https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw---accommodating-an-emotional-funk Style Advice for Fashion Lovers en-US Sun, 19 Apr 2026 17:16:06 +0000 http://bbpress.org/?v=1.0.2 q https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/search.php https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw---accommodating-an-emotional-funk/page/2#post-1117942 Thu, 19 Dec 2013 07:17:19 +0000 Scarlet 1117942@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>You look so beautiful. I am glad to hear that you are getting to a better place with being able to appreciate yourself. It's funny sometimes how being able to understand the source of an emotion can give us much more control over it. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw---accommodating-an-emotional-funk/page/2#post-1117810 Thu, 19 Dec 2013 02:34:41 +0000 Anonymous 1117810@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I'm so sorry that this is a hard time of year for you, and that it's still difficult no matter how many years have passed.</p> <p>On a much shallower note, the plum looks great on you and you look lovely --&nbsp;a bit like a glasses-less&nbsp;Tina Fey, actually&nbsp;-- with your hair curly. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw---accommodating-an-emotional-funk/page/2#post-1117805 Thu, 19 Dec 2013 02:29:49 +0000 pil 1117805@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>You look wonderful, Janet, the curly hair is so impish. I hope good memories of your dad help pull you out of your funk. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw---accommodating-an-emotional-funk/page/2#post-1117791 Thu, 19 Dec 2013 02:18:25 +0000 Janet 1117791@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Windchime, I'm so sorry for the loss of your mother. Sending you hugs and good thoughts. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw---accommodating-an-emotional-funk/page/2#post-1117788 Thu, 19 Dec 2013 02:15:14 +0000 Windchime 1117788@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Oh, Janet--I felt for you so much when read this; my Mom passed away two years ago yesterday, and I've been having a rough time this month. It's especially hard at the holidays-- there are so many expectations and memories...<br /> Your comfort outfit is a great idea, and you look beautiful. Good for you to be able to identify the cause of your funk. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw---accommodating-an-emotional-funk/page/2#post-1117740 Thu, 19 Dec 2013 01:14:43 +0000 rachylou 1117740@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>This looks very pulled together and you look super pretty.</p> <p>Things do sneak up on us and grab hold of our thoughts, don't they? </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw---accommodating-an-emotional-funk/page/2#post-1117700 Thu, 19 Dec 2013 00:27:08 +0000 Mochi 1117700@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Awww, sorry you were feeling so bad (while looking so pretty, which didn't help, I know). I still have my dad, and am anxious about his fragile health. Hugs to you, and you are so smart to not only&nbsp;figure this all out, but&nbsp;be kind with yourself. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw---accommodating-an-emotional-funk/page/2#post-1117686 Thu, 19 Dec 2013 00:03:41 +0000 Day Vies 1117686@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Sorry that you're in a funk, but I think it's wonderful that you understand what it's about (missing your Dad). I also think it's important that at times like these it's important to acknowledge your feelings and feel them rather than trying to get over them </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw---accommodating-an-emotional-funk/page/2#post-1117475 Wed, 18 Dec 2013 19:58:20 +0000 citygirldc 1117475@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Janet,</p> <p>I'm not very good with words so I'm just going to tell you that you are not alone. The anniversary of my dad's death was on Thanksgiving so that was hard. On top of that,&nbsp;I struggle with body image on a daily basis and especially&nbsp;during the winter months when it gets even harder (hence not many outfit photos on my part). &nbsp;Luckily, these "down" days are rare&nbsp;and once I start exercising again, I'll feel much better. &nbsp;(BTW, I signed up for the Cherry Blossom 10-miler).</p> <p>If anything, you haven't changed a bit and you look fabulous.&nbsp;</p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw---accommodating-an-emotional-funk/page/2#post-1117466 Wed, 18 Dec 2013 19:29:35 +0000 deb 1117466@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Janet, today will be hard, I am sorry. I love your hair curly, it frames your face so well. And the burgundy looks very good on you. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw---accommodating-an-emotional-funk/page/2#post-1117356 Wed, 18 Dec 2013 17:20:09 +0000 Mo 1117356@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>That sweater color is phenomenal on you! &nbsp;And I love your hair this way. &nbsp;Sorry about your dad. &nbsp;It's been 16 years for me, but I still have dreams that he's around and never left. &nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw---accommodating-an-emotional-funk/page/2#post-1117274 Wed, 18 Dec 2013 15:18:24 +0000 Angie 1117274@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I'm joining the chorus - you look killer casual&nbsp;fabulous in this outfit. I see a stylish lady who is confidant and enjoys fashion. That's an incredible goal to have achieved, and you have done so flawlessly. By-bye bad body image.&nbsp;</p> <p>I know that today will be emotional, Janet. (((HUGS))). We are here for you - and your Pugs too - if you need some TLC. xo </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw---accommodating-an-emotional-funk/page/2#post-1117270 Wed, 18 Dec 2013 15:14:16 +0000 Debbie 1117270@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Janet-You look beautiful and you are on step ahead because you recognize why you are feeling this way. Be kind to yourself. The holidays are hard and at least for me a little more emotionally vulnerable. Big hugs today. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw---accommodating-an-emotional-funk#post-1117221 Wed, 18 Dec 2013 14:16:03 +0000 Lisa 1117221@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>That scarf really lightens up the outfit, and it looks like a fun piece, I like the dots.&nbsp; And that's your hair naturally, what wonderful curls and body you have!&nbsp; You should wear it like that more often! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw---accommodating-an-emotional-funk#post-1117213 Wed, 18 Dec 2013 14:07:53 +0000 Anonymous 1117213@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Janet, you are one wise and beautiful woman! I hope that today isn't too tough for you. At least you realized what was bothering you and you were able to see how you transferred your feelings to body image.&nbsp;</p> <p>You came up with a&nbsp;<i>very</i> flattering solution in this outfit. It's cheeky and fab, and your legs look great! You have the most gorgeous eyes (even more so in person), and I love the way your hair frames them--straight or curly.&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw---accommodating-an-emotional-funk#post-1117205 Wed, 18 Dec 2013 14:00:04 +0000 Janet 1117205@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>MuseumGal, you are so right. It gets less hard, but it's never easy. Some years it doesn't seem to hit hard, and others it does. Losing mom in November five years ago compounded the effect, I think. We had adapted to our holiday traditions, and then, with mom gone, it's been another adjustment, that's been even harder. Quite frankly, I have not felt particularly festive at this time of year since. I know I'm not alone -- this is a lonely, difficult time for so many people -- so I try to focus on all the wonderful people and blessings that are in my life here and now. </p> <p>Thanks for the laugh, Denise! I'm steeling myself for those observations in future doctor visits. My doc and I did have a laugh at my first post-hysterectomy exam -- "Wait, there's nothing there!" </p> <p>Thanks for all the compliments on the outfit -- that scarf is such a happy piece I couldn't resist it. And for the kind words about my hair. I'm enjoying changing it up a bit, and when I visit my stylist next week, I think we're going to keep a lot of the length and punch up the ombre at the ends just a little bit -- it works well with the waves. Marley, I haven't been dressing any differently, but I have been wearing my new floppy berets a lot. They work well with my hair wavy. I think I could lean in the direction of edging up my outfits more to counteract the more romantic feel of the waves. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw---accommodating-an-emotional-funk#post-1117204 Wed, 18 Dec 2013 13:59:33 +0000 Jules 1117204@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>It's so helpful when we can recognize our bad thought&nbsp;patterns and step out of the rut.<br />Love your scarf and&nbsp;its subtle festiveness! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw---accommodating-an-emotional-funk#post-1117191 Wed, 18 Dec 2013 13:44:37 +0000 Claudia 1117191@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Well, you look great in this WIW. You know I really&nbsp;love your hair like this! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw---accommodating-an-emotional-funk#post-1117189 Wed, 18 Dec 2013 13:43:06 +0000 gryffin 1117189@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Janet, I don't think we ever stop missing the people we love who are no longer with us.&nbsp; The pain dulls but never really goes away but neither does the memory of the love and wonderful times.&nbsp; When I am sad, I try and focus on that and do something in happy celebration of those memories.&nbsp; I don't know if that helps but it's comforting to me so I thought FWIW I'd share.&nbsp; PS you look wonderful.&nbsp; Your outfit is like a warm elegant&nbsp;hug.&nbsp; I wished I looked as good when I was down.&nbsp; Big hugs to you and hoping you can find joy and peace in the holidays.&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw---accommodating-an-emotional-funk#post-1117165 Wed, 18 Dec 2013 12:40:07 +0000 Eliza 1117165@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Sorry for your loss and understand how good it can feel to connect the dots.</p> <p>To my eyes,&nbsp;your outfit is a complete funk-buster. &nbsp;Love you in those colors, hair is gorgeous and the scarf is so beautifully done. &nbsp;Looks perfect and effortless simultaneously.</p> <p>Hang in there.&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw---accommodating-an-emotional-funk#post-1117152 Wed, 18 Dec 2013 12:04:33 +0000 krishnidoux 1117152@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Well you pulled through quite nicely! I am so sorry for your Dad. Isn't it difficult to mourn a Dad? I'm with you, and miss mine too.&nbsp;</p> <p>Re: dressing:&nbsp;Janet, I relate so much. I too have discovered that each time I have a "Nothing fits, nothing to wear" day, it's because something is affecting me. Especially deeper things, that seemingly have nothing to do with my current day-to-day life, such as the&nbsp;relationship with my mother, or my son going away, or a hurtful comment someone made etc.<br />Ever since I have realized this, my closet woes have improved tremendously. It's a good idea to do as you did and&nbsp;keep a formula for these occasions.&nbsp;<br />It's as if the subconscious is going to attack the wardrobe first, as if to<i> prevent</i> us from going out and carry on with our distracting daily life, so we can tend to the knot in the soul.&nbsp;<br />You give me an idea. Next time it happens to me, I'll try this: including one action in my day that constructively addresses the issue. And see what happens to my closet woes. Why do I feel this won't be as easy as it looks?</p> <p></p> <p>BTW: LOVE your curly hair! It frames your face so nicely!&nbsp;</p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw---accommodating-an-emotional-funk#post-1117150 Wed, 18 Dec 2013 11:36:45 +0000 TraceyLiz65 1117150@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>The scarf and bookending the shoes did a great job of lightening up the dark top. I too am in need of a cut and have to say I love the curly you! I only had my father for 13 years and amazed at his legacy to me. He took me on weekly walks and used the time to discuss how to love myself and be my own best friend. So glad you recognized what was behind you picking at yourself, cause you are Fabulous! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw---accommodating-an-emotional-funk#post-1117148 Wed, 18 Dec 2013 10:45:15 +0000 Anonymous 1117148@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>You look great in your comfy outfit, and such insight.</p> <p>Take care. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw---accommodating-an-emotional-funk#post-1117130 Wed, 18 Dec 2013 08:30:06 +0000 Greyscale 1117130@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I hear you on the funk - but despite the sadness you have such a nice smile in these photos - your eyes are really expressive.&nbsp;</p> <p>Sweaters and the right jeans are definitely my comfort outfit too. And your outfit looks great - fun, put-together, and flattering. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw---accommodating-an-emotional-funk#post-1117127 Wed, 18 Dec 2013 08:02:26 +0000 Jeanie 1117127@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Janet, you look so good in this combo and I love your curly hair. &nbsp;&nbsp;Hopefully the silvery glimmer in the scarf and shoes boosted your mood a bit. &nbsp;Hugs to you :).</p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw---accommodating-an-emotional-funk#post-1117094 Wed, 18 Dec 2013 06:23:35 +0000 Anonymous 1117094@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Very perceptive. Wishing you strength tomorrow. BTW scarf + cons = cool (the circle patterns mirror each other as Amy K pointed out) </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw---accommodating-an-emotional-funk#post-1117087 Wed, 18 Dec 2013 06:03:02 +0000 minimalist 1117087@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Sigh. What insight, Janet! And to come out looking so nice.</p> <p>Last week I spent too much time being hard on myself for not figuring out I was out of sorts because of an anniversary. This season is full of those days, some more distant than others. Your comfort clothing is a more nurturing solution than is the comfort food I've been trying!</p> <p>I really like the nuanced bookending of scarf and shoes not just in the same colors but with similar motifs. That must be grad-level YLFing. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw---accommodating-an-emotional-funk#post-1117082 Wed, 18 Dec 2013 05:56:26 +0000 Marley 1117082@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Chuckling about Denise's comment - because I heard the same thing the last time I saw my OB/GYN too!&nbsp; Yes - its humbling.</p> <p>I lost my Dad 4 years ago the end of last month (November) and so this time of year always has an underlying sense of loss for me, that I know will not ever go away - but I'm learning to just accept it as part of the journey of my life - even though, everyday I wish his death was just a bad dream.&nbsp; It's hard!</p> <p>I really like your hair - and I was one of those who thought that the straight was better for your style, than the curly - but to me, this is working!&nbsp; It gives you a softness in your features that I hadn't noticed before.&nbsp; Have you been dressing any differently when you let your hair go curly like this? </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw---accommodating-an-emotional-funk#post-1117071 Wed, 18 Dec 2013 05:41:40 +0000 CocoLion 1117071@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>You look chic and pretty. &nbsp;I love that color on you. &nbsp;It's great to have a FFBO for these kinds of days. &nbsp;The holidays are stressful, let's not kid ourselves. &nbsp;I think I'm going to copy this FFBO, maybe with a change in footwear, for my outfit tomorrow. &nbsp;I have a big oversized sweater that will feel great. &nbsp;I have an OB GYN appointment tomorrow and it's always humbling to sit in that chair, even more so now when I have to listen to them comment on my aging body parts. &nbsp;("Oh! &nbsp;there's no estrogen in here!" is what she said last time -- she was training a new practitioner.) &nbsp;Sorry to sidetrack but hope I made you laugh. &nbsp; Anyway that story always makes my boyfriend laugh. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw---accommodating-an-emotional-funk#post-1117061 Wed, 18 Dec 2013 05:27:32 +0000 Caro in Oz 1117061@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Great insights Janet&nbsp;you did really well to connect&nbsp;to the real pain. It's never easy.</p> <p>You look lovely &amp; I'm glad you are a scarf magnet because&nbsp;it looks fantastic. </p>