https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wedding-dress-mistake Style Advice for Fashion Lovers en-US Fri, 10 Apr 2026 01:58:30 +0000 http://bbpress.org/?v=1.0.2 q https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/search.php https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wedding-dress-mistake/page/2#post-1448860 Fri, 27 Feb 2015 22:37:48 +0000 Mary Beth (formerly LBD) 1448860@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>First of all... that dress looks <b><u>stunning</u></b> on you, and I think the color of it is far prettier than in the stock photo. &nbsp; I would like to venture the opinion/idea that you should have someone do your makeup and hair, and take another photo in your dress, in similar lighting to what you will have at your wedding and reception.</p> <p>I think there has been some wonderful feedback for both sides. &nbsp; For my part, I fall somewhere in the middle. Wedding dresses are too expensive not to have one that makes you feel absolutely&nbsp;divine. &nbsp;&nbsp;But it is also&nbsp;a dress that you will wear once. &nbsp;I have watched many friends and family set impossibly high bars for life events -&nbsp;wedding, prom, Valentine's Day - and what is supposed to be a beautiful, happy gathering of loved ones, turns into tears and dissatisfaction if every little thing doesn't go absolutely perfect. &nbsp; They looked absolutely divine, their event was breathtaking... and there was a layer of unhappiness putting a light layer of tarnish over everything.</p> <p>It is up to you to decide: &nbsp;&nbsp;is this dress something that will haunt you and ruin your day? &nbsp; If so, I would contact that designer again, and point out firmly,&nbsp;that you want to return the dress. &nbsp;If she&nbsp;is unwilling to make this right, you will post side-by-side pictures on every bridal site you can find, and leave an honest review of her business practices. &nbsp;&nbsp;Be calm and cool in your wording, and succinct - and hopefully that helps change her mind. &nbsp; I agree with you that this does not look like the same color and fabric as the photo, even allowing for photoshop and/or lighting. &nbsp; The beadwork is different for sure. &nbsp; The dress you are wearing has far more beadwork on the shoulders than the dress on the model.</p> <p>In truth, if you wind up stuck with this dress, you should be able to resell it as a pageant gown. &nbsp; It is truly a lovely dress.</p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wedding-dress-mistake/page/2#post-1448847 Fri, 27 Feb 2015 22:10:59 +0000 old chic 1448847@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I am wondering if all that beautiful beading -- which does look like the runway version -- is sewn bead-by-bead<br /> directly on the dress or if there are beaded larger pieces of netting<br /> shaped in the overall beading pattern that are sewn onto the main fabric*<br /> of the gown like appliques? If the latter, perhaps you could find an <b>un</b>beaded<br /> version of the same dress silhouette in a color and fabric you love<br /> (which will almost certainly cost less than what you paid for this gold<br /> dress) and cut off the beading "appliques" from the dress and apply to<br /> the new one. Or, as Diana suggested, see if a dressmaker can copy the<br /> original design in fabric of your choosing and reattach the beading to that dress. It doesn't look like a terribly difficult design to duplicate. This assumes, of course, that you like the beading color, just not the overall dress fabric.</p> <p>*Alternatively, maybe you could just cut beading and dress fabric together into "appliques" you could use as above? </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wedding-dress-mistake/page/2#post-1448842 Fri, 27 Feb 2015 22:01:22 +0000 Caro in Oz 1448842@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I so want to agree with everyone who says it's not important because in the long-run it probably isn't. I can't though. For me wearing something I&nbsp;felt wonderful in for my wedding&nbsp;meant I could forget about&nbsp;my clothes&nbsp;&amp; concentrate on being gracious to the guests. </p> <p>Only you know how important this is to you. Big hugs -&nbsp;I know it will all work out for you </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wedding-dress-mistake/page/2#post-1448809 Fri, 27 Feb 2015 20:06:08 +0000 annabelle 1448809@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>You have a lot to consider, but I wanted to add that if you end up choosing to not find a different dress, or if you don't find one, you look pretty in this dress. It fits you perfectly. For wedding photos, the lighting will help you out. For the wedding day, you will look great in this dress, it's pretty! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wedding-dress-mistake/page/2#post-1448734 Fri, 27 Feb 2015 16:59:37 +0000 Anonymous 1448734@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I didn't hear at all, in anything you said, that you were in any way ungrateful for your good fortune in finding the man you want to marry, or that you'd lost perspective on the importance of the wedding in relation to your marriage,&nbsp;and I don't think you have to prove it by wearing a dress you don't like.</p> <p> </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wedding-dress-mistake/page/2#post-1448693 Fri, 27 Feb 2015 15:33:06 +0000 Angie 1448693@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Finally had a chance to read Staysfit's touching comment. Hugs to you. And it is SO true.&nbsp;</p> <p>We don't have any photos of our wedding on display. Never have. We were married 18 years ago, and have been together for 27. It was a beautiful wedding and I loved my dress - but it was NOT the most important day in my life at all. In fact, Greg would have been much happier eloping. My point is, that less than perfect is great too - high five, Traci. It's just a day for friends and family. What's most important is that you and your partner are happy forever.&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wedding-dress-mistake/page/2#post-1448678 Fri, 27 Feb 2015 14:59:42 +0000 Adelfa 1448678@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>There is a big difference between "not my ideal dress" and a dress you don't feel pretty in. I got married in a borrowed dress that I wouldn't have selected but that I felt good in. I would hate for you to get married in a dress that you felt was really unflattering. I support your looking for a different solution! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wedding-dress-mistake/page/2#post-1448674 Fri, 27 Feb 2015 14:56:07 +0000 Diana 1448674@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>That sucks! I'm so sorry. While I understand the sentiment that the dress ultimately isn't the biggest deal, in your situation I'd go ahead and find a new dress. I know you've compromised *a lot* with regards to this wedding, and the dress is one thing that you *can* control. Like Suz says, you need armor. </p> <p>I think the idea to go shopping with what remains of the dress budget is good. The fact that you don't want white may actually work to your advantage here, because you won't experience the white dress markup where the same dress will be 2x the price because it's a wedding dress and not an evening gown. </p> <p>A quick search of nordstrom finds 170 evening gowns when I filter the color for beige or metallic. Most are reasonably priced. You have to factor in tailoring coat too (although you might get lucky like me and have the dress fit off the rack.)</p> <p><a href="http://m.shop.nordstrom.com/sr?origin=keywordsearch&#038;contextualcategoryid=2375500&#038;keyword=Evening+gown#keyword=Evening%20gown&#038;type=keyword&#038;category=&#038;defaultsize3=&#038;size=&#038;width=&#038;color=beige_metallic&#038;price=&#038;brand=&#038;stores=&#038;instoreavailability=false&#038;lastfilter=color&#038;sizeFinderId=0&#038;resultsmode=&#038;segmentId=0&#038;keywordSortEngine=Default&#038;page=1&#038;partial=1&#038;pagesize=24&#038;modifiedkeyword=imsproducttypeid%3A1%20and%20(gown%20or%20(keyword%3Along-style%20and%20keyword%3Aspecial-occasion)" rel="nofollow">http://m.shop.nordstrom.com/sr.....-occasion)</a>)%20and%20(agegroup%3Aa%20or%20agegroup%3Ae)&amp;contextualsortcategoryid=2375500&amp;shopperSegment=1-0-2%7C2M2%3ARS</p> <p>Or another though, although I have no idea what this would cost. What about taking the yellow dress to a local dressmaker and asking if they can copy it, in your choice of fabric of course? Or even someone non local - just insist on getting an actual physical fabric swatch first. </p> <p>Good luck! You deserve to have a dress you love. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wedding-dress-mistake/page/2#post-1448667 Fri, 27 Feb 2015 14:45:04 +0000 Jules 1448667@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>With digital I think they can make any picture B&amp;W after the fact. Which brings me to another idea, there might be colour&nbsp;filters the photographer can apply that are flattering and maybe even reduce the gold tones in the dress. If you can talk to the photographer about &nbsp;your concerns, I imagine they can produce photos to your liking - maybe even show you a few examples early in the processing phase. If you look at my avatar photo for example,&nbsp;it definitely has a filter which changes the colour balance vs a candid selfie. Sorry if this is all super obvious to the Instagram generation :)<br />I do fully understand that there will be many candid photos out there, but perhaps knowing you would have some flattering photo options for your own collection and posterity&nbsp;would help, should you decide to keep the dress. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wedding-dress-mistake/page/2#post-1448663 Fri, 27 Feb 2015 14:41:59 +0000 tulle 1448663@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Not to be a nuisance, but I just saw a Monique L'Huillier&nbsp; satin gown in a beautiful color called Silver Rain--asymmetrical neckline, very flattering shape, easily made fancier with a sparkly brooch &amp; earrings, then cut off at the knee later--on sale on the Nordstrom's Rack site for $88.&nbsp; There ARE dresses out there--don't lose heart! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wedding-dress-mistake/page/2#post-1448662 Fri, 27 Feb 2015 14:41:05 +0000 Minnie 1448662@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>It's a gorgeous dress and I agree that the color doesn't seem to be the same as in the runway photo. <br />It's not an ideal color for pink undertone skin. As mentioned before, you might try to put on full make-up&nbsp;and see if you like it better.<br />Seeing that the fabric doesn't come close to the face, I think it could work well if you use make-up that will downplay the pink in your skin a bit.&nbsp;<br />If you are sure that: you will not&nbsp;wear it as is, can't get a refund, can't sell it, <br />I would try to dye it. You'd have nothing to lose. Maybe you could have it dyed professionally. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wedding-dress-mistake/page/2#post-1448657 Fri, 27 Feb 2015 14:33:45 +0000 KikiG 1448657@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I think you might try again with the pictures, but this time in outdoor light.&nbsp; The golden color will be much less saturated outside, and I do like the idea about B&amp;W photography.&nbsp; But I think you should go shopping with the remaining 1/3 of your dress budget, and see what else might be out there.&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wedding-dress-mistake/page/2#post-1448641 Fri, 27 Feb 2015 14:12:44 +0000 gradfashionista 1448641@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Thanks for the suggestion about black and white photos, I'll have to ask! I won't be able to prevent photos from being posted on FB, though (a few years between birth seems to make a huge difference in whether people chronicle their lives on FB). </p> <p>Traci, I have no expectations for a perfect wedding day or perfect dress. There are many aspects of this wedding (location, size, food, etc.) that aren't to my taste, but am going along with because it's not worth fighting over. It is so far from a fairytale ideal, or my ideal, ie a tiny casual backyard garden wedding. No poofy dresses that I can't wear again, no jewels, no grand halls. My requirements for a dress are simply that it's flattering, sends a signal about my background, and is something I could wear again. That is about as anti-fairy-tale as you can get...except the partner--he's all right. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wedding-dress-mistake/page/2#post-1448639 Fri, 27 Feb 2015 14:05:02 +0000 tulle 1448639@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>You poor thing, I feel furious on your behalf--not just because the dress is obviously not the color you ordered--but because so much of this planned wedding sounds lopsided, overwhelming, and unhappy for you.&nbsp; It's all very well to point out the relative unimportance of a mere dress in the grand sentimental scheme of things, but in your case the design of your wedding gown has been a source and a symbol of contention and stress from the beginning.&nbsp; As others have pointed out, a perfect wedding is not a requirement for a happy marriage, but surely a measure of equality and empowerment is. With most of the wedding details seemingly out of your control, it makes perfect sense that what you will be&nbsp; wearing on your body should be something that makes you feel comfortable and lovely.&nbsp; I suggest that you scan online sites for a pretty dress at an affordable price (J Crew, for example, has graceful gowns like the one-shouldered silk chiffon Kylie available in many colors in regular and petite sizes; the soft peach version, if that's a color you can wear, is on sale for $189,) and if you find one that suits you, try to sell the unworn gold dress on Ebay. I wish you the very best. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wedding-dress-mistake/page/2#post-1448633 Fri, 27 Feb 2015 13:54:12 +0000 catseye 1448633@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I actually don't think the color is so bad. You look great in it. Would the other color be better, maybe. But this is not going to make people think that you made a mistake.&nbsp;<br />I am sorry that you are so stressed though. I hope that you find peace in whatever decision you make.&nbsp;</p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wedding-dress-mistake/page/2#post-1448622 Fri, 27 Feb 2015 13:21:22 +0000 Traci 1448622@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I'd like to make a statement for accepting less than perfect. &nbsp;I know that we all set our designs on a feeling of perfection for our wedding days, but maybe this is your opportunity to set the tone for your marriage to be about "good enough" instead of perfect.</p> <p>I was 14 when my sister got married, and the thing that stuck with me about her wedding day was how many times she cried. &nbsp;The flowers were the wrong colors, things didn't show up on time, etc. &nbsp;Any little glitch was like the end of the world. &nbsp;I felt so sad watching that, knowing how many things were going right, and that this was the start of her new life, yet she had set a bar of perfection that just wasn't attainable. &nbsp;I vowed that day to approach my wedding with a relaxed calm and not to lose focus on what my wedding was really going to be about.</p> <p>I think we set up this idea of what a wedding day should be, and the pressure to live up to that can just wreck the whole thing. &nbsp;My philosophy is that your wedding day should represent what you want your married life to be like. &nbsp;Full of laughter and smiles and woopses and make ups and compromises. &nbsp;Not full of an unattainable perfection that sends you into tears at every slip.<br />You are beautiful, the dress is beautiful, it's not perfect, but neither is married life. &nbsp;I'd wear it proudly and let go of the fairytale ideal.</p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wedding-dress-mistake/page/2#post-1448617 Fri, 27 Feb 2015 13:12:17 +0000 Jules 1448617@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I just have a small suggestion that I don't think I have seen yet. If you do go with this dress, maybe you could ask your photographer to focus on black and white photos, and then you wouldn't be focused on the photo aspect as much. Hopefully that does not sound terribly dated - lots of people had colour and B&amp;W when I got married 10 years ago, maybe it's not a thing right now, but it is classic.<br /> Also, could you hire a makeup artist for a trial, or engage a friend who's into makeup, and play around with different lipstick and foundation-type products? Then take photos of different looks with the dress. I bought a lipstick that made me look ruddy, until I started wearing BB cream - now it looks great. Makeup can really make a difference. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wedding-dress-mistake/page/2#post-1448612 Fri, 27 Feb 2015 13:02:21 +0000 Glory 1448612@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I am so sorry the dress didn't turn out as you wished. You do look beautiful in it though. There are some great ideas here to try and resolve it. Also, would it be possible to contact the seamstress and explain again your unmet expectation and see if she would remake the dress in the correct colour at a discounted rate?</p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wedding-dress-mistake/page/2#post-1448593 Fri, 27 Feb 2015 12:15:44 +0000 rute 1448593@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Bravo Staysfit!</p> <p>I'm married for some time and when I look back, the dress and the marriage was not that important, that day runs so fast that I fel guily for spending money (and I din't spent a lot) on it. Today I would have go for a more miminal wedding.</p> <p></p> <p></p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wedding-dress-mistake/page/2#post-1448583 Fri, 27 Feb 2015 11:06:39 +0000 viva 1448583@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I'm so sorry you are dealing with this, and I remember from my own wedding (so long ago) how huge a thing like this can feel. It's as if it becomes a tumbleweed, rolling along and gathering up all the wedding stress along with it. It can be debilitating.</p> <p>I don't know how much time you have or how much money is left, but if I were you I would want the least stressful path. I would concentrate on two things: first, is there a viable alternative? In other words, go look for another dress that you can afford. If that fails, then second, can this dress be saved? Work with makeup and styling to try to make the color work for you. (I agree the fit is amazing, and I think the color suffers most in comparison with the original -- but maybe taken only on its own, a makeup artist could really make it work.)</p> <p>Personally, I would not bother trying to get money out of the seller (buyer beware and all that). I'm not a lawyer but it just feels tricky to me, especially with the potential argument of monitors making colors look different, etc. In any event, I wouldn't worry about that now, if possible. I would try to sell through consignment or private sale LATER. And as others have suggested, ask for a friend's help if you can.</p> <p>I will be thinking of you .... You are so beautiful and I am sure that whatever you wear, you will be stunning on your day.</p> <p> </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wedding-dress-mistake/page/2#post-1448444 Fri, 27 Feb 2015 02:25:46 +0000 Suz 1448444@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>By the way, I also wanted to say that the dress is gorgeous and you look amazing in it in terms of fit/ style. And if you did your makeup you could probably rock it in the gold tone. But if you will feel uncomfortable in it, then that is a problem. Plus, the gold is less the "light" colour that you were aiming for.&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wedding-dress-mistake#post-1448432 Fri, 27 Feb 2015 02:09:15 +0000 Anonymous 1448432@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Thanks for posting the pics of you in the dress. Frankly it's not as bad a color&nbsp;as I thought, and it fits you beautifully. If I saw you wearing it, I don't think I'd mentally say&nbsp;"oops, poor thing,&nbsp;wrong color." I'd think it was a lovely, intricate golden gown. But it <b>is</b> quite a different shade from the online image, and if it skews greenish-yellow, that's not so good. It's&nbsp;not your mistake though, so please don't&nbsp;look at&nbsp;it that way.</p> <p>As Thistle suggested, if you paid by credit card you could look into disputing the transaction and getting a refund.&nbsp;It seems you have a case for misrepresentation of the item delivered.&nbsp;</p> <p>I also like the idea of looking for a new dress locally (or online, if it's returnable), and then once you've found&nbsp;one,&nbsp;having a friend sell this dress on eBay or wherever. (You'd lose some money, but peace of mind is worth it.)&nbsp;Do you have a friend who could take over the sale? That seems to me a crucial part of taking the stress off yourself.</p> <p>All the other suggestions are good too -- getting a makeup artist's advice, having two dresses for the wedding (one for show and one for you), or making peace with this dress and&nbsp;wearing it just as it is. (Dyeing I don't think is a good option.) But I fully understand how you feel; I hope you can find a solution soon that makes sense,&nbsp;lessens anxiety and gives you comfort.</p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wedding-dress-mistake#post-1448425 Fri, 27 Feb 2015 02:05:56 +0000 Angie 1448425@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>*sobbing*</p> <p>What a STUNNING dress. Too bad the colour was not what you were hoping for. &nbsp;(((HUGS))).&nbsp;</p> <p>You've received great suggestions, and I REALLY hope that you end up with a dress that you love. Let us know if we can help in any way.&nbsp;</p> </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wedding-dress-mistake#post-1448414 Fri, 27 Feb 2015 01:57:44 +0000 Anonymous 1448414@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Not only is it not the same color at all but I'm not sure your future mother in law would like it either.&nbsp;<br />You're the Executive Bride Manager, take charge, and do what needs to be done so that the bride will feel confident, gracious, and loving. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wedding-dress-mistake#post-1448413 Fri, 27 Feb 2015 01:57:40 +0000 Jane 1448413@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Goodness what a dilemma....I really feel for you. </p> <p>Are there solicitors who deal with misrepresentation on Internet shopping and is this something that they could deal with I a short sharp way with minimal hassle ... Irritating (an understatement) to have to go through. </p> <p>Would you be able to change out of the dress into something else during the day? </p> <p>I think I would also go with Thistles idea on make up and hair - have a consultation with a make up artist and see where it got you...may be even a dry run with some better photos (not selfies) after a hair and make up session </p> <p>Biggest journey is in your head...I guess you know that though. </p> <p>The thing with wedding days is that it's one day and marriage is many days. And if I had my time again I would be prepping myself for the huge journey that is ahead in my head. </p> <p>Take care x </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wedding-dress-mistake#post-1448409 Fri, 27 Feb 2015 01:54:32 +0000 K.M. 1448409@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I came back here to read the thread as it evolved. Staysfit post was very moving, and so were everyone else's testimonies of a not-perfect dress worn for sentimental reasons. All of their points are valid. What is not clear to me, however, is the sentimental reason for YOU to wear THIS dress. You say your mom urged to get it--did she want this particular dress? This particular designer? Is it her financial contribution that makes this dress so important? </p> <p>It's hard to say because I don't know you or your mom. Moms are different. I know my mom wouldn't have been happy if I hadn't been happy with my dress. She would have sympathized if I were less than thrilled, ESPECIALLY if the dress didn't look like what I expected.</p> <p>Re: the color. I also see the difference in contrast in the runway photo. Even accounting for lighting and photo quality, the embroidery is clearly golden on the runway pic against the fabric, which is not only lighter but a different tone (more taupe?). In an ideal world the designer would take responsibility for this. (I for one would like to know her name so I would make sure not to order things from her!)</p> <p>If you were thrilled about all the other aspects of this wedding, I would be convinced to say: compromise on the dress and enjoy everything else. But it seems that so much of this celebration (as sometimes happens) is already a compromise for you. In these circumstances I can see how the dress would be one of the only "you" things in the celebration. </p> <p>I just have to say... you look so sad in the pictures with the dress. It reminds me of when I had my hair and make-up done for my wedding at a fancy salon. Luckily I went there a few days before to do a trial run. I hated it and came back home so sad. I didn't look bad (objectively), it just wasn't me. (My mom saved the day by finding another salon that did a perfect job.) I don't think the dress looks bad on you, but that's irrelevant...</p> <p>I'm sending hugs your way. I hope things work out one way or another. If I were you, as others suggested, I would get what is left of your budget and find a dress you like--maybe you won't find a dress you absolutely love with time and budget restraints, but it seems you could certainly find something you like more than this one. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wedding-dress-mistake#post-1448390 Fri, 27 Feb 2015 01:32:44 +0000 Suz 1448390@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I know that colours reproduce poorly. Etc.Etc. <b>But that dress is clearly a different colour!!!&nbsp;</b></p> <p>The one on the runway is pinky-taupe-nude. The one on you is gold. That is a huge difference! (Well, that's what I see, anyway.)</p> <p>And given the situation as you describe it (mostly his family, not too much family support of your own) you need to feel <b>fabulous!</b></p> <p>So. First try to get money back. From the designer, the credit card company, whatever. Kick up a fuss. This is one time where it really might be worth it. Just do so without any expectation. (And it goes without saying, be super polite, as I know you would be.)&nbsp;</p> <p>Next best, if you don't get anywhere with that,&nbsp;do what Rambling Ann said and figure out what you can afford <b>now.</b>&nbsp;Look at that dress as a sunk cost. Maybe you have a friend or a family member who would look amazing in this dress and could fit it or have it altered? If so, give it to her and remember that it is good karma!</p> <p>You have time. Maybe you can find some fabric and get someone to make you up a dress. Maybe you can find a spectacular dress on consignment. Maybe you can afford a simpler but more flattering new dress.</p> <p>&nbsp;If you are "on stage" as it were, that is a very different type of wedding than my backyard wedding. You need armour.&nbsp;</p> <p>&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wedding-dress-mistake#post-1448374 Fri, 27 Feb 2015 00:47:06 +0000 Thistle 1448374@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Okay, first, you have time. The dress is not the same color, clearly, and the fabrication doesn't look the same. Frankly, I think the designer changed it. Pisses me off for you, especially as they won't take responsibility. Makes me wonder if you paid for it by credit card if you could go through them to get a refund as what you were sent is not what you ordered.</p> <p>Anyway, neither here nor there. As for your current dress, do you know a tailor or seamstress? Can you take the dress to them and see if they can help you?</p> <p>While I hear all the great advice above, I remember you post about your in laws. I get your need to feel fabulous amongst such settings. I also get that you need to wear the dress for your mom. As someone that yellow looks horrible on, I get that too.</p> <p>So, if you can't reliably dye the dress (because a splotchy dress is worse yet), and you need to wear it, the next option is make-up. Can make-up help? I'm can't wear red without the right make-up, but with it, red looks great on me.</p> <p>If make up doesn't work, what about an elegant necklace? One big enough to keep the yellow away from your face? A beaded scarf could work, but could be tricky too. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wedding-dress-mistake#post-1448360 Fri, 27 Feb 2015 00:29:00 +0000 Rambling Ann 1448360@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>If you were my sister, this is what I'd say. That money for the first dress&nbsp;is spent, regardless.&nbsp;&nbsp;Set a realistic budget for where you are now. Then go shop. See if you find something that makes you feel fab with what you've got. Otherwise you will wonder and second-guess until the wedding day. A few hours of shop could spare you weeks of misery.</p> <p>FWIW, I think the color of the dress&nbsp;in the your photos would be flattering with the right make-up and maybe something in your hair. The bathroom light bulbs are hideous, regardless of what you are wearing.&nbsp;</p> <p>If you have a make-up person or even a hairdresser you trust, take it to them, ask their honest opinion and look at it under their lights. &nbsp;Or take it to the shops and compare. You might find it's better than anything else out there, once you do a heads-up comparison.</p> <p>No bride should feel sad on her wedding day! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wedding-dress-mistake#post-1448352 Fri, 27 Feb 2015 00:19:42 +0000 Zibbets 1448352@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Best wishes! I hope you and your lucky fellow share a lifetime of joy!</p> <p>I apologize if someone else has asked this already, but have you tried to get your money back? That clearly&nbsp;isn't the color advertised.</p> <p>That said, I'm with Staysfit. The important things are your husband and your&nbsp;&nbsp;marriage. The wedding is only one day, no matter how much it's photographed and videotaped.</p>