https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw-260512 Style Advice for Fashion Lovers en-US Thu, 04 Jun 2026 20:26:48 +0000 http://bbpress.org/?v=1.0.2 q https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/search.php https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw-260512#post-630141 Sun, 27 May 2012 17:17:39 +0000 krishnidoux 630141@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Oh, Janet, I am exactly there too. And it's all relative, because by your description, you seem to have exactly the body I have wanted to have all my life. Wider hips, mainly. Just to show how personal it is. However, I totally hear you on how you still feel about them. All I hope is that younger women today are not as wounded by mass media images, as there seems to be more variety in models, and that we are also more aware of Photoshop's touches. </p> <p>BTW believe me, I do not lack cellulite on my thighs. But I have been doing a lot of aquafit this passed year which really toned my legs and seem to have affected the skin too. The explanation might be that I have poor circulation, and movement in water is improving it, therefore improving the skin. </p> <p>Dianthus, that must have been awful for you. Our mothers didn't know back then that the pain they felt from their alienation would trickle down onto us like this. When you had the thighs you thought were right, it was because the rest of your body was under your ideal and maybe too thin (I too experienced this after my son... except for the thighs). Me too as a young woman once had these non touching thighs for about two minutes, and the rest of me was sickly thin, actually I looked like 100 years old (and I was in my early twenties). </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw-260512#post-630034 Sun, 27 May 2012 15:04:57 +0000 cheryle (Dianthus) 630034@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Kris and Janet, I am also wide-hipped and heavy-thighed. I grew up with a 5'8" mother who rarely weighed over 130 lbs and has 34-35" thin legs so I know exactly how you feel. The only time I was even close to having the thighs of my dreams was when I was well below the bottom of the normal BMI range (after my son was born I just kept losing weight no matter what I did). Having said that, I have never noticed that either of you has heavy thighs or hips. Go figure. </p> <p>Kris, I really like both outfits but especially #2. The proportions and mono blue color is lovely. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw-260512#post-630029 Sun, 27 May 2012 14:38:07 +0000 nicoleb 630029@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Um, if those are chunky thighs then i need to just throw in the towel. ;)</p> <p>You look great! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw-260512#post-630015 Sun, 27 May 2012 14:12:08 +0000 Janet 630015@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Krishnidoux, I *totally and completely* understand thigh anxiety! Mine started at about age 14, when I was all of 115 lbs at 5'7" so it's not like I had any extra weight on me. It's simply how my body is made -- I have wide hips and my thighs are the absolute one place on my body that will hang onto any fat. Honestly, I have hated that for almost my whole adult life. I'm working on not hating anything about my body anymore, but it's not always easy.</p> <p>Funny thing, by your friend's standard, I've almost been "slim" but only because my hips are so wide set that I've never had trouble with my thighs rubbing together and my shorts legs riding up -- that problem seems to be much more prevalent among slim-hipped ladies. </p> <p>Isn't it funny -- and by funny, I guess I mean awful -- how we internalize these arbitrary definers of beauty or desirability? I still struggle with my thighs even though I've made peace with pretty much everything else about my body, 30+ years after my first realization that they were not model-perfect. I look at yours and envy the muscle tone, smooth skin, and lack of cellulite, which are problems that still plague me even though I've been running for over a year. I try to focus instead on how grateful I am that my legs allow me to run 3, 6, 10, or 13 miles! </p> <p>So just letting you know you have company -- I sympathize! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw-260512#post-629982 Sun, 27 May 2012 12:03:01 +0000 krishnidoux 629982@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Thank you everybody for your compliments! Also, thank you for putting me back into reality about my thighs. I tend to over focus on them as if they were the culprit of my wardrobe problems! When this is simply warped. Well, still in therapy so I guess there is work ahead. </p> <p>I don't know why I'm haunted - still, to this day - by the 80's silhouette of a Brooke Shields or a Daryl Hannah's long straight legs... I remember back in the day a (slim, tall) friend mentioning that in order to be considered "slim", one had to be able to "see the day between the thighs" (voir le jour entre les cuisses). Which was her case. Like in this picture:<br /> <a href="http://3.bp.blogspot.com/-yr_rF30B2Hc/TndKj6GmbZI/AAAAAAAACmM/wTQRutPo_jc/s1600/Recently+Updated96.jpg" rel="nofollow">http://3.bp.blogspot.com/-yr_r.....ated96.jpg</a><br /> For some reason, somewhere between 1982 and 1987, this "ideal" was imprinted in me so strongly it burnt through all my future reasoning. Of course I was nothing like that, being petite and shapely. My thighs touched. They touched even more in shorts, which would have the unfortunate tendency to rise right up at this very spot as I walked. Now the two horizontal shorts' hems were not horizontal any more, but seemed to be pointing at my crotch as if advertising it! Oh horror to me with my catholic upbringing. </p> <p>It never occurred to me that the problem were these atrocious shapeless shorts that were sold back then. I thought I was the problem. I was causing perfectly well sewn shorts to become hideous on me. My best friend, the tall slim one, could wear them all day with no problem, the shorts fell perfectly around her slim thighs, with lots of space in between for the fabric to fall straight. I came to believe that my wearing shorts was messy and frumpy. </p> <p>So for a good portion of my life I avoided them! Which was wrong, of course. </p> <p>Today I know my thighs are nice and shapely. I know it intellectually. But some days, when I am tired, or when I am in foreign territory, I start feeling insecure again about them. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw-260512#post-629825 Sun, 27 May 2012 02:03:47 +0000 Jaime 629825@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I beg to differ regarding your "chunky" thighs but I love these outfits, the scarf, the sandals, the jacket, the navy - everything fab! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw-260512#post-629810 Sun, 27 May 2012 01:46:23 +0000 Janet 629810@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Oh honey, if your thighs are chunky, mine are superchunk! Seriously, you look great in both of these and there is absolutely nothing wrong with your legs! I envy them. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw-260512#post-629787 Sun, 27 May 2012 00:53:49 +0000 Kiwichik 629787@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Love the mono look with pashmina &amp; like Beth Ann not seeing chunky thighs at all. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw-260512#post-629780 Sun, 27 May 2012 00:42:36 +0000 Beth Ann 629780@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Love the blue and the proportions in both looks! In this outfit, I feel the heavier shoe is terrific -- it grounds you. BTW -- your legs are strong but, really, far from chunky. Skinny legs present their own difficulties (I speak entirely theoretically here -- lol). </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw-260512#post-629696 Sat, 26 May 2012 21:48:19 +0000 Suz 629696@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>You look great in these! Very biker-chic...in the sense of bicycle, not motor-bike! This is a perfect outfit for what you were doing. And by the way, your thighs are not chunky but STRONG! (And very nice, too, by the way!) </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw-260512#post-629684 Sat, 26 May 2012 21:19:46 +0000 Deborah 629684@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Great to see you! You look so cute in this outfit... Love it on you. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw-260512#post-629655 Sat, 26 May 2012 20:37:27 +0000 Anonymous 629655@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Yes, this looks very nice on you! Good to see you post Krish, and enjoy your ride! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw-260512#post-629613 Sat, 26 May 2012 19:25:46 +0000 Meredith1953 629613@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Both looks totally work for you! I love that shade of blue and your thighs look great in the shorts. The footwear is also wonderful! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw-260512#post-629612 Sat, 26 May 2012 19:21:59 +0000 christieanne 629612@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Great casual look. I think the tonal column monochrome is a brilliant solution. Have fun! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw-260512#post-629592 Sat, 26 May 2012 19:05:23 +0000 Anonymous 629592@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Love both looks. You look wonderful in shorts. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw-260512#post-629588 Sat, 26 May 2012 19:00:39 +0000 krishnidoux 629588@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>This is what I am wearing today. DH and I are getting ready to go get out bikes from the shop. (Of course I will change shoes then).</p> <p>I have a serious thing for monochromatic looks. With a long rise, small hips, and chunky thighs, I have always struggled to find well fitting shorts that didn't make my already short legs look even shorter. I am pretty happy with this pair, which was surprisingly cheap! </p> <p>Pic 1 - With a blue printed pashmina scarf;</p> <p>Pic 2 - With my favourite summer navy blue jeans jacket.</p> <p>Comments, criticisms, opinions welcome!</p> <p>Thanks for watching. </p>