https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/whats-going-on-drained-of-color Style Advice for Fashion Lovers en-US Mon, 27 Apr 2026 15:58:50 +0000 http://bbpress.org/?v=1.0.2 q https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/search.php https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/whats-going-on-drained-of-color#post-1051156 Sun, 13 Oct 2013 20:54:43 +0000 ironkurtin 1051156@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Yes, of course, but I still don't see why that means frumpy.&nbsp; Because if it does I am Queen of Frump Mountain. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/whats-going-on-drained-of-color#post-1051140 Sun, 13 Oct 2013 20:05:20 +0000 catgirl 1051140@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>IK, I agree - but I also think my tolerance level has changed. Things that used to feel fine now feel uncomfy, like layers and belts. My size has not changed but I am much more easily annoyed by things that weren't an issue before. Does that make sense? </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/whats-going-on-drained-of-color#post-1051135 Sun, 13 Oct 2013 19:47:41 +0000 CocoLion 1051135@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I like that sweater for you. &nbsp;You can easily mitigate color concerns with a bolder colored bottom, accessories, etc. &nbsp;I believe this sweater would hang more like a tunic on us shorter-waisted gals. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/whats-going-on-drained-of-color#post-1051126 Sun, 13 Oct 2013 18:51:32 +0000 ironkurtin 1051126@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I'm not sure why comfortable dressing is equated with frumpy.</p> <p>I demand everything I wear be comfortable.&nbsp; if it isn't, it goes. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/whats-going-on-drained-of-color#post-1051107 Sun, 13 Oct 2013 17:49:55 +0000 Vicki 1051107@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>You are not drained. Una, and simply making a shift into a a seasonal or new mood. </p> <p>Yes, I think there is a sophisticated UWP and this is you. The Vince top is a perfect example. This may be new territory, but it's beautiful new territory. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/whats-going-on-drained-of-color#post-1051098 Sun, 13 Oct 2013 17:35:32 +0000 Anonymous 1051098@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I think its a lovely sweater and though I have no wise words as per the other ladies, I must say that I don't think you could be frumpy no matter how hard you tried. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/whats-going-on-drained-of-color#post-1051092 Sun, 13 Oct 2013 17:17:56 +0000 catgirl 1051092@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Thank you all so much! First I want to say that by no means did I intend to imply that neutrals are frumpy! I see much the opposite. But neutrals plus the kind of comfort I dream of are not easy for me to find in styles I like. I'm no good at adding interest to basics nor do I want to take the time.</p> <p>You are also totally correct - change of career, lack of exercise, crazy schedule, midlife crisis, need to look somewhat conservative for work - all of these things are adding up to less effort on my part and therefore perceived frump?</p> <p>Is there such a thing as sophisticated UWP? And what would she wear? </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/whats-going-on-drained-of-color#post-1051087 Sun, 13 Oct 2013 16:56:37 +0000 Janet 1051087@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Una, I am attracted to that piece too, but the color isn't my best either, and I don't look nearly as fab in those styles as ladies like you and Dana who have more IT builds. </p> <p>I am appreciating that I can be attracted to pieces even if they're not my best. In this case, I think the cut if that sweater would be perfect on you, if not the color. </p> <p>I don't see this as a descent into frumpdom at all. Perhaps a softening of your more UWP look? Pair this with your signature boots and skinnies and the result will be the opposite of frump. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/whats-going-on-drained-of-color#post-1051067 Sun, 13 Oct 2013 15:57:03 +0000 JulieJohn 1051067@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>That is a beautiful sweater, the drape in back especially catches my eye. Could it be that nature is playing a part in your shift, as the weather chills and there are no more bright displays of color? Seems natural. I turn to neutrals more at this time of year too, something psychological and comforting about them.</p> <p>Maybe part of the draw is the luscious name of that color: Heather Maple. Have some pancakes and mull it over. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/whats-going-on-drained-of-color#post-1051058 Sun, 13 Oct 2013 15:49:36 +0000 deb 1051058@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Does this fear of 'frumpville' have a deeper meaning? These fears in my life usually went along some major change. I know you have had a job change but my gut tells me there is something else going on. Children growing up, changes in body shape as we age, medical issues, all of these affected me as they happened. And still do. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/whats-going-on-drained-of-color#post-1051046 Sun, 13 Oct 2013 15:28:13 +0000 goldenpig 1051046@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>You could wear anything and make it look cool, Una! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/whats-going-on-drained-of-color#post-1050989 Sun, 13 Oct 2013 11:55:23 +0000 Irene 1050989@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>A sweater like that in cream might suit your coloring better. Or in a subdued tone, like a darkish red, purple or green. It <i>is</i> true that brights really work very well against your skin, but neutral colors do not make an item frumpy! And that's a beautiful sweater. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/whats-going-on-drained-of-color#post-1050911 Sun, 13 Oct 2013 04:36:27 +0000 ManidipaM 1050911@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>You can't be frumpy, you wouldn't know how.</p> <p>Could you just be looking for something restful? Is your new commute and workplace v distinctly muted or bright/busy? </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/whats-going-on-drained-of-color#post-1050909 Sun, 13 Oct 2013 04:34:05 +0000 Adelfa 1050909@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I'm not sure you would look bad in this color. I would need to see it. And there *are* a lot of neutrals out there right now. They're what's new, and you like new! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/whats-going-on-drained-of-color#post-1050906 Sun, 13 Oct 2013 04:30:34 +0000 Deborah 1050906@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Not frumpy at all. I think you are moving to a more streamlined and sophisticated style. You can still enjoy your RATE elements and that is what will make these looks yours. I see you hairstyle as part of your signature too and I doubt you will ever loose your edge:) </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/whats-going-on-drained-of-color#post-1050820 Sun, 13 Oct 2013 01:18:40 +0000 Lyn D. 1050820@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>We would have to see this particular colour on you, but the style looks very you, I think. <br />It would feel lovely too with the nice fabric. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/whats-going-on-drained-of-color#post-1050812 Sun, 13 Oct 2013 01:13:20 +0000 Aziraphale 1050812@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Una, we're all different when it comes to pattern and colour. &nbsp;What seems fabulous to one woman might feel&nbsp;garish and eyewatering to another.</p> <p>I'm personally drawn to desaturated colour palettes, and not just&nbsp;in clothing. &nbsp;I &nbsp;prefer it in&nbsp;architecture, landscapes, and art. &nbsp;I like shades of grey. &nbsp;I like the odd shot of colour, but in small doses. &nbsp;In clothing, that usually means a colourful accessory. &nbsp;In a landscape, it could be something like a red phone box on a grey London street scene. &nbsp;I don't consider myself frumpy at all. &nbsp;It's just a personal preference. &nbsp;I also don't think that women who wear bright colours or wild patterns necessarily look bad, either -- I get that they prefer that sort of thing, and it suits their personality.</p> <p>I also don't totally buy into the "it's not your colour" thing. &nbsp;I think there are a few "bad" colours for certain people (for example, I know I look terrible in lemon yellow), and a few strikingly "good" ones too (certain shades of olive make my skin tone look great), but most colours are somewhere in between.&nbsp;<br />A neutral, taupe-y top might not be your best colour ever, or it might look better on you than you think. &nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/whats-going-on-drained-of-color#post-1050810 Sun, 13 Oct 2013 01:11:29 +0000 Jaime 1050810@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I am smiling at your continued fear of falling into frump. I think we need to explore this fear further. Did you have a frumpy past life perhaps? Because unless you are hiding something you are pretty much as far from frump as you could be. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/whats-going-on-drained-of-color#post-1050787 Sun, 13 Oct 2013 00:37:10 +0000 MsLuna 1050787@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>You're so not frumpy! You always have a way of making outfits look fashion-forward and edgy!</p> <p>And btw, I think neutral is often associated with sophistication. So perhaps you are sliding more to the sophisticated side? </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/whats-going-on-drained-of-color#post-1050765 Sat, 12 Oct 2013 23:32:00 +0000 MuseumGal 1050765@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I actually think it takes more confidence to pull off something simple like that sweater because it forces attention to *you* not your clothes.&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/whats-going-on-drained-of-color#post-1050747 Sat, 12 Oct 2013 22:54:33 +0000 ironkurtin 1050747@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Well, I seldom do color and patterns (unless they're liberty print...), that's true.&nbsp; But I do like coats and boots! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/whats-going-on-drained-of-color#post-1050745 Sat, 12 Oct 2013 22:51:45 +0000 catgirl 1050745@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I think I'm still on a learning curve trying to figure out the difference.&nbsp; I need to look at your posts for inspiration.&nbsp;&nbsp;For me, my lack of desire for color and patterns&nbsp;feels like being mildly anemic.&nbsp; But your words are heartening! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/whats-going-on-drained-of-color#post-1050743 Sat, 12 Oct 2013 22:49:01 +0000 ironkurtin 1050743@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I am making a very puzzled face.&nbsp; I think you're increasingly drawn to things that are simple and sophisticated.&nbsp; That's not the same as frumpy at all. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/whats-going-on-drained-of-color#post-1050739 Sat, 12 Oct 2013 22:48:00 +0000 catgirl 1050739@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>IK, I feel like I'm one step away from Multiples or some j jill dressing system... but that could just be my own fear wreaking havoc.</p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/whats-going-on-drained-of-color#post-1050735 Sat, 12 Oct 2013 22:45:16 +0000 ironkurtin 1050735@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Why exactly do you think you are sliding into frumpville?</p> <p>This is a very classic basic sweater.&nbsp; I don't think this kind of taupe is easy for olive-skinned folks to wear, but you could always wear a scarf if it doesn't come in other colors. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/whats-going-on-drained-of-color#post-1050723 Sat, 12 Oct 2013 22:10:33 +0000 Anonymous 1050723@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I really like it a lot. &nbsp; The color would be challenging though. &nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/whats-going-on-drained-of-color#post-1050720 Sat, 12 Oct 2013 22:04:49 +0000 DonnaF 1050720@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>In the past few months, I've seen a TON of sweaters and other stuff in gray and similar neutrals, so part of it is a reaction to what is out there.&nbsp; The style of that sweater is very *Una* to me, so I'm sure that is part of the pull. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/whats-going-on-drained-of-color#post-1050714 Sat, 12 Oct 2013 21:41:37 +0000 Amy 1050714@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I don't buy it either! Your lifestyle has changed and you're making sartorial decisions based on a different set of needs. It's hard to work out how to look and feel stylish when your world shifts, but I'm confident you'll continue to knock our socks off.</p> <p>I suspect your attraction to a more neutral palette is influenced by what you're seeing in stores, on blogs, etc. I used to be drawn to lots of color, but am finding myself pulled in the direction of black, charcoal, navy and burgundy. These colors are everywhere right now. I will admit to having a predisposition to this palette. I'm not sure what's going to happen when spring rolls around and we start seeing blush pink and sky blue on everything--neither of which colors I have ever liked. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/whats-going-on-drained-of-color#post-1050708 Sat, 12 Oct 2013 21:21:26 +0000 Isabel 1050708@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p><u><b><i></i></b></u><b><i>YOU&nbsp;</i></b><i></i><u></u>could never slide into frumpville ! &nbsp;I don't buy it. &nbsp;LOL</p> <p>It is a beautiful sweater. &nbsp;You are right that the color probably wouldn't look good on you. &nbsp;There is nothing wrong with your tastes changing. &nbsp;Just admire it on someone else. &nbsp;</p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/whats-going-on-drained-of-color#post-1050706 Sat, 12 Oct 2013 21:18:52 +0000 catgirl 1050706@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I am suddenly finding myself attracted to neutrals that not only never interested me, but don't really suit me.  I am eying cozy sweaters in subdued tones like this:</p> <p><a href="http://shop.nordstrom.com/s/vince-wool-cashmere-sweater/3509030?origin=keywordsearch-personalizedsort&amp;contextualcategoryid=2375500&amp;fashionColor=&amp;resultback=9677&amp;cm_sp=personalizedsort-_-searchresults-_-undefined_25_C" rel="nofollow">http://shop.nordstrom.com/s/vi.....fined_25_C</a></p> <p>Is this all part of my downward slide into frumpville?  Will wearing neutrals make my life easier?</p> <p>ETA: I am not saying neutrals are frumpy at all - just that the colors I'm wanting are generally no good on me and adding to that, the styles are all about comfort. </p>