https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/what-do-you-find-sexy-in-a-good-way-in-dressing Style Advice for Fashion Lovers en-US Sun, 03 May 2026 03:40:34 +0000 http://bbpress.org/?v=1.0.2 q https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/search.php https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/what-do-you-find-sexy-in-a-good-way-in-dressing/page/2#post-283480 Thu, 20 Jan 2011 21:09:05 +0000 Cilleena 283480@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>For me, there is nothing sexier than a perfect fitting pair of jeans, a nicely shaped top and maybe a pair of heels. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/what-do-you-find-sexy-in-a-good-way-in-dressing/page/2#post-282190 Tue, 18 Jan 2011 06:06:01 +0000 catgirl 282190@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I just went with a friend to try on clothes because she has lost a lot of weight due to a chronic though not life-threatening illness. Seeing her in clothes that now fit, I was shocked at how thin she's become - we used to be the same size, and now she is one or two sizes smaller. She was complaining about how unattractive she feels with the way her body has changed, and how a few more pounds would make her feel so much more sexy and sassy. </p> <p>Yet so many people still say stupid things to her like "Oh, I wish I had that problem". </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/what-do-you-find-sexy-in-a-good-way-in-dressing/page/2#post-282172 Tue, 18 Jan 2011 04:44:53 +0000 MsMaven 282172@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>For me, exposed skin that shows scrawny bones poking out is very unsexy. One thing I noticed about last night's Globes is that there were very few bony rib cages on display--women were either more covered up or had gained a couple of pounds.</p> <p>In my own experience from my younger days when I would get hit on in public, more masculine looks caught many interested looks. One time I was at Mervyn's when I was wearing a beige man's shirt, sleeved rolled and tucked into Gap khakis. Now I would have thought that was the unsexiest outfit you can imagine, but I got hit (mildly) on a couple of times that day--so go figure. Who knows, maybe it was my clean hair. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/what-do-you-find-sexy-in-a-good-way-in-dressing/page/2#post-282087 Tue, 18 Jan 2011 02:17:15 +0000 Kyle 282087@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Perfectly fitting jeans and a white blouse. Simple diamond stud earrings. Clean shiny hair. Flawless skin. Beautiful white smile. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/what-do-you-find-sexy-in-a-good-way-in-dressing/page/2#post-281962 Mon, 17 Jan 2011 21:29:35 +0000 RandomThoughts (Andrea) 281962@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>This is a great question and one I will have to ponder. IMO, sexy, alluring, beautiful, and attractive (to name a few) are not all one and the same. There are ladies on here who I find absolutely gorgeous and even alluring but who do not appear "sexy" to my eye. One is not generally preferable to the other, except perhaps in context or to the individual.</p> <p>Just thinking aloud here, my sister-in-law is super sexy in the very typical overt way. She's petite, slim, large breasted, long haired, tan skinned, etc. She looks sexy in a t-shirt and jeans. She looks sexy in a track outfit! I don't think she is necessarily trying nor is she the most confident person in the world. It's just the way she looks and how she carries herself.</p> <p>Other women are sexy in different ways but no less so.</p> <p>I can feel sexy in well fitting jeans and a cute top, in a skirt with boots, etc. It also depends largely on how I feel that day and has little to do with what I'm wearing (though FAB shoes/boots never hurt). I have not been feeling attractive at all recently. I hope to change that. </p> <p>I will think about this more. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/what-do-you-find-sexy-in-a-good-way-in-dressing/page/2#post-281934 Mon, 17 Jan 2011 20:43:04 +0000 CocoLion 281934@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I still think I dress a little "sexy" for my age -- I still wear fitted jeans and fitted tops, which many women don't at my age. Sometimes I feel, is this inappropriate? Maybe so, but I am 5'4" and fairly petite and look more attractive in clothing which outlines my shape. I never intentionally show cleavage, but as my clothing is form-fitting, sometimes I wonder if it is lacking in modesty. Do others ever judge themselves this way?</p> <p>My what makes me feel sexy list:<br /> 1) a fabulous look I have pulled together, I walk taller suddenly! Can be casual or super fancy, it's the confidence I get from "job well done."<br /> 2) taking fashion risks, even if they fail, I am proud of myself for being willing to look the fool.<br /> 3) properly fitting bra.<br /> 4) Wearing sheer panties -- i only have a few and save them for when I really need a boost.<br /> 5) Pencil skirts.<br /> 6) Scarves.<br /> 7) Necklaces.</p> <p>Stuff that does not make me feel sexy but that I like: shape-up shoes, sweat pants, pony tails. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/what-do-you-find-sexy-in-a-good-way-in-dressing/page/2#post-281888 Mon, 17 Jan 2011 19:12:11 +0000 catgirl 281888@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Alluring is a great word for what I'm trying to get at... not so loaded and fraught with peril. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/what-do-you-find-sexy-in-a-good-way-in-dressing/page/2#post-281842 Mon, 17 Jan 2011 18:11:27 +0000 Lisa 281842@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Nothing to add but I am really enjoying this thread. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/what-do-you-find-sexy-in-a-good-way-in-dressing/page/2#post-281780 Mon, 17 Jan 2011 11:37:20 +0000 Kira 281780@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Whenever I want to look sexy I wear an off the shoulder top. I'm a conservative dresser and my shoulders aren't normally showing, so the difference is what makes it sexy in my bf's eyes.<br /> My favorite look is what I call the Humphrey Bogart woman, which is a long evening gown with one or both shoulders exposed, and otherwise modest. Long gloves with a diamond bracelet and 3" max heels with swept up hair, good posture, and a smile complete the transformation. I would call it alluring rather than sexy, but to me that's a beautiful woman. The mystery of not being able to see everything, but just a little is what's sexy. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/what-do-you-find-sexy-in-a-good-way-in-dressing/page/2#post-281743 Mon, 17 Jan 2011 06:01:11 +0000 Anonymous 281743@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Posture and confidence have been mentioned. I'd add a twinkle and a smile. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/what-do-you-find-sexy-in-a-good-way-in-dressing/page/2#post-281619 Mon, 17 Jan 2011 02:12:21 +0000 Sally 281619@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Yeah I find the concept of sexy hard to define. I think you can look quite trashy and sexy. I remember seeing a woman at the airport. She had a great figure with a short flirty dress, high wedges and a kind of loud sexy laugh. I remember thinking thats sexy but it was quite predictable I would rather look attractive or interesting to most people. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/what-do-you-find-sexy-in-a-good-way-in-dressing#post-281578 Mon, 17 Jan 2011 01:00:20 +0000 Sveta 281578@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I have never even thought about myself as being sexy... Confident is more like it.<br /> I think I feel the most confident in outfits which feel like me - does not matter what is the fabrication or style. Lately these are the sheath dresses... </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/what-do-you-find-sexy-in-a-good-way-in-dressing#post-281443 Sun, 16 Jan 2011 21:13:10 +0000 catgirl 281443@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Wow, love these responses! I guess there are two sides to tthis question: what makes you feel sexy, and what do you think looks that way on others?</p> <p>Maya, I know it's a loaded word, but I didn't want to just use "attractive", which conveys a different sense. People often mistake less clothing for looking "hot", and I was trying to get at that idea. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/what-do-you-find-sexy-in-a-good-way-in-dressing#post-280959 Sat, 15 Jan 2011 21:09:12 +0000 Deb 280959@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>This is sort of a tough one to piece out, because I believe that "sexy" is in the eye of the beholder, and it's sort of symbiotic: if your beholder is thinking "d*mn she's hot!" it telegraphs itself to you, and then you start feeling sexy - whether in jeans, sweats, an off-the shoulder silk blouse, or garter belt and stockings. Once you feel sexy, you will look even sexier. ;o)</p> <p>But if I had to choose one look right now, I'd think it would be a short, fluttery silk skirt, high heels, and an oversized cashmere pullover that keeps slipping off the shoulder. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/what-do-you-find-sexy-in-a-good-way-in-dressing#post-280928 Sat, 15 Jan 2011 20:03:10 +0000 Sihaya 280928@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>For me, nice underwear and creating an entire outfit that says "yes this is me". some shoes as well.</p> <p>on others - authenticity which leads to confidence. and a good smile. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/what-do-you-find-sexy-in-a-good-way-in-dressing#post-280923 Sat, 15 Jan 2011 19:55:46 +0000 Vix 280923@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>ps I guess I could answer for myself...for me it's all about the materials I'm wearing...soft to the touch silk, cashmere, supersoft lace or cotton jersey.</p> <p>I will never feel particularly Bette Davis Eyes in jeans and a crisp blouse. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/what-do-you-find-sexy-in-a-good-way-in-dressing#post-280922 Sat, 15 Jan 2011 19:52:25 +0000 Vix 280922@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I'm enjoying the thread but I find I can't really answer because men are my preferred sex...so I don't find anything in particular "sexy" on a woman, you know? </p> <p>Whatever the particular effort made, it's pearls before swine to me.</p> <p>I *will* say that from many discussions with people I've always found there's often a big disconnect between how a woman dresses and how much she enjoys activities of a boudoir nature. </p> <p>If I were going for a woman I'd be evaluating how sensual she seemed (based on clothing materials and fit, movement, eating habits etc) not how much skin she was showing. [And yes, that's how I judge -- ok past tense since I'm off the market -- men!] </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/what-do-you-find-sexy-in-a-good-way-in-dressing#post-280917 Sat, 15 Jan 2011 19:34:34 +0000 Angie 280917@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Literal Minnie, Maya. You know exactly what I mean :). A less then perfect outfit with confidence and good posture goes a longer way than a so called more stylish one without those key factors. </p> <p>Taylor, I feel the same way. However, while we might be covered, we are showing the contours of our body in that type of outfit outfit :)</p> <p>I dress for me AND for everyone around me. I do not make gender distinctions. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/what-do-you-find-sexy-in-a-good-way-in-dressing#post-280878 Sat, 15 Jan 2011 18:30:03 +0000 Kari 280878@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Confidence and poise without cockiness or self-consciousness.<br /> A willingness to make eye contact with and smile at people.</p> <p>I personally can't feel sexy or confident if I'm insecure about the skin on my face - which is why I wear full makeup virtually every day - or if my hair doesn't feel clean or is staticky, because that irritates my skin too. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/what-do-you-find-sexy-in-a-good-way-in-dressing#post-280670 Sat, 15 Jan 2011 05:30:13 +0000 Jenava 280670@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Maya - you are right, of course.</p> <p>There are also women who dress like a million bucks AND are very confident! That's the state I am aspiring to. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/what-do-you-find-sexy-in-a-good-way-in-dressing#post-280650 Sat, 15 Jan 2011 04:23:44 +0000 LeahJanes 280650@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Aside from bearing and confidence - a pair of seamed stockings does it for me every time. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/what-do-you-find-sexy-in-a-good-way-in-dressing#post-280640 Sat, 15 Jan 2011 04:03:04 +0000 Maya 280640@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I was just thinking out loud (well, as much as one can think out loud on the internet). There are lots of well dressed and totally insecure women out there, and a lot of women who dress like crap and feel like a million bucks. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/what-do-you-find-sexy-in-a-good-way-in-dressing#post-280637 Sat, 15 Jan 2011 03:57:35 +0000 Jenava 280637@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>ETA: GREAT question - this was really good for me to ponder! And, I totally agree that too much skin showing in the wrong setting can be down right repulsive, and not sexy at all!</p> <p>I feel sexy when I am:<br /> -wearing clothes that fit well, drape nicely, and are luxurious (well made as well as high-quality material)<br /> -wearing colors I know flatter me<br /> -wearing clothes that are appropriate</p> <p>I think what it comes down to is that I feel sexy when I'm confident, and I need all these things in order to feel confident.</p> <p>To answer Maya's question - Yes. I have seen girls in their PJ's and Uggs at Starbucks with their gorgeous hair up in a top knot, looking very sexy. Do I personally like that look? No. I think ppl should wear real clothes in public. Would I personally sport the look? No, and if I were forced to I would feel un-sexy due to requirement 3 above...inappropriate. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/what-do-you-find-sexy-in-a-good-way-in-dressing#post-280630 Sat, 15 Jan 2011 03:47:16 +0000 taylor 280630@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Oddly II feel very sexy when I am most covered in public.<br /> In a slim pencil skirt, tights and a black turtle neck with high statement heels....Not only sexy, but powerful and confident..</p> <p>Agree about too much skin in public...particularly on older women...just looks desperate to me. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/what-do-you-find-sexy-in-a-good-way-in-dressing#post-280626 Sat, 15 Jan 2011 03:22:44 +0000 annagybe 280626@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I don't know sometimes. I'm currently grappling with this issue as I am attempting to restart my dating life. If I'm in a safe situation with no expectations I have no problem dressing sexy (see my grey dress which is pretty form fitting). But on a date I really try to tone myself down so I don't appear too desperate or easy. I also want to look attractive so it's a very line I walk. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/what-do-you-find-sexy-in-a-good-way-in-dressing#post-280607 Sat, 15 Jan 2011 02:56:31 +0000 Aida 280607@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Maybe to that person (not to me though). I was thinking that a person putting at least a little effort into the outfit was assumed in the discussion, though if not I'll add that to my basic list. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/what-do-you-find-sexy-in-a-good-way-in-dressing#post-280602 Sat, 15 Jan 2011 02:50:50 +0000 Maya 280602@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I have too many issues and hangups with the word "sexy" to be able to answer this question, but I am following along.</p> <p>I have another question (if Una doesn't mind):</p> <p>Is a woman who runs around in public in her pajamas or sweats "sexy" just because she is confident and sits up straight? </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/what-do-you-find-sexy-in-a-good-way-in-dressing#post-280592 Sat, 15 Jan 2011 02:38:48 +0000 Jonesy 280592@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I think this is a very interesting question, Una! I feel the same way about too much skin = unsexy. It's just not my thing. And I absolutely agree about confidence and posture being critical elements. For me, I feel sexy when I'm dressed in clothes that I wouldn't typically wear to work (e.g., a very bold dress, or a short-ish skirt), and when I wear a bit of eyeliner. Pretty basic, actually :). In general, I love women in tailored jackets for evening, maybe with a silk blouse and some beautiful trousers or a slim skirt, and heels. I admit that I don't quite get the strapless dress as sexy formal wear; I usually find them unattractive. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/what-do-you-find-sexy-in-a-good-way-in-dressing#post-280584 Sat, 15 Jan 2011 02:29:54 +0000 Marley 280584@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I am thinking of a dress that I have which is 100% silk, tank style, fitted, a little on the long side with a side slit. Whenever I put it on I immediately feel sexy. I think it has to do with the high quality material and the fitted tailoring of the dress - as well as that side slit! But, as others have said the most sexy type of dressing always includes confidence and posture!<br /> I also feel sexy in my big ol' black baggy trousers, with peep-toe booties and purple fedora - its just such a fun look! (but sexy in a masculine/feminine kind of way!) </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/what-do-you-find-sexy-in-a-good-way-in-dressing#post-280569 Sat, 15 Jan 2011 02:14:41 +0000 Aida 280569@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Angie said my main thing as well: confidence (and posture is good too!). Nicole's idea of women dressing for women or men is also a key factor in the way people interpret their outfits as being sexy or not, though of course opinions differ (like, I like high heels and feel sexy in them, my husband finds flats much more attractive).</p> <p>For me, I feel sexiest (used loosely :p ) in fitted but not overly tight clothing that fits me correctly, a high heel with some leg (shape, skin, tights, leggings), and a bit of collarbone/shoulder showing. </p>