https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/what-i-should-do-vs-what-i-want-to-do Style Advice for Fashion Lovers en-US Sat, 11 Apr 2026 18:20:33 +0000 http://bbpress.org/?v=1.0.2 q https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/search.php https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/what-i-should-do-vs-what-i-want-to-do/page/2#post-1751168 Thu, 17 Nov 2016 04:01:15 +0000 Anonymous 1751168@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I posted this dress under another thread, but I was happy to have the chance to try them both on. Both are nice, but I'm not getting either right now. I tried lighter weight short sleeve and 3/4 sleeve tops too, but will look more earnestly in early spring. The sweater reminds me that wool isn't a great fabric for me to wear (although it didn't feel see through, as others have mentioned). I really like the sweater color.</p> <p>Note - it's been mid 80s for temps here, so I'm trying to buy according to what will actually get worn. </p> <p>Props to Angie - it was her descriptions that made me think they would work for my body type. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/what-i-should-do-vs-what-i-want-to-do/page/2#post-1750645 Tue, 15 Nov 2016 19:00:16 +0000 Anonymous 1750645@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Texstyle - maybe for both of us it's more about fit and tailoring than structure. I don't really get clothing tailored, but we all know when we feel the fit of something really flatters us. Super thin tees and other summer fabrics can make me feel bad about myself, but it's due to how it drapes and clings mostly. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/what-i-should-do-vs-what-i-want-to-do/page/2#post-1750606 Tue, 15 Nov 2016 17:07:57 +0000 Anonymous 1750606@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>minimalist - your tow truck driver comment really made me laugh. My DH is who he is, and I don't really care how he dresses. He returns the favor, so it's not a big deal. </p> <p>I like hues of fuchsia and purple, as well as loving blues. I once had two identical dresses - one in red and one in black. I loved the cut and wore them both. The red made me feel like a standout, but the black was worn at least twice as much. I have black dresses though, and don't need another (unless it's very summery and casual). </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/what-i-should-do-vs-what-i-want-to-do/page/2#post-1750603 Tue, 15 Nov 2016 17:06:12 +0000 texstyle 1750603@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I'm laughing today because even though I crave structure I seem to also crave soft. I'm wearing a super soft knit collared button down over slouchy olive twill pants (also very soft). I think however I can say there is *some* structure in the top because it has a hefty button placket (is that the right word?), a built in v-neck due to the buttons starting further down, and the buttons are dark and stand out in a good way against the light oatmeal heather color. It also has roll tab sleeves, which I don't usually like, but for some reason they work just right to me on this particular top.</p> <p>So maybe sometimes it is the combination of details that help add structure to otherwise soft and comfy items.&nbsp; And I will wear good shoes, add some bracelets and roll the pants when I go out and about. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/what-i-should-do-vs-what-i-want-to-do#post-1750594 Tue, 15 Nov 2016 16:52:29 +0000 minimalist 1750594@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>"The Hue of the HEWI" could be YLF's own atonal garage band, touring with rotating members.</p> <p>Thanks for posting this thread. So painfully relevant. The fantasy lifestyle items I'm drawn to would require a very different climate, and other things different to the lifestyle I'd have (and have had) even in that climate. As Suz has mentioned, this may be other issues coming home to roost in the wardrobe. I'm not entirely sure what to do with that.</p> <p>Mr Maximalist is usually much better dressed than I am, and he doesn't mind how comical that sometimes looks. I guess I'm in your husband's role a bit there: I feel I should make an effort to look like we're together, and not like he's taking his tow-truck driver to dinner or something. (He would say, and so what if he was?!) </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/what-i-should-do-vs-what-i-want-to-do#post-1750550 Tue, 15 Nov 2016 13:35:09 +0000 Anonymous 1750550@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Ahem - now that I think about it, I've bought and moved along at least three red dresses after only a couple wears. Not sure if it's settling trying to find this HEWI, or a hint I should go with a slightly different hue to get the same effect. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/what-i-should-do-vs-what-i-want-to-do#post-1750547 Tue, 15 Nov 2016 13:16:51 +0000 Anonymous 1750547@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>April and approprio - I have a plan. I'll try to schedule a shopping trip to look for something I wear more often first. If the dress still calls me in a week, I'll order it and try it out. I'm drawn to red dresses, but once I have them on they don't feel like my best color. Luckily I cannot recall a time of spray painting cars or messy farm animals, so I should be in good shape on that score. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/what-i-should-do-vs-what-i-want-to-do#post-1750533 Tue, 15 Nov 2016 12:44:25 +0000 approprio 1750533@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I agree with April. That looks like a dress you could wear and enjoy just for the heck of it. Everyone has somewhere to go, even if it's just to the shops.&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/what-i-should-do-vs-what-i-want-to-do#post-1750531 Tue, 15 Nov 2016 12:36:20 +0000 April 1750531@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Delurked, I'm going to be the spanner here and say, unless there are serious economic constraints against doing so, Be weak. &nbsp;<i>Buy the dress and wear it. &nbsp;</i>You don't need "someplace to wear it." &nbsp;Just wear it -- as long as you're not, like, spraypainting a car or doing something really messy with farm animals. &nbsp;</p> <p>Your husband will get used to the idea that we can dress up more than twice a year, and that he can look at you looking like you "made an effort" without feeling pressured to do so himself. &nbsp;He may even grow to feel flattered that you made that effort and that he gets to enjoy the results! &nbsp;</p> <p> </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/what-i-should-do-vs-what-i-want-to-do#post-1750521 Tue, 15 Nov 2016 11:51:38 +0000 Anonymous 1750521@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Tulle - I definitely do online shop, but I've noticed my success rate is much higher when I purchase items in person. Unfortunately, there are many stores not available where I live, so it's become a balancing act between trying on before purchase vs the larger selection online provides. I can't believe Thanksgiving is is close. I will definitely check my fave online stores then, and maybe the answer is to broaden where I look. </p> <p>I like your comment about dressing up for both of us. I don't necessarily make the choice of not dressing up - we often look mismatched, which I'm ok with too. My goal is to find pieces that make me feel really good, so that can mean passing up on a lot of mediocre, and can be somewhat time consuming. </p> <p>Shevia - I've not worn a puffer yet, but there are certainly some cute ones out there. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/what-i-should-do-vs-what-i-want-to-do#post-1750489 Tue, 15 Nov 2016 07:04:12 +0000 tulle 1750489@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Why not check out online sales of your favorite brands?&nbsp; You may find appealing warm-weather tops, even a cotton or linen sweater, at great prices, and get some things you actually need.&nbsp; If they happen to come in somewhat Autumnal colors, so much the better.</p> <p>P.S. When we go out, and my husband says, "You look kind of dressed-up,"&nbsp; I just tell him not to worry, I'm dressing up for both of us. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/what-i-should-do-vs-what-i-want-to-do#post-1750427 Tue, 15 Nov 2016 03:19:31 +0000 Jaime 1750427@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I totally hear you. I am strangely drawn to puffers. The thought of a beautiful cozy puffer. Never mind that it is rarely puffer weather here and I own as many coats as we have days of winter...including at least one puffer. Focus on the color and the details and challenge yourself to find something you can actually wear that features them. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/what-i-should-do-vs-what-i-want-to-do#post-1750421 Tue, 15 Nov 2016 02:59:28 +0000 Anonymous 1750421@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Stay strong and plan for warm/hot fall days in the future. You might look for short sleeved tops on EBay.<br /> I find knits warmer to wear than wovens. Just the nature of extra threads in a knit must make it so. Don't settle for anything that you don't love. You will tire of it quickly. I am used to hot fall days and getting sick of my summer clothes. I have a plaid silk tee in fall colors and a linen sweater and tank set in burnt orange that get saved until September. They are still in regular rotation now in mid November. Peep toe and sandal type booties feel just right on hot fall days. Colors such as navy, brown, and olive work well for fall and are often available in hot weather styles. My olive silky joggers from Target have been casual workhorses as have a pair of chocolate cotton cargo pants </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/what-i-should-do-vs-what-i-want-to-do#post-1750409 Tue, 15 Nov 2016 02:11:41 +0000 Anonymous 1750409@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Unfrumped - I have lightweight cotton sweaters for the most part. Some are many years old and I considered getting rid of at the end of last winter. If I wear them this year, I will make some decisions about if they are too worn to keep past this season. And once I get some colder weather items into rotation, it may stop me from eying sweaters online so longingly. </p> <p>Plus, I will be able to tell if there are any winter weather holes for next year. I have a loft signaturesoft sweater from last year or the year before. I thought for sure I would get another since I like it a lot, but none of what I tried on seemed right, so I didn't force it just because what's out now isn't quite right. I would like a mid to light weight v neck sweater in a vibrant color, but only if I stumble across it in person. I don't want to play the buy online and return game for something that's not pressing. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/what-i-should-do-vs-what-i-want-to-do#post-1750396 Tue, 15 Nov 2016 01:19:16 +0000 unfrumped 1750396@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I hear you! Especially on going too deep, or over- duping.<br /> I do like having some " warm fall " tops, though. I keep an eye out for linen knits in rust or teal and such.</p> <p> Trying to sit on my hands re: sweaters. With our warm fall weather, I only just got out my real sweaters so it was hard to think about what I already had, but meanwhile lovely new sweaters were showing up. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/what-i-should-do-vs-what-i-want-to-do#post-1750366 Mon, 14 Nov 2016 22:30:51 +0000 Anonymous 1750366@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Dottie - it's kind of crazy to think that spring items will be here before all that long. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/what-i-should-do-vs-what-i-want-to-do#post-1750365 Mon, 14 Nov 2016 22:30:06 +0000 Anonymous 1750365@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Lots of good wisdom here. I agree fall colored tops could help with feeling like autumn. I also like the idea of making a long sleeve top into short sleeves. I have a couple cardigans, but I've moved away from them in recent years. </p> <p>I have been pretty good this year about buying for my day to day life and just admiring on others things that are not useful to me. </p> <p>I happen to think the structure of fall clothes is part of what appeals to me. There was a recent thread from texstyle about this topic. A lot of the time it's too hot for most wovens, and I don't really like wearing sleeveless, although it would make sense to avoid the difficulty in fitting my shoulders. I'll definitely be looking for some wovens though that are cooler for summer wear. </p> <p>The other thing I'm trying to be good at is not buying deep into a category. I've been know to have the thinking if one is good, three is better. then I get tired of a style, and I have too much to pass along. </p> <p>I'm holding strong for now - in part because I am thinking of where I would want to spend money and comparing a top I would wear often with a dress that does not have a designated time to be worn. But obviously a bit more newness within categories I need may be welcome. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/what-i-should-do-vs-what-i-want-to-do#post-1750362 Mon, 14 Nov 2016 22:12:55 +0000 MrsK 1750362@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Another transplant to the South here, and I totally hear you. What about buying fall colored sleeveless tops and then adding cardigans when it does get cooler? That's pretty much what I do. I love the transition to fall colors - and sometimes I feel silly wearing peach, light turquoise, etc. in the winter. Plus, as you said, I'm sick of some of my summer clothes.</p> <p>I accompanied my friend shopping yesterday and Loft actually has some really pretty, patterned tops in navy, rust, teal, burgundy, etc. I added just a few Finds as examples.&nbsp;</p> <p>I imagine there are lots available at other stores too. I plan on doing the same thing in a couple of weeks when I go on a shopping trip.</p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/what-i-should-do-vs-what-i-want-to-do#post-1750357 Mon, 14 Nov 2016 22:01:12 +0000 Dottie 1750357@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I get where you're coming from. &nbsp;It's very warm here the majority of the year as well. &nbsp;Rather than buying something that you'll hardly ever use, like the dress (see the thread about learning from our mistakes :-), perhaps take inventory of your winter sweaters and see where/if you have a wardrobe hole. I like the idea of an autumn colored sleeveless or short sleeved sweater that could easily move into spring as well. &nbsp;</p> <p>On the other hand, if you think about it, spring items will appear in the stores soon! You can do it! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/what-i-should-do-vs-what-i-want-to-do#post-1750352 Mon, 14 Nov 2016 21:49:45 +0000 Anonymous 1750352@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Echoing the "stay strong" mantra.</p> <p>I hope your hands don't go numb though from sitting on them! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/what-i-should-do-vs-what-i-want-to-do#post-1750351 Mon, 14 Nov 2016 21:47:10 +0000 RobinF 1750351@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>We have a chance for our first snow (late this year) this coming weekend, if that makes you feel any happier about your weather :)</p> <p>I agree with those suggesting some short sleeves in fall colors. I would have to change up my wardrobe if I didn't have seasons, just from boredom. That dress and sweater are really cute but no fun if you can't wear them. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/what-i-should-do-vs-what-i-want-to-do#post-1750339 Mon, 14 Nov 2016 21:17:34 +0000 shedev 1750339@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Just reading your title I was going to tell you to do what you want to do. Fashion is one of the few areas where I get to do what I want. But when it comes to temps, I do what I should. I hope you find a couple tops that work for you. I have to wear summer tops with toppers&nbsp;to work all year due to crazy temp fluctuations at the jobsite. You have my sympathy. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/what-i-should-do-vs-what-i-want-to-do#post-1750319 Mon, 14 Nov 2016 20:26:14 +0000 El Cee 1750319@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I also commiserate. We had a freaky-warm start to Fall even up here in the Northeast... and it is still nowhere near coat and heavy sweater weather. I adore cashmere but find it too warm for my own climate. And I, too, am also in that "perpetual summer" phase of life. I also have too much of a tendency to buy things that are way too dressy for my very casual lifestyle. That lovely red dress that you show would definitely be calling my name if I did not exert a ton of willpower.</p> <p>You should treat yourself to a few lovely new light weight or sleeveless items -- perhaps some things in shades that would give you the feeling of autumn without the bulk.</p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/what-i-should-do-vs-what-i-want-to-do#post-1750316 Mon, 14 Nov 2016 20:24:04 +0000 Firecracker (Sharan) 1750316@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Stay strong, delurked!<br />What about keeping an eye out for nice long-sleeved tops, too? You could shorten the sleeves! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/what-i-should-do-vs-what-i-want-to-do#post-1750313 Mon, 14 Nov 2016 20:15:35 +0000 texstyle 1750313@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>More commiseration here - it's 80+ today and will be warmer tomorrow. I have stood strong in not buying any more sweaters after purchasing one on a trip I took this summer and realizing I may never really get to wear it unless I'm traveling. I have a couple of lighter cashmere sweaters and those are the only sweater weight I can bear in our warm climate.</p> <p>I'd really love a top with the sleeves like that red dress and have been looking for one, but haven't found the right one for me. I agree that BR sweaters are usually thin and don't wear well in my experience so it's easy for me to pass on those.</p> <p>I'm making an effort to wear some of the things I didn't already wear a lot this summer. And in the morning it is cooler so I sometimes do wear a long sleeved top until after lunch, especially if I'm going out in the morning.&nbsp; I do hope retailers begin to take notice that many of us are not living in sub-zero weather even in winter. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/what-i-should-do-vs-what-i-want-to-do#post-1750301 Mon, 14 Nov 2016 19:48:00 +0000 JAileen 1750301@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I know what you mean. I loved the snake boots in Angie's post today, but I don't need any more boots! I mustn't buy them. I used to live on the Gulf Coast in the heat and humidity. When it got to be fall, but it was still hot, I wore summer clothes in fall colors. Where I live now, we have winter and summer temps in the same day. This morning it was 32, and and it's supposed to get to 70 this afternoon! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/what-i-should-do-vs-what-i-want-to-do#post-1750299 Mon, 14 Nov 2016 19:44:41 +0000 Poppy 1750299@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Dear delurked,<br />Boy do I understand your frustration!&nbsp; I am a life long Minnesotan who moved to South Florida to finish up hubby's career.&nbsp; </p> <p>I &nbsp; <i><b>LOVE</b></i> &nbsp; fall clothes; the fabrics, the deeper colors, the layers.<br />But I have no need (nor use) for such things.&nbsp; Its a cool-ish 80 degrees here as I type.</p> <p>Paradise is hard when you are looking at the new fall catalogs.&nbsp; lol&nbsp; So I just tell myself, as you did, to stock up when the spring merchandise comes out.&nbsp; Be strong.&nbsp; We will get thru this together.&nbsp; </p> <p> </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/what-i-should-do-vs-what-i-want-to-do#post-1750295 Mon, 14 Nov 2016 19:28:24 +0000 Anonymous 1750295@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>It's pretty clear I'm just tired of wearing the same clothes for so long because the season hasn't changed enough to wear my fall clothes yet. And also, my short sleeve tops are diminishing due to wear, so I'm repeating more often than I prefer. It is the colors and details in the items I'm drawn to, and I can definitely focus my shopping on something more useful for my current lifestyle. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/what-i-should-do-vs-what-i-want-to-do#post-1750292 Mon, 14 Nov 2016 19:09:02 +0000 Anonymous 1750292@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>It seems to me like you would benefit from a short sleeve shopping session to get the fall clothes out of your system.</p> <p>Maybe try looking online or non-mall stores to get the juices going.</p> <p>There are so many pretty blouses out there that I wish I could buy but that don't really work for me in my cold winter climate. Actually, they don't work in the cold a/c either </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/what-i-should-do-vs-what-i-want-to-do#post-1750290 Mon, 14 Nov 2016 19:02:07 +0000 chewyspaghetti 1750290@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Look for short sleeved tops that have something you love from these items (color, etc) </p>