https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw%e2%80%a6basic-and-middle-aged Style Advice for Fashion Lovers en-US Mon, 27 Apr 2026 15:52:35 +0000 http://bbpress.org/?v=1.0.2 q https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/search.php https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw%e2%80%a6basic-and-middle-aged/page/2#post-2294208 Sun, 04 Dec 2022 08:55:58 +0000 Sally 2294208@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>That is a stylish look for walking.&nbsp; I am not sure about what constitutes middle age or old age, and I've given up worrying about it.&nbsp; I just try to be the best I can be.&nbsp; I went on school camp last week and some of us oldies were fitter than the kids.&nbsp; &nbsp;I lost my best friend to bowel cancer and she was only 41, so no age is guaranteed.&nbsp; I am just grateful for each day to be alive, and able to do the things I love doing.&nbsp; &nbsp;&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw%e2%80%a6basic-and-middle-aged/page/2#post-2294180 Sun, 04 Dec 2022 03:47:00 +0000 Janet 2294180@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Jenni, absolutely. I lost a very dear friend to breast cancer almost three years ago, and she was only 53. I think of her all the time and am thankful for every day I have. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw%e2%80%a6basic-and-middle-aged/page/2#post-2294173 Sun, 04 Dec 2022 02:21:08 +0000 rachylou 2294173@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Ok, but let’s be clear: you aren’t *allowed* to sit in your rocker all day until at least 80. I mean, by the time I’m up for retirement, I’m sure the retirement age will be 75. If I can’t sit down, no one can sit down, mwhaha! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw%e2%80%a6basic-and-middle-aged/page/2#post-2294164 Sun, 04 Dec 2022 01:49:14 +0000 Jaime 2294164@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Cheers Suz! Beautifully said!<br />Although I seem to have missed some of these pronouncements on what is acceptable, regardless, I am not giving up my burgundy quilted jacket and feel inspired to wear it today. I am not "feeling" skinnies right now at this particular moment, but that might change at any time. Also I don't have the weather conditions that make them so appealing.<br />You look fab Carla, something that certainly doesn't universally hold true of pontificating pre-middle age bloggers of all sorts. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw%e2%80%a6basic-and-middle-aged/page/2#post-2294157 Sun, 04 Dec 2022 01:22:23 +0000 Dee 2294157@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Touché Suz </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw%e2%80%a6basic-and-middle-aged/page/2#post-2294155 Sun, 04 Dec 2022 01:16:27 +0000 Suz 2294155@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>On the far horizons of middle age, going boldly in our burgundy coats and our stompy boots where millenial influencers and 'grammers fear to tread, we are the new generation of style setters in our sixties -- in the youth of old age or the wise age of youth, we are poised to take the fashion world by storm or perhaps by stealth, considering few bother to look at look at us any more. :)&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw%e2%80%a6basic-and-middle-aged/page/2#post-2294152 Sun, 04 Dec 2022 01:02:21 +0000 JAileen 2294152@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Oh Carla, my mother is 98 and her mother lived to 97, so it might mean something, but at the very least I&nbsp;know I’m not middle aged anymore.<div><br /></div><div>I do remember Angie saying a long time ago that colors are not in or out of style. &nbsp;I think your coat is fab-u-lous! &nbsp;</div><div><br /></div><div>I think the solution is to avoid Instagram, and the other sites. &nbsp;</div> </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw%e2%80%a6basic-and-middle-aged/page/2#post-2294132 Sat, 03 Dec 2022 22:37:20 +0000 Dee 2294132@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Hahaha Runcarla, so based on your son’s estimates, I guess we’re really well past the “half way” point now. Yikes!! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw%e2%80%a6basic-and-middle-aged/page/2#post-2294130 Sat, 03 Dec 2022 22:28:39 +0000 Carla 2294130@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Oh, Dee! &nbsp;When I turned 40, and DS#1 was 10 yo, he made a comment about it being “half way”. &nbsp;I asked him: “Half way to what?” His answer was: “Half way to dead.” &nbsp;</p> <p><div><br /></div><div>Poor kid hasn’t been able to live that one down… </p> <p>@ Jenni - let’s be ‘poster children’ for what the 60’s can be! &nbsp;</p> </div> </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw%e2%80%a6basic-and-middle-aged/page/2#post-2294125 Sat, 03 Dec 2022 21:50:26 +0000 Jenni NZ 2294125@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>That’s cool Janet not to want to claim old. I’m not sure I am claiming it, I just think if we assume the average life span is in the 80s somewhere then 60 is almost 3/4 of the way there rather than in the “middle” of it. And given my job I know the age of every person I see, as it is on the screen in front of me. And they vary so hugely in how old they both look and seem, at those ages I can see they are. However in the end biology seems to catch up with them, and whatever diseases or even simple skin changes are common at similar ages seem to start happening no matter how young they “look” for their real age.<br /> And I feel blessed to still be alive even though some people live to 100 or beyond, because plenty of people die younger than what I am now. We just lost a local colleague at age 51 from triple negative breast cancer so it is on my mind. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw%e2%80%a6basic-and-middle-aged/page/2#post-2294123 Sat, 03 Dec 2022 21:33:33 +0000 Helena 2294123@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>DEE, I almost spat out my tea lol!!! That is hilarious. My offspring would probably say the same thing hahahaha ... Probably not as innocently, too ha!</p> <p>CG, attention ... To the fact we have heads?? *Facepalm* </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw%e2%80%a6basic-and-middle-aged/page/2#post-2294115 Sat, 03 Dec 2022 20:46:54 +0000 Cardiff girl 2294115@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Oh honestly!l read some of the comments some bloggers say &nbsp;with a very big pinch of salt.My latest fav comment is that women over 50 should not wear hats because it will look attention seeking….what!?<br />I shall continue to wear hats as and when l see fit and you should continue to do you ,you look fab as always.</p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw%e2%80%a6basic-and-middle-aged/page/2#post-2294112 Sat, 03 Dec 2022 20:36:47 +0000 Janet 2294112@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Jenni, I’m just a few years younger than you are, and I’m claiming “middle-aged” for as long as I feel it’s applicable! In some ways I feel younger now than I did when I was in my 30s…as long as I don’t look in the mirror. I refuse to call myself old until I *feel* old! And this is not to say that old is an insult, it’s just that I can’t relate to it at this point in my life, even though I know that to a 25yo, I’m definitely “old.” LOL it’s all in the eye of the beholder, isn’t it? </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw%e2%80%a6basic-and-middle-aged/page/2#post-2294111 Sat, 03 Dec 2022 20:29:04 +0000 Jenni NZ 2294111@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Hi all. Carla I feel that as you and I are the same age (61/62?) that it is OK for me to say that we are now older than middle age?<br /> Though I remember in my youth group when I was about 16 the leader asked all us teenagers when someone was middle aged and we all chorused “40!”- and I’ll never forget him going “Oh no, not 40!” I suspect he was in his early 40s at the time!<br /> I am sure I was unintentionally ageist when say in my 30s so I do try not to get offended by it. Occasionally it can be hurtful of course depending on the context. I love the pic of you crossing the road! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw%e2%80%a6basic-and-middle-aged#post-2294107 Sat, 03 Dec 2022 20:12:06 +0000 Dee 2294107@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I can remember one time when one of my colleagues asked about whether or not what she was wearing was maybe a bit &nbsp;“too young” for her, and one of younger guys there answered back sincerely saying that “No, it doesn’t make you look young” &nbsp;LOL<br />And we were in our 30’s at the time.&nbsp;<br />I think being stylish is as Angie said, happily confident with what you wear no matter the trends. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw%e2%80%a6basic-and-middle-aged#post-2294099 Sat, 03 Dec 2022 18:34:21 +0000 Sal 2294099@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Looking great Carla! </p> <p>Fit, active , modern., classic, practical, polished.</p> <p>Interesting musings too. I enjoy fashion content on TikTok, Instagram and YouTube. It’s my relaxing time. I try and take from it what suits me. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw%e2%80%a6basic-and-middle-aged#post-2294096 Sat, 03 Dec 2022 18:19:17 +0000 Janet 2294096@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I’ll chime in with one more observation about trendiness and younger such grammers. Sometimes they help me pinpoint why something is feeling a bit off for me. </p> <p>Case in point. I have a pair of metallic almond toe booties that are comfortable but I’ve been passing over for the past few years. After seeing some IG discussion of trends in boots (and ignoring it as it regard some of my boots that I love and have no intention of letting go), I realized that *for me* at this moment in time, the almond toes feel sort of neither-here-nor-there. I’d rather go pointy toe (or maybe square if I’m going to add one trendy pair) or full on lug sole at this point. Some of my boots are decidedly not super trendy at this point, but they are true to my style. Im letting the almond toe metallic boots go because they don’t feel current OR like me anymore. </p> <p>So in that way, the young IG influencers can be helpful sometimes. I just pick and choose what resonates with me. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw%e2%80%a6basic-and-middle-aged#post-2294095 Sat, 03 Dec 2022 17:56:50 +0000 Suz 2294095@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Interesting, <b>Carla</b>. It's great when conversations like this can catalyze new insights! Seems to have worked that way for a number of people. And I think those. who enjoy following the younger 'grammers probably have a similar experience when they see a new styling suggestion or trend developing and can imagine adapting it to their personal style. And the champion thrifters find it in those conversations, too -- finding what has "come around" again before it becomes mainstream. And so on.&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw%e2%80%a6basic-and-middle-aged#post-2294094 Sat, 03 Dec 2022 17:55:28 +0000 Lesley 2294094@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>You look fab! The best personal style is wearing all our favorite stuff regardless of what the style makers are saying. I actually appreciate that 'grammer's perspective because she's in-the-know but I don't even love her aesthetic, so, whatevs!&nbsp;</p> <p>Meanwhile, I know the feeling though, and I think it cuts when it's about an item that you don't feel super sure about. I did have a tee with shoulder cutouts from a while ago, and in recent years I will admit that I didn't love it as much but I would trot it out every now and then. I saw recently on a small Facebook group for women over 40 that someone was complaining about moving to Long Island and not knowing what to wear because all the women were wearing shoulder cutout shirts and that was not her thing, and people were chiming in, "are they still wearing those down there?" and I am from Staten Island so I definitely have the residual feeling of being from Flashytown compared to everyone around me, and it was like, oh, ouch, right, that's probably out of date, huh? It just made me laugh though... </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw%e2%80%a6basic-and-middle-aged#post-2294092 Sat, 03 Dec 2022 17:40:19 +0000 Helena 2294092@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Not to belabour the point but I have a few CH approved pieces and I actually sometimes swap out to make sure something a little more middle aged is in the mix as that's how I want to look - modern middle aged, not 30 something<br /> urban cool girl (but I still want to know what that is so I can incorporate a *touch* of it!) So it can cut both ways anyways you look awesome Carla, that's the main bit </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw%e2%80%a6basic-and-middle-aged#post-2294087 Sat, 03 Dec 2022 16:58:55 +0000 Carla 2294087@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>@LJP - I think you hit the nail on the head regarding the target audience. &nbsp;Going through pretty much all the posts/stories, it seems to be 20-30 yo and possibly young mums and families.</p> <p> <div><br /></div><div>@CarolS - the term ‘middle-age’ doesn’t bother me one whit (I’m a proud card carrying senior - &nbsp;but the dismissive tone rankles. I’m not going to be a follower, so time will heal my hurt sartorial feelings. </p> <p> </div><div>Update: this experience has actually been a catalyst for me to think about how cutting edge (or not) my style is or will be going forward. &nbsp;I’ve acknowledged being a late adopter of trends, and a mostly classic dresser. &nbsp;I&nbsp;<i>want&nbsp;</i>just enough modernity in my outfits to present as being engaged. &nbsp;That might be 2 or 3 trendy items a year - so maybe 1/10th my closet overall. &nbsp;I’m way more interested in styling what I have in new ways &nbsp;(and maximizing wears) than acquiring a new look by purchasing all new items. &nbsp;</div> </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw%e2%80%a6basic-and-middle-aged#post-2294085 Sat, 03 Dec 2022 16:04:18 +0000 LJP 2294085@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I think your outfit is absolutely perfect for your day - and I agree that anyone who can walk 10km at our age without knee ,back, whatever issues has more going for them than anyone &nbsp; I'm envious! &nbsp;Not to further the discussion about Charly Goss, who I happen to really &nbsp;enjoy (she makes me laugh ) &nbsp;but I feel pretty good in suggesting neither you nor I are her target audiences &nbsp;anyways. &nbsp;She's not even 35, and talks fashion and trends to a younger &nbsp;audience who is looking to be current and even ahead of the curve with their purchases. For example, if you are looking to buy a new puffer today, this is what is more modern etc . &nbsp;<br />Anyways, I know we differ in interpretation and opinion here but I still think you look great here - classically polished and considered. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw%e2%80%a6basic-and-middle-aged#post-2294084 Sat, 03 Dec 2022 15:58:57 +0000 Theodora 2294084@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>CarolS- EXACTLY! &nbsp;I have earned my 63 years, and I am proud to be “Old”. &nbsp;Ageism seems to be all to acceptable to some who would call out every other type of prejudice.</p> <p>I just smile, because I am happy to have gotten here, and even happier not to be so worried about what is “in” or “out” anymore. &nbsp;That train is an exhausting one to be on. &nbsp;I actually love being older, and my take on it is that we are so much truer to ourselves at this point of our lives. &nbsp;Who cares if we love burgundy coats? &nbsp;Carpe Diem! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw%e2%80%a6basic-and-middle-aged#post-2294083 Sat, 03 Dec 2022 15:54:05 +0000 Peri 2294083@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>You look great!</p> <p>And ever since Synne's recent post about finding your "why", and me realizing my why is shame based and mostly about trying to not be wrong, I've resolved to work hard on not caring what any self proclaimed style setters spout opinions about. Not there yet, but it was a good epiphany to know that having not being wrong as my goal was eternally destined to fail when "right" keeps changing. And that 99% of that change is based on companies trying to get our money or 'grammers trying to get attention.&nbsp;</p> <p>I will now work on being Angie's "confidently and happily unaffected." And that's what I see in your outfit.&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw%e2%80%a6basic-and-middle-aged#post-2294081 Sat, 03 Dec 2022 15:20:37 +0000 CarolS 2294081@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>My first thought at that 'grammer's comment was that it is only a problem if you see being identified with "middle age" as insulting or derogatory (despite that she seems to have&nbsp;used it in a derogatory way). If the colour had been defined as the hallmark of youth, would we have taken it differently? It's a bit like being called a b**ch. Insult or badge of honour that says I am not afraid to speak up? ;-)</p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw%e2%80%a6basic-and-middle-aged#post-2294076 Sat, 03 Dec 2022 15:09:38 +0000 Angie 2294076@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Modern Classic FABNESS, is what I see, <b>Carla. </b>The cable knit jumper is yummy&nbsp;with your&nbsp;hair.<b></b><b></b><b>&nbsp;</b>Please rock on!</p> <p>What<b> Suz</b> said. Blundstones are all the rage with Gen Z, btw! &nbsp;Docs even more so. But Docs are an iconic classic for all generations. It continues to be high status footwear. The Seattle store had people queueing outside it last week. All ages buying them. From kids to people many decades older. Including my 54 year old hubs.&nbsp;</p> <p>Personally, I find it extremely stylish to be confidently and happily unaffected. All sorts of opinions floating around the style world <i>forever </i>about how wearing brights does not look chic. I feel chic wearing them! Hubs whose opinion I hold in high regard loves me in brights too. It's authentic. That's all that matters. As long as you love it - wear your burgundy puffer with pride!&nbsp;</p> </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw%e2%80%a6basic-and-middle-aged#post-2294073 Sat, 03 Dec 2022 14:58:16 +0000 Dee 2294073@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I kind of chuckled the other day when I saw quite a few burgundy/wine coloured puffers on some older women, and there’s me in my plum coloured puffer too, and I thought that’s my tribe out there. It’s no different than all the youngins wearing their short black or beige puffers. </p> <p>To me this plum colour looks so much better on me and yes, these sorts of opinions can kind of spoil our love of something but as <b>j</b><b>ussie</b>&nbsp;mentioned, I don’t really care for their choice of options either.<br />It is interesting to see what the trendsetters are thinking but I’m still going to wear what suits me best.</p> <p>BTW, your outfit is just perfect for rambling by the river on a cold weather day. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw%e2%80%a6basic-and-middle-aged#post-2294069 Sat, 03 Dec 2022 14:43:17 +0000 Jenn 2294069@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I got my first pair of DarnToughs recently and they're usually the first socks I pull out of the drawer. Love them.</p> <p>Tangentially related, I was having a discussion about gentrification with my 21-year-old recently and he explained, "First wave gentrification happens when young artist types like me start moving in and make a place cool, and the second wave is when people like you want to be in the cool place and drive up all the prices." I told him I thought I was <i>also</i> cool, and he said (kindly enough), "I don't disagree, but&nbsp;<i>demographically&nbsp;</i>you're uncool."</p> <p>We can't escape our demographics, I guess, so bring on the basic.&nbsp;I've gotta admit. I love a little basic on a chilly autumn day anyway. Hand me a pumpkin spice latte. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw%e2%80%a6basic-and-middle-aged#post-2294067 Sat, 03 Dec 2022 14:34:46 +0000 kkards 2294067@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Lol…as someone who is well, not middle aged any more, but not ready to say I’m old…i feel free wear what ever i d*mn well want! And to enjoy and laugh at what ever the “kids” want to say about it…</p> <p>Carla, you look great! And anyone who walks a 10K on a random Friday gets to wear what ever they want!</p> <p>And this outfit is what everyone &nbsp;millennial in my city wears everyday…or its what they would wear if they were ever trendy enough to have worn Blundstone’s, but sub in Sorel’s or Steve Madden boots, or Nike’s…well you get the idea.&nbsp;</p> <p>&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw%e2%80%a6basic-and-middle-aged#post-2294066 Sat, 03 Dec 2022 14:27:06 +0000 Irina 2294066@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Your outfit looks good to me, Carla.<br />I seriously don’t understand how a garment can be called outdated. Styling of an outfit can be dated.<br />I still see a lot of skinny jeans on the streets. I also continue to see them being offered in retail, last time I saw it in COS a week ago. Worn with boots like you wear them, also tucked into combat or lug sole boots.&nbsp;<div>The silhouette is different of course but the jeans are the same.&nbsp;</div><div><br /></div> </p>