https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wanting-a-more-grown-up-style---how-to-go-about-it Style Advice for Fashion Lovers en-US Sat, 18 Apr 2026 12:57:35 +0000 http://bbpress.org/?v=1.0.2 q https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/search.php https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wanting-a-more-grown-up-style---how-to-go-about-it/page/2#post-1302684 Mon, 14 Jul 2014 08:35:48 +0000 Astrid 1302684@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>LOL Eva, I really don't think I have to give up full skirts and cardigans full stop. I do want to be more dressy, but I have no idea yet how dressy I really need to go later on and it could be more on the casual side anyway. Thanks for the links, I didn't know her blog. Definitely looks interesting! And thanks for the fabric and washing tips. I do fear though that I won't be finding that many great quality silk (mix) or linen (mix) fabrics out there - those fabrics are usually only used by brands above my budget and I don't have the opportunity to thrift like you do. I'm going to keep my eyes open though. There are always sales! </p> <p>Thanks Lyn. I think I can get used to the idea of a few more straight cut skirts that are tailored to my waist, but I definitely don't want to give up full skirts completely! Good idea to keep the color and fabric more "grown-up" looking. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wanting-a-more-grown-up-style---how-to-go-about-it/page/2#post-1302597 Mon, 14 Jul 2014 03:36:45 +0000 lyn* 1302597@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I just wanted to come back and commiserate with you about how hard it is to walk in a skirt that isn't a poof.&nbsp;</p> <p>If you still like the poof (and I love my poof) for your tiny waist, just try to pick some more adult fabrications and colours. I rarely wear my baby pink poof even though I really love it, but I'll try to find one with a thicker material and more substantial weight ... after July. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wanting-a-more-grown-up-style---how-to-go-about-it/page/2#post-1302560 Mon, 14 Jul 2014 02:40:21 +0000 E 1302560@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Soooo I have no background in business/business casual environments (and thank goodness if they require giving up full skirts &amp; cardigans ), but if you just want a generally more grown up style, I thought of the blogger from Small Notebook and her discussion of 'comfortably dressy' in these posts: <a rel="nofollow" href="http://smallnotebook.org/2011/10/11/the-style-guide-comfortably-dressy/">style guide</a>, <a rel="nofollow" href="http://smallnotebook.org/2011/04/07/add-classic-style-to-the-small-wardrobe/">dressier small wardrobe</a>, and <a rel="nofollow" href="http://smallnotebook.org/2011/10/17/the-shopping-guide-comfortably-dressy-style/">shopping guide</a>. She has a little <a rel="nofollow" href="http://smallnotebook.org/tag/clothes/">section</a> dedicated to her clothing posts, and as she's into voluntary simplicity, you might resonate with her approach. :)</p> <p>I also wanted to add that I have a ton of silk or silk blend tops, both knit and woven, that I wash in my washing machine on the 'hand wash' cycle and dry flat/hanging (depending on if it's knit or woven) without any problems. Of the 30+ tops/dresses&nbsp;I've treated this way, one has changed from satin-like fabric to a washed silk feel; the rest have stayed the way they were when I got them (and one was satin-style and new when I got it). It's really not that fussy of a fabric! You do need to be careful if there's a lining though, as often the lining is made of something else, so if there's minimal shrinking of the silk, the lining can end up showing underneath. I think that's only happened to me with linen or wool items I was deliberately trying to shrink via the drier&nbsp;though; I don't think I've tried to shrink anything silk or had an issue. Also, one of my silk tanks&nbsp;reacted strangely to deodorant or my sweat &amp; now has a discolored dark spot around the underarms. That's the first time that's happened to me out of all of my silk tops, but I suppose it is a risk. I think it has to do with the tank being slightly too big, and I was wearing it backwards for a higher neckline, so there was fabric bunched up right in the 'high sweat' zone. Anyway, silk/cotton blends are lovely!</p> <p>Linen is a very strong/sturdy fabric that just gets softer as you wash it, so unless it has a lining that doesn't want to be washed, no worries there either. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wanting-a-more-grown-up-style---how-to-go-about-it/page/2#post-1298464 Wed, 09 Jul 2014 12:09:56 +0000 Astrid 1298464@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Thanks for the tip, Diane. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wanting-a-more-grown-up-style---how-to-go-about-it/page/2#post-1298409 Wed, 09 Jul 2014 10:54:42 +0000 Anonymous 1298409@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Astrid you've had some fab advice already, which I can't really add&nbsp;much to&nbsp;and I agree that you don't need much make-up at all. You mentioned your eyebrows though and that was one thing I was going to mention as I swear by Clinique Superfine liner for brows and they actually do a soft blonde colour which may be nice and subtle for you. I love that the pencil twists up with no need for sharpening and you can do really fine feathery strokes with it : <a href="http://www.clinique.co.uk/product/1595/6332/Makeup/Brows/Superfine-Liner-For-Brows/index.tmpl?cm_mmc=GoogleBase-_-ShoppingFeed-_-Makeup-_-Brows&amp;77tadunit=e96f9bf6&amp;77tadvert=44273429580&amp;77tkeyword=&amp;77tentrytype=s&amp;77tentry=shopping_feed_ppc&amp;gclid=CKaq_fWHuL8CFQEUwwodQpgAoQ" rel="nofollow">http://www.clinique.co.uk/prod.....mpl?cm_mmc</a>&nbsp;Hope this helps. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wanting-a-more-grown-up-style---how-to-go-about-it/page/2#post-1298405 Wed, 09 Jul 2014 10:43:21 +0000 Astrid 1298405@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Thanks Rachylou! I've given up on ballet flats alltogether because they don't work on my feet. I don't think I can give up on jeans, although I'm alright with not sporting a hoodie...</p> <p>Thanks Tracey. I'll definitely keep my eyes open for some inspiration! And yes, a Pinterest board is a good idea.</p> <p>Amiable, I'm glad this was helpful.</p> <p>Thanks Kiki! My plaid dress and blackwatch skirt are cut straight, so it's true that I don't have any pencil skirts. I'm not a big fan of them because they hinder me too much walking, I have a long stride and do a lot of swift walking. So straight cut skirts are alright, but I probably won't be happy with a pencil skirt that really narrows at the knee. Love the tinted lip balm idea! I'll have to search for one of those multi purpose creams, but that might not be very easy because I have very sensitive skin (with a penchant for bouts of neurodermatitis), which leaves a lot less and often expensive options. (I'm using essential oils at the moment.)</p> <p>Thanks Dee! Not getting rid of anything wearable for now, my wardrobe is that small. I won't need to practice one in one out for a while yet. I do wear my sneakers a lot right now, mostly because I'm lacking alternatives. I don't wear ballet flats anymore.</p> <p>Thanks Shiny! You know, that outfit you're describing sounds like my worst nightmare... Generally I'm <i>very</i> hesitant when it comes to hair color. The few times I tried color in the past (whole head or just strands) it never did anything for me. Actually that's one reason to suspect I might not be a Light Summer or spring after all, because those usually go blonde successfully. Cool blonde is harder to get right artificially, so I might be cool after all. Also anything darker or warmer looks off too. Red is a bad idea... Same for my brows - actually that's one area where I did a bit of experimenting with make-up, because my brows rather dissapear left on their own. I haven't yet found a color looked naturally on me. I do tweeze my brows though, I have for the last ten years or so. But very carefully, I don't want to make it worse. I do tweeze the stragglers under the brows and on my nose bridge (my brows are naturally a bit closer together).</p> <p>Thanks MsKatieKat! I will keep you all up to date.</p> <p>Thanks Jenava! You do color in a fantastic way. Love it. I'd like to get to a similar place myself. I do wear leather, but a real leather jacket is quite expensive so it has to be an investment piece. We'll see. Good point about letting go of pieces that are getting too worn - I guess I do wear some of them longer then I should because I have to keep an eye on the budget. As for my blazers, I only have two cropped black ones. They only work with skirts and black isn't very flattering on me. Both were bought for specific occasions (one for a funeral). So I don't have a blazer I could wear with my everyday outfits at the moment.</p> <p> </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wanting-a-more-grown-up-style---how-to-go-about-it/page/2#post-1298143 Wed, 09 Jul 2014 02:02:22 +0000 Jenava 1298143@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Have not read through the other thoughts yet, but here are mine:<br />Color - this was really a big thing for me that helped me hone my style.&nbsp; I'm a soft summer (maybe soft summer deep, because I think i can wear darker shades well) and when i started to focus on wearing flattering colors and purchasing only items that are really flattering I think it helped elevate my outfits.&nbsp; Maybe pick one or two colors (maybe one neutral, maybe light grey?, and one color that you like) and focus on searching for a couple key items you really enjoy in those shades to start?</p> <p>As far as specific items, I found that leaning more towards jackets - especially in more upscale fabrications like tweed or leather - also increased my style quotient.&nbsp; I don't know if you wear leather (maybe faux is more practical anyway).&nbsp; I find I rarely need to clean these (once every couple years, max).&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; </p> <p>Hair - I can't really help you here, sorry, my own hair at the moment is growing out because it's all I can do to just keep my grey roots colored and keep it in a clean ponytail.&nbsp; (-:</p> <p>If you can afford the maintenance, maybe try a new shade? </p> </p> <p>ETA:&nbsp; two more thoughts...make sure your shoes, handbag and clothing are in good repair.&nbsp; Do let go of anything that's badly scuffed or worn.&nbsp; Also, keeping things as simple as possible but in decent (natural when possible) fabrications tends to help make things stretch more because you can dress them up or down more easily.&nbsp; But one or two statement items also helps, too.</p> <p>ETA2:&nbsp; OK, I've read through all the thoughts.&nbsp; Wow, a consensus on getting a blazer, eh?&nbsp; Maybe you can start by wearing something you already own more often and see how that feels.&nbsp; (-;&nbsp; I agree with Dianna's thought on overall silhouette and that pencils skirts read more dressy and polished than full skirts.&nbsp; Also the comment (kiki?) about needing to get things altered to fit your waist - I have to do that very often.&nbsp; I will say, as far as silhouette for trousers, slim ankle trousers may work better with flats.&nbsp; If you choose to do a trouser leg then you should at least go for a pointed-toe flat and watch that the length is long enough (tricky with a flat shoe).</p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wanting-a-more-grown-up-style---how-to-go-about-it/page/2#post-1298125 Wed, 09 Jul 2014 01:41:55 +0000 MsLuna 1298125@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Astrid, recognizing good fit is a huge step and good for you for having achieved that! It would definitely be helpful to find a reliable tailor. If, for instance, you need to have blazers/jackets altered, it would be helpful to send them to a good tailor! </p> <p>Good luck, Astrid, and keep us all posted! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wanting-a-more-grown-up-style---how-to-go-about-it/page/2#post-1298117 Wed, 09 Jul 2014 01:35:55 +0000 shiny 1298117@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Haven't read the other posts. </p> <p>You are quite the&nbsp;natural beauty, and that is always going to be you, no matter how "grown up" you decide or want to be. We could strap you into a dry clean only skirt suit with 4-inch killer&nbsp;pumps and an inch thick mask&nbsp;of Sephora makeup, and you would still manage to&nbsp;look like a beautiful&nbsp;woodlyn nymph. I say roll with what you've been gifted, and I think you know that already-- because&nbsp;your preferences are also&nbsp;for natural fabrics and fashions too.&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;</p> <p>So my gut reaction is to suggest that instead of overly focusing on the haircut, find a great colorist and add just a hint of color. Just a hint. Don't go overboard. Natural, but maybe just an oomph of red or gold or something. I don't know what.&nbsp;Go with semi-permanent color so if you hate it, it'll wash out quickly. Or highlights, and if you hate them, you can get a semi-permanent over them.&nbsp;</p> <p>Experiment with hair color first, before fine-tuning the&nbsp;clothing colors. Wear white to your color appointment.&nbsp;</p> <p>I'd also recommend color on your eyebrows. &nbsp;I would love to see what a difference darker / shaped&nbsp;eyebrows would make. That may be all you need. I don't use eyebrow pencil myself, but I get my brows shaped and when they've just been done, I need a lot less makeup overall.&nbsp;</p> <p>As for clothing colors, yes, you do look fabulous in the lighter summer&nbsp;shades.&nbsp;</p> <p>Woodlyn Nymph - that would be the color "season" I'd categorize you into. But it's very broad. It could be autumn, spring, summer woods. So I say - start with hair color first, to choose which season you want to play "grown up"&nbsp;in for awhile.&nbsp;&nbsp;</p> <p> </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wanting-a-more-grown-up-style---how-to-go-about-it/page/2#post-1298031 Tue, 08 Jul 2014 23:52:32 +0000 Dee 1298031@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I went through/am still going through this transition myself, so I understand how difficult it can be. It doesn't help that I'm petite and look younger than I am, either. :)</p> <p>I support what others have said in terms of adding blazers and real shoes, not just sneakers and ballet flats, and paying attention to fit. I don't necessarily feel that you need to get rid of all of your tees and cardigans though. Maybe upping the game with interesting necklines (as opposed to basic crew or v-necks) or details would work. I know you're usually pretty minimal with your accessories, but a statement necklace, metallic belts, etc. can go a long way to upping the ante. And be careful not to get rid of your entire student/casual wardrobe - you'll still have lounge days and casual weekend days where a tee is what you'll want to wear. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wanting-a-more-grown-up-style---how-to-go-about-it/page/2#post-1297925 Tue, 08 Jul 2014 21:30:14 +0000 KikiG 1297925@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Astrid, I had another thought.&nbsp; You really, really like a full skirt with pleats or fullness, and you like dresses that have skirts with volume.&nbsp; I'm thinking&nbsp;of your plaid skirts and dress and your "wedding" dress.&nbsp; This is a really cute look on you, but it is young.&nbsp; You may be doing this because you have fit issues due to a tiny waist; the solution is alterations.&nbsp; Fit your hips and have the waist adjusted.&nbsp; </p> <p>In terms of makeup, there are a number of "BB" products out there that are multi purpose of treatment, sunscreen and a bit of tint.&nbsp; This may be a nice option for you--sunscreen is always great.&nbsp; Tinted lip balm is another way to ease into make up without looking painted or suddenly unlike your usual self.&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wanting-a-more-grown-up-style---how-to-go-about-it/page/2#post-1297894 Tue, 08 Jul 2014 20:45:19 +0000 amiable 1297894@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Love this thread, as I'm frequently trying to up my game when I want to look polished. &nbsp;I'm enjoying the tips, and will have to try some myself. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wanting-a-more-grown-up-style---how-to-go-about-it/page/2#post-1297744 Tue, 08 Jul 2014 18:38:05 +0000 TraceyLiz65 1297744@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I love Suz's suggestion of a style icon of someone you admire...I'd add in starting a Pinterest board of what you think the next phase job should look like...&nbsp;<br />I highly recommend finding a few trendy pieces when the time comes... I replaced an entire wardrobe after losing weight and it wasn't until I stopped thrifting and added more trendy pieces that I felt the balance between classics and trendy...</p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wanting-a-more-grown-up-style---how-to-go-about-it#post-1297738 Tue, 08 Jul 2014 18:29:01 +0000 rachylou 1297738@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Oh great ideas here. You don't need my two cents, but my instant plan for banning childishness is refusing to wear jeans, t-shirts, and ballet flats together. And also, not wearing a hoodie as a jacket.</p> <p>I could maybe boil it down to wearing a jacket and shoes with real soles... </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wanting-a-more-grown-up-style---how-to-go-about-it#post-1297687 Tue, 08 Jul 2014 17:22:51 +0000 Astrid 1297687@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Thanks Anna. I'm not a big H&amp;M shopper, but I'll keep that in mind. </p> <p>Thanks Claire! And yes, definitely a "no make-up look" for me. I don't think I would feel comfortable with anything else. I also don't want to use too much stuff, I guess I'm sceptical about puttting anything on my skin. So lipstick, mascara, eyliner maybe - that's fine. Not a big fan of the idea of foundation (mineral or liquid). I guess I could do more when it comes to care and sunscreen. </p> <p>Thanks Lyn. We don't have Sephora but I think we do have Bobbi Brown. I think I'm going to try to read up a bit on it first, I really have no idea what I'm doing when it comes to make-up. And I don't like to go into that kind of thing uninformed because that often leads to shopping mistakes.... And yes, I'm not buying the cheap stuff. My mum knows a bit about that dreck and it's scary when you look at what kind of noxious substances are in a lot of it. With the bigger brands you can be fairly sure that they have some kind of control in place to make sure that doesn't happen.</p> <p>Thanks MsKatieKat! I think I've become better at noticing bad fit, but it sure can be improved still. I have a place that has been altering some of my things, but they're inexpensive and really only good for things light pants hems, which I can do on my own really. They don't do anything more complicated. I guess if I have some nicer piece it would be worth it to search for a higher quality place.</p> <p>Thanks K! Any tips what blogs are a good source? I don't know anything about beauty/make-up blogs.</p> <p>Thanks Angie. :)</p> <p>Thanks Gigi! That comparison is great and it really highlights how much depends on the details. Not that I would ever dress like the outfits on the left, but it's still interesting to see. I'm not wearing that small sizes, so I've never been tempted to shop junior stuff. But I agree that there can be a big difference between similar clothing items depending on the target group of the store. </p> <p>&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wanting-a-more-grown-up-style---how-to-go-about-it#post-1297249 Tue, 08 Jul 2014 02:15:46 +0000 Gigi 1297249@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Wow, lots of ideas here. I haven't read all the posts, but perhaps you will find this helpful:<br /><a rel="nofollow" href="http://www.extrapetite.com/2010/05/reader-request-how-to-look-older-in.html">http://www.extrapetite.com/201.....er-in.html</a></p> <p>This is from a blog geared toward petites, but it would apply to everyone who wants to look older. I was really astounded at the transformation the blogger shows in this post. The blogger first dressed herself as an everyday grad student and then changed her clothing to reflect an older persona—but it's still campus friendly and not stilted.</p> <p>I don't have a lot of other advice, as this is a problem for me too! So far, I have found that keeping my clothes very sleek (I guess this means tailored, skimming curves)&nbsp;and well fitting does a lot. </p> <p>I think also that&nbsp;finding clothes that have smaller amounts of embellishment or decoration is helpful. I was comparing two skirts the other day, one from American Eagle (caters to college girls) and one from Lucky Jeans. The skirts were white denim minis with zipper details, and they were extremely similar. The main difference was that the Lucky skirt had two zippers, while the AE one had three. The AE zippers were also darker in color and more prominent. It was amazing how much difference the one less zipper made, at least to me, in terms of making the Lucky skirt look more "grown up." So I guess the moral of this lesson is: Some embellishment is good, but be careful that it does not become too much.</p> <p>Another thing I have done is I have stopped shopping at stores that cater mainly to juniors. I do wear small sizes and so was shopping at those stores so as to take advantage of the sizing, but everything I looked at really felt too young to me. So I have just decided to avoid those stores, and that in and of itself has been a big help.&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wanting-a-more-grown-up-style---how-to-go-about-it#post-1297157 Tue, 08 Jul 2014 00:16:23 +0000 Angie 1297157@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I'm vouching for a dash of make-up. xo </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wanting-a-more-grown-up-style---how-to-go-about-it#post-1297144 Mon, 07 Jul 2014 23:53:50 +0000 Kristin L 1297144@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I recently went through the same transition. It sounds like you've gotten some great advice. I'd say go for the basics to start with. I've gotten a lot of wear out of my black pencil skirt and my cardigans.&nbsp;</p> <p>Also check out some of the beauty blogs if you want ideas or inspiration for make-up.&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wanting-a-more-grown-up-style---how-to-go-about-it#post-1297074 Mon, 07 Jul 2014 22:40:07 +0000 Meredith 1297074@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Yeah, you're right the price is up there. I've only had it used on me at the salon. I should reasearch a cheaper option for both of us. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wanting-a-more-grown-up-style---how-to-go-about-it#post-1297067 Mon, 07 Jul 2014 22:32:29 +0000 MsLuna 1297067@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I'm in my mid-30's and I'm still trying to find the line of "grown up" yet "youthful" it's HARD considering my evolved style can easily look too sloppy or too "old lady who has given up on style". </p> <p>I work in an ultra casual work environment, and have been for 11 years so I've never really had that transition from university to the working world but I've been exploring a more mature style since 7 years ago. I'm working full time and in school part time so I may be able to contribute more to what these lovely ladies said!</p> <p>You mentioned giving up t-shirts - how about instead of the classic tee, go for cowl necks, drapey tees, floaty fluid woven tees? The latter will feel more like a "blouse" but will still have the ease of a t-shirt!</p> <p>I'm with Diana on blazers. When I started working way back when, those were the first items I purchased. I felt more "grown up" and polished that way! </p> <p>Also, be selective about fit. The key to looking more polished and "grown up" sometimes is how clothes fit on the body. If it doesn't fit well, don't get it. If you have a budget for alterations, consider shopping around for a good tailor (and have a good relationship with your tailor) and have your clothes taken there. </p> <p>Agreed with the other ladies on makeup. Learn a simple "5 minute look". Most of the time, this is just the more polished version of your natural look, but if you have a bold sense of style (like myself), this may involve a play in eyeliner (I wear black liner, sometimes with a very gentle cat-eye effect) or bold coloured lipstick (my signature is a deep blue-red). </p> <p>Aside from that, these are great tips and I thank you for starting this thread! I have much to learn here too! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wanting-a-more-grown-up-style---how-to-go-about-it#post-1297043 Mon, 07 Jul 2014 22:05:51 +0000 lyn* 1297043@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Yeah, adding makeup to my style was pretty important for looking more like a grown up for me, anyway ... I just popped into Sephora a few times and tried a few "suggested looks" by different people. Bobbi Brown also does consultations.</p> <p>You don't have to buy their stuff, but I advise getting some nicer makeup for your skin - after all, you only have one skin </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wanting-a-more-grown-up-style---how-to-go-about-it#post-1297039 Mon, 07 Jul 2014 21:58:15 +0000 Anonymous 1297039@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Astrid, you are a natural beauty, and you certainly don't need a lot of make-up. I would even suggest you try a "no make-up look", which won't be too obvious, but will just add some polish. I seem to remember Goldenpig(Natalie) had some good posts on hair and make-up when her style was evolving. She still has a very natural look, but I think it's more professional and&nbsp;grown-up looking than completely no-maintenance.&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wanting-a-more-grown-up-style---how-to-go-about-it#post-1297029 Mon, 07 Jul 2014 21:42:05 +0000 annagybe 1297029@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>When I had to dress professionally for my externship in NYC, I found some great button down shirts and woven shirts at H&amp;M of all places. Machine washable and held up pretty well. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wanting-a-more-grown-up-style---how-to-go-about-it#post-1297022 Mon, 07 Jul 2014 21:30:38 +0000 Astrid 1297022@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Lyn, no need to thank me! As always the wisdom on this forum is impressive.</p> <p>You know, you look awesome in your fit and flares and your cardis - one of the exceptions I would say. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wanting-a-more-grown-up-style---how-to-go-about-it#post-1297016 Mon, 07 Jul 2014 21:23:25 +0000 lyn* 1297016@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Just wanted to thank you for this thread, lots of good info!</p> <p>*chuckle @ cardigans &amp; fit and flares in Diana's post. *GUILTY!!!** </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wanting-a-more-grown-up-style---how-to-go-about-it#post-1297010 Mon, 07 Jul 2014 21:17:16 +0000 Astrid 1297010@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>abc, I agree. It's good to think about what will be appropriate.<br />&nbsp;<br />Gaylene, that's very good advice, thanks. I'm going to keep 'polished' in mind. You all are allowed to call me out on it. And yes, I only want pieces I can already use the moment I buy them. </p> <p>Thanks Claire! I agree, every color can look "grown up". It really depends on the garment and what other colors you pair it with. I'm definitely going to stick to the safer neutrals for now with any bigger purchases and try some color with inexpensive things. I'm definitely thinking the blazer idea is a good one -maybe navy to start with? I don't wear makeup, but I could try to some of the colors recommended for LSu or LSp and see if I like something. Maybe just a bit color on the lip and some mascara. I don't paint my nails either, I just keep them filed very short. Only jewelry I wear regularly are earrings, mostly my pearls, small silver studs or small silver hoops. And my watch. I could look into replacing the scratched glass of my other dressier watch. And I know I'm probably overreacting with the hair. I think I'm going to ask him what he thinks would be the best solution for now and get the length adjusted so that I can wear a side part.</p> <p>Thanks Gracie.</p> <p>Thanks Texstyle! I agree, going with a safe color to start with. I can experiment with pieces that are less expensive. Silk and cotton sounds lovely - most of my tops are cotton only. I like the idea of taking the casual wear a step up like in your example. I have <i>only</i> denim for pants, so that's a big need. I guess it's because I don't like to shop for pants anyway and jeans are still the easiest to fit.</p> <p>Thanks Suz! My shoe capsule is pitiful, so some great shoes are definitely a good idea. If only they weren't so expensive... I love your shopping without buying idea. And ha, definitely not trying to rush it too much (says the woman who was thought to be her 17 year old brother's girlfriend). I'm going to keep my eyes open for someone with style I could be inspired by. :)</p> <p>Thanks Kiki. That makes sense! I definitely don't want to dress 'old' or feel uncomfortable being dressed up, that's why I thought it might be nice to do this as a slow change so it feels like my look and my style. And thanks for those questions, these are definitely helpful to ask. Love your suggestions for clothes. It was also interesting to see what would be a no-go for you. I do work two days a week right now, but the place is so casual pretty much everything goes.</p> <p>Thanks Joy. I'm definitely ask you all for help along the way. And keep it slow. I'm not hurrying to be a whole new dressier wardrobe right now! </p> <p>Thanks Meredith. Good idea to collect some ideas, I think I'm going to do that. Probably on Pinterest though, because most of the sites I visit aren't supported at YLF I think. And yes - current seems much better than trendy, because I'm not a trendy person. Thanks for the link! I know of Aveda, although the price is something else. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wanting-a-more-grown-up-style---how-to-go-about-it#post-1296936 Mon, 07 Jul 2014 19:23:27 +0000 Meredith 1296936@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I absolutely agree that you should have future style goals&nbsp;in mind but devote most of your budget to clothing that will still work for you&nbsp;now.&nbsp; Maybe this means buying a more&nbsp;sophisticated (but practical) shoe, a knit blazer, or a beautiful coat.&nbsp; For your future closet, use Angie’s “finds”&nbsp;to start collecting a virtual wardrobe. &nbsp;It’s regret-proof “shopping” and will help you refine what you want in your&nbsp;professional wardrobe.</p> <p>Regarding adding trendy items, it might be more productive&nbsp;to substitute the word “current” for tend.&nbsp;Think about incorporating a few pieces that make your style look current &nbsp;For me this is paying attention to pant styles, pointy vs rounded toe shoes,&nbsp;jacket shapes.</p> <p>Wow, we have really similar hair.&nbsp; Thick, wavy, straighter in the front and&nbsp;curly in the back.&nbsp; I feel your&nbsp;pain.&nbsp; I actually quite like your hair,&nbsp;especially from the back.&nbsp; Perhaps&nbsp;consider keeping the inverted bob but allow the front to grow a bit&nbsp;longer.&nbsp; Inverted lob? I’d ask your&nbsp;stylist (or other ladies on the forum) about a product to help minimize fizz&nbsp;and define curl.&nbsp; And also add a shaping wax&nbsp;product would help tame rebellious tendrils (selectively – not for use all&nbsp;over). I think some quality product would go a long way in polishing your<br /> look.&nbsp; </p> <p>&nbsp;<a rel="nofollow" href="http://www.aveda.com/product/5239/16635/Light-Elements-trade-Shaping-Wax/index.tmpl?utm_campaign=bazaarvoice&amp;utm_medium=SearchVoice&amp;utm_source=RatingsAndReviews&amp;utm_content=Default">http://www.aveda.com/product/5.....mpaign=baz</a></p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wanting-a-more-grown-up-style---how-to-go-about-it#post-1296902 Mon, 07 Jul 2014 19:08:41 +0000 Anonymous 1296902@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I can remember that transition from college to work and my advice would be to take it slowly. Chose a couple of your favorite neutrals to build the basics, maybe one dark and one light like cream and charcoal or white and camel. Red can be a neutral, just be consistent with the shade you chose. Blazers and other jackets rather than cardigans, pencil or A-line skirt that's not too short, trousers rather than jeans, a small wedge or heel rather than flats, stockings rather than tights. Study Angie's posts on building capsules. And we are all here to help.<br /> Hair...I left mine long but wore it up for work. That way I could wear it down and look my age on weekends. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wanting-a-more-grown-up-style---how-to-go-about-it#post-1296885 Mon, 07 Jul 2014 18:53:11 +0000 KikiG 1296885@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I think you are awfully cute, and what you wear is totally age-appropriate and situation appropriate to being at university.&nbsp;Your current wardrobe is fun and youthful and comfortable.&nbsp; But a work-appropriate wardrobe for someone your age needs a bit of polish.&nbsp;&nbsp;</p> <p> When you enter the work force, everyone is "the same age" whether you are 25 or 75, and you will want to look like an adult to be treated like an adult, instead of a kid.&nbsp; Of course, you don't want to dress like your mom or someone's&nbsp;granny.&nbsp;That would be silly and you'd be attracting the wrong sort of attention by looking and feeling like you were in some sort of costume.&nbsp; <br />The dress you bought for the wedding last summer--fantastic.&nbsp; The fit was wonderful, the clear, vivid colors were so nice with your coloring.&nbsp; I think you look great in simple shapes with clean lines.</p> <p>As you upgrade or replace, ask:&nbsp; Could I wear this to work? Would I <i>want</i> to wear this to work? <u>Do people in the profession I am training for wear things like this to work? </u></p> <p>If you were coming to work in <i>my</i> business casual office, and if you asked, &nbsp;I would mind your business and say:</p> <p>No graphic tees, no cons, no jumpers (pinafore dresses), open sandals only if they are dressy.&nbsp; No clunky lace up shoes like Doc Martins.&nbsp; No sweater-like tights, because those look very young.&nbsp; Pullover sweaters only if they are thin and part of a polished outfit.</p> <p>I would say, buy skirts, buy pants that are not jeans,&nbsp;buy dresses.&nbsp; Focus on fit and quality fabric, and classic colors like black, navy, gray and khaki.&nbsp; Buy blouses or tops that look good with or without a&nbsp;jacket or topper.&nbsp; Think about toppers that&nbsp;you could wear in the office, like a cardigan or a blazer that creates a polished look.&nbsp; I would say, buy a suit for interviews or when you need to look extra posh or polished, like when you make a presentation.&nbsp; (I try to buy a new suit every&nbsp;year.)&nbsp;&nbsp;I would say, you don't have to wear a heel, but wear a flat or a loafer style shoe with some grace and polish to it.&nbsp; </p> <p>I think your current bob is adorable, you may just need to learn to work with instead of against your curl, and you may need some fancy hair product to scrunch in, and a diffuser to get your hair dry when you wash it--that makes such a big difference to hair with texture.&nbsp; And as clearlyclaire said, a bit of makeup is nice too, a bit of eye pencil and mascara, and perhaps a bit of lip gloss.&nbsp; You have very pretty skin and eyes, and a whole lot to work with!</p> <p> </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wanting-a-more-grown-up-style---how-to-go-about-it#post-1296880 Mon, 07 Jul 2014 18:49:05 +0000 Suz 1296880@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Oh -- and see if you can find a style role model out there somewhere -- someone who dresses as you might like to?&nbsp; </p>