https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wedding-etiquette Style Advice for Fashion Lovers en-US Mon, 27 Apr 2026 02:14:11 +0000 http://bbpress.org/?v=1.0.2 q https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/search.php https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wedding-etiquette/page/3#post-1237195 Wed, 30 Apr 2014 01:42:56 +0000 Sarah A 1237195@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Sounds like a great resolution! Glad you had a nice family gathering for Easter and didnt have to entertain and awkward encounter.</p> <p>Amy K. -- I hadnt seen the tents you linked before but those are pretty cool! The total mesh looks awesome for ventilation! Are you looking at a single or two person model? </p> <p>If you are looking for a lightweight option but dont like to sleep on the ground I have actually also used a Eno DoubleNest Hammock with the bugnet screen for single overnights. (No water protection unless you string up another tarp over though... been lucky with the forecasts on those trips) You'll need trees where you are going. Of course it would depend on how much other gear you were trying to keep track of etc at night. If you are planning to hang your pack for bear safety anyway, etc. I would say it is best for one for sleeping, two is fine for reading a book or whatnot but I would get a good nights sleep that way.</p> <p><a href="http://www.amazon.com/Eagles-Nest-Outfitters-Doublenest-Assorted/dp/B0053TKD5U" rel="nofollow">http://www.amazon.com/Eagles-N.....B0053TKD5U</a></p> <p>Your skill set obviously counts here too and how many insects you plan to encounter and how much they bother you but I have seen some awesome shelters made from parachutes (granted this was as a student of a military survival training course...)<br /><a href="http://www.ebay.com/itm/Military-C-9-Parachute-Canopy-w-cutlines-/281321895100?pt=LH_DefaultDomain_0&amp;hash=item41801774bc" rel="nofollow">http://www.ebay.com/itm/Milita.....ltDomain_0</a> </p> <p>I have typically found Big Agnes, Sierra Designs to be a good quality/affordable balance although I havent been in the market for backpacking/ultralight for at least 5 year. For car camping with kids we have all sorts of REI brand items which suit the bill for that need. Their stuff is good enough not to exasperate experienced set but I would hate to have to carry any of it very far! </p> </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wedding-etiquette/page/3#post-1228860 Mon, 21 Apr 2014 19:10:03 +0000 lyn* 1228860@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Maybe in the first months of marriage she realized how awesome Pyrex is? </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wedding-etiquette/page/3#post-1228357 Mon, 21 Apr 2014 02:40:09 +0000 MsMary 1228357@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Sounds like a good update!&nbsp; You have been super fab in every way, so I hope she gets over anything she needs to get over soon! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wedding-etiquette/page/3#post-1228348 Mon, 21 Apr 2014 02:28:53 +0000 amiable 1228348@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>The promised Easter dinner update: &nbsp;My cousin and her hubby came late and left early. &nbsp;I had thought through all the things that I could think of us having in common (an interest in natural living was about the extent of the list), to use for conversation. &nbsp;She had a super cute new haircut, and I complimented her on it as soon as they walked in. &nbsp;I thought she heard me, but maybe not - she turned away from me, and kept her back to me almost the entire evening. &nbsp;She avoided eye contact when I was facing her (from across the room), and refused to come talk to me when her husband asked her about something I mentioned (I'd offered to show them around a local farm that sells direct to consumers). &nbsp;</p> <p>So I think she felt pretty awkward. &nbsp;But the topic of weddings and gifts didn't come up at all. &nbsp;I'm considering it over and past. &nbsp;And I felt no awkwardness, so I hope her feeling awkward passes quickly.<br />&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wedding-etiquette/page/3#post-1224945 Wed, 16 Apr 2014 20:59:49 +0000 minimalist 1224945@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I'm familiar with people registering for gear. But I'm with Sarah A on tent-quality preference. (What do you think of these, Sarah?<a href="http://www.lightheartgear.com" rel="nofollow">http://www.lightheartgear.com</a> )</p> <p>Also, I need to find some friends and family who are ok with $20 wedding presents. Those sound like fun weddings!</p> <p>Next invitation I get, I'm going to send them Pyrex, buy a nice tent for myself, wire Amiable the difference, and come out ahead on energy investment. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wedding-etiquette/page/3#post-1222547 Sun, 13 Apr 2014 22:10:27 +0000 Lyn D. 1222547@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Read with incredulity and LsOL :)<br />Can't wait for the next instalment! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wedding-etiquette/page/3#post-1222410 Sun, 13 Apr 2014 18:42:18 +0000 amiable 1222410@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>cranraspberry - I love your online name. &nbsp;Cran-raspberry is my favorite flavor of jam </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wedding-etiquette/page/3#post-1222283 Sun, 13 Apr 2014 17:07:05 +0000 cranraspberry 1222283@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I honestly find this situation completely absurd - speak of entitlement, sheesh! Not to mention the fact that they registered for a tent?.. Some people are just beyond strange.&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wedding-etiquette/page/3#post-1220807 Fri, 11 Apr 2014 17:58:26 +0000 Sarah A 1220807@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>So IMHO a nice pyrex is going to not even be in the ball park of an inexpensive tent. Unless you take the time to seal all the seams yourself, inexpensive tents tend to leak like sieves and the poles snap in high wind and she'll be wanting a better one the first time they camp in the driving rain. Pyrex on the other hand will last forever. I cant believe the saga though. Crazy! </p> <p>ETA: I was curious so I looked at the Embark models online, they dont seem to have a lot of ventilation panels and only a single door so they will be super stuffy and hot during sunny daytime hours too with no way to capture the breeze. The rain fly looks to have minimal coverage too. Pyrex is superior all the way! :)</p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wedding-etiquette/page/3#post-1220516 Fri, 11 Apr 2014 13:04:25 +0000 amiable 1220516@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>It's an Embark 4-person tent from Target, Amy K&nbsp;- about $45. &nbsp;Which is, in my mind,&nbsp;not unreasonable for a wedding gift. &nbsp;I don't think I've ever spent more than $20 on a wedding gift, but I'm pretty cheap &nbsp;I certainly received gifts in this range for my wedding (13 years ago). &nbsp;And it's one of the cheaper things that the bride registered for.</p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wedding-etiquette/page/3#post-1220502 Fri, 11 Apr 2014 12:50:04 +0000 minimalist 1220502@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I'd be tempted to tell her I'll try to do better at her next wedding. </p> <p>Now I'm curious about which tent she wants, though. The ones I've been ogling are not reasonable. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wedding-etiquette/page/2#post-1219092 Thu, 10 Apr 2014 01:44:06 +0000 Jo 1219092@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I'm following this thread with interest as my daughter will be getting married this June. Hopefully will not encounter a similar situation! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wedding-etiquette/page/2#post-1219072 Thu, 10 Apr 2014 01:29:03 +0000 amiable 1219072@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>No response yet. &nbsp;I expect I'll see them at Easter - we'll see whether it comes up. &nbsp;I'd love to have a tent to give them too, but I'm not going to go out and buy the one they requested (even though it's a reasonable price) on the principle of it :)</p> <p>And I'm planning to NOT bring it up at Easter. &nbsp;She'll have to do the awkward work if it's important to her </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wedding-etiquette/page/2#post-1218909 Wed, 09 Apr 2014 23:25:34 +0000 minimalist 1218909@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Just coming back to this now. Your note is so gracious and clear, Amy! </p> <p>Any response yet?</p> <p>I might have a tent I could send her ...<br /> </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wedding-etiquette/page/2#post-1217924 Wed, 09 Apr 2014 01:34:03 +0000 ironkurtin 1217924@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Bride poison gets the best of us... I think you handled it beautifully. Whatever happened to "thank you" and dealing with unwanted items discreetly so as to not trouble the giver? That's how I was raised. The set of Mickey Mouse champagne glasses (gee thanks) I received at my wedding being a case in point. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wedding-etiquette/page/2#post-1217895 Wed, 09 Apr 2014 00:58:02 +0000 Anonymous 1217895@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Maybe she finally came to her senses and realized what a great gift you gave her.</p> <p>I also may be reading between the lines regarding the gift receipt and she may just want to return it for the cash. This has happened at the last wedding I attended. I spoke with a few people who were at the same wedding and that the bride returned many if the gifts, even the ones on her registry, for money. It seems one of the guests works at the store where she was registered and found out what she was doing. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wedding-etiquette/page/2#post-1213478 Thu, 03 Apr 2014 20:32:32 +0000 amiable 1213478@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>EXACTLY Mary! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wedding-etiquette/page/2#post-1213471 Thu, 03 Apr 2014 20:18:53 +0000 MsMary 1213471@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I love that, Amy!&nbsp; "The gift closet doesn't have any tents in stock but I"ll tell you if we get any in this summer!" </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wedding-etiquette/page/2#post-1213419 Thu, 03 Apr 2014 18:43:43 +0000 kellygirl 1213419@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Wow and ugh! I don't know what else to say except you have handled this graciously.&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wedding-etiquette/page/2#post-1213180 Thu, 03 Apr 2014 15:26:41 +0000 amiable 1213180@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I totally agree with you Mary - and I have no intention of bringing it up at Easter! &nbsp;Thanks for validating my preference to avoid the topic if possible :)</p> <p>(I do think that if it comes up, I might offer to watch for tents for her as I garage sale this summer)</p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wedding-etiquette/page/2#post-1213173 Thu, 03 Apr 2014 15:20:27 +0000 MsMary 1213173@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>You are so lovely!</p> <p>My feeling is that your work here is done, and it's up to her to bring it up at Easter, if she dares.&nbsp; Srsly.&nbsp; The ball couldn't be more in her court if it tried!! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wedding-etiquette/page/2#post-1213143 Thu, 03 Apr 2014 14:34:18 +0000 amiable 1213143@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>No reply yet! &nbsp;I'll let you know when I get one.</p> <p>I'm pretty sure she and her husband will be at our family Easter celebration in a few weeks, so if nothing else, I'll talk with her then and see how it goes.</p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wedding-etiquette/page/2#post-1213138 Thu, 03 Apr 2014 14:21:59 +0000 texstyle 1213138@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>P.S. - I hope we get to hear her reply. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wedding-etiquette/page/2#post-1213137 Thu, 03 Apr 2014 14:21:42 +0000 texstyle 1213137@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Way to go MaryK and Amy - PERFECT response! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wedding-etiquette/page/2#post-1213000 Thu, 03 Apr 2014 07:18:25 +0000 jennifer 1213000@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>As far as the royal doulton figurine incident the recipient should have said thank you and then sold it on ebay if they didn't want it or regift it. It's not as if it was some Precious Moments stuff after all.. Now that I'd really have a hard time receiving graciously ( ie not smashing it to smithereens ...) something about PM just creeps me out. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wedding-etiquette/page/2#post-1212357 Wed, 02 Apr 2014 18:22:26 +0000 AviaMariah 1212357@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Like everyone else I am SHOCKED by her request (er..demand). Totally rude and bullying behavior. &nbsp;I am also in awe by the graciousness of your response. &nbsp;I'll have to remember to come to the forum for advise if I get into &nbsp;a sticky social situation. &nbsp;Great advise!! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wedding-etiquette/page/2#post-1211433 Tue, 01 Apr 2014 17:07:18 +0000 DonnaF 1211433@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Wow!&nbsp; This tale is like something I would read in an advice column in the newspaper.&nbsp; MaryK has a second career ahead of her when Miss Manners retires. . .YLF is the place to go for great advice even beyond fashion and style!!! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wedding-etiquette/page/2#post-1211319 Tue, 01 Apr 2014 13:09:38 +0000 Ornella 1211319@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Wonderful life lesson, what a great read - every single response. Well done Amy.</p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wedding-etiquette/page/2#post-1211216 Tue, 01 Apr 2014 07:56:49 +0000 ramya 1211216@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>My Mom would disown me if I ever behaved like your cousin :D<br />Man wonder if these people think world revolves around them . </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wedding-etiquette/page/2#post-1211052 Tue, 01 Apr 2014 02:27:06 +0000 catgirl 1211052@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I am shocked - SHOCKED - at her behavior over a gift. And to demand something else and more expensive? Sounds like you handled it really well. I would have said something a lot less polite in the hopes that she'd learn a lesson, but I do understand needing to keep peace in the family. You did perfectly. </p>