https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/what-to-wear-to-memorial-service Style Advice for Fashion Lovers en-US Wed, 03 Jun 2026 03:39:55 +0000 http://bbpress.org/?v=1.0.2 q https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/search.php https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/what-to-wear-to-memorial-service#post-648631 Mon, 18 Jun 2012 16:20:22 +0000 Anonymous 648631@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>You are probably already there (and sorted) but I just wanted to say how nice both of these outfits are. The coral shirt is beautiful on you, that is a fab, fab, FAB printed skirt and you look every bit as chic as Vicki. I agree flats are a great option if you are going somewhere that has A/C. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/what-to-wear-to-memorial-service#post-648527 Mon, 18 Jun 2012 13:52:35 +0000 Angie 648527@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Sounds like you are sorted. I am sorry for your loss. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/what-to-wear-to-memorial-service#post-648459 Mon, 18 Jun 2012 12:21:28 +0000 Janet 648459@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I am with Jeanne. I couldn't even begin to guess what anyone was wearing at my mother's or father's funerals. I barely even remember what I wore!</p> <p>I think you look very appropriate. I also have a footwear wardrobe hole when it comes to these occasions -- I wore simple wedge black sandals last year for a memorial and they felt just a little too casual, but I balk at buying a pair of black pumps that I would only wear for such occasions. </p> <p>I'm sorry for your loss. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/what-to-wear-to-memorial-service#post-648457 Mon, 18 Jun 2012 12:12:37 +0000 Sheila 648457@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I think the pewter flats will look very appropriate and, if you feel comfortable in #1, I would go for it...unless the weather is so hot that a jacket is just too heavy to wear. Then switch to the other combo, which, although darker, looks cooler to my eye.</p> <p>I have been an organist in a church and have played for so many memorial services over the years...what you will be wearing is just fine, my dear! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/what-to-wear-to-memorial-service#post-648418 Mon, 18 Jun 2012 09:37:25 +0000 Jjsloane 648418@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I like #1. It's you, it's appropriate without being too somber. Having been the family once or twice we (they) won't notice what anyone wears unless it's a clown suit (literally). It's nice of you to consider their thoughts, but as others said, they'll just be happy you're there. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/what-to-wear-to-memorial-service#post-648388 Mon, 18 Jun 2012 06:01:02 +0000 fashionlady 648388@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>the #2 is perfect. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/what-to-wear-to-memorial-service#post-648379 Mon, 18 Jun 2012 05:18:53 +0000 Scarlet 648379@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I would normally say the red is too happy, but it sounds like this is a special situation. I do feel like closed toed shoes would be more appropriate if they are a possibility. Pewter sounds like the best bet. Unrelated, I really like that skirt. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/what-to-wear-to-memorial-service#post-648341 Mon, 18 Jun 2012 03:23:45 +0000 Transcona Shannon 648341@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I think the pewter flats with either outfit would work well Sarah. And I agree with Suz to trust your instincts on what to wear. You know the family and what will be appropriate. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/what-to-wear-to-memorial-service#post-648312 Mon, 18 Jun 2012 02:26:21 +0000 Deborah 648312@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Sarah I would go with either the pewter or red flats:) </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/what-to-wear-to-memorial-service#post-648308 Mon, 18 Jun 2012 02:10:53 +0000 Isis 648308@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I think both outfits look good. I like the jacket in #1 and a belt would be nice.....the sandals are casual, but would have completely fit in the last two memorial services I went to. You know the community so trust your instinct on the level of formality that is appropriate. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/what-to-wear-to-memorial-service#post-648301 Mon, 18 Jun 2012 01:57:17 +0000 sarah 648301@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Thanks, all.</p> <p>Suz, I have pewter, animal print, and red flats. Do you think that the pewter flats would be better in this case? </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/what-to-wear-to-memorial-service#post-648300 Mon, 18 Jun 2012 01:54:35 +0000 Suz 648300@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Sarah, you look lovely. And I would trust your gut on this one. What matters most is that you are comfortable and able to be present to those who are deep in mourning. </p> <p>On the footwear issue, you do have a couple of flats, right? Because you could always wear flats with no stockings for a more closed in shoe. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/what-to-wear-to-memorial-service#post-648296 Mon, 18 Jun 2012 01:32:47 +0000 Kyle 648296@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>You look great. I love the skirt and both blouses are quite nice. This feels a bit casual for a memorial, honestly...but it is so hard to make that call without knowing the people involved. I would be inclined to keep things a bit on the darker, vs. brighter, side, to keep it a bit more traditional. But in the end, my best advice is for you to trust your gut instincts, and I'm sure they will not steer you wrong. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/what-to-wear-to-memorial-service#post-648282 Mon, 18 Jun 2012 01:08:01 +0000 sarah 648282@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Donna, that would actually be PERFECT. You hit the nail on the head. Alas, I don't have anything like that anymore. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/what-to-wear-to-memorial-service#post-648266 Mon, 18 Jun 2012 00:46:21 +0000 DonnaF 648266@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Sounds like you could dress in Eileen Fisher if that were your style, tee, hee, hee. No, I don't think you need to stick to dark colors within that context, but definitely your presence will be welcomed. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/what-to-wear-to-memorial-service#post-648265 Mon, 18 Jun 2012 00:41:27 +0000 sarah 648265@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Thanks for your thoughts, all. It's going to be pretty warm, and these are the most "formal" of my sandals, so I'm probably stuck with them. I realize that my foot wear is limited to "fall-winter-spring" work boots/booties/shoes, and summer sandals. I'm not a pumps gal. Hmmm...</p> <p>The deceased was a philosophy professor who lived next door to us all the time I was growing up. They are a very casual family: musicians, poets, professors and the like, if that helps. So, I don't think I need to stick to dark colors. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/what-to-wear-to-memorial-service#post-648264 Mon, 18 Jun 2012 00:37:08 +0000 DonnaF 648264@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>What would the deceased have wanted? And what about his/her family? A friend in my women's group said that among her FIL's last words was that he wanted to go out *Hollywood style* but that he died before he could elaborate. So yesterday for his memorial service, my women's group dolled up and I painted my nails red (first time in 59 years!!!) and I wore my blingiest earrings. Another person at the service said that David wouldn't have wanted people to wear black. For a memorial service earlier this year on St. Patrick's Day, the deceased, who was of Irish heritage, expressed a desire before he passed away that everyone wear green, so we did. </p> <p>Either of your outfits would have been fine at the four memorial services I attended this year in my community among my circle of friends and acquaintances, although the sandals would have been too cold for the weekend I attended three services. Both are modest which is my middle-aged preference -- but my bias would be to have an under-clad teen or anyone else who wanted to attend feel welcomed rather than harumphed out the door as inappropriately dressed. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/what-to-wear-to-memorial-service#post-648263 Mon, 18 Jun 2012 00:29:57 +0000 Deborah 648263@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Sarah these both look good, however I am partial to #2. The only thing I would change is the shoes. These look to casual to me for a Memorial Service. I realise it is probably warm where you are but a more closed in sandal might be better? </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/what-to-wear-to-memorial-service#post-648262 Mon, 18 Jun 2012 00:28:21 +0000 Anonymous 648262@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I like the formality of the jacket,so I prefer #1 </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/what-to-wear-to-memorial-service#post-648253 Mon, 18 Jun 2012 00:21:40 +0000 biscuitsmom 648253@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I prefer the dark combo of #2 for a service, personally...both are very good, I think. although the blazer really helps, Im just not a fan of a bright color in that situation. . I think a dark belt would look good... the one in the 2nd photo is really nice, have you tried that? Im sorry for your loss </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/what-to-wear-to-memorial-service#post-648248 Mon, 18 Jun 2012 00:14:26 +0000 sarah 648248@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Are either of these OK for a Memorial Service? </p> <p>ETA: This is for my neighbor growing up - they are a very casual family, in case that influences your choice.</p> <p>I think I prefer #1, and am wondering if I should add a belt. Normally I would scrunch the sleeves in #1, but that doesn't seem quite appropriate.</p> <p>#2 was an attempt to copy a recent post by Vicki, but it doesn't seem quite as successful as hers.</p> <p>Thoughts? </p>