https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/when-fashion-confuses-our-men Style Advice for Fashion Lovers en-US Thu, 09 Apr 2026 23:08:38 +0000 http://bbpress.org/?v=1.0.2 q https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/search.php https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/when-fashion-confuses-our-men/page/2#post-1032173 Tue, 17 Sep 2013 18:27:13 +0000 Diana 1032173@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>All of this talk about the semi-tuck reminded me of the time that J. went around all day sporting an (unintentional) J Crew half tuck.&nbsp; When he finally realized what was going on, he chastised me for not telling him to fix it.&nbsp; <i>Not because he didn't like the half tuck (although he probably wouldn't do it intentionally) but because it was the wrong side that was tucked in.&nbsp; </i>Apparently it has to be the buttonhole side that is untucked.&nbsp; I honestly didn't know because I never sport it myself! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/when-fashion-confuses-our-men/page/2#post-1032161 Tue, 17 Sep 2013 18:15:35 +0000 Elly 1032161@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>It goes both ways though--- I once chastized the SO for wearing shorts and flip flops. He is very hands on and outdoorsy, and we don't have HOT HOT summers. I thought it was weird that a man would wear something that he couldn't comfortably change a tire in and that slowed him down when walking in the grocery store (which he hates) when all of his other clothing choices are strictly functional (down to the colors he will wear). He has this attachment to black that has spread from functional parts of his life to non-functional parts, but don't tell the man that! Or that it isn't as flattering as he thinks it is. He doesn't look bad, but he has just light enough eyes and a tinge more pink in his skin than I do and would look much better in any other dark neutral. We also have gotten into disagreements about the proper length of men's pants. He relented after realizing non-highwaters were more comfortable. Plus, I have a poison eye for kakhis, polo shirts, and short sleeved button downs. </p> <p>And I totally do it to girls too- I will often wonder why they are wearing something SO IMPRACTICAL. It blows my mine, but that is the guy side of me talking. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/when-fashion-confuses-our-men/page/2#post-1032108 Tue, 17 Sep 2013 17:20:33 +0000 Suz 1032108@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I am with Gillian and your sister's BF&nbsp;on this! While in theory I know scarves can be great in the heat, in practice I have never been able to stand them, so strapless plus scarf feels seasonally confused to me!&nbsp;</p> <p>Mind you, that is a gorgeous scarf!&nbsp;</p> <p>And the one instance I can imagine it: hot day outside. Going to air conditioned movie theatre or restaurant. &nbsp; Um....like your day with sis!!&nbsp;</p> <p>As for Mr. Suz, his eye often takes a while to adjust. He had a hard time with skinny jeans at first, was confused by the semi-tuck, sometimes rejects certain patterns as "too much." But then usually starts to love them once he sees them in an actual outfit.&nbsp;</p> <p>Interesting how often the semi-tuck comes up as a point of confusion for the menfolk! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/when-fashion-confuses-our-men/page/2#post-1032105 Tue, 17 Sep 2013 17:18:52 +0000 JulieJohn 1032105@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Wow, Sound of Music on the big screen! Dreamy!</p> <p>A conversation about semi-tucking -- just the <i>conversation</i> -- caused DH and I to have an argument. The only reason it didn't escalate into a full fight is because I backed down. I haven't brought it up since, and if I show him a WIW of one of you girls in a semi-tuck he starts to simmer again. So I don't show him. I'm a pacifist.</p> <p>I think an outfit that makes anyone say, "can you do that?" is fashion in the making. Boldly go where no fabber has gone before. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/when-fashion-confuses-our-men/page/2#post-1032102 Tue, 17 Sep 2013 17:14:21 +0000 Makrame 1032102@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I just listened to an interview that Terry Gross did&nbsp;with Mindy Kaling the other day (she is the creator of the sitcom "The Mindy Project", which was pretty funny,&nbsp;and also was on "The Office"). &nbsp;Here is an excerpt that discusses differences between men's and women's fashion sense:<span> <p>GROSS: So you said that there were 15 things in fashion that girls like that guys hate. What are some of those 15?</p> <p>KALING: &nbsp;I have found it to be true that men tend to not understand or like sequins very much.</p> <p>Men don't like, sort of, the wedge shoe, I have noticed. Men don't like - tend to like the statement necklace or chunky tribal jewelry. These are the things, by the way, that I love, so the overlap in the Venn diagram of things that men hate for women to wear and the things that I love to wear, it's almost a full overlap on the Venn diagram, which is unfortunate for me.</p> <p>What are other things? Capri pants I've noticed that men tend to dislike. This is not clothing, but I adore a short haircut. I don't know a single man, including my own brother and my own father, who if I cut my hair shorter than my shoulders, they think it's a huge tragedy.</p> <p>KALING: Which is again too bad because I would live to have like a - that Audrey Hepburn short sort of hairstyle. Those are a few.</p> <p>GROSS: Does the fact that your research shows that men don't like these things prevent you from wearing them?</p> <p>KALING: No because I, like most women, I dress for other women, I think. If I was going to dress for men, I think in general I would be just wearing, like, a fitted black T-shirt and tight jeans every day. I mean, this is very - of course, this is my unscientific research by working with male comedy writers for the past eight years.</p> </span> </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/when-fashion-confuses-our-men#post-1032099 Tue, 17 Sep 2013 17:10:02 +0000 Diana 1032099@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Here's one that happened to me yesterday:</p> <p>I just received an Allsaints bubble skirt in the mail that I won on ebay.&nbsp; Was trying it on to show J. and he was like, "wow, that's weird.&nbsp; It's very .... voluminous.&nbsp; <i>And how do you sit down?</i>"&nbsp; Apparently he thought it would pop if I sat down! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/when-fashion-confuses-our-men#post-1031089 Mon, 16 Sep 2013 18:05:06 +0000 Thistle 1031089@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Some good ones!&nbsp; DH is usually pretty tolerant of anything as long as it isn't too "arty" or "drapey". The one time I tried on an "arty" jacket, he asked me why I was wearing curtains! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/when-fashion-confuses-our-men#post-1031088 Mon, 16 Sep 2013 18:04:38 +0000 Scarlet 1031088@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>That's pretty funny. A similar thing happened to me the other day, when my SO felt he had to warn me before I left the house in shorts and ankle booties that it looked ridiculous. I think it was the concept that got him and not how it actually looked on me. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/when-fashion-confuses-our-men#post-1030921 Mon, 16 Sep 2013 15:26:15 +0000 AviaMariah 1030921@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Whenever I pop my collar my DH "fixes" it for me. &nbsp;:) </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/when-fashion-confuses-our-men#post-1030911 Mon, 16 Sep 2013 15:16:58 +0000 Anonymous 1030911@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I gotta admit that I'm with your sister's boyfriend on that one! I won't wear a scarf unless it's cold enough for sleeves, and I won't wear sandals if it's cold enough for pants. I don't mind sundresses in cold weather when they're layered up, but I'm generally biased in favor of seasonal practicality! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/when-fashion-confuses-our-men#post-1030898 Mon, 16 Sep 2013 15:05:40 +0000 lyn* 1030898@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Great thread!</p> <p>I wore something more body con to work one day, and one of the guys asked me why I didn't dress like this all the time. I said it didn't make me feel 100% comfortable. &nbsp;He said it made me look less old granny.</p> <p>&gt;__&lt; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/when-fashion-confuses-our-men#post-1030870 Mon, 16 Sep 2013 14:39:52 +0000 Elly 1030870@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Men can be confusing, especially the set that has no real interest in fashion, but are still opinionated. </p> <p>My SO once told me he liked that I was a "plain dresser" -- I'm pretty sure he meant that he liked that I wasn't overly trendy, but that I have a lot of classic elements to my style. Right now in our area BF jeans and slouchy trousers haven't filtered down, but there is a lot of the oversized off the shoulder shirts worn with skinny jeans by the teens and 20 somethings and moms who raid their daughter's closets. He is not a fan of the look, probably because he finds it unpractical, and so far there has been a lot of teen incarnations of this look in our area. He has two sisters in their twenties who are girly girls and he often remarks about not appreciating them wearing revealing clothes, leggings as pants, insanely high heels, ect -- he finds it inappropriate and impractical, especially when worn places like a family backyard wedding. </p> <p>He does not like it when I wear revealing tops, either. </p> <p>However, he likes the BF look. </p> <p>When I first met him I wore a lot of black, and he seems to think that my colors are dark colors. While he is kind of right, since I am a dark season, he still often eliminates anything bright from the color pallette when he buys me things. He will buy me the gray one over the pink one even if the pink one would have looked better with my complexion, because in his mind he doesn't see the pink "as me" --- in fact, I think it weirds him out when I wear the couple of bright, girly colored things I own. I also think part of it is that he is very similar in coloration to me, but a little more muted and tends to pick colors that he likes to wear, which are mostly dark and muted. </p> <p>His own clothing is another battle altogether. He has a lot of bad clothes from a former relationship, and when I met him he was mainly wearing black tshirts and clothes from high school that were more than a decade old. Since then he has replaced most of his things, but he has a lot of challenges in dressing and he really needs some replacement tshirts, sneakers, and button downs atm. </p> <p>He is all about the practical when it comes to both him and me, and yet he often tells me he wishes I would dress up more and things I need to go shopping&nbsp; more so I have nice stuff to help me feel good about myself. </p> <p>Men</p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/when-fashion-confuses-our-men#post-1030862 Mon, 16 Sep 2013 14:34:06 +0000 Wendi1984 1030862@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>The semi-tuck drives him nuts. He says it looks like a mistake. I tell him it's a style trend, and I like the way it looks. But it just looks weird to him. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/when-fashion-confuses-our-men#post-1030810 Mon, 16 Sep 2013 13:14:47 +0000 Aziraphale 1030810@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I don't think I've every worn anything that my partner doesn't understand, but there are a few items that I've noticed he does not love, which include:</p> <p>- wedge sandals (any wedge footwear, actually)<br />- animal print<br />- boring pumps<br />- anything with lace on it<br />- anything that looks like it's made out of grandma's curtains</p> <p>Luckily our tastes mostly intersect. &nbsp;I mean, hear hear, just say no to doilies and curtains! &nbsp;(Mind you, at least I understand that these things can be effectively incorporated into outfits by those who enjoy them and can do it right). &nbsp;But I do wear boring high heels sometimes and feel fab in them. &nbsp;And my wedge sandals were, I thought, cute and practical, although they just died this summer. &nbsp;</p> <p>Not sure how he feels about harem pants or&nbsp;Chewbacca vests, since I've never tried wearing either. &nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/when-fashion-confuses-our-men#post-1030780 Mon, 16 Sep 2013 12:30:14 +0000 Nova 1030780@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>My hubby seems to be pretty open to fashion, although the overly patterned pants got the raised eyebrow from him.&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/when-fashion-confuses-our-men#post-1030773 Mon, 16 Sep 2013 12:22:03 +0000 Raisin 1030773@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>My DH doesn't get the oversized trend. He calls them my grandmama clothes. I also had my tee semi tucked a few days ago and be asked me "did you intentionally do that?" Yes, yes I did. Haha! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/when-fashion-confuses-our-men#post-1030770 Mon, 16 Sep 2013 12:19:09 +0000 Niefern 1030770@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I think men generally&nbsp;like clothes that flatter the female body, above anything. They do not seem to&nbsp;care for other styles or trends if they do not comply with the feminine/flattering rule. </p> <p></p> <p>My husband positively hates harem pants and BF jeans!</p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/when-fashion-confuses-our-men#post-1030756 Mon, 16 Sep 2013 12:10:41 +0000 AnnieMouse 1030756@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I'm always amused by the discord between "girl pretty" and "guy pretty." Mine gets confounded by "belts that don't *do* anything" - like when I wear a narrow belt over a tee shirt to build definition. He's almost as confused by layers - "why not just wear one big sweater, instead of all those shirts over each other?"</p> <p>Hee! Great thread! Thanks for the Monday morning giggle </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/when-fashion-confuses-our-men#post-1030747 Mon, 16 Sep 2013 11:58:19 +0000 BlondeAmbition 1030747@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I'm amazed that everyone's SO pays even the least attention to fashion long enough to form an opinion lol. &nbsp;As long as I fix my hair and put on lipstick my husband thinks I'm a bombshell no matter what I wear. &nbsp;The only time he seems to notice anything specific is when I wear stilettos, he loves those but for reasons other than fashion. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/when-fashion-confuses-our-men#post-1030713 Mon, 16 Sep 2013 09:58:59 +0000 Hil 1030713@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Gaylene - your post made me laugh out loud! </p> <p>My husband thinks the semi tuck is ridiculous and so are patterned pants and bf jeans - he keeps telling me to buy jeans that fit. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/when-fashion-confuses-our-men#post-1030712 Mon, 16 Sep 2013 09:25:34 +0000 rute 1030712@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>eh eh I can relate to that!<br />Men are very practical, they don't understand some choices, it's not about warmth but style eh eh<br />I have so many: boyfriend jeans, voluminous dresses, patterns, oxford shoes </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/when-fashion-confuses-our-men#post-1030669 Mon, 16 Sep 2013 06:38:59 +0000 rachylou 1030669@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Glitter boots </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/when-fashion-confuses-our-men#post-1030636 Mon, 16 Sep 2013 05:12:27 +0000 Ingunn 1030636@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Gaylene, hahaha that's so funny! I totally get why he thought so. </p> <p>I straightened my hair once, but my husband was so disturbed by it that I had to go and wash it out - I guess he likes me as I am More generally, he dislikes chunky shoes on women, or very tall, strappy ones (several straps/laces across the foot combined with high heels). He also dislikes unstructured dresses. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/when-fashion-confuses-our-men#post-1030633 Mon, 16 Sep 2013 05:02:06 +0000 Gaylene 1030633@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I'm guess I'm lucky I found a husband who seems pretty tolerant of almost anything I'd choose to wear, but he has voiced his bewilderment at some of the items sported by my friends. </p> <p>One of the funniest incidents was when we had our close friends over for dinner recently. On the night of their visit, my very petite friend was carrying her new, very expensive, <i>and very</i> <i>large</i>, designer handbag that she had fallen in love with, and purchased, on her recent trip to New York. The next thing I knew, my husband cornered me in the kitchen, and asked, in a hushed voice, if my friend and her husband were having problems. When I told him I thought everything was fine, he then looked puzzled and asked why she was going to spend the night with us. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/when-fashion-confuses-our-men#post-1030601 Mon, 16 Sep 2013 03:40:42 +0000 Kat 1030601@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>My husband does not get ankle boots. &nbsp;He's sweet and polite, but I know him well enough to read his face: "pick a shoe, pick a boot, go with one or the other and be done." &nbsp;He vastly prefers&nbsp;knee high boots with a heel&nbsp;and tells me they're&nbsp;fetching when I wear them. &nbsp;:)</p> <p>But to be fair, he'll be the first to admit he doesn't understand women's shoes lately and he says he&nbsp;finds them really unattractive and confusing... ah well.</p> <p>And the Sound of Music remains one of my all time favorite movies!&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/when-fashion-confuses-our-men#post-1030594 Mon, 16 Sep 2013 03:29:36 +0000 Isabel 1030594@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Boots with bare legs. &nbsp;Totally confounds my husband to the point he just walks in circles.&nbsp;</p> <p>Great thread, btw !!! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/when-fashion-confuses-our-men#post-1030590 Mon, 16 Sep 2013 03:25:00 +0000 Nadya 1030590@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Ha! I've never even TRIED a semituck because I think my DH would go around reminding me to tuck in my shirt ALL DAY. &nbsp;His dad was in the navy and it's really too much to expect him to be able to handle that kind of insanity.&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/when-fashion-confuses-our-men#post-1030569 Mon, 16 Sep 2013 03:02:13 +0000 Anonymous 1030569@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>DH really dislikes Capri pants, especially the wide ones that are stumpifying. He also doesn't understand why women wear really high heels. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/when-fashion-confuses-our-men#post-1030566 Mon, 16 Sep 2013 02:54:10 +0000 amiable 1030566@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Lol with Anna! &nbsp;My hubby doesn't get the baggy slouchy pants - says they look like sweatpants, just in nicer fabric. &nbsp;Well - he's right. &nbsp;They do. &nbsp;But he's against it </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/when-fashion-confuses-our-men#post-1030565 Mon, 16 Sep 2013 02:53:58 +0000 Jaime 1030565@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>LOL! I live in the land of harem pants and believe me they are often worn by religious married women with 5+ kids. Everything is relative! My DH does not understand shoes at all. Can you imagine? </p>