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YouLookFab Forum » Topic: What's happening to me? https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/whats-happening-to-me-1 Style Advice for Fashion Lovers en-US Sat, 25 Apr 2026 18:47:48 +0000 http://bbpress.org/?v=1.0.2 <![CDATA[Search]]> q https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/search.php Niki Lea on "What's happening to me?" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/whats-happening-to-me-1/page/2#post-1405697 Fri, 05 Dec 2014 06:31:41 +0000 Niki Lea 1405697@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Neel, I'm late to your thread. But wanted you to know that I went to my doctor last year with some of the same symptoms, combined with exhaustion and a solid case of the blahs. We did tests and the only thing that came up was really low vitamin D levels. So my doctor officially diagnosed me as "a woman in my 30s with kids". He says he sees people like us all the time - we do so much every day and our brains are so full, there just isn't room for everything. texstyle on "What's happening to me?" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/whats-happening-to-me-1/page/2#post-1402029 Mon, 24 Nov 2014 21:24:21 +0000 texstyle 1402029@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ I wonder what would happen if you stopped all drinks for the kids after 8 pm (or at least one hour before bed time)?  And maybe even wake THEM up one hour into sleep to see if they need to go. But NO drinks then. Are they drinking enough water during the regular part of the day?  Do you use a humidifier (maybe you need one in the bedroom?) I know I'd be trying some options like that immediately if it were me! Sleep is way too important to not have rules to make sure it happens. Neel on "What's happening to me?" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/whats-happening-to-me-1/page/2#post-1401700 Mon, 24 Nov 2014 01:54:17 +0000 Neel 1401700@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Thank you for chiming back in Aziraphale. My kids are 6 and 4. But they co sleep in our bedroom. On a separate bed thankfully! Our older one had (and still has) attachment and anxiety issues. He has been refusing to move out We are working on it. But what can I say ... I just left it too long and it's completely my fault Now it is harder than it would have been if they were smaller. Plus I have sleep anxiety issues of my own. The past few days have been great with me hitting the bed earlier than always. Hopefully things will get better soon! Aziraphale on "What's happening to me?" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/whats-happening-to-me-1/page/2#post-1399955 Thu, 20 Nov 2014 06:48:47 +0000 Aziraphale 1399955@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Good grief. No wonder you're having memory trouble. Sleep interruptions every two hours every night is not sustainable! :-) OK, so I don't know how old your kids are -- I'm guessing toddlers? -- but I should think it will get better as they get older. For one thing, they stop waking you up if they need the toilet.  Kids can also be trained to sleep through the night, even if they're not babies. I had a friend who did it when she remarried and they merged families. Her stepdaughter was a sweet but anxious little girl who had night waking issues. They came up with solutions together on how to 'not wake up mommy and daddy at night', and the whole family was better for it. I wish I could remember what her strategies were. If you like, I could ask. Neel on "What's happening to me?" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/whats-happening-to-me-1/page/2#post-1399948 Thu, 20 Nov 2014 05:52:16 +0000 Neel 1399948@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Thank you Michelle, Aida and Aziraphale for chiming in. Sleep I see could be a definite culprit in my case. If I get 2 hours of uninterrupted sleep each night, I would consider myself lucky! Kids wake me up to use the toilet or to pour them a drink of water every single night. Plays havoc with my sleep Aziraphale on "What's happening to me?" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/whats-happening-to-me-1/page/2#post-1399820 Thu, 20 Nov 2014 01:08:23 +0000 Aziraphale 1399820@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Neel, if I had to place a bet, based on your age, your backstory and your symptoms, my money would be on sleep deprivation as the culprit. No sleep, or poor sleep, will mess with your head. I had major sleep difficulties that didn't go away for several years after the birth of my second child, and I was a zombie. A forgetful, mindless zombie. My sleep (and consequently memory) troubles were partially solved in the short term by medication, but then completely went away after I had a gigantic fibroid tumour removed from my uterus. That was four years postpartum. Shortly after the surgery, I magically started sleeping again -- deeply and refreshingly -- just as I had before kids. I think the fibroid was somehow messing up my hormone regulation! So keep in mind hormones can mess with your sleep patterns, especially if you've had past trauma and/or current stress.  Definitely see a doctor. They'll get you sorted out. Sounds like everyone here has some experience/advice/sympathy. I wish you all the best!  Aida on "What's happening to me?" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/whats-happening-to-me-1/page/2#post-1396919 Sat, 15 Nov 2014 00:44:20 +0000 Aida 1396919@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ I can only offer empathetic hugs to you, Neel! I hope you're able to get a handle on it soon, sounds like the gals have given you loads of good advice and leads to look into. I was diagnosed with hypothyroidism in my mid 20s; it's been under control for many years now, but since that time have never been able to concentrate nor focus nearly as well as I could before. It's frustrating at times, but for the most part I just have to roll with it and do what I can to combat it without stressing too much. Stress loops are never helpful ;) Michelle on "What's happening to me?" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/whats-happening-to-me-1/page/2#post-1393302 Sun, 09 Nov 2014 03:12:39 +0000 Michelle 1393302@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Neel, we are similar in age, if not in circumstance, and I found my formerly excellent memory got really dodgy when my iron levels were low. I know vegetarians sometimes struggle to get enough protein and iron into their diets, so perhaps that's another avenue to explore during your checkup? I'm glad you're willing to overcome your antipathy towards doctors and give that a try. Best of luck. The supports are out there, you're not alone and you'll be ok. :) Your reply Neel on "What's happening to me?" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/whats-happening-to-me-1/page/2#post-1392824 Sat, 08 Nov 2014 04:27:57 +0000 Neel 1392824@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Thank you Laura, jenanded and biscuitsmom for chiming in! Laura - Oh the dreaded keys! And the phone and the wallet! I always have those scary *Did I lose it?* moments too! I completely relate and empathize! Thank you for telling me I am not alone! biscuitsmom on "What's happening to me?" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/whats-happening-to-me-1/page/2#post-1391694 Thu, 06 Nov 2014 17:58:23 +0000 biscuitsmom 1391694@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Some medications can cause that, also.... great suggestions from everyone. Hope you feel better soon jenanded on "What's happening to me?" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/whats-happening-to-me-1/page/2#post-1391402 Thu, 06 Nov 2014 08:06:28 +0000 jenanded 1391402@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Neel sending hugs... and advice is all of above. Thyroid issues also slow thinking compounding sleep deprivation xx Anonymous on "What's happening to me?" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/whats-happening-to-me-1/page/2#post-1390580 Wed, 05 Nov 2014 13:55:27 +0000 Anonymous 1390580@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ I was just going to say, "Welcome to Parenthood." Parents juggle so much so being forgetful is not astonishing. Of course, if you are concerned do rule out anything medical. That is always wise to do. It is amazing the stuff I do remember and the other stuff I do not. So I make lists, write on my calender, and try to put stuff exactly back where I found them. I do have to laugh at myself though. A few months ago after taking the dog for a walk I could not locate my housekey. I went back out and retraced my 2+ mile walk and scoured people's lawns. They must have thought I was crazy. Came back home and sobbed and worried that someone now had my housekeys and could enter my home. Of course, my address was not on the key fob. I reached into my handbag to retrieve a tissue to wipe my tears and there were the keys. I never put those keys in my handbag. I am 58 and no this is not because of age. I have been like this even before my DD was born. Has not gotten worse. Just too much stuff for the brain to keep track of. Neel on "What's happening to me?" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/whats-happening-to-me-1/page/2#post-1390493 Wed, 05 Nov 2014 10:05:52 +0000 Neel 1390493@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Oh greyscale! Wish you luck too! I had a few months of horrible eating too. But that was 3 years back. The memory does seem to have gone downhill since then. Hmmm .. So a regular iron chk is not going to help at all. I better get cracking this issue! Greyscale on "What's happening to me?" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/whats-happening-to-me-1/page/2#post-1390482 Wed, 05 Nov 2014 09:10:55 +0000 Greyscale 1390482@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ This thread has been really useful to me. Until this year, I could remember so many tiny details about everything. I used "what was I wearing that day?" as a sort of index into everything else that had happened, sometimes even years back. Now, I can hardly remember what I wore yesterday. (Everything else seems fine.) It started exactly when I started taking different antidepressant meds, so I'm blaming that - but I did actually learn I have very low ferritin, last week. (Iron and red blood cell levels are fine.) I wonder if it's related to a few months of eating really badly. Anyway, I was just thinking today that I might stop my meds to see if that's the cause, but maybe I should try some iron supplements first. Best of luck, Neel! Neel on "What's happening to me?" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/whats-happening-to-me-1/page/2#post-1390443 Wed, 05 Nov 2014 06:40:09 +0000 Neel 1390443@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Thank you for your very helpful inputs (and hugs ^_^) everyone and again you all have proved that I can rely on this community for anything!  A biiiiiiig hug to everyone! Janet/Diane/LBD/Megsy - Thank you for chiming in!  Sleep deprivation could be a major issue with me.  I get anxious at nights ... because of two things that happened in the past and have enormously affected my sleep.  Once we had a fire right under our apartment in the middle of the night.  I could smell the smoke in my dream state!  And the fire alarms woke me up (DH was still fast asleep).  We had to rush out of the apartment with two sleeping kids and it was scary.  Then, another night (more like 4 am), DH had a hypoglycemia induced blackout and fell down unconscious while using the bathroom.  The huge thud I heard sent me racing to the bathroom like a mad woman.  He was motionless first and then showed stroke like symptoms after he regained some consciousness .... which thankfully later turned to be nothing enormously serious, but he could have died that night and it was the scariest night ever! Now any minor noise at night wakes me up with a jolt and I cant get back to sleep.  After these episodes I have run to the bathroom twice screaming DH's name when I heard any noise from there (for eg he just moved a bucket)  Argh!  He always breaks out laughing .... nothing funny here dude o_O  I mostly curse him and get back to bed! LBD - I had subscribed to flylady ... but the information was overwhelming!  I gave up!  I think I should try again. Jackiec - Funny how our handling of similar things is also similar!  I repeat to myself too!  Really does help! Suz - That example does strike a cord in my head!  I have forgotten at times for what I have come to a certain place (never how!)!  Or why did I call the grocery store.  Did I need anything?  Of course I did .... but what?!  Frustrating! mtgirl - Thank you for the lead on magnesium deficiency.  I would keep that in mind when I go in for my check up.  I am a vegeterian, and bone broth may not be an option for me .... but I am sure I could do something with my diet. Laurinda - I have started doing this too.  But I never needed to do this ... why now?  That's my worry!  Until I find that out, I will follow your strategy and always always keep things in its place and post reminders.  Thank you! abc - Sure I would keep you all known about the outcome.  I am sure I would need help with that too! elpgal - Thank you for commiserating :) texstyle - I do eat a lot of dairy products.  Hmm .... something to think about.  Thank you! Peri - Another friend recommended B-Complex tablets too.  I should check it out.  Thanks! AG - I constantly hear my doorbell ringing in my sleep!  More than twice I have come out of the bed and checked if there was really someone at the door!  I have to get exercise into my routine again.  With kids' school, I have had little time in the mornings for myself.  But I could do it later in the morning for sure.  Thank you for your input!  I absolutely, completely relate!  And it stinks! AviaMariah - I just checked up on the gluten intolerance.  I don't fit the symptoms.  So guess that's not it.  But hoping something will help!  Thank you for chiming in! Rachylou - You crack me up!  I wonder if I am just *careless* LOL!   Alasse/Caro - Thank you for chiming in! Lyn D - Great coping tip!  Thank you! Jeanie - I have started putting reminders on my phone for every little thing so I don't forget!  DH has taken over the tea department because of my morning rush scenario!  I have started checking my gas stove before I step out of the house just to make sure nothing is on it!  I am going to pray for my watch to show up too  Ack! Adelfa - Hugs to you and thanks for chiming in! Shevia - Common is the word!  The feeling of *I am not alone* is so relieving in itself!  Thank you! Gigi - A timer .... that's a great tip!  Thank you! Gigi on "What's happening to me?" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/whats-happening-to-me-1/page/2#post-1390385 Wed, 05 Nov 2014 04:05:09 +0000 Gigi 1390385@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Neel, the other ladies have already suggested a lot of good ideas to check out. One thing I can offer to help you in the meantime is perhaps to use a kitchen timer for things. I have a lot of forgetfulness due to a brain injury, and I use a kitchen timer all the time! If you're going to put something on the stove to boil, you can set the timer for when you think it will be ready, and then you can go do something else and not worry that you'll forget about it. I use a kitchen timer for nonkitchen things too, like if I have to leave for an appointment in half an hour and I don't want to forget. Jaime on "What's happening to me?" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/whats-happening-to-me-1#post-1390359 Wed, 05 Nov 2014 03:20:41 +0000 Jaime 1390359@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ I sympathize, empathize and reiterate the very good advice to get your blood checked, try to get more sleep and realize that this is very common! Adelfa on "What's happening to me?" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/whats-happening-to-me-1#post-1390296 Wed, 05 Nov 2014 02:32:13 +0000 Adelfa 1390296@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Neel, I'm right there with you. And as Una says, I used to have such a good memory! Thanks to everyone for their ideas. catgirl on "What's happening to me?" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/whats-happening-to-me-1#post-1390195 Wed, 05 Nov 2014 00:40:14 +0000 catgirl 1390195@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ We installed a hot water dispenser because of my kettle fears.  It's a lifesaver. Jeanie on "What's happening to me?" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/whats-happening-to-me-1#post-1390080 Tue, 04 Nov 2014 23:03:21 +0000 Jeanie 1390080@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Sounds like you just have brain overload like Una said.....not enough room in the filing cabinet.  Maybe you could create some strategies to make life simpler.  I'm not sure what that would mean for you life?? Maybe hire someone to help or get out and take walks? ? I know that is easier said than done with small children.  I know that after I burnt up 2 tea kettles, I had to make some changes.  I started with buying an electric kettle and an iron that turns itself off.  Those were, at least, 2 easy things that I could change that I just took off my plate.  I loose stuff a lot around the house but I don't stress about it anymore.  I just know it will turn up someday.  That is just an easy mental shift.  Worry about my missing bracelet or just know it will show up.  I choose not to worry and that is easier.  Hugs Caro in Oz on "What's happening to me?" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/whats-happening-to-me-1#post-1390033 Tue, 04 Nov 2014 22:09:00 +0000 Caro in Oz 1390033@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Agreeing with the great advice from everyone & sending big hugs Lyn D. on "What's happening to me?" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/whats-happening-to-me-1#post-1389943 Tue, 04 Nov 2014 20:31:35 +0000 Lyn D. 1389943@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ I hope you feel better about this soon! I sometimes try 'mindfulness' when I want to remember things that I worry about forgetting if I have done them or not. I say to myself- 'I am putting on deodorant' as I do it and it helps a lot. Alassë on "What's happening to me?" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/whats-happening-to-me-1#post-1389937 Tue, 04 Nov 2014 20:20:42 +0000 Alassë 1389937@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ I'm sorry, Neel. I hope some of the advice up thread works for you. rachylou on "What's happening to me?" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/whats-happening-to-me-1#post-1389904 Tue, 04 Nov 2014 19:23:15 +0000 rachylou 1389904@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ You mostly just sound very busy and like you're doing a lot of multi-tasking (which degrades mental performance). I would mention it to my doctor, get some blood work done, but I wouldn't get too excited about it... Until you start accusing people of stealing from you... tell your husband when you start doing that, you need to be taken to a neurologist. I joke, but not. AviaMariah on "What's happening to me?" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/whats-happening-to-me-1#post-1389895 Tue, 04 Nov 2014 19:10:08 +0000 AviaMariah 1389895@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ I'm right there with you and I blame mine on baby brain and pregnancy brain.  :)  But I wanted to add that before I figured out I had a gluten intolerance I felt like I had "brain fog" all the time (this was before kids).  If some of the other easier stuff (like blood work) doesn't show you anything you might read up on some of the other symptoms of gluten intolerance and see if any of them fit.  Good luck!! catgirl on "What's happening to me?" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/whats-happening-to-me-1#post-1389870 Tue, 04 Nov 2014 18:36:49 +0000 catgirl 1389870@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ So one thing the doctor expressed to me is that chemical depression (where you are not feeling "depressed" but your brain chemicals are off balance) can create these kinds of issues.  For instance, I constantly would think I heard my phone ringing when it wasn't.  Or I would reach up to hit the garage door opener before even turning onto our street.  Like little misfiring synapses in the brain.  I chose not to go on anti-depressants, but knowing what it was helped me learn coping strategies and become more aware of the issues. Also exercise was incredibly helpful, though the last thing you need is another "to-do"; it's really about taking care of yourself. The most important thing is to find out what's going on - then you can figure out the best way to address it! Big hugs! abc on "What's happening to me?" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/whats-happening-to-me-1#post-1389865 Tue, 04 Nov 2014 18:34:40 +0000 abc 1389865@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Neel, if it makes you feel better, I am STILL searching for a pair of authentic designer sunglasses that must be somewhere in this house.  Same story as you - I always put things in their place, but apparently not since I can't find them.  I've ransacked the house to no avail.  I know they are here and hope they will turn up soon, but I feel the same guilt as you.  Praying for you to find your watch and me my sunglasses.  And yes, I identify with Una's post - 1000%.  We are not alone! Neel on "What's happening to me?" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/whats-happening-to-me-1#post-1389849 Tue, 04 Nov 2014 18:20:21 +0000 Neel 1389849@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ I can't start to express how relieving and theraupetic your replies are to me! I have been only inviting the wrath (and eye rolling) of DH and others. You all are the only people who understand this and think something could be wrong. Instead of labelling me *careless*! I feel better that I wrote this down. At least I have a few leads on what to look for. Una - I relate to your post the most. These are the kind of things I do. I seem to run on autopilot. Did I keep the document back? I always do. But did I keep it this time? I don't remember! I have lost my watch very recently. My only designer piece, a Rado (my 30th birthday gift from DH). I always keep it in its place. But did I do it this time? I don't know! I searched high and low. I can't find the darn thing Argh ... Its a torture. And the guilt is overwhelming. I have read every single reply and I need to get back to each one of you. But my mind is blank right now. I will get back to this thread tomorrow morning, I promise. Meanwhile a very big thank you to everyone. I will get myself to the doc asap and keep you all posted on it. x Peri on "What's happening to me?" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/whats-happening-to-me-1#post-1389812 Tue, 04 Nov 2014 17:43:29 +0000 Peri 1389812@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Also get your Vitamin B level checked. My friend was feeling similar issues and it was found she had almost no Vitamin B something.  catgirl on "What's happening to me?" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/whats-happening-to-me-1#post-1389798 Tue, 04 Nov 2014 17:28:00 +0000 catgirl 1389798@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Neel, I feel you!  I used to have a memory like a steel trap - people would comment on it.  Then I had a kid and turned 40, and it was GONE.  Can't remember names.  Did I unplug the flatiron?  Shut the garage door?  Where are my keys?  What is my friend's sister's name?  It's  like my brain was an overstuffed filing cabinet that finally exploded.  Add to that I now have an extremely stressful job where constant attentiveness is key. You've gotten great advice above.  Sleep, dehydration, stress, bloodwork, thyroid - one in three women over 40 have a thyroid issue, and my sister, 4 years younger than me, has been following my symptoms like clockwork.  I have found written checklists to be vital.  I have a sign on the door for everything before we leave the house (for me and DS, who is not so organized).  Backpack?  Homework?  Lunch?  Kettle off?  And so on.  Often the things I forget are so habitual, I can't remember them.  I've NEVER actually left the garage open, yet I always feel like I did because I can't remember the act of reaching up and hitting the button to close it. Hang in there, get to a doctor, and keep us posted.