https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/well-poop Style Advice for Fashion Lovers en-US Wed, 29 Apr 2026 19:23:29 +0000 http://bbpress.org/?v=1.0.2 q https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/search.php https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/well-poop#post-937980 Tue, 21 May 2013 13:51:27 +0000 Janet 937980@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Anna, you just never know. It certainly does not sound like rejection to me (yes, guys can be much more obtuse when it comes to this stuff). If he doesn't turn out to be the prospect you hoped for, there will be someone else better out there. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/well-poop#post-937976 Tue, 21 May 2013 13:46:12 +0000 ironkurtin 937976@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ If it is fated, it will happen.&nbsp; You can't go wrong letting him know you like him.&nbsp; Then you just kinda wait and see.&nbsp; And if nothing happens, he was not The One.<br /> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/well-poop#post-937671 Tue, 21 May 2013 01:43:37 +0000 annagybe 937671@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Thanks everyone. I guess I'll just have to wait then. He did make an effort to come to my party. Also at one point in the evening he sat next to me on the couch. Jenava is right I was a bit distracted by the poor turnout and was trying to keep the wine flowing.<br />Someone who didn't make it tonight said I should do it again. I still have a lot of wine that didn't get drunk. https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/well-poop#post-937594 Tue, 21 May 2013 00:31:38 +0000 Jenava 937594@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ OK, so I got to meet the guy.&nbsp; First of all, I had no idea you were interested in him!&nbsp; I thought he was with Natalia at first!&nbsp; I think you were a littled distracted because not as many showed and you were making sure wine was open, food was ready, etc.<br /><br />He is pretty charming, so hopefully he isn't just charming with all women and you're reading him wrong.<br /><br />Lastly, I will point out that HE CAME TO YOUR PARTY, so he must enjoy your company on some level.<br /><br />Message him again, but try to forget about it.&nbsp; Don't message him the second he gets back...just wait a few weeks and then say, Oh, by the way did you want to grab a coffee or something...<br /><br />Don't feel down!&nbsp; The party was small but I think we all really had SUCH a good time! https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/well-poop#post-937341 Mon, 20 May 2013 19:08:44 +0000 RoseandJoan 937341@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Anna, you have opened yourself up and feel hurt but he has not rejected you, as much as we like to play by rules there are none in this situation, give him time to respond but don't put your life on hold in the meantime. https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/well-poop#post-937336 Mon, 20 May 2013 18:57:53 +0000 rachylou 937336@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Anna, this weekend I asked my bf if he remembered our first date. You <i>know </i>the answer: N. O.&nbsp; <br /><br />Ahahaha! <br /><br />I told my bf, before we started dating, that we should meet up for coffee or whatever. It took him <i>forever</i>&nbsp; to "arrange the situation." *Like* way over two weeks... um, yeah, ok, my memory isn't that much better than his, but *whatever.* <br /><br />Anyways, Shannon is right about focus IMHO. Also, tangentially, I think feeling free is a very important one for men. When a woman thinks a lot about what a man is doing (or not doing), the man tends to feel untrusted. And when a man doesn't feel trusted, he will <i>know</i> he's not the man for the job. A nice man will then just disappear. Men come back when the woman feels free enough to forget about him in a certain way. I think this explains a lot about some things - like the guy you never considered *that way* suddenly declaring his love for you. That sort of thing.<br /> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/well-poop#post-937122 Mon, 20 May 2013 16:05:44 +0000 Transcona Shannon 937122@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Anna - sorry to hear this. I know you've been feeling alot of frustration over the dating situation of late. But I still think there may be some hope with this fellow. Wait until he gets back from camping and see what happens. Honestly, knowing how my hubby thinks, if he were going camping that is all he'd be able to think about right now and really wouldn't be picking up your signals or considering after - his mind can only focus on one thing at a time.&nbsp; https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/well-poop#post-937061 Mon, 20 May 2013 15:04:01 +0000 Angie 937061@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ I thought the same thing as Krista and Scarlet. I wouldn't loose hope yet. Perhaps ping him again on FB after he's back from camping. I do empathize with your frustration. xo<br /> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/well-poop#post-937005 Mon, 20 May 2013 13:59:42 +0000 MsMary 937005@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Hugs, Anna!&nbsp; I hope you know I didn't mean to make light of your frustration!&nbsp; Hang in there!!<br /> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/well-poop#post-936984 Mon, 20 May 2013 13:27:47 +0000 Anonymous 936984@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Ack, that shucks...<br />Perhaps he wasn't having a talkative day? I find guys are generally challenged in the communications department lol. The just don't think like we do, as you know.<br />Let's hope he turns around. I would not initiate any communications at this time, just to give him a chance to miss me ;)<br />Denise, that is some awesome site! https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/well-poop#post-936906 Mon, 20 May 2013 07:59:50 +0000 Deborah 936906@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Anna I am really disappointed for you. &nbsp;I think Denise speaks a lot of wisdom here. If it's any consolation, I spent 6 or 7 years alone between a serious boyfriend and my now husband &nbsp;During that time I dated only 2 guys neither of which did I see any promise in, so dating was only a matter of a couple of months with each before I decided not to pursue the relationships any further.<br /><br />One of them 'courted me" fairly consistently and then up and went interstate for a time &nbsp;- we didn't keep up with one another during that time.&nbsp;&nbsp;And then he sent me a letter saying his was returning and included his return flight details... I think he expected me to pick him up from the airport. &nbsp;Needless to say&nbsp;<b>I DIDN"T!</b> &nbsp; Men are from Mars!! https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/well-poop#post-936894 Mon, 20 May 2013 06:57:30 +0000 CocoLion 936894@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Oh, I'm sorry Anna, that sucks!<br /><br />Men need a lot of space to figure out their feelings for women in the beginning. &nbsp;They go through much more uncertainty and "rubberbanding" where they run hot and cold. &nbsp;Have you read the Mars/Venus series of books on relationships and dating? ("Men are From Mars, Women are From Venus" and "Mars &amp; Venus on a Date" in particular.) &nbsp;It changed the way I look at relationships. &nbsp;I would not be in my present relationship if it weren't for absorbing the information in these books and participating in this forum years ago.<br /><a rel="nofollow" href="http://askmarsvenus.com/forums/">http://askmarsvenus.com/forums/</a><br /> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/well-poop#post-936890 Mon, 20 May 2013 06:33:08 +0000 Scarlet 936890@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Maybe I am dense, but it doesn't sound to me like from what you wrote that he made it clear he is not interested. Maybe he just can't think more than one week ahead. I'd wait and see. I can understand your frustration though. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/well-poop#post-936873 Mon, 20 May 2013 04:47:09 +0000 Krista 936873@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Oh, I wouldn't write him off yet, Anna! &nbsp;Guys are pretty black and white; hanging out "sometime" might mean - to him - after he comes back from camping next weekend. &nbsp;I'm not saying you have to wait for him, I'm just saying that you have to let it go and be open to the idea that he might pop up out of nowhere again in a few days. &nbsp;My first date with my husband ended in a very vague way. &nbsp;I was disappointed because I had had a great time&nbsp;and I expected him to seal the deal at the end of the night by asking me out again. &nbsp;He did not. &nbsp;In fact, he hugged me and said something like, "Talk to you soon." &nbsp;Like, thanks.<br />If I've learned anything from being married, guys think they are sending all kinds of signals to let women know they're interested and women are looking for a whole different set of signals - so the message is rarely received in the way we are expecting. &nbsp;It's a miracle we ever get together!<br />I would say it's a very good sign that this gentleman felt comfortable enough with you to stay several hours at <i>your</i> party in <i>your</i> house&nbsp;with just two other people (who are <i>your</i> friends)&nbsp;to make conversation. &nbsp;If he didn't want to be there, he would have bailed pretty quickly and with some form of excuse. &nbsp;I say leave that door open a little while longer - you never know! https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/well-poop#post-936866 Mon, 20 May 2013 04:04:39 +0000 Suz 936866@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Hugs, Anna....that is hard. After you had such a nice time, too....<br /><br /><br /> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/well-poop#post-936861 Mon, 20 May 2013 03:56:05 +0000 ElleH 936861@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Sorry to hear that Anna. I hear how you feel. I dated for 7 years between 1st &amp; 2nd husband. I don't have any advice, just hugs. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/well-poop#post-936840 Mon, 20 May 2013 03:21:35 +0000 annagybe 936840@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ MaryK, that coffee mug is very funny. But at this point, I'm tired of moving on. I moved back to Seattle five years ago. I've been dating the last 4 1/2 years, completely unsuccessfully. I'm tired of the rejection. https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/well-poop#post-936754 Mon, 20 May 2013 00:23:51 +0000 Caro in Oz 936754@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ So sorry -&nbsp;that is really disappointing.&nbsp; https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/well-poop#post-936746 Mon, 20 May 2013 00:09:44 +0000 MsMary 936746@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Well, poop!<br /><br />Here, have some coffee from my fave mug!<br /> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/well-poop#post-936734 Sun, 19 May 2013 23:53:50 +0000 Adelfa 936734@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Poop is right. Entertaining is so risky! You never know how it will turn out. Good job putting yourself out there and giving people a good time, including Mr. Flirt. https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/well-poop#post-936714 Sun, 19 May 2013 23:29:32 +0000 Mochi 936714@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Sorry to hear it, anna.&nbsp; https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/well-poop#post-936658 Sun, 19 May 2013 22:28:07 +0000 Raisin 936658@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Aw, poop is right! &nbsp;Well I hope he gets back to you and you get together. &nbsp;Sounds like it was going well, I don't know why he backed off. &nbsp;Men.... https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/well-poop#post-936654 Sun, 19 May 2013 22:17:16 +0000 Anonymous 936654@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Oh, how disappointing! I hope it isn't the case. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/well-poop#post-936652 Sun, 19 May 2013 22:14:04 +0000 annagybe 936652@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ So the guy that I've been flirting with a bit came to my wine party last night. Only three people showed up so it was an evening of just the four of us sitting around and talking. Not exactly conducive to flirting.&nbsp;<br />So today I sent him a message through facebook thanking him for coming. We chatted a bit through the messenger and I said we should hang out sometime. He's going camping next weekend. But he said nothing about it after that.<br />I guess I read too much into the flirting.