https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw-1010-androgyny-day-one Style Advice for Fashion Lovers en-US Mon, 25 May 2026 05:45:02 +0000 http://bbpress.org/?v=1.0.2 q https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/search.php https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw-1010-androgyny-day-one#post-1853027 Sat, 14 Oct 2017 14:11:38 +0000 skylurker 1853027@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I love it, esp the association of striped shirt, field jacket and little crossbody bag. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw-1010-androgyny-day-one#post-1852944 Sat, 14 Oct 2017 00:26:04 +0000 krishnidoux 1852944@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Love it!<br />You might find that once you have a belt on, it's not the same vibe anymore. Sometimes, it's better without the belt (=lighter, less emphasis on the bottom part). I'm curious to see how this outfit will evolve. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw-1010-androgyny-day-one#post-1852923 Fri, 13 Oct 2017 16:51:59 +0000 kkards 1852923@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>trade the Blundstones out for Bean boots and this was me in high school!</p> <p>YLF</p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw-1010-androgyny-day-one#post-1852918 Fri, 13 Oct 2017 15:54:38 +0000 Stagiaire Fash 1852918@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Sterling, I also find that "tomboy" carries more emotion than "androgynous", but in a different direction. To me, it's always been a way of saying "I'm not doing feminine/ delicate/ pretty/ soft/ sweetness/ buttoned up/ perfect wrong. I have my own thing that asserts who I am". I don't skin my knees so often any more, and actually wear skirts pretty often, but I'd still call myself a tomboy. One other way I see it as different from androgynous is that androgyny can be related to gender identities, or uttered as an insult against people not performing traditional gender by traditional rules. Tomboy (to me) says clearly that those rules have been rejected. To me, a tomboy is much more robust, playful, and lusting than a girl playing by the rules of girliness could ever be. Someone to whom that kind of "girly" comes naturally would probably feel differently about it.<br /> Runcarla, I have a somewhat similar experience. My midwestern mother is not petite or terribly fussy in what she wears, but she is traditionally feminine, and it has always been important to her that her daughters are as well. Dressing effiminately and behaving in a way that those clothes wouldn't get mussed was part of it. It was also mixed in with my older sister being a small blonde girl, whereas I was a little French pony. Besides our different builds, I was naturally not as graceful as she, because being three years younger, I wasn't at her developmental stage physically (even though we both read a few years above her grade level &amp; I was close to her in math). When my mother/grandma/teachers sighed about me not being as coordinated as she was, I internalized it as doing "female" wrong, so the boyish behavior (including playing with cars, not dolls, and preferring basketball or fighting over jump rope and drawing with chalk) was a way of claiming my own sphere. I was in my 30s before I realized that I could be traditionally feminine if I wanted to be, and that I had a pretty decent figure. That feminine older sister now enjoys fly fishing and the like. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw-1010-androgyny-day-one#post-1852753 Thu, 12 Oct 2017 17:34:48 +0000 LaPed 1852753@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I wish I had hair tips, but I'm lazy/minimalist on that front. My only great epiphany was that my hair has a lot more life/volume if I don't shampoo/condition every time I shower. I do it about once a week now, and give it a couple water-only washes in between. On shampoo days, I apply a little sea salt spray to give it some oomph and piecey-ness, otherwise it lays too flat for my taste when it's freshly washed. Angie's blog post on pixie styling last week was very inspirational but I'm intimidated by flat irons </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw-1010-androgyny-day-one#post-1852737 Thu, 12 Oct 2017 16:50:21 +0000 crst 1852737@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I envy women like you who can look cool and sexy dressed like this.&nbsp; I, unfortunately cannot.&nbsp; Nice look! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw-1010-androgyny-day-one#post-1852733 Thu, 12 Oct 2017 16:30:03 +0000 karen13 1852733@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>This look is so perfect for you. The wavy hair and sunglasses are the perfect softening touch. I just went back to my pixie and need to figure out a low effort way to get a bit of wave. It looks so good on you. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw-1010-androgyny-day-one#post-1852699 Thu, 12 Oct 2017 13:36:51 +0000 Angie 1852699@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>YAY. The wavy pixie adds a nice bit of femme to your Tomboy vibe. I'm glad you grew it out.&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw-1010-androgyny-day-one#post-1852673 Thu, 12 Oct 2017 11:09:18 +0000 LaPed 1852673@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Angie -- Yes. Fab. I really like my hair this length, too. It's close to two months grown out, actually, but I like the softness around the edges and the movement/texture my bangs get at this length.</p> <p>Shevia -- Blundstones are HUGE where I live, too, for both men and women. This is the first time I've worn them since the spring -- I wore them at least every other day from last October thru about April so I gave them a break over the summer. Really nice when something so functional is also well-designed and gets to have a fashion moment. :)</p> <p>Runcarla -- Thank you for your story! It makes perfect sense to need to define your persona as distinct from your parents'. I think I come at tomboy style from the opposite end. I always liked dressing in boys clothes as a kid -- jeans, graphic tees (boys tees had cool things like dogs and dinosaurs and sailboats! I love that you now see more of those motifs featured in little girls clothes as well), sweaters, sneakers, etc all usually came from the boys department. I know I also liked leggings and "bike shorts" as they were known in the 90s an awful lot, so really I just wore whatever I felt like. I think I was completely unaware of what people wore until well into middle school. (My 3 yo son, on the other hand, already memorizes other people's outfits and reports them back to me -- this might be because he's watched me spend a lot of time thinking about my wardrobe in the years since he was born!) </p> <p>I never actually had to do any soul searching about this. I just was never attracted to pink or lace or glitter very much. My parents were probably relieved I wasn't upholding every norm and stereotype that's been placed on little girls. I literally didn't wear anything pink, or any skirts and dresses, until I was well into high school. Then I went through an "ironic" phase, where I started adding pink accessories -- sneakers, bag, you name it -- and got really into mini skirts, polo dresses, and patterned/textured tights. So through my teens and twenties I went through a very magpie phase that involved a lot of juxtaposition of punk and prep, and a lot of gender sub/inversion. When I thru-hiked the AT, I wore a skirt (there are some great hiking skirts out there), plus a pink bandana and pink wrist-warmers, because it was really satisfying/empowering to be overtly girly in a very male-dominated environment (this was before Wild by Cheryl Strayed came out -- that book/movie has done a lot to shift backpacking demographics!).&nbsp;</p> <p>Anyway, this capsule -- blazers, 501s, button front shirts -- is sort of like coming full-circle back to a lot of my most basic style impulses. My mother has a picture of me, preschool aged, sitting on a big rock wearing an oversized white oxford shirt and a pair of rolled up jeans. So this is definitely an authentic look for me.&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw-1010-androgyny-day-one#post-1852669 Thu, 12 Oct 2017 10:57:00 +0000 Anonymous 1852669@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p><b>RunCarla</b>'s post was fascinating. &nbsp;It makes so much sense to me. &nbsp;</p> <p>I will be following these posts with great interest. &nbsp;I have come to realize I like the word "androgynous" much more than "tomboy." &nbsp;The first word evokes no emotion on my part, only interest. &nbsp;The second evokes quite a bit of emotion. &nbsp;I instantly feel that person has been insulted and I want to defend them. &nbsp;I have no idea where this is coming from. &nbsp;</p> <p>I just realized that ALL challenges interest me (even if I am not participating) because I learn so much. &nbsp;It is like a mini-college course and the lessons are not just about wardrobe, but about life. &nbsp;</p> </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw-1010-androgyny-day-one#post-1852630 Thu, 12 Oct 2017 03:12:34 +0000 Jaime 1852630@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Love this! Side fact, Blundstones are possibly the most commonly worn shoe in Israel. For all ages, sexes, socio-economic class. I am the only family member without because I can't justify buying new shoes and they never come up for resale.<br />Back to you, the only non-androgynous touch is the sunglasses, but it works and you look like you, who is a woman among other things. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw-1010-androgyny-day-one#post-1852617 Thu, 12 Oct 2017 01:51:50 +0000 Carla 1852617@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Late to this thread, though I shouldn't be! I DO love your outfit! You've got the perfect pixie and elfin face to compliment the look and keep it out of complete boy territory.</p> <p>I will join you, and post some outfits. My androgynous looks use styling that is 'borrowed from the boys' more than actual men's wear. Although I have dabbled with men's clothes (love the shoulder width and long arms) they don't really fit my modest hour glass tendencies. Blazer, button downs, t-shirts, jeans, sneakers and brogues. If it gets cold enough, the pea coat will come out. </p> <p>To answer Angie's question (for myself) I do feel my most authentic self when I dress 'Tomboy' or what you might call androgynous. I've thought about it a lot too, because some family members have commented on my style choices. It's complicated and there is some psychology behind it, though not too profound: I have a complicated relationship with a super glamourous extroverted artistic mother who places a lot of importance on looks, and how she is perceived by others, particularly men. Growing up a sporty introvert, I differentiated myself from my mother in part by adopting a different fashion persona. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw-1010-androgyny-day-one#post-1852599 Thu, 12 Oct 2017 00:31:17 +0000 Lucy 1852599@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Fab interpretation. I agree you look effortlessly cool! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw-1010-androgyny-day-one#post-1852581 Wed, 11 Oct 2017 22:28:04 +0000 Deborah 1852581@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I really like this look.&nbsp; It has the cool factor and the a touch of edge to it.&nbsp; Suits you </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw-1010-androgyny-day-one#post-1852579 Wed, 11 Oct 2017 22:04:36 +0000 Firecracker (Sharan) 1852579@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Nicely done! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw-1010-androgyny-day-one#post-1852574 Wed, 11 Oct 2017 21:16:24 +0000 Anonymous 1852574@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Hmmm. Interesting points about closed necklines and body/face shape.<br /> I don't think I'm as angular as you are, LaPed, but I still prefer a looser neckline. I might do an outfit lab about it.</p> <p>I actually think you'd look really good with the neck buttoned up! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw-1010-androgyny-day-one#post-1852570 Wed, 11 Oct 2017 21:01:01 +0000 The Cat 1852570@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Personally, I prefer a tomboy style with more feminine details. However, I think you are SO right in your comments about harmonizing necklines with chin lines and shoulder lines! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw-1010-androgyny-day-one#post-1852549 Wed, 11 Oct 2017 19:30:52 +0000 Angie 1852549@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Very Tomboy. Did you feel fab in the look? </p> <p>I like your wavy pixie. And can absolutely understand your neckine preferences. Makes sense. I have a very long neck, narrow shoulders, high cheeks and a pointy chin - I LOVE to wear high necklines. The higher the better. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw-1010-androgyny-day-one#post-1852546 Wed, 11 Oct 2017 19:18:17 +0000 Anonymous 1852546@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I seriously wouldn't have thought given my tilt towards whimsy and pretty, that I'd dig androgynous but I do! You look really enviably effortlessly stylish and cool. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw-1010-androgyny-day-one#post-1852541 Wed, 11 Oct 2017 19:02:32 +0000 LaPed 1852541@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Oh, I love the J Crew rugby shirts -- I've been debating getting one all season. I *really* do not need more shirts, though...&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw-1010-androgyny-day-one#post-1852539 Wed, 11 Oct 2017 18:52:59 +0000 Emily K 1852539@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Effortless androgyny! &nbsp;The other day, I was contemplating the rugby shirt at J Crew. &nbsp;I thought, "With this shirt, my 501's, and sneakers (K-swiss), I'd look EXACTLY as I did nearly everyday in high-school and college. &nbsp;Androgynous and timeless, apparently. &nbsp; &nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw-1010-androgyny-day-one#post-1852535 Wed, 11 Oct 2017 18:14:27 +0000 LaPed 1852535@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I tend to avoid doing my buttons all the way up for (I think) face-shape reasons. I always feel like a closed neckline (in my case) accentuates squareness, where as a bit more of a V at the neckline lengthens the face and echoes the shape of my chin. DH, on the other hand, has a naturally long and narrow face, and looks much better in a crew neck than a v-neck. I don't think it's just because he's male because I know some guys who look very snazzy in v-necks or with a button left undone...</p> <p>Actually, it might be a shoulder thing too -- I always feel like a closed neck bulks up the shoulders, while a more open one lightens up the shoulder line. I have proportionally wide shoulders, whereas DH has quite a narrow shoulder line for a guy, so, again, I think he benefits more from a closed neckline than I do.&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw-1010-androgyny-day-one#post-1852534 Wed, 11 Oct 2017 18:12:16 +0000 rachylou 1852534@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>That's pretty good! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw-1010-androgyny-day-one#post-1852531 Wed, 11 Oct 2017 18:09:56 +0000 Style Fan 1852531@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>This look really suits you.&nbsp; Great sense of style.&nbsp; I like your reason for doing challenges.&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw-1010-androgyny-day-one#post-1852527 Wed, 11 Oct 2017 18:04:38 +0000 Anonymous 1852527@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>You look great in these tomboy clothes.<br /> I find that with a female head on top of the outfit, and with collarbone showing, outfits are quite feminine.</p> <p>One of the reasons I don't like doing up my buttons all the way to the top is because it ends up looking more masculine. (Not that there's anything wrong with that. Just an observation.) </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw-1010-androgyny-day-one#post-1852526 Wed, 11 Oct 2017 18:02:32 +0000 cindysmith 1852526@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Wow, I really like it a lot! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw-1010-androgyny-day-one#post-1852523 Wed, 11 Oct 2017 17:55:58 +0000 LaPed 1852523@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Here we go! One of the top reasons I do challenges is to make myself post WIWs .&nbsp;</p> <p>Core items: Levis 501s, Blundstones, Lands End oxford shirt, Taylor Stitch field jacket</p> <p>Accessories: black crossbody and rose sunnies</p> <p>The accessories femme this up just enough for my taste. Begging for a belt, I know; the shirt was just a bit too long to wear untucked with this jacket. I'm going to the thrift store this weekend to see if I can find a black leather belt with silver hardware. If not, I'll probably order one from somewhere.&nbsp; </p> <p></p> <p>Edit: challenge background post here: <a rel="nofollow" href="http://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/planning-an-october-gender-neutral-capsule">http://youlookfab.com/welookfa.....al-capsule</a></p>