https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/when-significan-other-does-not-share-your-fashion-sense Style Advice for Fashion Lovers en-US Thu, 23 Apr 2026 17:02:04 +0000 http://bbpress.org/?v=1.0.2 q https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/search.php https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/when-significan-other-does-not-share-your-fashion-sense/page/2#post-567345 Wed, 14 Mar 2012 17:39:02 +0000 ironkurtin 567345@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>My husband never really comments unless he hates something or I've bought something new. *shrugs* It's been that way for 20 years and don't expect to see a change anytime soon, unfortunately.</p> <p>As for him, he has extremely good taste (when he isn't being deliberately obnoxious) but very seldom buys anything unless it is gear. So sometimes I just buy him stuff, like a nicer jacket or pants or a sweater that doesn't have any holes in it. I buy him the best quality I can find, since I know he will wear it for years. He still has agnes b shirts *from when I met him.* *Twenty years ago.* So I make sure to buy him things I don't mind looking at and will wear well - because I know he'll be wearing it for the next forseeable eternity. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/when-significan-other-does-not-share-your-fashion-sense/page/2#post-567341 Wed, 14 Mar 2012 17:31:52 +0000 Suz 567341@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Waving at Jean here. One of my stepsons is a terrific stylish dresser! He lives in Montreal, lucky boy. </p> <p>My husband is a really interesting mix. In his younger days (before I knew him) I think he dressed very nattily. In old photos, I have seen Dior jackets, Burberry coats and some very interesting 70s silhouettes! </p> <p>But by the time I met him he had settled on a uniform of (baggy) jeans, V neck sweaters, colourful button downs. And he did not own any dressier items. </p> <p>He still wears that uniform, more often than not, but within its confines he has stepped up his style quotient enormously in the past 9 months...NOT coincidentally, since I joined YLF! He lost weight and is buying much more flattering cuts, some wilder shirts, and he even bought a SUIT and a JACKET not too long ago. Plus a non-gear type coat. He looks fab! </p> <p>As for his taste, it is a quirky mix. Sometimes he veers conservative; there are certain trends he just doesn't like, even if they suit me. But there are other trends he adores and would encourage me to try, even if they might potentially be tougher for me to wear (e.g patterned pants). On shopping expeditions, he sometimes encourages me to try items I might otherwise give a pass. I remember (from the early 90s) one blue leather bomber jacket; GORGEOUS shade of blue for me. In the end, the style wasn't a fave of mine, but wow, he picked the colour right! He has also encouraged me to buy some dresses that were stellar. </p> <p>At the same time, sometimes his recommendations haven't worked out for me; turned out I "liked" the item well enough but it didn't really fit into my style persona and I ended up not wearing it a lot. Mostly because it was too bohemian or youthful in a sort of crazy way for my taste. Here I am thinking mainly of a Betsy Johnson outfit. Picture this—again, early 90s: Pink rayon with a small black and white floral pattern. Narrow cropped trousers, topped wtih a trapeze style T-neck top, tied with one tie in the top at in back. I was (of course) younger at the time and could "get away" with it but I felt like mutton dressed as lamb, and besides, it was uncomfortable to walk down the street and have your top blow all around in front! </p> <p>He always asks my advice about his clothing purchases. And he enjoys shopping with me occasionally and will give me advice as well (whether I ask for it or not!) Usually I listen to him. I don't always agree, but I think his opinions are usually based on something legitimate, even if he can't fully articulate it. </p> <p>He did feel scared when I first started posting to YLF and spending more money on clothes. He has also raised his eyebrows at a few of my purchases. But usually when he sees the clothes on me he "gets" it and he has been complimenting me much more often in the last months. Thanks, YLF! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/when-significan-other-does-not-share-your-fashion-sense/page/2#post-567263 Wed, 14 Mar 2012 16:30:02 +0000 christieanne 567263@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Whoops. I had better clarify before you all think I am married to a 26 yr old :)<br /> DH is actually turning 50 this weekend and we have been together for 26 yrs. In my venting to blow off steam, I did not explain well. </p> <p>Interesting comments! Thank you. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/when-significan-other-does-not-share-your-fashion-sense#post-567234 Wed, 14 Mar 2012 16:04:55 +0000 Diana 567234@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>My fiance and I have completely opposite fashion tastes, but each of our tastes work for us and I think we can appreciate (mostly) the others' taste. He is a very classic, conservative dresser (closet is a sea of blue and white button-downs, khaki pants, suits, and classic Levis). His super casual wear is admittedly schlumpy and I do wish he wouldn't wear ratty tees quite so often! I don't generally say anything though since I know he doesn't care much about trends or fashion and in general he dresses nicely, if boringly. </p> <p>I think sometimes he thinks my fashion choices are off the wall, but he doesn't generally (as far as I know) hate anything I've worn and he does compliment me often on things he particularly likes. So it's all good. </p> <p>I hardly ever take him shopping, although maybe i'll try on a pair of shoes I happen to see or something. It's SO CLEAR that he is bored out of his mind with shopping that it makes me feel really bad to subject him to it. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/when-significan-other-does-not-share-your-fashion-sense#post-567229 Wed, 14 Mar 2012 16:01:58 +0000 Makrame 567229@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>My DH will often comment (positively or negatively) on what I am wearing, and will also ask for my opinion on the clothes he buys. He is not up on "the latest trends" so I consider his opinion to be fairly objective in terms of what is truly flattering in the eyes of an "outside observer". Since this is the guy who got me burgundy and cobalt jeans for Christmas, I think he has a good fashion sense. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/when-significan-other-does-not-share-your-fashion-sense#post-567192 Wed, 14 Mar 2012 15:39:53 +0000 biscuitsmom 567192@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>My Husband often comments about what I'm wearing and claims to 'love all of my things' yet on the fairly rare occasions he tries to pick something out for me, its WAY different than the types of things I wear....hmm. He likes to wear polos, t shirts, dark jeans and black sneakers usually...I did break him of his awful zubas he wore when we first met (TG) by honestly telling him they did *not* flatter his cute butt! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/when-significan-other-does-not-share-your-fashion-sense#post-567172 Wed, 14 Mar 2012 15:31:21 +0000 greenglove 567172@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Fun thread!<br /> My dear husband loves that I love fashion. He has a good sense of what looks good on him and has taken an interest because he knows it makes me happy. He has to be comfortable and does not like anything that feels as if it it trying too hard. He tends to like more classic looks and has a huge outdoors style. I try to help him obtain an urban look when we are out and about. He is open to a point. </p> <p>My stepson, on the other hand is a huge fashion fan. We have so much fun. He is in Europe right now with a new pair of shoes causing blisters because he could not settle on an athletic looking pair of shoes. Sound familiar? </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/when-significan-other-does-not-share-your-fashion-sense#post-567128 Wed, 14 Mar 2012 14:52:56 +0000 Mander 567128@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Mine is not very trendy or fashion conscious, but he does have a definite sense of style and is a bit picky. I never buy him anything except souvenir t-shirts and ties, because he has a hard time articulating why he dis/likes certain items. He wears a suit and tie to work every day, and in general has a bit of a conservative look.</p> <p>He seems to like the most mystifying things on me -- a cheap white sweater, or a ratty pair of jeans. The key element seems to be that they are tight in certain places, IYKWIM. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/when-significan-other-does-not-share-your-fashion-sense#post-567124 Wed, 14 Mar 2012 14:51:08 +0000 chewyspaghetti 567124@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>It's funny- part of what drew me to my husband was his quirky sense of style. When I met him, he had a wardrobe of funky hand made vintage shirts, quirky hats, and long natural stone bead necklaces that he would wear with worn in Levi's (it was the 90's, people!) and plain white T's. Our first apartment was decorated with his steer head skeleton (to which I added a wreath of flowers- it hung over our bed), vintage furniture and knickknacks and our combined hat collection. My tastes have changed over time, but the core is always still there- I love the funky, artistic, vintage and antique (both in fashion and decor) in eclectic combinations. You would never know what a funky guy he used to be by looking at him now, nor does he gravitate toward those things anymore. Actually, I am hoping that by being around the Flea Market he will rediscover the love that he used to have for the funky and old things.<br /> He doesn't usually say much about what I wear, or my decorating, but I know that it isn't really his taste. He is a good husband in that if he doesn't have something nice to say he doesn't say anything- of course that leads to a lot of silence! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/when-significan-other-does-not-share-your-fashion-sense#post-567081 Wed, 14 Mar 2012 14:06:15 +0000 machanteuse (Lori) 567081@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I have wondered the same thing, and it's very interesting to read the responses!</p> <p>My DH is a card-carrying Nerd Pride member (LOL) and I hate to say it but he looks the part. He really doesn't care about what he's wearing. His preferred uniform is a solid shirt in dark red, dark blue or dark green, with khakis. If he is doing a school presentation (he does a lot of science volunteering) he wears a white button-down with one of his "nerd ties", his white lab coat, and his khakis - usually with sneakers. I have managed to get him to wear some shirts with subtle plaid/check/stripe prints and sometimes I insist that he has to wear a regular tie, which he hates! He has one suit that he's had for almost 20 years. He hates getting his hair cut and would much rather have "mad scientist hair" as he calls it. Are you getting the visual? ;)</p> <p>I wish it weren't this way - as I'm walking around the mall or wherever I often notice other men's style or clothing in stores that I wish he would wear. But it's never gonna happen, so I guess I should look at it this way - if he NEVER goes shopping, then I can shop twice as much, right? :D</p> <p>He does have opinions on what I wear, and I think he definitely appreciates that I've gone for more figure-flattering choices as I've gotten older. But if something doesn't make sense to him, then he's just going to dismiss it as weird - e.g., when I had a belt over a cardigan in my very first WIW post. He said it just looked like the belt had no purpose because it wasn't holding up anything. If I try to explain he will stop me and say "It's like football" - which is something else he doesn't get, along with all other sports! So yeah, I guess I've given up on his fashion and I just worry about my own! And my kids, but that's a whole different story... </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/when-significan-other-does-not-share-your-fashion-sense#post-567080 Wed, 14 Mar 2012 14:02:20 +0000 Emily 567080@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>This is such a fun question! Both my husband and I have a modern classic style personality. He prefers a little edge or something extra whereas I lean towards more basic things. I think I have had more influence on his style than he has on mine, but mostly in terms of fit; for example, I broke him of the habit of buying shirts too big so that the sleeves would be long enough. Those shirts with the ill-fitting shoulders drove me nuts!</p> <p>In terms of his thoughts on my style, my husband will gives thoughtful, constructive advice on my fashion choices if asked, and I don't always listen. Once I have asked for his opinion on an item he considers it fair game for teasing. For example, when I brought home the yellow blouse I am wearing today and asked what he thought he told me it looked like something for an old lady: "Where did you buy that, Reitmans*?" and then this morning when I was leaving for work wearing the aforementioned blouse asked me who I was and what I had done with his young wife. Such a charmer**... </p> <p>*http://www.reitmans.com/, skews conservative/mature, but I love them for their consistently high quality basic pieces and petite sizes </p> <p>**sarcasm aside, I love the guy to bits </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/when-significan-other-does-not-share-your-fashion-sense#post-567071 Wed, 14 Mar 2012 13:49:34 +0000 modgrl 567071@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>He is noticing your style evolution, that is a good thing. There will be some things that he likes and some he doesn't and it may take him some time to get used to seeing you in new styles. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/when-significan-other-does-not-share-your-fashion-sense#post-567064 Wed, 14 Mar 2012 13:47:08 +0000 Isabel 567064@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>My DH and I have very different fashion sense. He is very bohemian and loves color. I am very conservative and mostly wore black for two decades. I have started loosening up ...because of YLF and not him. Even my children have noticed I am wearing color and more "interesting" clothes. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/when-significan-other-does-not-share-your-fashion-sense#post-567058 Wed, 14 Mar 2012 13:41:26 +0000 RoseandJoan 567058@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>My husband is a man of action with few words so I had to ask what he thought of my style and his reply was' you look great but I hate your green trousers', of course I already knew this because of the strange looks he offers when I do wear them.</p> <p>Ben has a fantastic sense of style with a very limited colour palette (white, denim, grey and black) but it really works for him. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/when-significan-other-does-not-share-your-fashion-sense#post-567033 Wed, 14 Mar 2012 13:21:35 +0000 marianna 567033@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>This has been such an interesting read! My SO and I have very similar tastes and his fashion sense has come a long way since we met 5 years ago (mostly due to my influence, I think). He is a new business owner and wears nice jeans (mostly Gap) and button downs from Nordstrom (that we have tailored to fit properly because is also hard to fit). Honestly, I pick out most of his clothes and it works for us (and makes his life much easier!)</p> <p>He doesn't comment on my clothing choices much, but he does get frustrated when the Nordstrom.com boxes start arriving daily. He worries that I spend too much. Otherwise, he will only comment if I look especially "pretty" or something that day, but he doesn't say much about my clothing choices, unless I specifically ask. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/when-significan-other-does-not-share-your-fashion-sense#post-567015 Wed, 14 Mar 2012 12:53:23 +0000 Janet 567015@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>My husband is way more into style than most men I know. Particularly since he discovered the world of custom tailoring for his shirts because he is so very difficult to fit (very tall and slim, and long in the torso and arm). He has definitely stepped up his style in recent years, as he transitioned from musician (when we met) to corporate employee, to business owner. He now has a great wardrobe of business and casual options that reflect his personality really well.</p> <p>He loves the style evolution that I've been on this past year, regardless of how much I've spent. He cheers on purchases that flatter me and have that rock'n'roll edge that he and I both like so much. He likes it when I try new things. That striped tiered Bailey 44 dress that I initially rejected as too body-con is one his favorite things on me, ever, so he is now an enthusiastic fan of YLF and thinks that Angie is brilliant. Which, of course, she is! </p> <p>So I feel very lucky that this is one of the many ways we are in sync with one another. I sympathize with you ladies who have SO's who are not so enthusiastic, or even discouraging. I've been there too. My ex of many years ago preferrred me in preppy styles and thought I wore too much black. :-/ </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/when-significan-other-does-not-share-your-fashion-sense#post-567003 Wed, 14 Mar 2012 12:11:06 +0000 JennyAnne 567003@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Interesting question. My husband is not at all interested in "fashion" but he does look nice. Polos, button downs, khakis, and yep - the same style jeans he's worn since I met him 11 years ago. He does comment on my trendiness (when I am) and does some eye-rolling, but I know he appreciates when I put in some effort, so as long as I'm not spending exorbitant amounts of money, he's happy. It doesn't hurt when I stick to flattering trends. He's a big reason that one of my style requirements is "pretty." </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/when-significan-other-does-not-share-your-fashion-sense#post-567001 Wed, 14 Mar 2012 12:00:49 +0000 Meredith1953 567001@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>My hubs has lovely very narrow taste. He is basically a surfer at heart (grew up in Palo Alto, Ca) and he wears O'neil surf tshirts, cargo pants or levis, Reef flip flops most of the time. When he has to dress for "business" or formal he has nice sport coats, camel long winter coat, ties, wingtips, button down oxfords. He favors blues, dark greens, burgundy, gray, white and black, Very traditional colors. He definitely is a uniform man. I know he will never tell me something looks good if it is awful but I know he doesn't embrace color and pattern as much as I do. If I am going somewhere WITH him (like a function or a date) then I try to incorporate his wishes into my outfit. Otherwise, I do what I want! To each his own. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/when-significan-other-does-not-share-your-fashion-sense#post-566987 Wed, 14 Mar 2012 10:51:32 +0000 Meghan R 566987@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>My husband also wears a uniform: button down shirt, cotton pants, v-neck sweaters if it's chilly, a tie if he wants to dress up, a polo if it's warm outside. Sometimes I wish he'd branch out, but he is so picky about his clothing that it's probably best he sticks to items he knows and loves. The last time we went shoe shopping, we had to visit seven stores! I'm definitely more adventurous, but I'm also trying to let some of his "wait until you find something perfect" attitude rub off on me. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/when-significan-other-does-not-share-your-fashion-sense#post-566980 Wed, 14 Mar 2012 10:33:12 +0000 Anonymous 566980@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Well our tastes are in much way similar, but he' a bit more conservative. He, as my mum view as the most important issue the figgure flattery, matching your complexion, whike i soometimes like to wear some more fun items. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/when-significan-other-does-not-share-your-fashion-sense#post-566978 Wed, 14 Mar 2012 10:29:53 +0000 fashionista 566978@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Well in this case I must say he is very supportive and fashionable too. He has a very good sense of wearable fashion and l love the way he gives comments that make my every purchase (with him) worth the money. He has fashionable trendy but classic sense of style and I take cues from him form time and again. Love you darling and thanks for helping me out always!!! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/when-significan-other-does-not-share-your-fashion-sense#post-566963 Wed, 14 Mar 2012 09:39:27 +0000 Louise 566963@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Fruitful my first thought was a 26 year old who's anti fashion but I think it's that they've been together/ married 26 years.</p> <p>My BF is not particularly vocal about my clothing choices either way, though he does love a coffee cream party dress I have and always suggests I wear that if we go out x </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/when-significan-other-does-not-share-your-fashion-sense#post-566960 Wed, 14 Mar 2012 08:58:03 +0000 jayne 566960@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>My BF is about 5 years younger and feels like a different generation. But he certainly has his own uniform of awesome jeans, and plaid lightweight cotton button down shirts, and cool sneaker type shoes.</p> <p>But he is very good at the compliments and I have learned that when he doesn't say something, is when he is really saying something. Luckily he definitely is helping me with my style definition because he will say 'that is so you' and I can see it better myself. he also helps in that he lives his wardrobe and vice versa, no clothes for a life he doesn't lead so I am better able to restrain myself. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/when-significan-other-does-not-share-your-fashion-sense#post-566922 Wed, 14 Mar 2012 05:56:55 +0000 Fruitful 566922@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Christieanne, I read this as your nearly-26-year-old husband is surprisingly anti-trend, even though he is young... then you said he's been wearing the same jeans since 1982... I'm confused ^_^ </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/when-significan-other-does-not-share-your-fashion-sense#post-566919 Wed, 14 Mar 2012 05:37:57 +0000 rachylou 566919@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Oh, my boyfriend and I are very far apart, and it's a source of humor for us. He thinks I'm a kook, but he knows I've also got his number ("if it's brown it *must* be fab!"). He's very good at picking out things for me - doesn't impose. Although, I do refrain from wearing high heels most of the time. I always get the feeling he really doesn't like them. Is that weird? </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/when-significan-other-does-not-share-your-fashion-sense#post-566917 Wed, 14 Mar 2012 05:17:34 +0000 christieanne 566917@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I feel better! My DH is certainly not alone in the world. </p> <p>Funny thing is, he used to work in retail and understands a little about the fashion world and it's ups and downs. He loves to watch the weekly Bill Cunningham vids with me. And he is a visual person - an artist who has a side business in tribal (Afghani/Pakistani/Middle Eastern) rugs and hobby is African Art.<br /> Maybe he gets too much sensory overload and retreats to the uniform. And maybe, ove rthe last two years, I have done the same thing. Sigh. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/when-significan-other-does-not-share-your-fashion-sense#post-566912 Wed, 14 Mar 2012 05:10:02 +0000 Anonymous 566912@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>My husband and I are pretty much on the same page taste wise but he thinks that I spend too much time on fashion. He does have a good eye and tells me when something is working or not. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/when-significan-other-does-not-share-your-fashion-sense#post-566905 Wed, 14 Mar 2012 05:04:06 +0000 Aziraphale 566905@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Goldenpig: my husband chose these boots for last year's Christmas present:</p> <p><a href="http://www.fluevog.com/code/?w=family%3AIdols&#038;pp=1&#038;view=detail&#038;p=2&#038;colourID=2828" rel="nofollow">http://www.fluevog.com/code/?w.....ourID=2828</a></p> <p>....so he doesn't fit your description! the older he gets, the less conservative he gets (although I can't say he was particularly conservative twenty years ago). Although I think in general, what you say is true. Men's fashions change more slowly. I think that's because for most men, fashion is not a sport, like it is for many women. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/when-significan-other-does-not-share-your-fashion-sense#post-566894 Wed, 14 Mar 2012 04:52:32 +0000 goldenpig 566894@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Well you know my answer! XP</p> <p>My DH has very classic conservative tastes. He likes well made clothes that last for years. He tends to dress up at work and wears expensive custom button down shirts and ties. On me he likes solid colors and classic cuts, and is not happy with crazy patterns, faux fur or animal print. He feels he has a much better sense of style than I do. He definitely dishes out the compliments on my outfits, but it's more often for "classic" items like red turtleneck or blue button down shirt that frankly bore me. I like to be more adventurous! Even if I'm dressing in classic items I like to add in a few twists! I sometimes listen to him but sometimes just say "Yes dear" and keep on rocking!</p> <p>I wonder if the husbands/SO's tend to be more conservative because men are not supposed to be interested in fashion trends and style change tends to happen more slowly for men. My husband has been wearing the same type of boots for over 10 years and just buys the same exact pair or resoles them when they get worn out. It seems to be more OK for men to wear things for decades, and not so much for women because women's clothes from 5 or 10 years ago always look "dated" and you're supposed to get rid of them. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/when-significan-other-does-not-share-your-fashion-sense#post-566893 Wed, 14 Mar 2012 04:52:13 +0000 Deborah 566893@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Christieanne my DH is SO not into fashion! Having said that he always looks smart and does have a uniform which is mainly jeans and black tshirts Oh and button down shirts for church and going out. He frequently compliments me on what I wear (and notices new items) and will question me if he thinks something is a bit "outt there" like my black and white patterned pants. I do listen if he thinks something doesn't work because regardless of the differences in our style I think he has a good eye so I always consider what he has to say. </p>