https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw---half-an-effort-is-better-than-none Style Advice for Fashion Lovers en-US Sat, 02 May 2026 17:37:58 +0000 http://bbpress.org/?v=1.0.2 q https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/search.php https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw---half-an-effort-is-better-than-none/page/2#post-2129178 Tue, 23 Jun 2020 12:45:52 +0000 RobinF 2129178@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Wow, now I really want one of those skirts! They look great although I agree that I would like the first better with sandals.</p> <p>Sorry you have been down, but I agree with everyone that you don't look it. It is strange times right now for sure and that doesn't help.</p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw---half-an-effort-is-better-than-none/page/2#post-2128968 Mon, 22 Jun 2020 15:02:47 +0000 Helena 2128968@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Janet, I can't add much to the tremendous wisdom you've gotten so I'll just echo that you look absolutely beautiful, you don't *need* makeup, your hair looks terrific! It's been a brutal year. Take so much good and gentle care of yourself and cut yourself a huge amount of slack. It's okay for fashion not to matter for a season (not that anyone looking would be able to tell).</p> <p>Crowd exposure anxiety is real. DS just went out for the first time the other day to a store. This is a teenager and it's been three months. It will be okay. Mask, hand sanitizer, don't be shy to keep as much distance as you need to feel comfortable. It is a leap of faith in many ways, but you and they are clearly being smart, cautious and respectful of everyone's health and well-being xx </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw---half-an-effort-is-better-than-none/page/2#post-2128965 Mon, 22 Jun 2020 14:46:34 +0000 Laurie 2128965@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Janet. Your authenticity is one of your most beautiful features. I agree with all of the lovely advice and sentiments already shared, and your mood lift from outfit #1 to #2 is really apparent, just with the smallest of changes (like those amazing sandals!).</p> <p>&nbsp;I want to add that I think RipSkirt should be paying you a commission! Got my 2nd one yesterday and love it even more than the first. Maybe I should be giving you a commission for giving me a summer of comfort and style?! THANK YOU. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw---half-an-effort-is-better-than-none/page/2#post-2128922 Mon, 22 Jun 2020 12:17:58 +0000 lyn67 2128922@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Snakers to skirts (other than denim or chino-mean structured to knee length) is hard to do for me either! Is the skirt a knit or krepp- it may lay not only on the cut and length but on&nbsp; the fabric, too. Others adviced you so right, sandals-but I would ad especially mules will do better! Then, you always look great and you could never deny your artsy self, either-which I could identify see it right now -with the knoted shirt:-)- so keep up doing&nbsp; a great job in the garden and with that adorable doggie! YLF in your other wiw's posted later, too!&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw---half-an-effort-is-better-than-none/page/2#post-2128898 Mon, 22 Jun 2020 10:59:32 +0000 Mainelady 2128898@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I am so sorry this year has been a beast. I will gently say that I think you are too hard on yourself. You look perfectly pulled together for your outing. The skirt and the shirt are attractive. I like your wavy hair, but I do understand the put it up in a ponytail common sense approach to hair styling. When times feel challenging, we need to adapt and sometimes that means softening our expectations and approaches for how we usually do things. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw---half-an-effort-is-better-than-none/page/2#post-2128896 Mon, 22 Jun 2020 10:54:28 +0000 Gail 2128896@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Great to see another rip skirt outfit. I have that same print and why I haven't thought of pairing it with black I don't know ! It looks lovely on you and I think the pony tail suits you.&nbsp;<br />Glad you're feeling better and more like yourself. 2020 has not been kind to you so far, here's to the second half being much better </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw---half-an-effort-is-better-than-none/page/2#post-2128848 Sun, 21 Jun 2020 23:34:58 +0000 Anonymous 2128848@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Yes to sandals with it- cause June :)<br /> I see no frizz and no disaster! Ditto Anchie and kkards! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw---half-an-effort-is-better-than-none/page/2#post-2128821 Sun, 21 Jun 2020 19:17:41 +0000 kkards 2128821@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>No yoga pants, shoes that aren’t flip flops and no ponytail...in my neighborhood that makes you ready for a black tie affair Lol.<br /> Seriously...just getting dressed in non loungewear is what passes for fashion in my world these days<br /> YLF. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw---half-an-effort-is-better-than-none/page/2#post-2128780 Sun, 21 Jun 2020 14:54:59 +0000 anchie 2128780@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Please give your self some TLC, you deserved it after all that happened this year. You do look great but I hope you feel that too. Some days will be better than others and that is OK.&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw---half-an-effort-is-better-than-none/page/2#post-2128736 Sun, 21 Jun 2020 04:21:57 +0000 slim cat 2128736@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Happy to see another Ripskirt outfit - more polished and more in the right mood!&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw---half-an-effort-is-better-than-none/page/2#post-2128720 Sun, 21 Jun 2020 02:52:21 +0000 Jaime 2128720@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Janet it is has been a horrible year. I can tell you how lovely you look, and that I like your hair and maybe that helps a bit but really it is a time and adjustment issue to your losses. Not that they will go away, but so that they don't take over. For me sunlight and a bit more strenuous than usual exercise helps to some degree (fwiw) . </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw---half-an-effort-is-better-than-none/page/2#post-2128700 Sun, 21 Jun 2020 01:15:36 +0000 Chris987 2128700@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Wow, you have really been dealt a lousy hand (or several of them) this year. :-(. Your fabulous style is not gone, it's just lying low because you are grieving so much. Things will look up at some point..and now that I'm getting ready to post this I see you have posted again with some more positive thoughts and an outfit that seems to feel more "you"...so good to see! Baby steps...:-) </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw---half-an-effort-is-better-than-none/page/2#post-2128691 Sun, 21 Jun 2020 00:43:11 +0000 nuancedream 2128691@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Janet, so glad to hear that you are doing better today. Your Ripskirt outfit is on point, as always. Love the longer hair. I don't see a frizzy disaster, I see soft beautiful waves. Keep them! I too find that working with flowers on my deck offers me the opportunity to be mindful of the beauty around me even though I am a condo dweller in a big city. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw---half-an-effort-is-better-than-none/page/2#post-2128688 Sat, 20 Jun 2020 23:16:02 +0000 avicennia 2128688@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>your latest outfit was lovely. It gives off a calm grounded energy. The color of the skirt brings out the color of your eyes. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw---half-an-effort-is-better-than-none/page/2#post-2128683 Sat, 20 Jun 2020 22:46:27 +0000 Brooklyn 2128683@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Style problems solved! I’m glad things are feeling a better today. YLF. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw---half-an-effort-is-better-than-none/page/2#post-2128679 Sat, 20 Jun 2020 22:05:51 +0000 Anonymous 2128679@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Yes - you’re looking more yourself today - glad to hear it was better all ‘round . </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw---half-an-effort-is-better-than-none/page/2#post-2128676 Sat, 20 Jun 2020 21:39:08 +0000 Anonymous 2128676@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Hooray for pony tails, pets, and plants, they are saving our sanity! &nbsp;:). I know I'd be bonkers right now if I didn't have my gardens to dig around in and my boy Mickey to sit on my lap. &nbsp;And yes, I bow to Queen Ripskirt! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw---half-an-effort-is-better-than-none/page/2#post-2128660 Sat, 20 Jun 2020 20:11:08 +0000 Angie 2128660@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>What<b> Suz,</b> said :)</p> <p><b>Janet</b>,<b></b> if you lived closer, I'd be sending you home cooked healthy food and walking the doggies with you.&nbsp;You look GREAT <b></b>-<b></b> super hip&nbsp;with&nbsp;the&nbsp;sandals!&nbsp;<b>-</b>&nbsp;and Sunny has a very good life! What a sweetheart.&nbsp;</p> <p>I also, hereby crown you Queen Ripskirt..... </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw---half-an-effort-is-better-than-none#post-2128657 Sat, 20 Jun 2020 19:45:41 +0000 Suz 2128657@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p><b>There you go!!!&nbsp;</b></p> <p><b>SO</b> much more "you" with just a few tiny switches. Really glad you are doing a bit better today. It is like that just now -- deep plunges and then surfacing a bit, some reprieve...and you are right, getting light, exercise, eating reasonably well can all help. I also find the garden offers real respite. And my cat. Love those photos of Sunny and your own garden (and guardian angel). Hang in there.&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw---half-an-effort-is-better-than-none#post-2128643 Sat, 20 Jun 2020 18:20:40 +0000 Janet 2128643@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I’m on my phone now, and a bit overwhelmed after a marathon judging session (which went well and helped me feel a bit more like a productive, contributing member of society), so it’s hard to type individual responses, but I want to reach out and hugs every single one of you. </p> <p>Yesterday felt really dark. Today is better. Still tough but better. I know the drill during times like these, since I’ve been down this road before. But my exercise has fallen off the rails a bit in the last two weeks, and I’ve been eating too much cake and not enough healthy stuff too. Have not gone too heavy on the wine, at least. Eating well and getting daily exercise really helps my mental state, so I need to get back on that pronto. </p> <p>Another Ripskirt outfit for today. Casual and comfortable, but polished and no-fuss, worn for hours of reviewing hundreds of photos for a statewide competition. I am honored to be selected as a judge, so I’m not complaining at all! It’s a big task that requires focus and analysis, but also instinct and sensitivity. I’m good at it, which is really nice to know. Since selling art is not easy right now, perhaps I should be shifting my efforts towards more teaching. Something to ponder.</p> <p>Anyway. Simple black Madewell tee that I have in like five colors, paired with my third Ripskirt, and Arche sandals. I wore a great locally-made mask for the judging (not pictured as it was stashed in my car). Hair pulled back into a ponytail with another slight bang trim this morning — ok, actually a really artless hack on my bangs but the good thing about wavy hair is that it’s hard to tell how badly I cut it. I need to look at those bang trim videos and order some better hair-cutting implements! </p> <p>Bonus pics of happier things so you can see the little things that do make me smile these days: the banana peppers and tomatoes that are growing on our deck (the tomato plant in the photo has at least 16 tomatoes on it, and the little angel figure on it was from my mom’s garden — coincidence??). And Sunny, who seems to be missing her bossy sister Tippi and has not completely adjusted to being queen of the house yet, but she’s certainly practicing! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw---half-an-effort-is-better-than-none#post-2128639 Sat, 20 Jun 2020 18:01:35 +0000 nemosmom 2128639@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Sweet Janet, you have experienced so much loss, in the middle of a really scary pandemic, so it is totally understandable that you would feel down right now. You are grieving not only your best friend, but your beloved fur baby, and your lifestyle in a sense. That you can still smile and get out of bed is huge. I think you look beautiful.</p> <p>Fashion can be good therapy. Maybe playing dress up for a bit would help lift your spirits? </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw---half-an-effort-is-better-than-none#post-2128606 Sat, 20 Jun 2020 16:20:26 +0000 Anonymous 2128606@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Coming back here for two reasons : I wanted to add that your hair actually looks really good this way ! The beachy, relaxed vibe is soft and different and really suits you. But , I know how hard it is when your hair isn't looking the way you want it to. I've had 2 cuts now since salons reopened here and still am hating my hair. &nbsp;Ugh.</p> <p>Second: &nbsp;Angie, Suz, Brooklyn and others have shared such lovely words and thoughts...and I know from my own tough times &nbsp;(shared here on the forum) how helpful it is to read , and reread them. I'm soaking up a bit of their wisdom for myself here &nbsp;Hope today is a better day for you .x0 </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw---half-an-effort-is-better-than-none#post-2128605 Sat, 20 Jun 2020 16:14:01 +0000 Minaminu 2128605@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I think you look very nice in this outfit. I grew up in a hot country, summer is incredibly hot and humid and my hair used to double in volume because of the frizz! To minimize the frizziness, I used to apply some oil to help reduce the volume. Could this be helpful? </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw---half-an-effort-is-better-than-none#post-2128603 Sat, 20 Jun 2020 16:08:46 +0000 slim cat 2128603@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>You look beautiful in natural way - the hair is soft, the outfit is relaxed and pretty. I'm sorry for your loss and suffering - it's a very painful process you are going through.&nbsp;<br />I hope that upcoming event will help you to feel better. Hugs. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw---half-an-effort-is-better-than-none#post-2128583 Sat, 20 Jun 2020 15:01:48 +0000 Anonymous 2128583@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I hope the two ripskirts I ordered look 1/3 as good on me as they do you and Suz!</p> <p>It’s totally OK to just not feel OK.<br /> I understand the grief/lockdown/less to look forward to/isolated blues!<br /> I could sing back up for you. That said,<br /> ****you actually look great here****</p> <p>Loss is just hard.<br /> When January ended with my Mom dying the year took a new tone.</p> <p>I am so sorry about the best friend you lost &amp; Tippi. </p> <p>So many adjustments &amp; stresses happening in the world are as well.</p> <p>I don’t get ‘dressed’ up unless going somewhere either but I think it might be good to try it sometime.</p> <p>My Husband works 6 days a week and for medical reasons, I have been sheltering still, as things open up and taking care of my Dad who’s 71. So really been wearing the saddest of sad items, lol.</p> <p>Maybe getting dressed sometimes just for me or just at home might be a nice change of pace, so I accept the challenge Suz mentioned!<br /> It might brighten a day. And I miss wearing my clothes! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw---half-an-effort-is-better-than-none#post-2128582 Sat, 20 Jun 2020 14:57:52 +0000 Angie 2128582@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>What <b>Brooklyn </b>said. </p> <p>(((HUGS)))</p> <p>Sweet<b> Janet</b>, you <i>always</i> look great, and are innately stylish no matter what outfit you put together. This outfit included! The skirt is KILLER flattering! And your elegance and verve shine through :)</p> <p>You are grieving for precious Tippi, and it's been a REALLY tough year. It's extremely understandable that you're depressed, and have a big hole in your heart on top of everything. We are all sad at some point during the day. It's how things are at the moment. It sucks and is grim. And the only way out is through. One day at a time.....</p> <p>There is camaraderie in sadness. Nurture yourself, and try to be patient. Soak up TLC from Jamie and your other sweet doggies. Try to do something fun each day. Give yourself something to look forward to, as well.&nbsp;</p> <p>I think a trip to the salon could help - if that's possible yet? I LOVE your longer hair! Get a trim, and start showing the fun grey.</p> <p>You are beautiful inside and out. Things will get better. Much love. xo </p> <p><i>ETA: &nbsp;When Rosie and Jasmine were BOTH gone, and we had no doggies at home - I couldn't even type a comment on the forum for a 6 weeks. I was completely silent. You are doing better than me.....</i></p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw---half-an-effort-is-better-than-none#post-2128551 Sat, 20 Jun 2020 11:10:36 +0000 Brooklyn 2128551@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Hey Janet. I’m sorry you are feeling blue. Try to be patient. You only just lost Tippi - on top of other losses and challenges this year. Just try to stay occupied and give yourself some time to recover.<br /> On the outfit. You have a natural style that shines through. The skirt looks great! Personally I always struggle to feel good in sneakers + skirt/dress. I like sneakers with jeans or shorts. But with skirts, not so much. Why is that? Anyway, I would try switching to sandals for a little pick me up. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw---half-an-effort-is-better-than-none#post-2128537 Sat, 20 Jun 2020 05:52:11 +0000 Bijou 2128537@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Janet, it has been a horrendous year for you. I am so sorry to hear that you are feeling down, although understand entirely why you feel that way. I hope you have turned a corner and it is onwards and upwards from here.</p> <p>You look lovely. Your artist’s eye for great pieces and putting things together comes through even when you are making half an effort. I hope tomorrow is a good day. Judging photos and being with other talented artists is likely to be a invigorating experience. </p> <p>Suz has given the best advice. I am increasingly working from home and need to develop a working from home uniform. 2020 has brought many changes and challenges, trying to rise above the waves is a challenge for many of us too. Please hang in there, you are an exceptionally lovely and beautiful person, inside and out. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw---half-an-effort-is-better-than-none#post-2128530 Sat, 20 Jun 2020 03:29:20 +0000 Suz 2128530@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p><b>Janet</b>, I am very similar. COVID put a huge cramp in my style. I wonder if it is partly down to our being artists? I don't know quite what I mean by that...but at home I tend to be extremely practical because I've got a cat in my lap or I'm doing gardening or housework or exercise in between my work hours. My actual clothes are more for public -- from the simplest (doing errands in town) to date night to awards presentations to meetings with friends at pubs or teaching...so anyway, I have really stopped dressing the way I used to dress, too, as a result of this pandemic.&nbsp;</p> <p>Maybe we should have a shared challenge (and anyone else who wanted to join could do so). I don't want to push myself to "dress up" if it feels ridiculous...but maybe the challenge could even involve other things, like trying to find a work-from-home uniform (as Jenn does) that feels somehow a bit more fashionable. Or...I don't know what. I'm not terribly articulate here. Just know I can identify with this and the ripskirt has been a godsend because it kind of fills the need I have.&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw---half-an-effort-is-better-than-none#post-2128519 Sat, 20 Jun 2020 01:43:34 +0000 jasmine 2128519@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I know all too well how depression really does a number on our perception of reality. I haven't read any of the comments, but just wanted to give you my first impression upon looking at the photo you posted: you look great. If I saw you on the street the very last things I would be thinking are "ugh!" or "frizzy disaster."&nbsp; </p>