so much fashion-related stuff? What he doesn't know won't irritate him, lol. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw-aquatalia-boot-debut#post-420358 Sun, 11 Sep 2011 15:49:20 +0000 Queen Mum 420358@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Mo.. great sports analogy.<br /> Mary... that is just so cute. "dress up friends" </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw-aquatalia-boot-debut#post-420357 Sun, 11 Sep 2011 15:47:22 +0000 MsMary 420357@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I think you look great! Your children are totally adorable and I love how the red swing pops against your lovely teal sweater! LOL</p> <p>My hubby used to be skeptical about YLF and the whole concept, until he actually met some of them in person and discovered how awesome they all are! Now he is a huge fan of my "dress up friends!" </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw-aquatalia-boot-debut#post-420342 Sun, 11 Sep 2011 15:18:49 +0000 Jonesy 420342@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I agree with what everyone else has said: You look wonderful with your kids at the park, and hopefully your spouse will see the benefits of your involvement with YLF and your style journey and be more positive! Do you think he is jealous, somehow, or just thinks it's frivolous? </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw-aquatalia-boot-debut#post-420313 Sun, 11 Sep 2011 14:24:35 +0000 Mo 420313@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I commented on a lady's outfit on TV just this morning and my BF said I was 'fashion boarding' even the tv! I guess they just think we are verging on obsessed, rather than indulging our interest and passion. I look at it like sports - I enjoy watching a game, but I don't care about the whole history of a player (down to their college) like he does. They get dressed in the morning. Period. Perhaps you could try some self timer pics if he's feeling this is becoming to engrossing a hobby?<br /> And, yes, you look great! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw-aquatalia-boot-debut#post-420312 Sun, 11 Sep 2011 14:22:49 +0000 Anonymous 420312@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>You look adorable and your kids are so cute! My sweet, supportive husband gets annoyed sometimes too. I should buy a tripod! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw-aquatalia-boot-debut#post-420306 Sun, 11 Sep 2011 14:16:58 +0000 Queen Mum 420306@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>you look great Natalie. I'm sorry you were hurt by your husbands comments. They just aren't wired the same way we are and aren't always going to "get" it. Hugs to you! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw-aquatalia-boot-debut#post-420304 Sun, 11 Sep 2011 14:13:09 +0000 cobaltblue 420304@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Goldenpig, You look so great! I love watching your development because I feel like I am on a similar style journey. But you're way ahead of me. My husband likes my new look, but he doesn't understand the YLF forum and is an uninspired photographer of my outfits. Apparently he doesn't see the connection! :). Hugs to you. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw-aquatalia-boot-debut#post-420300 Sun, 11 Sep 2011 14:09:23 +0000 Suz 420300@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Awww. Big hug!!! I know what you mean; my husband and daughter both think I am a bit nutty with the YLF stuff and they are always teasing me about how often I am on the website. ("Every time I pass your room you are on that site!" "No---not pictures AGAIN!!!") </p> <p>They mean well and are only joking, but the first few times my husband was a bit more serious. And then I explained about this community and he was really impressed with what he heard about it. So he is more accepting now. </p> <p>I think this will happen to you, too. Maybe just give your husband a bit of time and ask for his support in your journey to improve your self-esteem. </p> <p>By the way, you look fantastic in your park outfit. Not overdressed at all! It looks like a perfect MOTG ensemble. Your kids are adorable, too. Love your daughter's sweater. Hey, why are clothes for them so great? Yesterday at Gap Kids I was wishing I could fit into some of the outfits!! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw-aquatalia-boot-debut#post-420271 Sun, 11 Sep 2011 13:08:30 +0000 marianna 420271@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>You look radiant. And I also agree 10000% with what Michelle said. Chin up! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw-aquatalia-boot-debut#post-420262 Sun, 11 Sep 2011 12:51:54 +0000 Sveta 420262@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Natalie, hugs! It hurts when the people closest to us do not understand or accept what we are doing. Other ladies said it all and I do not have much to add but some compassion.<br /> You know, it may be helpful if your husband reads the article from Patty's post:<br /> <a href="http://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/interesting-write-up-a-mans-guide-to-a-womans-wardrobe" rel="nofollow">http://youlookfab.com/welookfa.....s-wardrobe</a>, maybe it will give him a different perception of what you are doing...<br /> You look great in the pictures and your kids are adorable! I think this sweater is better with skinnies as you styled it because it may be a bit short for the leggings. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw-aquatalia-boot-debut#post-420248 Sun, 11 Sep 2011 12:16:25 +0000 Kat 420248@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I was going to write a reply, but doubt I could do better than Michelle's thoughtful response. So, "everything Michelle said". But if the reason DH's comments hurt was in any way because it feels a little weird TO YOU to be spending time planning and thinking about what you are wearing, and seeking the advice of those here....consider that the beginning of any new learning venture entails extra time and effort until the new knowledge becomes more "second nature" and then once the lessons you learn are ingrained, you will be on your way, feeling wonderful and you will only need to attend to the "fine-tuning" and thus, you will be able to efficiently and effectively incorporate the style lessons you learn into your daily life, spending more time feeling fabulous. No guilt for trying to be your best self. Or, "what Michelle said". Have a better day. ((((hugs)))) </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw-aquatalia-boot-debut#post-420240 Sun, 11 Sep 2011 11:49:16 +0000 Jjsloane 420240@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Great outfit! Adorable children (and fashionable too)! I LOVE those boots.</p> <p>If you can explain to DH that this is an important part of your personal development maybe he'll let up on you. It's probably something he just doesn't understand and is new to him. I'm sure in time he'll recognize that by you feeling better about yourself he'll benefit too! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw-aquatalia-boot-debut#post-420237 Sun, 11 Sep 2011 11:40:25 +0000 ButterflyLady 420237@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>goldenpig, you look great - the colour is lovely on you, I envy those boots, and your children are adorable.</p> <p>My husband thinks it's a bit mad to be posting photos here, and I do tend to take them with a tripod using the self-timer on the camera, so I don't involve anyone else! But I really am helped by seeing the pictures myself, and getting other's honest opinions. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw-aquatalia-boot-debut#post-420234 Sun, 11 Sep 2011 11:33:23 +0000 Michelle 420234@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Goldenpig (great screenname, btw), I've never interacted with you on this forum before, but I want to come find you and give you a hug. I'm so sorry you're feeling guilty about your style journey...but I'm here to tell you you shouldn't be! This sort of phase is, i think, relatively normal (in my early days on YLF I also came to ffeel a little self-conscious about how much I was buying and the amount of time I spent posting looks, asking for feedback etc). This phase soon gives way when you pause a moment and look at the bigger picture. You're not just buying clothes for the heck of it and posting pictures in a desperate attempt to seek attention -- you're making a long-term investment in your self-esteem. The way you look has so many complex ramifications. It makes a statement about who you are and how you would like the world to treat you, it can be either a reflection of or prop for your mood of the day, it can keep you feeling grounded by being the one thing you maintain control of when everything else descends into chaos, it can have a subtle but noticeable influence on how you feel about yourself and therefore on how you act. Taking time to master looks that work for you can have very tangible and sometimes dramatic impacts on how you feel, both day to day and longer-term. The fact that you've been able to find a community of supportive, intelligent women to help you with this process should ensure that the journey is fun and revelatory rather than stressful. Like Sandy, I hope your husband was just having an off-day and returns to his previous support levels...If not, though, please try and remember that this process is about you, not him. I know first-hand that this can be hard, and there are people here who empathize and have developed great coping mechanisms. Same goes for feeling over-dressed at the park. In fact you may want to dig into the forum archives a bit, as there have been some great discussions on that very topic. If you can't find anything, start one of your own -- I guarantee most of the people here understand exactly how you feel. </p> <p>Please don't give up on your style journey. Here, at least, your pictures are welcomed and your contributions highly valued. Also, family mementos are so important, no matter what you're wearing! Snap away! </p> <p>*Here's that hug* </p>