https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/urgent-what-to-wear-for-jewish-funeral-today Style Advice for Fashion Lovers en-US Sat, 04 Apr 2026 00:39:36 +0000 http://bbpress.org/?v=1.0.2 q https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/search.php https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/urgent-what-to-wear-for-jewish-funeral-today/page/2#post-1230500 Wed, 23 Apr 2014 03:01:43 +0000 Anonymous 1230500@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Thank you all for your comments.&nbsp; I'm glad you felt I looked appropriate.&nbsp; I hope that there is not a next time, but if so, I would wear a long dark skirt. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/urgent-what-to-wear-for-jewish-funeral-today#post-1230495 Wed, 23 Apr 2014 02:56:02 +0000 Jaime 1230495@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>So sorry Joy. As you learned there are plenty of different ways to do a Jewish funeral. You look perfectly appropriate to me.&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/urgent-what-to-wear-for-jewish-funeral-today#post-1230238 Tue, 22 Apr 2014 23:40:14 +0000 Debora 1230238@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>My condolences, Joy. Your outfit was tasteful and appropriate. Thank you for posting - I learned a lot. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/urgent-what-to-wear-for-jewish-funeral-today#post-1230160 Tue, 22 Apr 2014 22:22:33 +0000 MsMary 1230160@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Perfect.&nbsp; Such a sad story! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/urgent-what-to-wear-for-jewish-funeral-today#post-1230135 Tue, 22 Apr 2014 21:49:44 +0000 Suz 1230135@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Joy, you looked absolutely appropriate. Perfect.&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/urgent-what-to-wear-for-jewish-funeral-today#post-1230106 Tue, 22 Apr 2014 21:21:12 +0000 rachylou 1230106@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>So sad. You look respectful. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/urgent-what-to-wear-for-jewish-funeral-today#post-1230037 Tue, 22 Apr 2014 20:10:31 +0000 An 1230037@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Oh that's sad. Joy, I would say you got it spot on - respectful, restrained, elegant - you look beautiful. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/urgent-what-to-wear-for-jewish-funeral-today#post-1230033 Tue, 22 Apr 2014 20:07:17 +0000 Vildy 1230033@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>You looked just right and thank you for sharing what a hero this young woman was. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/urgent-what-to-wear-for-jewish-funeral-today#post-1230020 Tue, 22 Apr 2014 19:51:07 +0000 Aquamarine 1230020@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>You look perfectly appropriate and tasteful. So, so sad...I am sorry. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/urgent-what-to-wear-for-jewish-funeral-today#post-1230013 Tue, 22 Apr 2014 19:35:34 +0000 Anonymous 1230013@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Thank you each for your help. You all added wonderful insights. The service was at the synagogue and most did not go to graveside. It was beautiful and I'm posting a photo of how I dressed. I think the synagogue is reformed but there were women in mini skirts to full length. I felt appropriate and hope that you approve.<br /> This young woman lost a bravely fought battle with breast cancer including taking part in numerous drug studies hoping to help others. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/urgent-what-to-wear-for-jewish-funeral-today#post-1229955 Tue, 22 Apr 2014 18:30:55 +0000 Vildy 1229955@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>If you make a shiva visit - to the house during the seven days afterward - don't sit on the low stools, boxes because they're for the family and bring something like fruit basket without nuts because anybody can eat that without worrying about whether it's kosher. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/urgent-what-to-wear-for-jewish-funeral-today#post-1229948 Tue, 22 Apr 2014 18:23:25 +0000 Vildy 1229948@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Good idea to cover the hair at least partly - scarf or hat. <br />Cover the shoulders and upper arm. Higher neckline above clavicle. <br />Pants/trousers are okay if they are women's style pants. <br />Best to leave off perfume, strongly scented products. <br />Let the grieving family speak to you first. <br />You won't be expected to tear your clothes and they often give little ribbons that can be torn to the family. <br />Sometimes at the gravesite the mourners may each put a shovel full of earth in. If no one hands you a shovel, then as a woman, don't offer. </p> <p>You'll be fine and I'm sorry for this sad occasion. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/urgent-what-to-wear-for-jewish-funeral-today#post-1229875 Tue, 22 Apr 2014 17:13:45 +0000 rachylou 1229875@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Are you going to the funeral and/or sit shiva with the family?</p> <p>It has been a long time for me, but if I've got this right: Wear a conservative not-too-fancy dress (one is supposed to be ready to rend their garments in theory), no jewelry, don't bring flowers, don't greet the mourning family at the funeral part, maybe bring a scarf to cover your head just in case. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/urgent-what-to-wear-for-jewish-funeral-today#post-1229851 Tue, 22 Apr 2014 16:40:04 +0000 Aziraphale 1229851@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>You can't go wrong with something understated and modest&nbsp;in grey and/or black. Does a Jewish funeral have different rules? I would have thought not.&nbsp;</p> <p>If it were me, and the weather was to be mild, I'd wear a charcoal skirt that covers my knees, a black long sleeve blouse, hose and dressy (but not flashy) black pumps with heels that are not too high or skinny, because sometimes you have to walk across the grass or stand by&nbsp;the side of the grave for the service. I'd forgo jewellery (except my wedding rings and small silver earrings that I never take out), and do simple makeup.</p> <p>If I had a black suit, either pant or skirt suit, I'd wear that.</p> <p>I am sorry for your loss. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/urgent-what-to-wear-for-jewish-funeral-today#post-1229842 Tue, 22 Apr 2014 16:31:42 +0000 Diana 1229842@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I'd probably wear a dark colored suit if you have one.&nbsp; Otherwise dark trousers or modest skirt and jacket.&nbsp; Funeral homes are cold, and I don't think it should be too warm yet for the outdoor portion.&nbsp; Funerals in the summer are always difficult because of the extreme difference in temperature between funeral home and cemetery.&nbsp; </p> <p>ETA: I prefer trousers to a skirt because of the shoe issue (can wear more sensible shoes for walking to the gravesite etc).&nbsp; </p> </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/urgent-what-to-wear-for-jewish-funeral-today#post-1229818 Tue, 22 Apr 2014 16:13:40 +0000 Angie 1229818@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I'm sure you will wear a funeral&nbsp;outfit that is 100% appropriate, Joy. My condolences. xo </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/urgent-what-to-wear-for-jewish-funeral-today#post-1229799 Tue, 22 Apr 2014 15:51:36 +0000 WishfulSpirit 1229799@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I'm assuming the community is reformed, conservative or orthodox. You'd probably know if they were Hassidic (ultra-orthodox, in which case you'd need an ankle-length skirt and long sleeves, and maybe even a head scarf). If they are Orthdox Jews, you might see people dressed differently than you, but as long as you are dressed respectfully according to the normal standards of American / Western culture, you should be Ok.&nbsp;</p> <p>For funerals,&nbsp;simple, dark and conservative (like you'd dress for an interview at a law firm or other serious business) should work. If you have a dark suit and a dark-colored blouse, wear that. As others said, many Jewish services are held at grave sites, so wear flats or wedges that you can walk on grass in. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/urgent-what-to-wear-for-jewish-funeral-today#post-1229791 Tue, 22 Apr 2014 15:45:42 +0000 Anonymous 1229791@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Now I'm thinking EF black midi pencil skirt, EF plain black matte finish silk shell, EF dark grey matte silk jacket, black ballet flats. Bare legs, nude sheer stockings or black sheer stockings? Are dark pearls ok or best go with no jewelry? </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/urgent-what-to-wear-for-jewish-funeral-today#post-1229786 Tue, 22 Apr 2014 15:40:42 +0000 Suz 1229786@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Yes, I would agree that simple and sober is better -- not lace.&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/urgent-what-to-wear-for-jewish-funeral-today#post-1229778 Tue, 22 Apr 2014 15:37:27 +0000 minimalist 1229778@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>No lace. Please.</p> <p>Shoes you won't worry about getting dirt on. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/urgent-what-to-wear-for-jewish-funeral-today#post-1229766 Tue, 22 Apr 2014 15:23:15 +0000 Joyce B 1229766@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Sorry, I did not quite get it about the sheath, is it with lace over it? That is beautiful but for the sad occasion I prefer very plain non-descript garments. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/urgent-what-to-wear-for-jewish-funeral-today#post-1229765 Tue, 22 Apr 2014 15:23:09 +0000 Anonymous 1229765@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Thank you so much, Joyce. That's what I needed to know. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/urgent-what-to-wear-for-jewish-funeral-today#post-1229763 Tue, 22 Apr 2014 15:20:44 +0000 Joyce B 1229763@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Joy, it's a beautiful bomber and lace but I prefer a jacket because it gives a respectful vibe. A jacket over the sheath would be fine. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/urgent-what-to-wear-for-jewish-funeral-today#post-1229748 Tue, 22 Apr 2014 15:07:16 +0000 Anonymous 1229748@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I'm wondering about a knee covering black sheath with the navy lace over black bomber jacket (which still has tags). Is that too much? Added photos. The lace is darker than shown. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/urgent-what-to-wear-for-jewish-funeral-today#post-1229736 Tue, 22 Apr 2014 15:00:48 +0000 MsMary 1229736@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Generally you would go to the gravesite so wear shoes that can walk on grass.&nbsp; Navy or black sheath and jacket would be great as long as it's not too short! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/urgent-what-to-wear-for-jewish-funeral-today#post-1229735 Tue, 22 Apr 2014 15:00:32 +0000 Anonymous 1229735@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Thank you,Suz and Joyce. I'll prepare to go to the graveside part of the service. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/urgent-what-to-wear-for-jewish-funeral-today#post-1229727 Tue, 22 Apr 2014 14:57:13 +0000 Suz 1229727@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I don't know, Joy -- it depends. It's usual, but I don't know the particulars of this situation. In my experience the service is usually held at gravesite.&nbsp;</p> <p>Also, wear a skirt below the knee (covering the knee, I mean) and closed toe shoes, which I assume you would anyway. And navy or black or grey -- something restrained. Unless given different instructions.&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/urgent-what-to-wear-for-jewish-funeral-today#post-1229723 Tue, 22 Apr 2014 14:53:42 +0000 Anonymous 1229723@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Thank you for your replies! The funeral is for a young co- worker of DH. I don't have a grey suit but can do black or navy sheath and jacket. Suz, will it be expected that we go to the gravesite? </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/urgent-what-to-wear-for-jewish-funeral-today#post-1229715 Tue, 22 Apr 2014 14:48:36 +0000 Suz 1229715@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Are you going to the gravesite? This is customary. You will need comfortable, walkable shoes that can take whatever weather conditions prevail.&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/urgent-what-to-wear-for-jewish-funeral-today#post-1229713 Tue, 22 Apr 2014 14:48:11 +0000 Joyce B 1229713@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>A formal grey suit or separates, or black. White or black top, black shoes and purse. It's basically the same things you would wear to any funeral.<br /> I go with black mocs so that I can walk comfortably. </p>