https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/update-on-my-friends-liver-transplant Style Advice for Fashion Lovers en-US Thu, 30 Apr 2026 04:18:01 +0000 http://bbpress.org/?v=1.0.2 q https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/search.php https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/update-on-my-friends-liver-transplant/page/2#post-868501 Wed, 06 Mar 2013 02:15:52 +0000 Caro in Oz 868501@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>My sympathy for your friend &amp; his family.<br /> You are such a good friend Una. Take care of yourself too. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/update-on-my-friends-liver-transplant/page/2#post-868487 Wed, 06 Mar 2013 02:06:11 +0000 ironkurtin 868487@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Una, I send deep empathy for you and your friends. Angie's words are so true. Your love is a mitzvah. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/update-on-my-friends-liver-transplant/page/2#post-868485 Wed, 06 Mar 2013 02:04:27 +0000 Missey 868485@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Ugh...that is beyond hard. Having been through similar situations I can tell you that it's best to just do something...bring food, help clean, do yard work. People are very well meaning and want to be helpful but will often ask what they can do to help and when you're in the thick of it, it is hard to think of something people that people can do for you. You are being an excellent friend by helping this family enjoy the rest of their time together. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/update-on-my-friends-liver-transplant/page/2#post-868469 Wed, 06 Mar 2013 01:44:56 +0000 Angie 868469@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I just reread your initial post, and you know Una, I think you're going to be even more supportive of this family down the road. This is your calling and you will be greatly blessed for your generous heart and spirit. xo </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/update-on-my-friends-liver-transplant/page/2#post-868467 Wed, 06 Mar 2013 01:42:18 +0000 Angie 868467@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I feel so very much for your friend and his family. My Mum died of liver cancer and was gone in 12 weeks after diagnosis. It's a VERY cruel disease and none of us thought for a second that she was going to die until the last fortnight - she was in hospice for the last week. These are still extremely painful memories for me 13 years later. </p> <p>Thanks for being there for your friend and the family, Una. It's worth more than you can imagine. And your continued support will count even more. xox </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/update-on-my-friends-liver-transplant/page/2#post-868371 Wed, 06 Mar 2013 00:03:40 +0000 rachylou 868371@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>No doubt the visiting will get busy. He may get bored, you know, of talking about death and dying... and dealing with everyone's feelings and curiosity. I was just remembering a certain family friend when he was dying, someone played gate keeper and requested people well... not to be boring. Lol. It was helpful tho. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/update-on-my-friends-liver-transplant/page/2#post-867573 Tue, 05 Mar 2013 04:51:54 +0000 catgirl 867573@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>They just got back from some final treatment at the Mayo and now we are setting up a support and visitation schedule to make sure he has the time he needs with his wife and kids, while still seeing all the people he wants to see. It's a journey, that's for sure. Thanks so much for asking, Rachylou. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/update-on-my-friends-liver-transplant/page/2#post-867061 Mon, 04 Mar 2013 20:22:09 +0000 rachylou 867061@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>How goes it, Una? </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/update-on-my-friends-liver-transplant/page/2#post-867019 Mon, 04 Mar 2013 19:34:24 +0000 nancylee 867019@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Una, I am so sorry. Know that you are being a great friend and source of support for this family as they go through a terrible time.</p> <p>Sending you a hug. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/update-on-my-friends-liver-transplant#post-866629 Mon, 04 Mar 2013 07:12:22 +0000 AJ 866629@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Una, this is just so heartbreaking. As others have said, you are a blessing to your friend's family. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/update-on-my-friends-liver-transplant#post-865269 Sat, 02 Mar 2013 14:29:22 +0000 Nadya 865269@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Just sending warm thoughts your way. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/update-on-my-friends-liver-transplant#post-862783 Thu, 28 Feb 2013 02:37:31 +0000 catgirl 862783@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Thanks, Isabel. You are right. I advise people of this in my work all the time - caregivers often predecease the patient or develop health issues, etc. But hard to apply to self somehow, wanting to feel invincible. I had a random crying fit the other day, over something superficially unrelated, but realized it was really about this whole situation.</p> <p>You are all, as always, so supportive, and that helps so much. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/update-on-my-friends-liver-transplant#post-862370 Wed, 27 Feb 2013 20:54:18 +0000 Isabel 862370@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I am so sorry to learn of this.</p> <p>Una, please take care of yourself too. This takes a toll. One of my friend's lost her husband last October, 10 months after being diagnosed with esophageal cancer. He died two days after turning 48. It was awful on so many levels. They have 3 children...two under 12. I am telling you this because when it was all over, some of the people who were there to support them fell apart. He died at one of the hospitals that I go to for my anti-cancer treatments. The first 2 times that I went following his death, I thought that I was going to have a panic attack. It just kind of sneaks up. So please, take care of yourself too !!!!! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/update-on-my-friends-liver-transplant#post-862149 Wed, 27 Feb 2013 19:14:18 +0000 Inge 862149@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>My heart goes out to our friend, husband and children, Una. I'm wishing you all lots of strength in this extremely difficult time. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/update-on-my-friends-liver-transplant#post-861459 Wed, 27 Feb 2013 04:34:53 +0000 Suz 861459@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Una, I am so sorry to hear this. What devastating news for all of you. HUGE hugs. This will be a difficult time -- there is no way around that. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/update-on-my-friends-liver-transplant#post-861070 Tue, 26 Feb 2013 23:57:32 +0000 Laurinda 861070@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>So sorry to hear this. Sending you strength to keep on being there. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/update-on-my-friends-liver-transplant#post-861008 Tue, 26 Feb 2013 23:24:07 +0000 deb 861008@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I am sorry, Una. This can be so hard because we cannot fix it. I have been through this several times and it never gets easier. Talking about the good times helps everyone so much. It can bring laughter even if it is for a few moments. And talking about feelings and what help is needed/wanted. A card, a meal, a hug, all help so much. Not just them, but you also. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/update-on-my-friends-liver-transplant#post-860842 Tue, 26 Feb 2013 21:11:49 +0000 biscuitsmom 860842@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>So sorry to hear that.... you are being a wonderful friend. Just being there when she needs to talk will be very comforting for her. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/update-on-my-friends-liver-transplant#post-860410 Tue, 26 Feb 2013 15:43:56 +0000 Transcona Shannon 860410@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Una - I am so incredibly sorry for this bad news. You are an amazing friend doing all that you are doing. Good karma comes for people like you :)</p> <p>Please remember to take care of yourself too - you are going to need your strength. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/update-on-my-friends-liver-transplant#post-860390 Tue, 26 Feb 2013 15:34:06 +0000 Anonymous 860390@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Hugs, Una. You are such a good friend. What you are doing is above and beyond what many would do. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/update-on-my-friends-liver-transplant#post-859997 Tue, 26 Feb 2013 04:11:44 +0000 velvetychocolate 859997@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>So sorry to read this Una..:(</p> <p>I can tell that you're a very good friend, and I think this will count for a whole lot. I remember when my uncle was diagnosed with stage IV esophageal cancer - and we tried to keep hope for awhile, but in the end, we knew. My uncle was diagnosed in March and was gone by October. </p> <p>Meanwhile, my uncle's brother-in-law took it upon himself to drop in on my uncle almost every single day - took him out for a car ride, took him to the beach, to the forest or a coffee shop, even though my uncle was in his pj's. </p> <p>You know what? Those daily visits and outings (as best as they could be arranged) made such a huge difference. There wasn't going to be any fixing things, but even in the midst of this awful situation - here was a family member, taking off early from work, dropping in on my uncle who was stuck at home battling severe illness and managing to get him out of the house anyway. </p> <p>I'd be over at my uncle's house, helping to look after him, and then my other uncle (brother-in-law) would show up in the afternoon, and I'd help my uncle out to his car. They'd just go driving around, looking at beautiful surroundings - my uncle *loved* these outings. They'd crank up the music and just drive around, chatting and talking about something other than being sick. </p> <p>Not sure if this is something you or others could do for your friend, but I wanted to say it makes a really big difference when someone's terminally ill to just be able to get out and do something other than lie in bed feeling awful. My uncle was so sick that he couldn't really get out of the car, or go anywhere on his own, but being driven around, listening to great music helped him so much. </p> <p>Nobody knew he was in his bathrobe in that passenger seat. Sometimes they'd go through a drive-through and get unhealthy donuts from Tim Hortons (before my uncle needed a feed tube) - then park in front of the beach and just chat. They might go looking at houses for sale (the drive-by), or park somewhere where they could watch a soccer game. Fancy dessert-like coffee drinks in the parking lot of the local trendy coffee shop, watching people and gossiping a wee bit. </p> <p>Not sure if this is something you or other friends/family members could arrange, but I wanted to say that a drive - a way to get out of the house/hospital bed in one's room, even if wearing just pajamas, bathrobe and slippers - goes a long way toward feeling just a tiny bit happier even in the midst of a dire situation. Highly recommend a drive around town, no matter what's going on. I think those drives kept my uncle going longer ...he looked forward to it so much. </p> <p>Hang in there, and best wishes for some beautiful bright spots for your friend, even in the midst of a terrible situation. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/update-on-my-friends-liver-transplant#post-859991 Tue, 26 Feb 2013 04:05:41 +0000 cheryle (Dianthus) 859991@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>(((hugs)))</p> <p>Try not to let yourself get run down while you are supporting your BFF. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/update-on-my-friends-liver-transplant#post-859941 Tue, 26 Feb 2013 02:57:28 +0000 Echo 859941@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Oh, I am so, so sorry. What a horrible situation for him and his entire family. I wish there was something anyone could say or do to make things better. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/update-on-my-friends-liver-transplant#post-859935 Tue, 26 Feb 2013 02:43:26 +0000 pil 859935@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I'm sorry, Una. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/update-on-my-friends-liver-transplant#post-859867 Tue, 26 Feb 2013 01:36:47 +0000 Anonymous 859867@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I'm sorry to read your friend's husband is past hope. That is such a horrible, horrible feeling. My dad was recently diagnosed with Stage IV aggressive kidney cancer and, depending on which doctor we talk to, the future can seem very bleak and I've seen and felt what the lack of hope can do to both the patient, family and friends. To be at the point where even the doctors have admitted it's over ... ugh. My heart hurts for them. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/update-on-my-friends-liver-transplant#post-859798 Tue, 26 Feb 2013 00:36:59 +0000 catgirl 859798@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Thanks CC! They've been doing that from the start through the Mayo site (similar, called CarePages). It's been helpful and I hope they'll continue to use it. I'm helping write up an email that lets everyone know they are going to be setting some boundaries for calls and visits, so they can have time together as a family too. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/update-on-my-friends-liver-transplant#post-859784 Tue, 26 Feb 2013 00:28:55 +0000 Classically Casual 859784@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I'm so sorry. I have a very small suggestion that might help your friend. There's a website called Caringbridge.org (which they may already be using), that allows the family to post health updates that only registered viewers can access. It alleviates everyone calling their home to get information or express their concern. It can be used also to orchestrate meal deliveries, etc. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/update-on-my-friends-liver-transplant#post-859753 Tue, 26 Feb 2013 00:16:53 +0000 catgirl 859753@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Thanks, Zap. Unfortunately he's at the end. He's had a terminal liver disease for 7 years which caused the cancer, which they had to treat hoping he could get the transplant when he got sick enough from the disease, but the cancer returned and spread. It's super-aggressive. And chances are an infection will kill him before either the cancer or the underlying illness. The Mayo docs are pretty certain and he's mentally feeling past any hope. So no more chemo or other treatment, just hopeful for a quiet, peaceful end without more suffering. </p> <p>Your grandma sounds like quite a fiery spirit! Hugs to her. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/update-on-my-friends-liver-transplant#post-859722 Tue, 26 Feb 2013 00:03:08 +0000 Anonymous 859722@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I am really sorry Una. Dealing with a terminal illness is quite a rollercoaster. I think your friends are very lucky to have someone so caring on their side. Try to remain positive, you know. there is life after a difficult diagnosis such as this one. My grandma has been battling stomach cancer for a while now but we decided to concentrate on each and everyday, and each day does not begin with the word cancer attached to it. We have had her for a good while after finding out her cancer is inoperable. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/update-on-my-friends-liver-transplant#post-859652 Mon, 25 Feb 2013 23:13:46 +0000 Caro in Oz 859652@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Your friend is lucky to have you. Nothing to add except to remind you to get the support you need too. </p>