https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/which-works-betterand-why Style Advice for Fashion Lovers en-US Sun, 05 Apr 2026 17:32:57 +0000 http://bbpress.org/?v=1.0.2 q https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/search.php https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/which-works-betterand-why/page/4#post-1154135 Fri, 31 Jan 2014 14:02:20 +0000 ManidipaM 1154135@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>V late to this discussion. But been wanting to say all day that I think #2 is more 'everyday Suz'. More contemporary silhouette vs conventional figure flattery, not as hourglass as the first which is also more dressy. I am tempted to go so far as to call #1 'girly' with more of the prince about #2... although I surprise myself there because the latter feels more Kibbe natural where the lovely blue and the shimmer and sheer are far more princely? Also, the second silhouette and proportions look just a tad edgier to me simply because they defy conventional figure flattery... and it's yet very flattering, just not aiming to showcase the hourglass as many figure flattery rules seem to aim for. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/which-works-betterand-why/page/4#post-1153973 Fri, 31 Jan 2014 04:59:36 +0000 Anonymous 1153973@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Also popping back to say that #3 is lovely. Suz, I have a pair of boots with straps like you are wearing in #1, because I can tighten the straps to fit my leg more tightly. I hope to find a pair that fit without straps...someday ...<br /> This thread has been full of food for thought. Now I feel armed and better able to respond to SAs and friends who are convinced that I must buy something that they say looks fantastic on me when I don't feel it's "me". I don't mean something new that I like but need to get used to, but something that just isn't my style like jeans with blingy back pockets.<br /> Thank you for starting this discussion. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/which-works-betterand-why/page/4#post-1153954 Fri, 31 Jan 2014 04:30:58 +0000 Jaime 1153954@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>A lot has happened since I commented on this thread! I really want to reread but am popping on just to say I love the newly unveiled #3 as much&nbsp;I thought I would. But there is something about #2 that does read very Suz to me. Maybe it is more that I associate that look with more cerebral pursuits? (A prejudice that I want to immediately shoot down once it makes its way to my conscious mind.) </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/which-works-betterand-why/page/4#post-1153871 Fri, 31 Jan 2014 02:39:48 +0000 Suz 1153871@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>LOL, Jeanne.&nbsp;</p> <p>Sveta, I think you are responding as Angie did more to the details of the items, and in that sense I think #1 might be more "me." But no - it is the silhouette that is different -- it is less a strong vertical line in #1 (and 3) because of the flared skirt. And maybe also the sheer hose - I have to think on that some more.&nbsp;</p> <p>But I appreciate all opinions here. It has been very helpful. I'm not ruling out this silhouette or these items, either -- not at all! It's still "me." I just think I need to be looking in general towards a fairly vertical line. I think it is one reason the tube skirts work so well on me.&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/which-works-betterand-why/page/4#post-1153781 Fri, 31 Jan 2014 01:01:59 +0000 Jjsloane 1153781@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I only just read Sveta's last comment and I voted for 2, but if I could have #1 without the scarf I might have (because there is sparkle and the blue is gorgeous on you)... NO. I will be strong I don't care for the sheer hose in 1, I love the combo in 2. I think I failed though since 1 is probably more you and 2 is more me? I give up. Can I have an Angie snack please?&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/which-works-betterand-why/page/4#post-1153770 Fri, 31 Jan 2014 00:54:49 +0000 Sveta 1153770@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I did not have time to read all comments but I prefer #1 sans the scarf (both with booties and boots).<br />Honestly I am really surprised that you feel more yourself in #2. For me #1 (or 3) is similar to fluid trousers and fluid top outfits which are very much your style.<br />I may completely lost my sense of style on my bujsiness trip but for the life of me I don't see more horisontal lines in #1 compared to #2! There is low contrast between the top and the skirt and also the fluid (read not straight) hem on the sweater looks less horisontal than the grey sweater in #2. <br />Maybe you feel that this particular sweatshirt is dressier because of the sequins while grey sweater is more casual (of course does not matter how you dice and slice it the black skirt IS more dressier than the denim skirt).<br />Also from the point of comfort I would think that flared skirt is more comfortable <br />than the straight skirt, no? <br />On the other hand it may be that denim skirts were never my thing and I am biased here...:-) </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/which-works-betterand-why/page/3#post-1153701 Thu, 30 Jan 2014 23:27:53 +0000 Anonymous 1153701@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I'm with you on covering up the neck....especially with my short hair! </p> <p>Wow! I just read the comments, very very interesting perceptions. Thanks for letting us learn along with you. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/which-works-betterand-why/page/3#post-1153554 Thu, 30 Jan 2014 20:01:59 +0000 nancylee 1153554@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Weighing in very late to cast my vote for #2. &nbsp;No question in my mind that&nbsp;this is the "Suz look." &nbsp;I think it has a lot to do with proportion (as Gryffin said) and the more gradual transitions between the pieces. &nbsp;#1 is perfectly fine, but it just doesn't seem like a natural fit for you. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/which-works-betterand-why/page/3#post-1153493 Thu, 30 Jan 2014 19:11:56 +0000 rae 1153493@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Very late to this, but I like 1 sans scarf the best. Looks more clean and more you somehow. I do also really like the coloring of 2. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/which-works-betterand-why/page/3#post-1153487 Thu, 30 Jan 2014 19:03:14 +0000 Suz 1153487@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Yup - that is true, Una. I only pull out the black gored skirt at specific times. Because it is a much more girly look than I usually enjoy.&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/which-works-betterand-why/page/3#post-1153479 Thu, 30 Jan 2014 19:00:44 +0000 catgirl 1153479@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>You know, another undefinable and variable element is mood. On the rare days when I feel like wearing something girly, I am much more likely to own the look than when I am forced into the same look when I'm not in the mood. KWIM? </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/which-works-betterand-why/page/3#post-1153444 Thu, 30 Jan 2014 18:32:21 +0000 Angie 1153444@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Ah. I get it. Both outfits fulfill a purpose and look fab -&nbsp;and it's fun to change things up - to your point. xo </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/which-works-betterand-why/page/3#post-1153319 Thu, 30 Jan 2014 17:02:47 +0000 Suz 1153319@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Angie, thank you so much for chiming back in!&nbsp;</p> <p>I think we're looking at different elements. You are, of course, precisely right about each individual part of outfit 2. So in all those ways, you're right -- it's a less "me" outfit.&nbsp;</p> <p>I think I was&nbsp;considering it more in broader terms -- looking primarily at line, and I liked the silhouette of #2 for me better than the silhouette of #1 and #3 -- not that I intend to stop wearing that silhouette, understand -- I love having a fun change up!</p> <p>I&nbsp; just think that the predominantly vertical&nbsp;lines, wider at top, narrower at bottom,&nbsp;of #2 flatter me more -- and that what various people said about two many horizontal lines in #1 was correct. I think I want to aim at more vertical and possibly diagonal lines. </p> <p>Again, I won't be foregoing my horizontal striped sweaters, either -- I love them and do think they look good! It's more a point about silhouette or something. I think I like myself a lot in waist surrendering looks (and don't at all mind the blockiness that some mentioned about the sweater).&nbsp;</p> <p>This has been so interesting to me, so thank you Angie, and thank you all, for indulging the process. It has been very helpful.&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/which-works-betterand-why/page/3#post-1153316 Thu, 30 Jan 2014 17:02:05 +0000 Alassë 1153316@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Posting first, then I'll read responses. #2, because I like #1 &amp; #3. I skew ladylike/feminine, and those come off more that way to my eye. #2 seems more like you, Urban Prince. Slightly oversized fit, modern styling of skirt with longer sweater, grays instead of black. </p> <p>After reading: The scarf in #1&nbsp;is ALGO for your style. #3 is simple, but too "pretty" for your style, I think, because of the flared skirt. #1 also looks too broken up with the sheer black tights, scarf, sparkles, black skirt, &amp; black boots. The colors in #2 go slightly better on you, being your especial neutrals (just the lighting, as I know navy is one of yours as well). Gryffin analyzed the proportions&nbsp;very well, too</p> <p>Una, wow. "My old clueless self was nonetheless authentic - I liked what I liked and didn't pay attention to trends." I really enjoyed reading your "threadjacking.".I'm coming back to a bit of that myself (maxi skirt, whimsical-ness).&nbsp;</p> <p>And E: "I feel completely, effortlessly myself." That's the feeling I want to have when dressing in one of my uniforms. Held against that standard, I'm not sure that a lot of my "pretty good" outfits have been cutting it. And that just gave me an idea how to tweak my current outfit to an ideal one, so thank you....</p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/which-works-betterand-why/page/3#post-1153288 Thu, 30 Jan 2014 16:48:29 +0000 Angie 1153288@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>(Pardon me not reading the comments - I am once again short of time).&nbsp;</p> <p>Suz, #3 is YOU most of all to my eye (now sans the scarf, which is how you wore it initially if I understood correctly). It&nbsp;comes as a surprise that you feel that #2 is&nbsp;most suited to you. It's a denim skirt - which I hardly see you wear. Arty patterned tights - which are not minimal - but rather whimsical.&nbsp;And a jumper that you are not fond of because it's itchy. I mentioned that #2 was a departure from your usual&nbsp;style when you first posted it actually.&nbsp;&nbsp;So for FWIW, that's why I chose the other outfit.&nbsp;</p> <p>It's all good, Suz. If #2 is the new direction of your style, of course, I support it. I failed to share my reasoning, so that's why I jumped back on this thread. xo </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/which-works-betterand-why/page/3#post-1153272 Thu, 30 Jan 2014 16:37:34 +0000 ironkurtin 1153272@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I haven't read the others but my feeling is that neither is unflattering and the outfits serve totally different purposes. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/which-works-betterand-why/page/3#post-1153247 Thu, 30 Jan 2014 16:07:34 +0000 AviaMariah 1153247@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I haven't read any other responses but I much prefer #2. &nbsp;To me, #1 has too much going on and looks a little confused. &nbsp;I do like it much better without the scarf. &nbsp;I like #1 because I think the grey is more flattering on you and it has that "what, this ol' outfit I just threw on" look, but looks great. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/which-works-betterand-why/page/3#post-1153218 Thu, 30 Jan 2014 15:51:37 +0000 Sarah A 1153218@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>So interesting to come back to this discussion. I really see the flirty hem of the skirt in #1 more in the new picture (perhaps my eye was too busy trying to figure out the scarf the first time around). I think the discussion on coming back around to an authentic style/uniform after trying lots of different things is an interesting one. (something to think about while running today for sure!) </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/which-works-betterand-why/page/3#post-1153107 Thu, 30 Jan 2014 14:22:21 +0000 Suz 1153107@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>It all helps -- yes! And thank you all!&nbsp;</p> <p>Mtgirl, I do have a long neck, but I don't dislike it. I actually like it a lot!&nbsp;</p> <p>It's just that in order to&nbsp;create pleasing <b>overall </b>proportions I can't wear low necklines. A crew neck like the one in the sweatshirt is totally fine. </p> <p>What I try to avoid because of my bony chest (not my neck, per se)&nbsp;area is a scoop, a wide square, or a wide V (some very narrow Vs can work, although they are difficult to find.) Or Vs layered over a crew can also work.&nbsp;</p> <p>Also, in winter, I end up wearing scarves a lot because otherwise my neck freezes!! So that's another wrinkle.&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/which-works-betterand-why/page/3#post-1153105 Thu, 30 Jan 2014 14:13:01 +0000 lyn67 1153105@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Haven't &nbsp;read those above me, but will do it later,&nbsp;when I'll have a bit more time.</p> <p>I vote nr.2. </p> <p>It's the sleek siloutette of the denim skirt which is more important for me there, than the skirt in nr. 1(but am a pencil girl of&nbsp;all kinds,&nbsp;you know). </p> <p>Lighter color column&nbsp;can also be more appealing now end of winter, but not quite neccessary. I think a simple black pencil to the sequined swetshirt&nbsp;(and no scarf)&nbsp;would have been making my choice much more difficult. </p> <p>But then, &nbsp;I also find&nbsp; the grey sweater &nbsp;more of a current look, then the other one.&nbsp;</p> <p>Does this help?&nbsp;</p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/which-works-betterand-why/page/3#post-1153099 Thu, 30 Jan 2014 13:58:46 +0000 Anonymous 1153099@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I am going to go back to read the comments, but I like #1...well actually #3 without the scarf.</p> <p>I love seeing your neck which is ironic because it seems you have written on different occasions you don't care for your neck or at least that you have a long neck or something? </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/which-works-betterand-why/page/3#post-1152947 Thu, 30 Jan 2014 07:14:19 +0000 Ornella 1152947@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Not reading what others (or you in the meantime)&nbsp;say, but my vote goes to 2. I looks a touch&nbsp;more fresher to my eye, is very playful and simply looks good on you. I do like both options, but I'm also swayed by what I'd personally wear, tehrefore&nbsp;the first choice is the second outfit </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/which-works-betterand-why/page/3#post-1152906 Thu, 30 Jan 2014 05:06:53 +0000 Deborah 1152906@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Suz, thought I would pop back and try to read all the responses. My further assessment is that both outfits are fab, and I think both "look" like you. Stylistically both outfits are well put together, flattering and modern, and I'm only able to prefer one over the other based on "what I like". And I think that's a big part of the responses here. The truth is there is nothing to "fault" here. No proportions that obviously don't work, the colours/tones are flattering to you etc....for me, I just relate to #2 more so:) </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/which-works-betterand-why/page/3#post-1152871 Thu, 30 Jan 2014 04:23:38 +0000 E 1152871@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Fair enough re: feeling #2 is&nbsp;more like you! While obviously my personal style leans more towards flippy skirts, I don't *think* that's what drew me to #1. If anything, I think it was my personal awareness of my broad shoulders that made me hesitate about #2, especially since we have similar body types. I think I liked the sleekness of #1: even though there's more stuff going on, the fabrics are more refined than in #2, which somehow works better to my eye&nbsp;with your face &amp; hair, and seems more princely and more urban.</p> <p>None of which is an attempt to talk you out of your gut style, just expanding a bit on my vote.</p> <p>I love the conversation going on between you &amp; AG! Today I put on a full skirt and a fitted sweater and a little belt and added a brooch and rings, and I just knew that if I could only wear one 'formula' for the rest of my life, this would be it. I feel completely, effortlessly myself, and I don't even think about what I'm wearing. And it's simple, not complex, or advanced as AG puts it. Actively participating on the forum has made me want to push myself, play with different silhouettes and combinations; in part that's because the forum has given me more confidence to pursue my quirkier tendencies. And it's fun! But it's also fun to just put on something I've worn happily for a couple years now, and just enjoy the comfort of it. :)</p> <p>Authenticity is a challenging idea, especially in a consumer culture that tries its hardest to convince&nbsp;us that&nbsp;identities are something to be bought and/or marketed. So I understand your concerns about it AG. But, as you (AG)&nbsp;mentioned in your post soon after I joined the forum, there are some ways of dressing that seem more in sync with a person than others. I do think it can be freeing to accept that some items are simply not 'us,' even if others think they're flattering and wonderful. Conversely, even if something isn't the most physically flattering option, if we feel fabulous in it, I think that will make it more flattering. That's a slippery slope of course, that could lead to the whole 'but sweats are comfy so that's what I'm wearing and no one else has to look' idea.&nbsp;Yet photos can only tell one story, and when you're going about your day interacting with people, how you feel in your skin is going to affect their perceptions of you. If you're perfectly at ease, you'll just look better.</p> <p>Which leads me back to my big challenge of the year, which is going to be getting fussy about fit. I'm so interested in colours and fabrics&nbsp;and the style/feel of a piece of clothing, that if something seems perfect in those categories, I'll overlook fit problems. Which I really shouldn't do anymore, and I need to take a good look at my wardrobe and sort out the compromises from the well fitting options. And this is all a long way of saying, I love the idea of style revolution alongside evolution and hope to be closer to that revolution by the end of the year! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/which-works-betterand-why/page/3#post-1152843 Thu, 30 Jan 2014 04:04:59 +0000 Janet 1152843@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Suz, this has been really interesting to read and ponder, as I find some analysis going on with me right now too. I'm a little afraid that some things I bought as recently as last winter are not feeling terribly "me" when I try to wear them now, but I also don't want to limit myself too quickly. Is it the item itself, or in the styling? I suppose I need to do a little playing with the closet to find out, but I dont have a lot of time for that these days. It feels a little strange. I may try to articulate it all better in a post of my own sometime, rather than further hijack your thread! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/which-works-betterand-why/page/3#post-1152829 Thu, 30 Jan 2014 03:56:13 +0000 Beth Ann 1152829@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>OK --- I had no time for the forum today, so I'm posting before reading the thread in order to keep my "gut response" pristine.&nbsp; </p> <p>#2!&nbsp; I love the sparkly sweater (without the scarf, though), but the proportions in #2, and the light near your face tip the balance this direction.&nbsp; I think I'd like #1 better with a slightly longer hem on the skirt -- so impossible to find these days.</p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/which-works-betterand-why/page/3#post-1152827 Thu, 30 Jan 2014 03:54:27 +0000 SarahTheWhite 1152827@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Unfortunately I don't know you well enough yet to know what is YOU... So I'm looking at it completely through my own preference filter. I am very torn because I find that I love half of each outfit. (I think you look beautiful in both, of course!) I love love love everything about the bottom half of #2 as well as the color scheme of the whole outfit. It is such a soft look with great texture. I think the bulk of the sweater, along with the roundness of the scarf made the top a little disproportionate to the bottom half. I really love how flattering the neckline is in the third picture. Your hair cut is showcased better, and your whole face looks more youthful to my eye with your neckline opened up. If you could have achieved that with the second look, it would have been perfection. I don't know if I can choose between the looks, and think you should wear them both as often as you can, but gun to my head, I have to go with #3 because the neckline is just that good! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/which-works-betterand-why/page/3#post-1152818 Thu, 30 Jan 2014 03:46:15 +0000 kellygirl 1152818@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I'm late to the party (but I couldn't see the details on my phone.) It's funny because I liked #2 from the get go. I like 1 too but for some reason, the colors, the silhouette of 2&nbsp;look more "you" to me. It also makes you look taller for some reason. This is just my gut reaction--I have no idea why. I am off to read the analysis by those more articulate than me!&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/which-works-betterand-why/page/3#post-1152813 Thu, 30 Jan 2014 03:41:35 +0000 Mary Beth (formerly LBD) 1152813@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>My gut reaction was for #1. &nbsp; It looks stellar, literally. &nbsp; Galactic. &nbsp;Stars in the night sky. &nbsp; I feel like there should be Pink Floyd music and a laser light show happening &nbsp; &nbsp;The colors are beautiful on you, and you look so elegant! &nbsp;This outfit says "wow, that Suz is a real&nbsp;knockout!" to me. &nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;I love the higher contrast against your skin and hair. &nbsp; You just glow in this outfit.</p> <p>#2 is pretty, but kind of bland and everyday&nbsp;to my eye. &nbsp; #1 is special </p> <p>ETA: &nbsp;I scrolled up after and read comments - and realized, I wasn't even looking at the different shapes of the skirt. &nbsp; I saw color palette more than anything else, to the exclusion of many things - despite my belief that I had studied the photos carefully. &nbsp; LOL.</p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/which-works-betterand-why/page/3#post-1152810 Thu, 30 Jan 2014 03:37:27 +0000 catgirl 1152810@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Although I kind of hate the word "authenticity" (ironically it feels inauthentic!), I think that's what we may be orbiting around here. My old clueless self was nonetheless authentic - I liked what I liked and didn't pay attention to trends. Thus military, black, stompy, RATE were always themes for me. Then I discovered fashion blogs and being me, I had to try some of everything, and what a fun but trying and expensive road that has been! And finally I've learned that as much as much as I admire others here - and I'll call out MaryK as someone whose style I adore but is so different from mine - copying for the sake of it is just not going to feel like me. </p> <p>Perhaps outfit 2 is simply more authentically Suz? Just as Janet's second outfit is more authentically her? I feel a little concerned that the whole idea of authenticity can be limiting, but in some ways it is is freeing too.</p> <p>All that said, I am still feeling lost and at somewhat of a crossroads... That is a separate post! </p>