https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/when-youre-feeling-meh Style Advice for Fashion Lovers en-US Sun, 26 Apr 2026 20:34:16 +0000 http://bbpress.org/?v=1.0.2 q https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/search.php https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/when-youre-feeling-meh#post-1673104 Sat, 04 Jun 2016 13:52:02 +0000 Runs With Scissors 1673104@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Your outfit sounds fantastic (and I have those Lulu pants in black - love 'em, and some of the few non-jeans pants I think look good on me). &nbsp;I love your style -- casual, yet polished and a bit rock-n-roll. &nbsp;You always look like you're heading somewhere fun.</p> <p>I totally relate to the "meh" feeling, and have been feeling it myself lately.&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/when-youre-feeling-meh#post-1673065 Sat, 04 Jun 2016 13:16:37 +0000 Beth Ann 1673065@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Janet, I think that you likely encouraged the young woman who complemented you --- she could see in you the vision that she can be fabulous --- vital and stylish, beyond her 20s. &nbsp;The reminder that there are beautiful and creative women out there "getting it done" every day gives us all a little incentive to keep our minds, and our style fresh and growing.</p> <p>The outfit sounds like classic Janet! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/when-youre-feeling-meh#post-1673052 Sat, 04 Jun 2016 13:02:17 +0000 Anonymous 1673052@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>How we live in our bodies reflects--on us and others. &nbsp;What we fill our closets with is a mirror, a messy one at times, even a depressing one. &nbsp;Our bodies carry our stories, a burden and a joy at once. &nbsp;I love your style, your extra pounds, your willingness to share. &nbsp;I've been thinking, even before I read your post, that I need to earmark outfits I know work and I know I love to wear. &nbsp;When I walk into my now organized closet, I draw a blank, often, and say, "what am I going to wear?" &nbsp;"does this work? how bout this?" or even "I don't have anything to wear." &nbsp;and that can be depressing, esp for this sliding into 70 wild woman. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/when-youre-feeling-meh#post-1672877 Sat, 04 Jun 2016 01:35:59 +0000 Anonymous 1672877@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I get it. It's all the more reason to have a few of these outfits that you know look good when you aren't feeling it. &nbsp;I need a few more of those myself. &nbsp;</p> <p>I could not help but laugh in agreement at the piles in the closet and ending up in a sweating , irritated mess. &nbsp;And the more you continue, the worse it gets. &nbsp;I did say more than once today - in response to a few conversations - how glad I was to know I'm not the only one who gets this way.......</p> <p>Truthfully Janet, to me you look like the woman who has it all, and I struggle to figure out what the body issues are. You are tall, slim, have the best hair, a huge wardrobe, &nbsp;and great lifestyle etc etc . &nbsp;I know a lot of what we suffer is self-imposed - and invisible to others - but I hope you can come to terms with it. &nbsp;I know we don't see each other's weight gain because we are only posing the best pictures of ourselves - but seriously, you never look bad. Ever. &nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/when-youre-feeling-meh#post-1672862 Sat, 04 Jun 2016 00:49:01 +0000 Anonymous 1672862@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Janet, you are one of my YLF style icons--I love your artistry and would absolutely call out your style if I saw you on the street. We all need strangers or honest friends to come along and push our reset buttons from time to time. </p> <p>And our WEATHER. Ugh. Beyond the fashion whiplash, I think heat + humidity = feeling more bloated. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/when-youre-feeling-meh#post-1672837 Sat, 04 Jun 2016 00:19:44 +0000 UmmLila (Lisa) 1672837@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>That's exactly the kind of reason I often tell strangers I'm impressed with their outfit!</p> <p>It is a bit hard not to feel like a schlub in shorts and t-shirt weather while dog walking. Sounds like you've got it down, though. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/when-youre-feeling-meh#post-1672725 Fri, 03 Jun 2016 22:26:11 +0000 Firecracker (Sharan) 1672725@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>The outfit sounds fantastic, and I'm glad someone complimented you and made your day. I agree that shoes can make an outfit, but I would also say that your great hair gives any outfit a big style boost, too. So, from first impression (head) to last (toe), you will look chic. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/when-youre-feeling-meh#post-1672714 Fri, 03 Jun 2016 22:18:02 +0000 Lyn D. 1672714@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>You are an EXTRA FAB Fabber Janet, so hang-in there and be kind to yourself 'til this passes!<br />Onto the next Fab outfit! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/when-youre-feeling-meh#post-1672713 Fri, 03 Jun 2016 22:17:30 +0000 Carla 1672713@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Fake it till you make it, Janet! You have a great resource in your closet and your lovely physical self. I've never seen your discerning artists eye or talent for styling your outfits let you down. A little external validation never hurts, either.</p> <p>You on your bike? Any rides coming up? </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/when-youre-feeling-meh#post-1672690 Fri, 03 Jun 2016 21:58:47 +0000 jenanded 1672690@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>The heat is a real cuplprit. Not only is your body working overtime to stay cool, but you also can't accessorise and layer so much.<br /> You always look lovely so compliment well deserved! X </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/when-youre-feeling-meh#post-1672539 Fri, 03 Jun 2016 19:43:01 +0000 Aida 1672539@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Sorry to hear you're feeling like this. Not sure if it helps or hurts to hear that we all get that way sometimes. Your wardrobe is brilliant, even if you're not feeling it. Transition is always awkward and I'm positive you'll come out on top sooner rather than later. And if not we're here to help you figure out if you need to tweak anything stylistically.</p> <p>How sweet to get a compliment! Definitely nice to be able to dress for<br /> ourselves and not worry about others but hey, a compliment is a<br /> compliment. Nothing says we can't dwell on positive comments, so I say<br /> ride that and try not to focus on the negative :D</p> <p> </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/when-youre-feeling-meh#post-1672431 Fri, 03 Jun 2016 17:45:35 +0000 Barbara Diane 1672431@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Killer shoes. And I save Munro Abby's for special occasions due to the heel height.<br />I bought some expensive bras even though some of my less supportive ones still fit.I'd put on a little weight, and I realized my mood improves when I wear good bras. I think when our mood is low, it's good to do the little things. And yes, sometimes I've spent a lot of time trying to find the right thing to wear and I do think sometimes we have to cut ourselves some slack.<br />Oh, and fresh air always helps me. And nature. And looking at something long enough to appreciate it. Even if it's man made. How many people did it take to get ____ to me.<br />Good luck, and glad you got out to a concert. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/when-youre-feeling-meh#post-1672427 Fri, 03 Jun 2016 17:37:42 +0000 Ledonna N. 1672427@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I am with the chorus of voices that have watched your style evolve even before I signed up for.&nbsp; I always thought you had the best wardrobe even tho we are nothing alike.&nbsp; </p> <p>I am that person who receives and gives those random compliments to strangers.&nbsp; It is such a energy booster.&nbsp; I don't seek to have people tell me these things.&nbsp; It is random like the weather or the wind.&nbsp; It could be my hair my glasses my over all fit or an individual piece.&nbsp; It makes me feel good to be able to say these things.&nbsp; I try to be honest and transparent.&nbsp; So If I don't like something I will try not to say anything but if I LOVE it you will here me say something about it.&nbsp; I was walking downtown Chicago somewhere.&nbsp; So lady called out fierce.&nbsp; I was like what?&nbsp; huh? what.&nbsp; Who me cause I was looking around.&nbsp; She said yes you Ms. Lady Fierce.&nbsp; I was like okay.&nbsp;&nbsp; It put a pep in my step&nbsp; lol </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/when-youre-feeling-meh#post-1672387 Fri, 03 Jun 2016 16:46:03 +0000 rachylou 1672387@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Fashion weather whiplash is so spot on. I'm really suffering with how hot and sunny it's become so fast. It's October weather in June. I hid indoors all day yesterday.</p> <p>The lady in the car was a little angel, yes </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/when-youre-feeling-meh#post-1672357 Fri, 03 Jun 2016 16:03:25 +0000 Janet 1672357@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Welcome, Laura! </p> <p>This is absolutely a most uplifting and supportive community. The fact that so many of us can open up with the more emotional considerations of personal style says a lot. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/when-youre-feeling-meh#post-1672354 Fri, 03 Jun 2016 15:59:30 +0000 laura 1672354@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I so agree that seems like such a supportive, uplifting community. I just joined but I'm shy and not really active in any other forums. But this seems like just the place to join.</p> <p>I think compliments help us, especially when we are feeling inadequate.</p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/when-youre-feeling-meh#post-1672350 Fri, 03 Jun 2016 15:50:43 +0000 Gail 1672350@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>"But anyway, in the midst of this, dressing is always a little less joyful. Or, OK, sometimes a lot less joyful. And that's a ridiculous way to feel when I have a closet full of fab clothes. But I'll put something on and hate how it looks and start all over again, getting sweaty and irritated in the process."</p> <p>This paragraph you wrote is me down to a T!&nbsp;<br />I end up with piles in my closet and in a seriously bad mood It takes me ages to get out of the house and I'm wondering if I'm getting OCD. I feel bloated and pants especially are just not comfortable especially as hot as it was past few days in PA.<br />How nice that you got compliments when you needed them it can make such a difference in how you feel. Here's another one, from what you post on YLF you have great style and everything looks &nbsp;good on you ! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/when-youre-feeling-meh#post-1672347 Fri, 03 Jun 2016 15:48:28 +0000 Anonymous 1672347@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Janet - I have been having similar feelings this year, which led me to reach out and join YLF. I like seeing a group of supportive women who are positive. A random compliment can brighten my mood, so I make sure I am not stingy giving them to others when I can. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/when-youre-feeling-meh#post-1672342 Fri, 03 Jun 2016 15:38:10 +0000 kimlee 1672342@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Janet - I have gone through times like this before. I think you look fantastic and as Angie said have a KILLER sense of style. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/when-youre-feeling-meh#post-1672327 Fri, 03 Jun 2016 15:05:45 +0000 Anonymous 1672327@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Oh, I so empathise Janet...I have many a day like that and with me it has on occasion...led to depression. As far as I'm concerned I think you have been looking amazing lately. The comment from the stranger was well deserved and a huge pick-me-up for you. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/when-youre-feeling-meh#post-1672312 Fri, 03 Jun 2016 14:50:01 +0000 Janet 1672312@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Angie, you're right that it came at the best moment. Honestly, I had a couple of nice boosts over the last few days that, in my mind, I tend to downplay or even forget when I'm feeling not-so-great. (The other boost involved a friend I don't see very often but respect a great deal -- he visited my studio with his wife for the first time, and they were raving about my work. He's not an easy guy to please and does not dole out praise without meaning it, so it meant a lot to me to hear such glowing words from him.)&nbsp;</p> <p>I'd like to think that I don't need external validation to feel good, but sometimes it really helps. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/when-youre-feeling-meh#post-1672300 Fri, 03 Jun 2016 14:43:01 +0000 Angie 1672300@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Janet, it's common to feel the way you do sometimes. You're dead right to be aware that it does not spiral into depression, which it can quite easily. Please don't let a few extra pounds boss you around. It's so not worth feeling this way!&nbsp;</p> <p>We can be enormously boosted by an impromptu compliment, so I'm thankful that the the lady in the car showered you with one at the very best moment. JUST what you needed.&nbsp;. You have never looked better, and I've been watching your style for years! You have Killer style and a Killer wardrobe.<b></b> ENJOY IT!<b>&nbsp;</b> </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/when-youre-feeling-meh#post-1672298 Fri, 03 Jun 2016 14:39:43 +0000 Suz 1672298@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Brilliant, Janet! So glad someone complimented you on your fab style. You are an inspiration here on YLF and on the streets of hot and steamy Baltimore.&nbsp;</p> <p> </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/when-youre-feeling-meh#post-1672295 Fri, 03 Jun 2016 14:35:31 +0000 Peri 1672295@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I'm right there with you...except for the second part! I don't think a random stranger has ever complimented my outfit. Actually I don't think friends have either except on rare occasions. Hmmmm. I can't say that I am actually surprised by this either! Oh well. But yes, you do have great style!</p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/when-youre-feeling-meh#post-1672292 Fri, 03 Jun 2016 14:29:00 +0000 Janet 1672292@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>It's nice to still get affirmation that you're doing something right. And thank goodness for FFBO's.&nbsp;</p> <p>Lately our weather has turned from cold and damp to full-on summer: highs in the 80s and humid, as our summers tend to go. It feels a little like fashion whiplash, and you'd think after a lifetime in this climate, I'd have a better grip on it, but every year I go through a transition period where I look at my closet and don't feel like wearing any of it.&nbsp;</p> <p>The situation has been compounded by a period when I've just not been feeling my best anyway. I'm carrying a little extra weight, and I suspect menopausal mood swings are also to blame; it's also been a bit of a tough winter/spring, but things are easing up a bit. Some unpleasant tasks are finally off my plate, and for that I am very thankful. I'm just having one of those times when I am wondering what the heck I am doing and whether anything I do makes a difference. A bit of a rut, I suppose, like I'm going through the motions. It will get better, I know. I'm working to keep this from slipping into depression. I'm glad I have planned my trip for next month -- it really helps to have something to look forward to!</p> <p>But anyway, in the midst of this, dressing is always a little less joyful. Or, OK, sometimes a lot less joyful. And that's a ridiculous way to feel when I have a closet full of fab clothes. But I'll put something on and hate how it looks and start all over again, getting sweaty and irritated in the process.&nbsp;</p> <p>So, that was pretty much how yesterday went. After doing some household projects, working on my laptop at home, and taking the dog for a long hot walk, I showered and changed to go to a big outdoor concert that my radio station puts on monthly during the summer. It's always an event I dress carefully for. Weather is the most important factor. Sturdy footwear is also good. But also, there is always a very real possibility that I will end up in some photographs, and I've made some unfortunate mistakes dressing for this in the past -- some outfits simply don't photograph well on me, especially in candids (I'm looking at you, white jeans).&nbsp;</p> <p>So yesterday I finally settled on the Lululemon cropped pants (mine are the bordeaux color), my graphic tee from Amsterdam (grey with a black semi-abstract bird print on the front), the Freebird sandals, and the grey drawstring backpack. It was an easy formula, and it seems that those sandals pretty much elevate anything I wear. I also popped on my vintage sunglasses (in my profile pic), which I don't wear every day because they are antiques and fairly fragile, but I love wearing them when the occasion fits. Unfortunately, I neglected to take a photo before I left home.</p> <p>As I walked from my parking spot to the park where the concert was being held, a young woman sitting in her car at a stop light actually called to me out her car window -- she told me I had great style and she loved my outfit. I don't know how commonplace that kind of thing is where any of you live, but that is the second time in the last six months or so I have been walking on a street in Baltimore and had someone call to me from a car to compliment something I was wearing (the other time, it was the long white jacket from Amsterdam -- I sense a theme here!).&nbsp;</p> <p>It made me feel better, and made me realize that even though we sometimes fret this stuff, as life goes through periods when getting dressed is just another task to get done, having outfits that make you feel good can help to boost your day and your mood. People DO notice when you make an effort, which is nice. Even though I was wearing athletic pants, a tee, and sandals, the details in the outfit made it into something worth noticing. (Honestly, I think the sandals take the credit. :-))&nbsp; </p>